Providers who list kissing but don’t kiss

[VIdeo]

I’m ran into quite a few providers who list kissing as something they are into, but when we meet then they don’t kiss or it’s very dry. Now I ask a head of time even if it’s listed, but the last guy told me he hated kissing when I asked. I was thinking to myself would it be rude for me to ask then why did you list it as something you are into? I decided to meet him anyways despite of it and he did spend a lot of time kissing passionately. Is it a turn off to providers if you question them? Would they think you’re a difficult client to start off a meeting? 

[Nightowl]

Just now, VIdeo said:

I’m ran into quite a few providers who list kissing as something they are into, but when we meet then they don’t kiss or it’s very dry. Now I ask a head of time even if it’s listed, but the last guy told me he hated kissing when I asked. I was thinking to myself would it be rude for me to ask then why did you list it as something you are into? I decided to meet him anyways despite of it and he did spend a lot of time kissing passionately. Is it a turn off to providers if you question them? Would they think you’re a difficult client to start off a meeting? 

I’ve run into the same issue.  Kissing is on the menu in their ads but when you meet up their jaws are locked shut.  

[jeezifonly]

Kissing requires chemistry, which is recognized only when face to face. Never assume it will be included, even if they say they're into it. But always show up with your mouth freshly douched and polished. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

You have to ask ahead of time. If they specifically agree to DTK but refuse in person, I'd kick them out with a token fee, followed by possible reporting here on CoM and RentMen depending on his reaction.

Edited January 26 by DrownedBoy
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[Mark_fl]

24 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Kissing requires chemistry, which is recognized only when face to face. Never assume it will be included, even if they say they're into it. But always show up with your mouth freshly douched and polished. 

I can't agree with this. Anything they say is included should be included, unless you are unsanitary. They are acting like they want to be there in the first place.  Chemistry schmemistry.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Maybe I’m very kissable but I’ve rarely had a provider who lists kissing not follow through.

[jmichaeliii]

I have a regular who told me he wasn't into kissing when we first met.  I liked him for his other qualities so I accepted it.

My last session things got really hot and heavy and before I knew it his tongue was in my mouth.

Thats when its truly 🔥!

[+ JamesB]

Just like with any other “intos” that are important to me, I always ask them to confirm they’re okay with it. With Latin providers, I make a point of confirming in Spanish so there’s no room for the usual “no hablo” excuse.

[liubit]

Kissing is an absolute MUST for me: with no kissing, I simply don’t get hard. When the escort ad lists kissing, I make sure to confirm with the guy. If he says that he doesn’t “really” kiss, or he doesn’t seem enthusiastic about it, chances are that I will not hire him. If the ad doesn’t mention kissing, I will double check with the guy: if he says no, I will pass. 

[+ SirBillybob]

All seems like a checkered box sitch.

Edited January 26 by SirBillybob

[Muscleking]

14 hours ago, VIdeo said:

I’m ran into quite a few providers who list kissing as something they are into, but when we meet then they don’t kiss or it’s very dry. Now I ask a head of time even if it’s listed, but the last guy told me he hated kissing when I asked. I was thinking to myself would it be rude for me to ask then why did you list it as something you are into? I decided to meet him anyways despite of it and he did spend a lot of time kissing passionately. Is it a turn off to providers if you question them? Would they think you’re a difficult client to start off a meeting? 

I’d say kissing is very much a case by case sort of thing. There can be all sorts of reasons a provider might not want to kiss, even if it’s listed. The main one, I’d imagine, is dental hygiene. Let’s be honest, plenty of people have dreadful oral hygiene, and that alone could put someone off kissing just anyone. They might still list it as something they’re open to, but only with the right person or a genuine connection.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking beforehand to get their take on it. That said, if they agree and then don’t seem keen when you meet, I’d assume either you had bad breath or they simply weren’t that into you. Kissing can feel quite intimate, after all.

Personally, I don’t kiss who I hire or expect it, but I can see why it matters to some people.

[big-n-tall]

I won't hire if a guy, no matter how much I want to see him, if kissing isn't listed. Kissing is my trigger and gets me going faster than anything. If they list kissing, but are cagey about it... I won't hire.

Many years ago, when I was relatively new to this hobby and didn't know about this site, I hired a provider who had really nice pics in his ad. We texted back and forth a bit to arrange things. I asked him directly did he kiss. He said he did... that he loved doing it. Well the pics weren't his. I should have left then, but I was new at this and didn't know what to do. He was attractive and had a nice build but it wasn't the guy from the pics. Anyway, he just laid on the bed and expected me just to service him. Every time I went in for a kiss, he would turn his head. I ended the session after about a half hour. Gave him his fee and went on my way. I haven't ran into this situation since that episode.

There is a local who kept adding kissing and then taking it out of his intos. So when I contacted him and asked about kissing, he said kissing depended on the situation. I never hired him. It's a shame because he is handsome with a great body.

[Aaron 90]

Recently I hired a guy who listed everything, but wouldn't kiss, let me suck him or would cum. I hate liars.

 

[CuriousByNature]

Thankfully, my pillow never refuses.  😍

[soloyo215]

On 1/25/2026 at 6:21 PM, VIdeo said:

I’m ran into quite a few providers who list kissing as something they are into, but when we meet then they don’t kiss or it’s very dry. Now I ask a head of time even if it’s listed, but the last guy told me he hated kissing when I asked. I was thinking to myself would it be rude for me to ask then why did you list it as something you are into? I decided to meet him anyways despite of it and he did spend a lot of time kissing passionately. Is it a turn off to providers if you question them? Would they think you’re a difficult client to start off a meeting? 

Maybe he has multiple personalities.

Who knows? Too many providers, too many possibilities. You never know what might trigger a negative reaction in people.

[DunwoodyGuy]

If one provider who lists kissing doesn't kiss you, don't hire him again. If two providers who list kissing don't kiss you, see your dentist.

[BuzzLiteQueer]

On 1/25/2026 at 4:23 PM, Mark_fl said:

Chemistry schmemistry.

Let's be real: the chemistry is the donation.  No more, no less.  This business is not built on chemistry; it's built on $$$.

[mrkileen]

On 1/25/2026 at 3:23 PM, Nightowl said:

I’ve run into the same issue.  Kissing is on the menu in their ads but when you meet up their jaws are locked shut.  

A provider who l see regularly told me that so many guys have bad breath so while he will agree to kiss, if he shows up and their breath stinks then he won't kiss. Happens more than you think. I'm not sure if the guys don't care or are oblivious to it. Might be why

[mrkileen]

On 1/27/2026 at 5:44 AM, DunwoodyGuy said:

If one provider who lists kissing doesn't kiss you, don't hire him again. If two providers who list kissing don't kiss you, see your dentist.

I agree

[jeezifonly]

On 1/25/2026 at 5:37 PM, jmichaeliii said:

I have a regular who told me he wasn't into kissing when we first met.  I liked him for his other qualities so I accepted it.

My last session things got really hot and heavy and before I knew it his tongue was in my mouth.

Thats when its truly 🔥!

And there it is, @Mark_fl@BuzzLiteQueer

Chemistry, formulated in person. 🤣🤣💋💋💋

[Braziliancutee]

That’s terrible.. I love to kiss! For me sex without kiss is not a real sex. I think if the guy don’t kiss he need to charge less . Kiss is essential!

[Rudynate]

I have never encountered an escort that doesn't kiss, but most of the time it's that prissy dry kissing so many guys seem to be into now.  What happened to all the guys who used to enjoy deep french kissing where your tongues are down each other's throat?

[Muscleking]

22 hours ago, mrkileen said:

A provider who l see regularly told me that so many guys have bad breath so while he will agree to kiss, if he shows up and their breath stinks then he won't kiss. Happens more than you think. I'm not sure if the guys don't care or are oblivious to it. Might be why

One of my regulars told me the same, some of the stories he tells are quite horrific and it amazes me how some lads he said will show up smelling bad, body odor, smelly arse, and want someone to be keen on kissing and being intimate… 

[jmichaeliii]

55 minutes ago, Muscleking said:

One of my regulars told me the same, some of the stories he tells are quite horrific and it amazes me how some lads he said will show up smelling bad, body odor, smelly arse, and want someone to be keen on kissing and being intimate… 

Thats so gross.  I am totally OCD about cleanliness before a meet. 

I also appreciate that all my regulars are meticulous about being clean.  Guess thats a big reason we are such a good match! 😀

[liubit]

On 2/4/2026 at 1:17 AM, Braziliancutee said:

That’s terrible.. I love to kiss! For me sex without kiss is not a real sex. I think if the guy don’t kiss he need to charge less . Kiss is essential!

You definitely are my kind of boy, menino.