Hiring a provider when they are sick with a cold or flu

[ICTJOCK]

So I am generally a very healthy person and strive to remain so,  from fitness,  exercise and sleep.    I did get my annual flu shot when I had my regular "prep' review and HIV testing..    I think it makes sense for anybody,  provider for sure  to ensure they are good health......   but we are in the winter and at that time of year....

Recently picked up what is likely a severe cold virus.   Sneezing,  coughing and sounded worse.    My approach is  always to notify those clients who have booked me and let them know I'm not up to par.    Most are very patient  (especially my regulars) and reschedule.      The last thing I ever want to do is show up for a booking and  sound terrible.

Fortunately I'm feeling better,  but my Hawaii vacation has to be postponed.    I would rather not meet someone new for a booking than create a rough first impression.

Thoughts from clients on this topic.  Just curious.  

Be safe and healthy!

Edited January 20 by ICTJOCK

[jmichaeliii]

Interesting one.  I as a client was sick...not terribly...but a decent cold and cough.  Felt good though and was Covid negative.   I texted my provider and shared this and left it up to him what he wanted to do.  He opted for us to meet.  

If you were at the end of an illness and mostly feeling better I would probably opt to move forward.

[moonlight]

Sorry about your illness

Canceling in this case would make me trust you more, especially with an explanation about how you don't want to get anyone sick. You did the right thing.

If I met with someone with an obvious case of a cold/flu or worse it would be my last meeting with them and I would probably complain about it here.

[+ ApexNomad]

11 minutes ago, ICTJOCK said:

So I am generally a very healthy person and strive to remain so,  from fitness,  exercise and sleep.    I did get my annual flu shot when I had my regular "prep' review and HIV testing..    I think it makes sense for anybody,  provider for sure  to ensure they are good health......   but we are in the winter and at that time of year....

Recently picked up what is likely a severe cold virus.   Sneezing,  coughing and sounded worse.    My approach is  always to notify those clients who have booked me and let them know I'm not up to par.    Most are very patient  (especially my regulars) and reschedule.      The last thing I ever want to do is show up for a booking and  sound terrible.

Fortunately I'm feeling better,  but my Hawaii vacation has to be postponed.    I would rather not meet someone new for a booking than create a rough first impression.

Thoughts from clients on this topic.  Just curious.  

Be safe and healthy!

Happy you’re on the mend.

It’s really important to build trust with your clients, and one way to do that is by prioritizing their well-being. If you already know you’re not feeling your best, it’s always better to reschedule. Not only does it ensure you’re giving your clients the best version of yourself, but it also prevents the risk of exposing them to an illness. 

[nate_sf]

2 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

If you already know you’re not feeling your best, it’s always better to reschedule. Not only does it ensure you’re giving your clients the best version of yourself, but it also prevents the risk of exposing them to an illness. 

This exactly. For any appointment a provider needs to be ready to give it his best, and not get the client sick. If he can’t do one or the other, he should postpone until he’s back on his feet. 

[BrooklynIrish]

4 hours ago, ICTJOCK said:

Fortunately I'm feeling better,  but my Hawaii vacation has to be postponed.    I would rather not meet someone new for a booking than create a rough first impression.

If you were feeling up to snuff, but with a little cough, I’d say just disclose. Colds are most contagious even before you show symptoms. But since you’re not feeling great, I’d postponed. I have the most respect and am far more likely to rehire someone who is upfront with me. 

[panpanda]

Health before wealth. I'm a client and would totally understand if something happens. I would also expect the provider to be reasonable if I come down with something.

[DznNYC]

This is a major fact of life in New York City this time of year.  I had the winter crud right before Christmas and for sure had to cancel on clients.

I've had a number of cancellations already this cold/flu season.  And it's especially challenging when it happens with new clients, when both parties are still working to establish trust.  But showing up under the weather - for either party - is the actual violation of trust.  We owe it to each other - client and provider - to only show up when we're 100%.  We just have to remember that cold and flu season is real, and we need to give each other grace. 

[carnalvore]

Recently, a provider gave me pneumonia. He didn't have any symptoms, but I was quite sick for a long time. I tried to convince him to get treatment afterwards, but he refused. I should have known because his rate was good to be true. He was an extremely talented fucker, though. I would have hired again if he would have gotten tested.

[+ PhileasFogg]

If you’re contagious, I’d want you to cancel. 
 

if you’re not but afraid you’re not up to your peak impression, I’d contact the client, explains the situation, and let them choose

[DunwoodyGuy]

Right before Christmas, I had to postpone with a masseur I met at a mutual friend's very buzzy, very flirty holiday party. I recognized him from his RentMasseur profile, and we chatted at the party, feeling more and more comfortable with each other as the evening went on. I was extremely turned on by him and made an appointment the next day for a few days later. As the days progressed, I started to feel one of those "winter crud" things coming on me, and the morning before our appointment, I felt like crap. I texted him and said I had to take a rain check. I thought for sure he would consider me a flake, but as it turns out, he had the same thing and was considering canceling on me! He even thought we might have both caught it at the holiday party!

After a few days, we both felt better, and I rescheduled. It was one of the best experiences I've ever had, and I'm scheduling a return session this week.

Long story short, I think it was good that I canceled--and if he had canceled first, I would have appreciated it. I might have wondered if he was really sick or canceling because he had a better/hotter client--but that doubt was erased as soon as I arrived for the session. The comfort we now feel for each other going into the second session would probably never have developed if one of us or both of us had gone into that first session sick or contagious. 

So, yeah, I think cancel. If you do so in a warm, friendly, professional manner, the outcome will undoubtedly be better than making your client sick.  

(Also, send me the link to your ad!) 

[+ BobPS]

On 1/20/2025 at 1:48 PM, ICTJOCK said:

So I am generally a very healthy person and strive to remain so,  from fitness,  exercise and sleep.    I did get my annual flu shot when I had my regular "prep' review and HIV testing..    I think it makes sense for anybody,  provider for sure  to ensure they are good health......   but we are in the winter and at that time of year....

Recently picked up what is likely a severe cold virus.   Sneezing,  coughing and sounded worse.    My approach is  always to notify those clients who have booked me and let them know I'm not up to par.    Most are very patient  (especially my regulars) and reschedule.      The last thing I ever want to do is show up for a booking and  sound terrible.

Fortunately I'm feeling better,  but my Hawaii vacation has to be postponed.    I would rather not meet someone new for a booking than create a rough first impression.

Thoughts from clients on this topic.  Just curious.  

Be safe and healthy!

Why is this even a post if you’re sick cancel and don’t book appointments until you’re better. Let everyone know you’re sick and tell them you’d like to see them when you’re not sick. For someone who claims to be a lawyer you act very stupid sometimes. I think it’s attention grabbing but what do I know?

[ICTJOCK]

9 hours ago, BobPS said:

For someone who claims to be a lawyer you act very stupid sometimes. I think it’s attention grabbing but what do I know?

Well to start,  this thread isn't "stupid".    Escorts want to make money and clients want to hire them.    Health and illness is a potential stumbling block to both,  especially at this time of year.    Very basic discussion and I think timely for many.

On my own background,   I don't "claim"  anything.   I have never said what my full time career is in any post on this site.    I'm a part time escort. and I do it because I  choose to.   My comments reflect a legal background,  a business,  investment and fitness background.     Definitely multifaceted and that background affects about every post I comment on here.       

You are certainly entitled to your own opinion,  but the term  "stupid"  seems more apt to somebody who isn't clear what they are talking about or don't have their facts....  um,  yeah.

Edited January 22 by ICTJOCK

[Archangel]

If you’re sick, don’t share it.

Most guys will probably give you a second shot if you were sick. If they won’t, then they probably wouldn’t be decent guys otherwise.

If you have an issue again, he’ll probably write you off as a flake. I can understand that approach. You have to draw the line somewhere. 

[GTMike]

I had a guy here (covered in past discussion), who I found it odd that within first 10 mins of meeting made it a point to mock clients who had been cancelling on him stating they wanted to be personally hyper diligante and were conscientious about potentially catching Covid. In his mind they were being overly hysterical drama queens being mislead and manipulated ("by the media'').

I'd met him over the years a couple times and i kinda sensed he may have sounded funny/different but honestly my edible/stoned mind took over and said maybe it's the obviously overused amount of steroids he's clearly been taking. Also i know when i'm stoned i'm hyper aware of small things and rationallized the slight sniffles i thought i was detecting was just me exhibiting hyper aware stoned "spidey senses".

In any case my dumb ass got an answer a few days later with a mid level bout of Covid and now realized it wasn't clients cancelling on him prior to appointments concerned about their potential exposure, but rather they must've made these assessments at the beginning of the scheduled meet-ups and sensed he was exhibiting symptons of something .

 

[d.anders]

I do not want to be near someone who is under the weather. I don't respect people's self-diagnosis. Most sick people insist they are not infectious. I never believe them. If you attempt to dupe me in any way, it will hurt our relationship. I have private health issues that need to be protected. They are not obvious, but I'm fully aware, and it's my job to do the protecting. I particularly need to protect my lungs, and avoid bronchial infections at all cost. NYC is a cesspool of germs. Far too many people do not cover their mouths when they cough or sneeze. Children can be a serious hazard, along with grocery cart handles. I see people on the buses and subway, all the time, who hold onto public metal with bare hands, and then pick their nose, wipe their eye, or touch their face. I can't afford to be around folks like that. When it comes to health or money, I will always choose health. I have always hated work when I am under the weather.

[+ Axiom2001]

On 1/20/2025 at 1:48 PM, ICTJOCK said:

So I am generally a very healthy person and strive to remain so,  from fitness,  exercise and sleep.    I did get my annual flu shot when I had my regular "prep' review and HIV testing..    I think it makes sense for anybody,  provider for sure  to ensure they are good health......   but we are in the winter and at that time of year....

Recently picked up what is likely a severe cold virus.   Sneezing,  coughing and sounded worse.    My approach is  always to notify those clients who have booked me and let them know I'm not up to par.    Most are very patient  (especially my regulars) and reschedule.      The last thing I ever want to do is show up for a booking and  sound terrible.

Fortunately I'm feeling better,  but my Hawaii vacation has to be postponed.    I would rather not meet someone new for a booking than create a rough first impression.

Thoughts from clients on this topic.  Just curious.  

Be safe and healthy!

If a client is ill:  DON'T engage the services of anyone.   If a provider is ill:  DON'T work until you are in good health.  In both cases, one DOESN'T WANT TO MAKE another ill.  That's just common sense.

[bloop]

Years ago I got sick from a provider who clearly had the sniffles while he was working on me but never mentioned anything about it. It really soured my impression of an otherwise exceptional masseur. Not to mention it wasn't at all relaxing to be laying there thinking about all of his germs getting on me.

Edited January 26 by bloop

[LaffingBear]

Responding as a client, I'd be appreciative of a guy who tells me he's not feeling 100%.  I might be disappointed.   I might even think it's a dishonest excuse.   But, what's the difference in the long run? 

I don't want to be making out with a guy with a runny nose.  Or who has to keep stopping to cough.  Or who is using OTC meds to mask symptoms, but still feels crappy.  Even if there's little risk of transmission.    Orrrr.. if it was dishonest, I have to believe I'm better off... who wants to pay to see someone who's lying to cancel.  

I prefer the positive interpretation.   If local or in a location I visit often, I'd be thankful, and indicate I'd call again in the future. Either way, I'd say thanks for telling me.

[massagefan320]

Recently, I got a massage from someone eho said he wasn't contagious, but was getting over a cold.  He wore a mask during the massage.  I heard him clear his nose during the massage.  I caught a bad cold I think from him.  I should have not had the massage.

[soloyo215]

On 1/20/2025 at 4:48 PM, ICTJOCK said:

So I am generally a very healthy person and strive to remain so,  from fitness,  exercise and sleep.    I did get my annual flu shot when I had my regular "prep' review and HIV testing..    I think it makes sense for anybody,  provider for sure  to ensure they are good health......   but we are in the winter and at that time of year....

Recently picked up what is likely a severe cold virus.   Sneezing,  coughing and sounded worse.    My approach is  always to notify those clients who have booked me and let them know I'm not up to par.    Most are very patient  (especially my regulars) and reschedule.      The last thing I ever want to do is show up for a booking and  sound terrible.

Fortunately I'm feeling better,  but my Hawaii vacation has to be postponed.    I would rather not meet someone new for a booking than create a rough first impression.

Thoughts from clients on this topic.  Just curious.  

Be safe and healthy!

I agree that particularly with first-time clients, showing up with signs of being sick might not be the best idea. The opposite is also true. As a client, I learned not to show up sick (I posted an experience where the masseur said that it was ok to com see him while I was still not feeling great), and to cancel until I am feeling well and 100% sure that I'm not sick, and I expect and appreciate the same from the provider.

[DznNYC]

Definitely revisited this thread, home on the couch with the flu all week, lamenting all my canceled new clients, hoping they don't all hate me now. 

Most of this thread is a reminder that reason can prevail, and people can be rational.  Here's hoping...

[+ ApexNomad]

5 minutes ago, DamizzonNYC said:

Definitely revisited this thread, home on the couch with the flu all week, lamenting all my canceled new clients, hoping they don't all hate me now. 

Most of this thread is a reminder that reason can prevail, and people can be rational.  Here's hoping...

I hope you feel better!❤️‍🩹 

[mike carey]

28 minutes ago, DamizzonNYC said:

Definitely revisited this thread, home on the couch with the flu all week, lamenting all my canceled new clients, hoping they don't all hate me now. 

Most of this thread is a reminder that reason can prevail, and people can be rational.  Here's hoping...

No one who knew you from here would hate you, although I concede others might. In my particular circumstances where I'd be unlikely to still be in town when you had recovered, I'd probably invite you to lunch while I was there.

[FaustOust]

Last-minute cancellations become more complicated if travel plans have been made, reservations, or other expenses incurred in an extended stay situation prior to meeting.