Dirty, Dirty, Dirty

[rustyrex]

Recently got back from Phoenix and hired 2 amazing guys.  Both were totally what I go for, roided out muscles with tats and both experiences were really good.  But....one of them didn't clean out all that well.  It totally killed the experience and he was so embarrassed he ran to the bathroom to clean up.  I was so disappointed because after that, it pretty much ended the experience as he didn't want to continue. 

What do you do in this situation?  I ended up finishing myself off and didn't bring up the issue as I could tell he was mortified.  I didn't hold anything against him either but I wonder...this has to be a common issue.  How do you all handle this? 

[marylander1940]

2 minutes ago, rustyrex said:

Recently got back from Phoenix and hired 2 amazing guys.  Both were totally what I go for, roided out muscles with tats and both experiences were really good.  But....one of them didn't clean out all that well.  It totally killed the experience and he was so embarrassed he ran to the bathroom to clean up.  I was so disappointed because after that, it pretty much ended the experience as he didn't want to continue. 

What do you do in this situation?  I ended up finishing myself off and didn't bring up the issue as I could tell he was mortified.  I didn't hold anything against him either but I wonder...this has to be a common issue.  How do you all handle this? 

It happens! 

Would you like to give him another chance? 

 

[+ Jamie21]

You did the right thing, don’t make a big issue of it. It happens…. 

I recall one occasion when I wasn’t fully clean for a client. He’d been going a while in various different positions and as he pulled out I felt a sensation that I knew wasn’t good, and let’s just say a lot of cleaning up was needed. Thankfully he was fine about it, and we were nearly at the end anyway. Sometimes even with the best efforts it happens. 

When it happens if I’m on top it’s often just a little bit which can be washed clean and we carry on. One can’t make a big thing of it because it makes people feel bad and that ruins the atmosphere. I find if there are concerns about possibly not being fully prepared it’s best to stick to one position and once inside stay inside 😉. 

 

 

[Thelatin]

I over prepared on one occasion and water kept coming out lol.  Embarrassing, but he was a pro about it.

[56harrisond]

Some previous discussions

 

[+ Charlie]

(Sh)it happens!

[TallMuscl37]

15 hours ago, rustyrex said:

What do you do in this situation?  I ended up finishing myself off and didn't bring up the issue as I could tell he was mortified.  I didn't hold anything against him either but I wonder...this has to be a common issue.  How do you all handle this? 

Y’all did what you had to do, in that situation. Doesn’t matter what anyone else would have done. There also isn’t an indication of how long “it” lasted before “shit” happened. Was it 5 minutes, or an hour? In the case of the latter: there’s not much to do but finish off.

Now: Were both of these guys aware what they were doing prior to arriving? If not maybe one wasn’t prepared (and I’m not sure whether you meant you booked them at the same or different times). Or if the person says “I just want etc etc and then turns out he actually wants to do XXX at the last minute, then maybe too it wasn’t being properly planned out.

In this case, if the bottom decides to not want to continue…it’s not much more to do. But in a situation where time wasn’t a factor: I think there’s the chance to clean up and start back over after some time passes.

[marylander1940]

6 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

Some previous discussions

 

@mike carey would you like combine the threads?

[+ JamesB]

Accidents can and will happen, just don’t make a big deal out of it.

[soloyo215]

On 10/20/2024 at 10:53 PM, rustyrex said:

Recently got back from Phoenix and hired 2 amazing guys.  Both were totally what I go for, roided out muscles with tats and both experiences were really good.  But....one of them didn't clean out all that well.  It totally killed the experience and he was so embarrassed he ran to the bathroom to clean up.  I was so disappointed because after that, it pretty much ended the experience as he didn't want to continue. 

What do you do in this situation?  I ended up finishing myself off and didn't bring up the issue as I could tell he was mortified.  I didn't hold anything against him either but I wonder...this has to be a common issue.  How do you all handle this? 

I have handled that the same way you did. Finishing up myself and pretending I didn't mind by not holding it against him, but still finishing up by myself.

[Simon Suraci]

Always be clear up front that you want to top so that your guy knows to clean out before the appointment.

Also, shit happens sometimes no matter how fastidious you are about prepping. Have some grace and consider hiring him again for another try.

[+ sniper]

Pure for Men is your friend...

[PileDriver]

yep...shit happens. as a top and as a bottom have had it happen...resolving the situation can be hot if both dudes involved are adults about it...have been in the shower making out with my partner resolving the issue...total hotness

[Venite]

Fiber in natural and man-compiled forms is a great dietary supplement 

[ICTJOCK]

As a provider,  I would be beyond embarrassed as well.   A couple of things I might mention.    He could have cleaned himself up very thoroughly in advance and bodily function being what it is.....   it cam happen!   

 

One personal experience I had.    I was meeting with a great client ad we were involved.    I'm very clean and he had me in several positions while bottoming.   While in one,  I developed a hamstring knot, which hurt like holy hell.    We had to stop.   I realized I couldn't continue and he wasn't happy.  That was in  June of 2021.     Even if I could have continued with the client,  I probably would have had to check everything as the hamstring issue caused a bunch of stress on me internally.     I could have had the same problem your provider did in that case .. perhaps.    The good thing is,   I saw the client  several more times all of which were successful and he was very happy.       Sometimes there can be exceptions.

[+ Pensant]

I’ve had that happen with a few twink bottoms. I told them not to worry and gave them some pro tip on bottom prep. I did see both several times afterwards.

[jmichaeliii]

Yea it happens.  I am OCD about being clean before a meet and I still got burned twice.  Both providers were total pros and actually did what they could to get my mind back into the session.