Am I the only One

[Guest Matt Smith]

Hello everyone.  I just found this forum about 30 minutes ago and have been looking through it.  I've been looking for a forum like this for quite some time.  Don't know how I missed it.

I have a question though, but I want to preface it with saying that there is ZERO judgment in my question.  I simply want to be honest about my own personal feelings.

Am I the only one who not only doesn't have anal sex but finds the whole idea rather nasty?  You see and here it all the time: "Are you top/bottom/vers?" but what about a "none" option?  I mean, let's be real.  Shit comes out of there.  I can't get myself to put my pride and joy in someone else's shithole and I can't stand the idea of someone else putting theirs in mine.  I am attracted to guys, and I do like a good bubble butt, but the idea of something going up inside turns me off.  Don't get me wrong.  It's almost impossible to watch porn without seeing anal, and sometimes I get turned on when the top is enjoying it so much that he can't pull out in time and cums in the other guy, but when they start with the close ups of the anus and really focusing on the dick and the anus, I have to speed through it and fight losing my boner.  And porn pics of just the guy's hole? - I've started losing my boner over those too.  (You can imagine how I feel about rimming too. LOL)

Blowjobs? HOT  Handjobs? HOT  Frotting? REALLY HOT, but anal? not for me.

I prefaced with "no judgment" because if you're into that, more power to you (seems most gay guys are), but shit is disgusting to me, so any contact with the anus grosses me out.  Am I the only one (cause I've lost dates when I said no anal)?

[Medin]

Not at all.  There are plenty of guys who don't get into anal.  

Edited February 4, 2023 by Medin

[+ Charlie]

I have rarely enjoyed getting fucked, because I don't find it physically stimulating or comfortable. However, if I find the person really attractive and that's what he really wants to do, and I feel reasonably clean down there, I have sometimes done it and occasionally enjoyed it. If he really wants to get fucked, I am happy to do it, but I don't find it necessary to have anal relations--as top or bottom--in order to enjoy a sexual experience. I'm sure there are many people on this site for whom "top" and "bottom" don't necessarily refer to fucking or getting fucked, but to who is the person making decisions about what will happen, or who is orchestrating the action and who is playing the instruments.

[Jaroslav]

You are not the only one.

[Todd Jenkins]

You are not alone. 

You are called a side.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Side

[Guest Matt Smith]

1 minute ago, Todd Jenkins said:

You are not alone. 

You are called a side.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Side

Thanks

[+ nycman]

9 hours ago, Matt Smith said:

Am I the only one who not only doesn't have anal sex…?

What kind weirdo homo are you?

Everyone knows you must shove things into your asshole, or into the assholes of others if you want to hang with the cool kids. 

grin

Butt seriously (see what I did there?), everyone is different. Often "anal-aversion" fades with age, sometimes not. I mean fucking @Charlie is ancient….and he’s still rarely gives it up. (For now let’s just forget that he was once known as "The Bottom of Pine Street"). There’s no need, in fact no way, to rush things. Do what you enjoy. It’s your body and your sex life. Butt, don’t be afraid to try new things once and a while. And who knows, in 10 years….you might just be the power bottom of some top’s dreams. Ya never know!

With a little prep work and a bottom who’s good at attention to detail, anal play and fucking can be very fun, intense, and sparkling clean.

Butt, it’s not for everyone!

Edited February 5, 2023 by nycman

[Jamie21]

It’s not unusual! Lots of guys aren’t keen on anal. I see loads of clients who really don’t want anything to go down there but they love everything else. 

I do understand the anxiety about shit.  If it does happen I have got used to just dealing with it. It doesn’t stop me doing anal because I like it either as a receiver or giver. The desire overcomes any inhibition about anal and I think that’s a learned response. 

[+ Lucky]

I think that the OP needs to learn to love his asshole. It is not dirty if you keep it clean. The pleasures of anal sex are well-documented. It wouldn't be a big think among gays if it were not fun.

Don't forget that vaginas give out blood and...babies! Yet straight men go for them when they are clean. Gay men just choose the other end.

[Thelatin]

I have an extremely straight friend who gives me grief about this.  Like he’s one of those New Jersey necklace wearing knuckle draggers.  My response has been…she doesn’t do a bit of reach around?  You never tried to stick it in your wife’s poop shoot?  He’s like, well, um, er:) 

[Luv2play]

33 minutes ago, Thelatin said:

I have an extremely straight friend who gives me grief about this.  Like he’s one of those New Jersey necklace wearing knuckle draggers.  My response has been…she doesn’t do a bit of reach around?  You never tried to stick it in your wife’s poop shoot?  He’s like, well, um, er:) 

You make a good point. Some women and straight men also enjoy anal sex. I watch some straight porn and can confirm this!

Also the female vagina is dual function and women piss out of there.

I think the human body is an incredible machine, so multi functional. Our orifices give us so much pleasure and can be put to various uses. 

Personally I'm very clean and neat in my appearance. I always shower and clean up before sex too (inside and out). But once the fur starts to fly I don't mind getting a little dirty. The human body is waterproof and cleans up well.

Edited February 4, 2023 by Luv2play

[samhexum]

3 hours ago, Matt Smith said:

Am I the only one who not only doesn't have anal sex but finds the whole idea rather nasty?  You see and here it all the time: "Are you top/bottom/vers?" but what about a "none" option? 

previous thread that might interest you

[caramelsub]

I’m a sub, but I don’t bottom either, or top. I’ve tried, but I don’t get the pleasurable sensation with sticking things up my ass. I do just about everything else though. I do love rimming a clean smooth bubble butt. I enjoy the idea of anal sex, and watching guys in porn fuck other guys, but my backdoor is closed.

[+ WilliamM]

32 minutes ago, caramelsub said:

I’m a sub, but I don’t bottom either, or top. I’ve tried, but I don’t get the pleasurable sensation with sticking things up my ass. I do just about everything else though. I do love rimming a clean smooth bubble butt. I enjoy the idea of anal sex, and watching guys in porn fuck other guys, but my backdoor is closed.

Do you open your backdoor  occasionally? Hope so.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

5 hours ago, Matt Smith said:

Hello everyone.  I just found this forum about 30 minutes ago and have been looking through it.  I've been looking for a forum like this for quite some time.  Don't know how I missed it.

I have a question though, but I want to preface it with saying that there is ZERO judgment in my question.  I simply want to be honest about my own personal feelings.

Am I the only one who not only doesn't have anal sex but finds the whole idea rather nasty?  You see and here it all the time: "Are you top/bottom/vers?" but what about a "none" option?  I mean, let's be real.  Shit comes out of there.  I can't get myself to put my pride and joy in someone else's shithole and I can't stand the idea of someone else putting theirs in mine.  I am attracted to guys, and I do like a good bubble butt, but the idea of something going up inside turns me off.  Don't get me wrong.  It's almost impossible to watch porn without seeing anal, and sometimes I get turned on when the top is enjoying it so much that he can't pull out in time and cums in the other guy, but when they start with the close ups of the anus and really focusing on the dick and the anus, I have to speed through it and fight losing my boner.  And porn pics of just the guy's hole? - I've started losing my boner over those too.  (You can imagine how I feel about rimming too. LOL)

Blowjobs? HOT  Handjobs? HOT  Frotting? REALLY HOT, but anal? not for me.

I prefaced with "no judgment" because if you're into that, more power to you (seems most gay guys are), but shit is disgusting to me, so any contact with the anus grosses me out.  Am I the only one (cause I've lost dates when I said no anal)?

Anal disgusted me for about 10 years until my very late 20s.

I wouldn't/couldn't watch images of anal.  I would fast forward through the middle sections of gay porn.... Just watching initial oral scenes and final climax at the end.

By my late 20s, I graduated from oral only to a little bit of anal (both top and bottom).

Now at 40, I don't even want a blowjob.  Just go straight for the ass, please!

 

 

 

[samhexum]

1 hour ago, caramelsub said:

I enjoy the idea of anal sex, and watching guys in porn fuck other guys, but my backdoor is closed.

 

1 hour ago, WilliamM said:

Do you open your backdoor  occasionally? 

Just a crack

😁😝😁😝

[+ sync]

5 hours ago, Todd Jenkins said:

You are not alone. 

You are called a side.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Side

Thanks, I appreciate the Urban Dictionary reference.

I've never real thought about the differentiation, but I'm definitely more of a "side."

Now, when I see an object of my affection, I can say "I would really like a side of that," as opposed to something more precise.

[+ Coolwave35]

I didn’t like sex until very recently. I thought I was a bottom. Turns out I’m a top. Who knew. 

[misterhumphries]

As a budding gay teen, I was fascinated by ass fucking because it seemed physically impossible. How could something that big and hard get into that tiny little hole? Well, I found out soon enough. Starting in my 30s, only men with whom I'm in a relationship get access to my butt -- if they want it. These days, all the men I meet are strictly bottoms. It's like I'm one of the last truly versatile men. As for the shit factor, that's what a good fiber diet and an enema is good for -- eliminate as much waste as possible before getting down and "dirty." At age 40 a man introduced me to eating ass. Now that had me scared of the shit factor. But he also showed me with proper prep a good time can be had by all. Like fucking, I only eat the asses of certain men and if certain conditions are met.

Edited February 5, 2023 by misterhumphries

[Xavitv]

A lot of things about sex can be disgusting without proper hygiene to be honest.

Sex has many layers and  I wouldn’t judge what  others like. I do prefer oral and touch and I do reserve anal for guys I’m really into it. I’m also a bottom who loves to rim , so a clean nice ass can be a beautiful piece of art.  

[+ sync]

I'm not an anal enthusiast, although I like the look of a tight butt.  I've done a few toppings and I believe maybe two times bottoming.

My enjoyment is found in embracing, kissing, gentle nipple-play, and giving fellatio.  I don't enjoy getting fellatio, I prefer getting a skillful hand release, which has inspired me to be more likely to engage masseurs rather than escorts.

Rimming is totally off the table for me.  I think perhaps because I had to kiss so much ass in my employment years that I refuse to do it on my own time.

I know, TMI.  😦

[liubit]

I rarely engage in anal sex, @Matt Smith  Topping is difficult for me, because I quickly lose my erection when wearing a condom, and going bareback is not always an option. As for bottoming, I never thought that I could do it, but I have tried it a few times lately, and I must admit that I have enjoyed it a lot more than I imagined. 
 

Now, rimming is a totally different story. I am a voracious rimmer: I just love to eat ass and, if you rim me, I am putty in your hands (and tongue). 

[nate_sf]

Welcome to the forum!

From a provider's experience, I can tell you that you are not alone. Lots of guys have a good sense of what they like, and what they don't like, and that's okay. It is not unusual for a client to tell me specifically what they like and what they don't like, and for guys I see regularly I know what's on the table and what's not. We're all wired a bit differently, and as others here have commented that wiring can change over time. But you're under no obligation to like what others like just because it is presented as a norm.

13 hours ago, Matt Smith said:

Blowjobs? HOT  Handjobs? HOT  Frotting? REALLY HOT

So whether you're seeking a provider or a hookup, that kind of specific direction can be really helpful. Don't be shy about what you like, this is supposed to be fun.

[+ StLouisOct]

You may never like anal, but, like me at one point in my life, the shit factor can be a major drawback. But before you make a lifelong commitment to never do it, try douching yourself and finding out how clean your hole can get. At the end of that process (and there are plenty of internet resources that will guide you through it) lubricate your finger  and put it into your hole, then smell it. You’re going to find that it gets awfully clean down there. Rimming and anal don’t seem so daunting once you reach this understanding. Yeah, no one can say that all germs are removed, but the many of us (of both sexes) who have learned to enjoy it lead  satisfied and healthy lives. 

[Guest]

12 hours ago, Luv2play said:

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Also the female vagina is dual function and women piss out of there...

Gaack! Someone needs an anatomy lesson. 😬