Why are some clients saying “I only pay in cash”, when…

[Trick]

1 hour ago, Vin Marco said:

It's in poor taste ( in my opinion; it can imply that you don't trust someone and or that they can't count ) I will count it when folks insist I count it though. My two cents no pun intended 😜

I don’t trust myself. I often lose focus on details, like how much I put in the envelope.  I also see guys awkwardly trying to eyeball the money so telling them to count it takes away the awkwardness.

When I was just starting to hire, I did not like them counting it as if I could not be trusted.  Telling them to count it puts me on top of my annoyance. 😀

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

That should be against the law, and in some places it might be.

As far as I know, the state of New York is the only place that has enacted laws requiring all businesses to accept cash.

[+ mds1]

I would highly recommend asking them to count the cash. Recently I handed a provider the envelope of cash and he didn’t count it. About 5 min after leaving, he texts to tell me I was $180 short. Now I know I wasn’t short (maybe I missed a $20 but not that much!!). But he was at my place and came back to my door demanding more. I had to pay him more to prevent him causing a scene. It was my first and last time hiring him. It was too bad too because it was a good session and I would’ve considered making him a regular. 

[Trick]

2 hours ago, mds1 said:

I would highly recommend asking them to count the cash. Recently I handed a provider the envelope of cash and he didn’t count it. About 5 min after leaving, he texts to tell me I was $180 short. Now I know I wasn’t short (maybe I missed a $20 but not that much!!). But he was at my place and came back to my door demanding more. I had to pay him more to prevent him causing a scene. It was my first and last time hiring him. It was too bad too because it was a good session and I would’ve considered making him a regular. 

This has happened to me too and I was at fault.  I was 100 short.  Wrong math. 

[marylander1940]

3 hours ago, mds1 said:

I would highly recommend asking them to count the cash. Recently I handed a provider the envelope of cash and he didn’t count it. About 5 min after leaving, he texts to tell me I was $180 short. Now I know I wasn’t short (maybe I missed a $20 but not that much!!). But he was at my place and came back to my door demanding more. I had to pay him more to prevent him causing a scene. It was my first and last time hiring him. It was too bad too because it was a good session and I would’ve considered making him a regular. 

I remember an old thread that I can't seem to find called "The case of the missing money".

[HockeyMan]

I prefer cash for the sake of confidentiality.

This thread reminds me of that joke from the roast of Jerry Springer: "You paid a hooker with a check. That's as stupid as... paying a hooker with a check."

[+ ApexNomad]

5 minutes ago, HockeyMan said:

I prefer cash for the sake of confidentiality.

This thread reminds me of that joke from the roast of Jerry Springer: "You paid a hooker with a check. That's as stupid as... paying a hooker with a check."

This sums it up for me!! From Adventures in Babysitting:

Brenda: Uh, those are hot dogs, right?

Hot Dog Vendor: Yeah, want one?

Brenda: Mmm, yeah I'd love one.

Hot Dog Vendor: That'll be two bucks.

Hot Dog Vendor: [Brenda hands him a check, he stares incredulously] A check?

Brenda: Yeah, but it's a good check. See, Chris' mom wrote it to Chris 'cause Chris bought her something, I can't remember what. Then I bought Chris some press-on nails, I gave Chris the difference, and she wrote the check over to me. So I'll write the check over to you, you keep the difference, and I'll take the hot dog. So, you got a pen?

Hot Dog Vendor: Get outta here!

Brenda: Wait! I'm starving, you'd rather throw it away than give it to me?

Hot Dog Vendor: I work on a cash-only basis.

Brenda: But it's a perfectly good check!

Hot Dog Vendor: No! I'll make it very clear. You slip me the cash, and I'll slip you the weiner.

Brenda: But I don't have any cash!

Hot Dog Vendor: Then I don't have a weiner!

[jeezifonly]

I’m on the fence about this. 
I’ve always paid with cash. 
I tip generously. 
Never paid a deposit. 

But since the OP is such a customer-service-oriented pro, with arguments so convincingly made, I may have to rethink my approach.

 

[mike carey]

1 minute ago, jeezifonly said:

I’m on the fence about this. 
I’ve always paid with cash. 
I tip generously. 
Never paid a deposit. 

But since the OP is such a customer-service-oriented pro, with arguments so convincingly made, I may have to rethink my approach.

 

Are you sure that wasn't three manhattans ago?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 11/8/2024 at 6:24 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

As far as I know, the state of New York is the only place that has enacted laws requiring all businesses to accept cash.

There's now a handful of states that require businesses to accept cash, with most of the laws passed in the last year. 

I wrote my state assemblyman yesterday requesting such a law for my state, as I find it unacceptable that the largest medical provider in my state won't accept cash for a $10 co-payment.  Talk about a barrier to healthcare that is so easy to remove.

[marylander1940]

On 11/6/2024 at 3:49 AM, TallMuscl37 said:

…when there’s ample hotels that don’t accept cash? Like come on, don’t play games. They should know just as well. I’ve stayed at a mid level hotel last week in, and prior to that a Hilton in a downtown area. More and more are not accepting cash anywhere on the property to check in or pay for food, unless it’s a tip.
 

Idk why some people have this idea that they should only give cash, though it’s usually to avoid giving a deposit or some irrational fear that a provider is going to hack their account somehow. Even if it’s paper trail issue: there’s ways to get around that. Lots of cheap prepaid card options. There’s even banks that offer a separate debit card number, from your main account.

I’m not a no cash person, but I can’t plan multi-city tours, based on someone potentially showing up with cash. I’ve done that before many times, sometimes it works: many times it doesn’t. For me it’s better to KNOW it will, so I don’t waste time and money going out to places with no actual proof of a real man being available to meet. There needs to be an expectation that a confirmation besides cash is going to be required by some. 
 

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[BuffaloKyle]

On 11/8/2024 at 9:24 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

As far as I know, the state of New York is the only place that has enacted laws requiring all businesses to accept cash.

At the county fair this past summer they had reverse ATMs. If you wanted to pay cash you had to put cash into the ATM and get a card to use then at all the vendors. Nice way around it. 😝

[Lotus-eater]

13 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

There's now a handful of states that require businesses to accept cash, with most of the laws passed in the last year. 

I wrote my state assemblyman yesterday requesting such a law for my state, as I find it unacceptable that the largest medical provider in my state won't accept cash for a $10 co-payment.  Talk about a barrier to healthcare that is so easy to remove.

I'm on the fence about requiring businesses to accept cash. It's a nontrivial security expense and risk to employees (because of armed robbers) if a business has a lot of cash on hand.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

15 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said:

At the county fair this past summer they had reverse ATMs. If you wanted to pay cash you had to put cash into the ATM and get a card to use then at all the vendors. Nice way around it. 😝

A machine on-site to cover cash to card conversions is an acceptable alternative that can be provided per New York's law.  But it must not charge the customer anything to convert, and must be located on-site.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

10 minutes ago, Lotus-eater said:

I'm on the fence about requiring businesses to accept cash. It's a nontrivial security expense and risk to employees (because of armed robbers) if a business has a lot of cash on hand.

Amusingly, 4 years ago a law passed in my state that REQUIRED all Homeowners Associations to accept credit card payments online for payments of monthly assessments.  Then 2 years later, another state law was passed that BANNED Homeowner's Association from accepting credit cards online, as there were too many security risks with online payments and identity theft that occurred in the 2 years prior.

😂 😂 😂 

[BuffaloKyle]

[BuffaloKyle]

[ericwinters]

On 11/9/2024 at 5:06 PM, mds1 said:

I would highly recommend asking them to count the cash. Recently I handed a provider the envelope of cash and he didn’t count it. About 5 min after leaving, he texts to tell me I was $180 short. Now I know I wasn’t short (maybe I missed a $20 but not that much!!). But he was at my place and came back to my door demanding more. I had to pay him more to prevent him causing a scene. It was my first and last time hiring him. It was too bad too because it was a good session and I would’ve considered making him a regular. 

I had that same experience in nyc on a second visit with a provider I enjoyed.

[Vulgarii]

For the first time ever I received a counterfeit $100 bill. 

It appeared legit in the light, and it was also legit with my special marker to verify bills. 

I learned there's a way to turn a dollar bill into a Benjamin, but Idk how this one was done.

I took it to the bank to ask, lol, and a lady just gave me a form to mail it in to the Treasury.

 

Who tf mails letters anymore? I'd rather lay on my sofa and play with my balls, and pay $100 to not do all of that.

[+ APPLE1]

8 hours ago, Vulgarii said:

I took it to the bank to ask, lol, and a lady just gave me a form to mail it in to the Treasury.

Well don't go back to that bank! Some banks will assist customers with counterfeit issues, others will not. If they don't, they should direct customers to the local police. Either the bank, or local police, contact the secret service, NOT the Treasury.

https://www.secretservice.gov/investigations/counterfeit

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

16 hours ago, Vulgarii said:

Who t* mails letters anymore? (Edited for profanity)

I do.  I mail about a half dozen letters each month.  However, when I mail the US Treasury to pay my income taxes, I now send those letters via certified mail.

I even send Christmas cards 🎄 through the mail to a few of my regular escorts whose address I know.

Edited October 11 by Vegas_Millennial

[Vulgarii]

On 10/11/2025 at 12:44 AM, APPLE1 said:

Well don't go back to that bank! Some banks will assist customers with counterfeit issues, others will not. If they don't, they should direct customers to the local police. Either the bank, or local police, contact the secret service, NOT the Treasury.

https://www.secretservice.gov/investigations/counterfeit

If she kept the bill or asked me to stay until her ass alerted security or walked out of her secure area, I would have jammed. I purposely parked around the corner. LOL

[+ purplekow]

On 10/10/2025 at 3:50 PM, Vulgarii said:

For the first time ever I received a counterfeit $100 bill. 

It appeared legit in the light, and it was also legit with my special marker to verify bills. 

I learned there's a way to turn a dollar bill into a Benjamin, but Idk how this one was done.

I took it to the bank to ask, lol, and a lady just gave me a form to mail it in to the Treasury.

 

Who tf mails letters anymore? I'd rather lay on my sofa and play with my balls, and pay $100 to not do all of that.

I will minimize the details in this story rather than explain the whys and wherefores.  I received a call from a friend at 5AM on a Saturday AM that her nephew was in jail and she needed a help to bail him out.  She came to my home and I asked her if she had enough money and she said about $500 dollars.  Knowing this was not enough, I took a box out of my freezer than had about $100000 dollars in 100 dollar bills  in it and off we went.  When we got to the jail, bail was $25000 dollars.  She was aghast and I told her I had it.  We still laugh about this.  We went back to my car and counted out the money and went back inside.  The police were curious why we had that much cash and I said casino winnings so they called out someone to count it.  They checked each bill.  The first bill was counterfeit as was the second.  I imagined myself going to jail, but the rest were all good.  Strangely, they gave me back to two counterfeit bills rather than holding them.  Two days later, I went to the bank and made a substantial deposit with the two "counterfeits" in there.   They were not picked out.  As I had gotten the bills from the bank initially, I felt no compunction about giving them back to that same bank.  Perhaps they were not counterfeit at all.

 

[+ Lucky]

" I took a box out of my freezer than had about $100000 dollars in 100 dollar bills  in it"

Yes, I will go to lunch with you!!!

[+ sniper]

Purplekow, um...I would recommend you cease incalls with providers who know your username.