misterhumphries

Yes, there will ALWAYS be the the loud, in-your-face types who live up to the gay femme stereotype. When I was exploring and accepting my sexuality as a gay man, those loud, womanish types had NOTHING in common with me. Yet I never thought of them as "other" -- they were simply not me. "Straight-acting" was not part of my vocabulary or mindset, either, because I knew by my early 20s that I was anything but straight; and I had no interest in play-acting. I find it sad that who's gay or straight is still a hotly debated topic among segments of the gay populace. For me, I agree with the line from "Victor/Victoria": I'm a man who doesn't have to prove it. To myself or to anyone. The dig at transgender women is just hateful. They are women, perhaps not biologically but in their spirit, their mind, their self-perception, they are women. How dare you to deny anyone the right to define himself or herself? Did someone die and elect you as sole arbiter of what's what and who's who? Am I missing anything? Not being trans myself, I don't understand it, either. But I wouldn't deny anyone their truth. And consider that the transgendered are most likely to be murdered (unsolved), most likely to be poor, discriminated against for employment. Being trans is not a walk in the park. Trans men and women have incredible courage to be themselves.

Chacun a son gout. Some men are into prime aged cock.... but I'll pass on that. If a man is older than 68 chances are he wouldn't be able to do or to offer anything that would open my wallet.

Drakkar! That was the fragrance of the 90s or thereabouts. I loved the scent too.

And the way a man walks. Some men have the sexiest walk. It's hard to describe what constitutes a sexy walk, but I know it when I see it.

Ooh-wee! that's too much werk! When I get to be 70 (knock wood) I plan on being in whatever shape my diet of donuts and fried chicken gives me. I will dress in sweatpants. I'll be as morose or as sarcastic as I please. And I will bathe only when I find skidmarks in my sweatpants.🤪

I feel your outrage. The current HIV meds are the most sophisticated drugs there are. Those of us can remember the early days when the only medication was AZT which caused more health issues than it may have resolved. I had a former boyfriend who was taking DDI. His body dysmorphia was advancing every time I saw him in the form of a gigantic pot belly and dorsal fat deposit. There is no such thing as taking an HIV med break. What you do is risk building a resistance to the medication. You'd be back on the rollercoaster of switching meds to find one that is tolerable and effective. We are our own worst enemy.

I'm going to give you the floor on this topic because you seem to think you know better. What seems to grip you is the human propensity to make things more complicated than they are; or to search for hidden meaning (there MUST be a hidden meaning) behind all human choice) where it might not exist.

Tall and lean. His text promises to "wreck you in the best way." Imma have to take that dare.😈

This is true of any profession. A dentist must have dentist. A barber has a barber. Why wouldn't an escort spread the wealth to a colleague?

YUM! YUM! GIMME SOME! I wouldn't want no massage. I'd want to tap dat ass!😈

I'll be in Las Vegas for a business seminar. I might want some company a night or two while I will be there. For me, it's not the sheer number of providers in the area, it's the quality of them. So far, I've seen only one who is what I'd call a "man" who might tickle my fancy. The rest are ordinary or just boys.

That's terrible! I had a male client whom I was seeing for the first time apologize for his age (early 60s) and asked me if it would be a problem working on an older guy. It's awful to have to feel apologetic or ashamed of having lived for so long. Given that AIDS led to many premature deaths in the 80s and 90s, every day I'm six feet above ground is a blessing. You have to learn not to take it personally. Your money spends the same as that of a 30-something. If one escort or masseur doesn't want your business, just move on. That person did you a favor in rejecting you outright. No need to pay for feeling humiliated over a fact of life that comes to us all, if we're lucky. You may want to remind said escort who rejects an "age" that not all men who are 40years old and over look alike or act alike. There was one fantastic bodybuilder I couldn't get enough of -- he was 68 but well preserved.

I beg to differ. Sometimes the simplest answers -- even if it's not what one expects to hear -- is often the right one. I know plenty of people who got piercings and multiple tattoos because they wanted to. No trauma in their lives. No knuckling under to peer pressure. They wanted to be pierced and tattooed. There's another old saying, "If you hear hoofbeats, think horses, not zebras."

It's the same with Elizabeth Taylor. I was in a training class and the topic turned to favorite movie stars. The only reference those 20somethings had for Ms. Taylor was: "didn't she have a perfume or something?" Sad fact is most youngsters may be clueless when it comes to Old Hollywood trivia and the accomplishments of its stars.

Very "Waiting for Godot"😉