Am I to assume the provider cums or doesn’t cum?

[marylander1940]

On 1/28/2025 at 10:57 PM, pubic_assistance said:

An escorts job is to make YOU cum.

Period.

If you enjoy seeing your partner ejaculate, then I suggest you discuss that with him prior to the session's play time.

And a good tip!

[+ sf westcoaster]

Never assume anything, always ask. Assuming simply sets you up for disappointment.

[+ SirBillybob]

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I know.  My #32 was removed long ago.   Hence my propensity to do stupid things with my mouth open 👄 

In the running, therefore, for the annual Darwin plaque for cavities in peril. 

[dbar123]

With a new provider it’s better to have the discussion ahead of time.

There is no greater buzzkill for a client than to be told by the escort that they are saving their cum for another client later in the day. 

[pubic_assistance]

22 hours ago, dbar123 said:

There is no greater buzzkill for a client than to be told by the escort that they are saving their cum for another client later in the day. 

Why ?

Did you think you were in a monogamous relationship 🤔?

It's pretty clear by definition, that an ESCORT is fucking a lot of different people...and sometimes multiple people per day.

 

[mike carey]

6 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Why ?

Did you think you were in a monogamous relationship 🤔?

It's pretty clear by definition, that an ESCORT is fucking a lot of different people...and sometimes multiple people per day.

Good questions. And quite separate from whether a client cares if their escort cums or not. 

I can see reasons for the revelation being disconcerting. Part of what some people are buying is the illusion that it's a relationship, with an accompanying illusion of exclusivity. Without the revelation it's easier for the client to maintain the illusions. Even when they know that neither is true. Knowing the reality and accepting the illusion requires holding contradictory ideas simultaneously. Being confronted with the contradiction is buzzkill? Perhaps. 

Building the ability to accept the reality of the experience in the moment, while also being able to ignore anything that's at odds with it, including being told explicitly that the escort is saving his cum for someone else, I'd suggest is a skill worth learning. Being able to simultaneously hold two (or more) contradictory ideas is sometimes necessary.

[+ ApexNomad]

5 hours ago, mike carey said:

Good questions. And quite separate from whether a client cares if their escort cums or not. 

I can see reasons for the revelation being disconcerting. Part of what some people are buying is the illusion that it's a relationship, with an accompanying illusion of exclusivity. Without the revelation it's easier for the client to maintain the illusions. Even when they know that neither is true. Knowing the reality and accepting the illusion requires holding contradictory ideas simultaneously. Being confronted with the contradiction is buzzkill? Perhaps. 

Building the ability to accept the reality of the experience in the moment, while also being able to ignore anything that's at odds with it, including being told explicitly that the escort is saving his cum for someone else, I'd suggest is a skill worth learning. Being able to simultaneously hold two (or more) contradictory ideas is sometimes necessary.

Perfectly said.

[GTMike]

On 2/9/2025 at 8:33 PM, ApexNomad said:

Perfectly said.

I feel like I'm in a "who's on first...", and Larry, Curly & Moe routine when it comes to that subject, hahaha.

1) Ultimately it doesn't matter if provider does or doesn't for me to have mutually agreeable hangout

2) With that said I do like it (for many reasons) that the gent does, but not a requirement at all.

3) I'm in a maddening circular reasoning loop though. That is I think, the provider thinks they need to say/pretend that they will/did, in order to fully satsify me. But I don't want them to do it if it's a chore or a hassle.

4) But it's hard to say, "I don't care if you do or don't" (like being a dick), so I say, "It's totally up to you. I'm fine either way!".

5) Then they say, "Well do you want me to?!"  

6) And i say, "Well sure i would want you to, but that's primarily based on if you genuinely really wanted to, so that's cool, but don't feel obligated at all to on my part"

7) And they say, "Well then you want me to then?".  But I interpret that they will then think everytime we hangout that it's a requirement. Which it isn't.

8 - So i say "please don't feel obligated to", Like I'm still thinking they think I need it as a requirement for a good time.

9) Then they say, "so you don't want me to?",  

10) Back to #4 - I say, "It's totally up to you, I'm fine either way" Hahaha.

 

[italianboyph]

On 1/28/2025 at 11:23 AM, Erbenle said:

Is it typical or expected for an escort to ejaculate during a session, or does that depend on individual preferences and boundaries? I would place this in the this a first time meeting world.

I’ve always suspected that since it’s “all about me” that I shouldn’t expect it, but I get really surprised with how many of my new providers cum, so I’m curious what your experiences may be.  
 

As always, many thanks.  Love you guys! 

Short answer yes. You are booking a provider and that is the finale you should always receive 😛

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 2/8/2025 at 7:07 PM, dbar123 said:

With a new provider it’s better to have the discussion ahead of time.

There is no greater buzzkill for a client than to be told by the escort that they are saving their cum for another client later in the day. 

Yes, I have learned to say "I love to take a guy's load in my mouth or ass" when booking, to let the escort know what I want.

[Mark_fl]

On 2/9/2025 at 10:14 AM, pubic_assistance said:

Why ?

Did you think you were in a monogamous relationship 🤔?

It's pretty clear by definition, that an ESCORT is fucking a lot of different people...and sometimes multiple people per day.

 

Why? Because if you are wanting a BFE, is the point that you are getting the illusion that it's a boyfriend? 

Or do you expect your boyfriend to be with multiple people per day and discuss them with you? And if you do, great, but not what most people expect, I'd guess.

[marylander1940]

On 1/28/2025 at 10:57 PM, pubic_assistance said:

An escorts job is to make YOU cum.

Period.

If you enjoy seeing your partner ejaculate, then I suggest you discuss that with him prior to the session's play time.

I must quote this magnificent reply again... we must always treat others with respect and remember escorting is a business... literally. 

[Austin Lewis]

The last time I hired, the provider came twice. That was quite unexpected and gratifying (I mean, he must have been having a fairly decent time too, right?--don't disillusion me if the answer is no). Ordinarily I don't expect a provider to cum, though I'm delighted to get them off if that's what they want.

[PileDriver]

Be upfront. Period. Its business, and you are paying for a service. When I hire a bottom it's always clear I will cum without a condom balls deep inside...there is never any doubt and it works well...and when I bottom I am upfront and clear the guy i hire will shoot his load balls deep inside me with no condom...and it works. Guys do say no when I inquire, some are taken back by my bluntness, but it works, and we just don't get together. We are all adults. As for taking a load inside me there are the multicummers and don't think anyone has faked it with me. The throbbing and the flood of warmth...and I always insist the seed is ground in...so when the stud pulls out its clear he really did cum...love to clean his cum off his cock...Be upfront and the assignation will be so much more relaxed and pleasurable for everyone...

[pubic_assistance]

52 minutes ago, PileDriver said:

As for taking a load inside me there are the multicummers and don't think anyone has faked it with me.

I DON'T do bareback, and even if I did...I prefer to SEE a guy ejaculate ...so the performance has to be more convincing for ME as a client. Shooting across the room is a big turn-on. I just can't get into sex if the other guy is not also turned on. So it either has to be genuine, or he has to be a professional at a performative engagement. THIS is why I almost never meet an escort without having spent some time together PRIOR to a sexual encounter. I need to feel that there is SOME connection.  I can't be with someone who can't at least play the role of being interested in me. Huge turn-OFF otherwise.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Or do you expect your boyfriend to be with multiple people per day and discuss them with you?...

My boyfriend and I are often having sex with several other people per day; but, we make it a point not to discuss with each other the other men we fuck.  I prefer my escorts and masseurs to follow the same etiquette.  But I'm old fashioned that way.

Edited 9 hours ago by Vegas_Millennial

[PileDriver]

Oh Pubic_assitance we are on the same page but different readings...love a cock that shoots across the room....just insdie me please....its 2026 so...appreciate your caution baby...and yes a connection...so? we agree shoot hard? or no? let me know...

[pubic_assistance]

23 minutes ago, PileDriver said:

we agree shoot hard?

When I was younger....it was a HUGE turn on to feel a guys BLAST a HUGE powerful load in my mouth. You can just sense the excitement. 

Now I am older and admittedly not as hot as I used to be, I am very blessed to find young, hot guys who DO have a daddy fetish or are just good actors. 

 

 

[PileDriver]

ohhhh...pubic....shoot hard!!!! shoot it