To Providers: Ever met a client that behaved so well, you could've hired him?

[SteveAgain]

Providers: I'd like to know if you've ever been with a client that just did everything perfect. Not just good looks, but behavior, attitude, conversation, performance in bed, everything -- such that, in another life or alternate universe, would you have been the client hiring them over and over?

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I’m intrigued by this question. Why are some people fascinated about the idea of a sex worker hiring a client??? Lol. 
 

There is no alternate universe or “other life”. Things are the way they are. Now you can ask, if sex worker and said client ever decided to form a “non-clock” relationship, and yes that happens. 
 

I won’t go into the pros and cons of such arrangements, but yes it can and does happen. Once it does, it can be subject to the same pitfalls as any traditionally started relationship. 

But the fantasy of an escort hiring a client: kill that. Clients aren’t going to earn money by becoming SuperSexman 🦸🏻‍♂️ 

[Jamie21]

It’s never happened that I have thought of a client in this way to consider the roles switching. Yes on many occasions they have been skilled but still I haven’t considered the role reversal. The premise of the question seems misplaced.
It’s like a diner going into a restaurant and having a fantastic meal where he eats everything and really appreciates the menu, ingredients, cooking and ambiance of the restaurant. He’s the perfect diner. Would the chef think “I must be that diner sometime?”.

[CuriousByNature]

10 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I’m intrigued by this question. Why are some people fascinated about the idea of a sex worker hiring a client??? Lol. 
 

There is no alternate universe or “other life”. Things are the way they are. Now you can ask, if sex worker and said client ever decided to form a “non-clock” relationship, and yes that happens. 
 

I won’t go into the pros and cons of such arrangements, but yes it can and does happen. Once it does, it can be subject to the same pitfalls as any traditionally started relationship. 

But the fantasy of an escort hiring a client: kill that. Clients aren’t going to earn money by becoming SuperSexman 🦸🏻‍♂️ 

 

8 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

It’s never happened that I have thought of a client in this way to consider the roles switching. Yes on many occasions they have been skilled but still I haven’t considered the role reversal. The premise of the question seems misplaced.
It’s like a diner going into a restaurant and having a fantastic meal where he eats everything and really appreciates the menu, ingredients, cooking and ambiance of the restaurant. He’s the perfect diner. Would the chef think “I must be that diner sometime?”.

Just guessing, but perhaps the OP is curious if there has ever been a client you have met that you believe would be successful in a career as a provider?  And had the shoe been on the other foot (and you were a client and not a provider yourself) are there any such clients you have met that you would have been happy to donate for their time?  With the dinner in the restaurant scenario, I read the OP's question more like:  "Have you as a professional chef ever been hired to cook a meal with someone, and you were so impressed with their own cooking skill that you believe they could be a professional chef themselves - and even more, that you could see yourself hiring that chef for yourself if the roles were reversed?"  

Edited December 13, 2021 by CuriousByNature

[maninsoma]

Many years ago I had a very cute friend who occasionally hired guys, many of whom would refuse to accept money from him after the fact because they wanted to be a sexy buddy, not someone who only had sex with him when he felt like hiring him.  I know that isn't the same as the escorts hiring him, but it's a pretty clear indication that they wanted to have sex with him.

[FrancisCA]

Ive had a few clients where I thought "Damn this guy is so special im sure people would pay good money to hire HIM!" But I would never tell them that! 

[jeezifonly]

I was once hired by a very popular provider.

Unfortunately, just to make him a toupee 

[pubic_assistance]

When I was in my early 40s I went to a strip show after work and one of the dancers hit me up for a private. I wasn't really looking and therefore didn't have much cash on me. I asked how much and said I only have about $80 in my pocket. He said "that will get you a sample ". 😊 I agreed and followed him to a neighboring hotel room. My "sample" lasted for about two hours and several ejaculations from both of us. Having been dressed in a suit, this young fellow didn't realize I was still pretty ripped and and great shape for my age. This, along with my moves in the bedroom appear to have been a pleasant surprise as he commented afterwards that "he should PAY ME for the hot time ". Being a gentleman I of course still emptied my pockets of cash as this WAS still his career...and I did agree to pay him . Went back once again and he offered to go home with me for free that time.

[KeepItReal]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

When I was in my early 40s I went to a strip show after work and one of the dancers hit me up for a private. I wasn't really looking and therefore didn't have much cash on me. I asked how much and said I only have about $80 in my pocket. He said "that will get you a sample ". 😊 I agreed and followed him to a neighboring hotel room. My "sample" lasted for about two hours and several ejaculations from both of us. Having been dressed in a suit, this young fellow didn't realize I was still pretty ripped and and great shape for my age. This, along with my moves in the bedroom appear to have been a pleasant surprise as he commented afterwards that "he should PAY ME for the hot time ". Being a gentleman I of course still emptied my pockets of cash as this WAS still his career...and I did agree to pay him . Went back once again and he offered to go home with me for free that time.

Sometimes it is polite and appropriate to pay for the cow, even if the milk is offered for free! 😉

[Jamie21]

15 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

I was once hired by a very popular provider.

Unfortunately, just to make him a toupee 

We need to know who he is!

[jeezifonly]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

We need to know who he is!

You won’t hear a name from me. Keeping a lid on that…

[Jamie21]

1 hour ago, jeezifonly said:

You won’t hear a name from me. Keeping a lid on that…

Or a toupee on it 😉

[jeezifonly]

28 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Or a toupee on it 😉

You’ve never seen him do a scene with shower or swimming involved!

[Guest davebk]

I’ve had a provider who I had been trying to hire. It hadn’t happened and we ended up meeting unexpectedly. After drinking a beer together, he texted and said “hey, instead of hiring me, let’s just hang out next time you’re in town…”. We did, and the sex was great, mutual, and much longer than if I had hired. We’ve met up a couple times now and I’ve never paid. 

[+ Pensant]

At least two providers in the past, one in 2003 and the second in 2007, wanted me to be their bf. I was flattered but knew better. “Hayden” was upset about my demurral and blocked me afterwards.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

All of the guys I see are people I genuinely want to spend time with. Otherwise, I wouldn't see them in the first place.

Do I want to date them or run away together and elope?  No.  That's emotionally irresponsible.

What I value even more than sexual skill is social grace and easy, effortless conversation.  That's not something that everyone has, but it is something that can be shaped and sharpened.  That, for me, is what makes or breaks how I connect to people and if I want to connect with them in the future.

 

 

[Guest]

I once had a long-term regular who was inspired by the lifestyle choices that escorting made available to me, and took it upon himself to enter the business himself. His niche and volume were very different from mine (we had an age difference of some ~45 years and he was retired from his day job), but it ultimately became a productive side gig for him, and he had many clients who were closer to my age than his.

I didn't personally book an appointment with him. But what I think it shows is that if you're at least a kind, thoughtful person, then you likely have something to offer. 

Ultimately the question of roles being reversed "in another life" is a little too abstract to be answered, I think, since the provider-client arrangement depends largely on practical considerations, but if what you're looking for is reassurance that someone who hires can be genuinely desirable himself....then yes, absolutely. 

Edited December 15, 2021 by DanteV

[SteveAgain]

On 12/13/2021 at 6:42 AM, CuriousByNature said:

Just guessing, but perhaps the OP is curious if there has ever been a client you have met that you believe would be successful in a career as a provider?  And had the shoe been on the other foot (and you were a client and not a provider yourself) are there any such clients you have met that you would have been happy to donate for their time?

Yes, this. I was trying to separate the pros from their jobs with this question. Because yes, as a pro you don't want to blur the lines between provider and client.

I tried to use the Hollywood multiverse explanation, but that apparently failed. 

So yes, if you were NOT a provider, but were willing to hire providers, have you met a client that you personally would have hired for that encounter?

[marylander1940]

On 12/12/2021 at 12:25 PM, SteveAgain said:

Providers: I'd like to know if you've ever been with a client that just did everything perfect. Not just good looks, but behavior, attitude, conversation, performance in bed, everything -- such that, in another life or alternate universe, would you have been the client hiring them over and over?

I'm sure good-looking, in shape and skillful clients occasionally happen but they're not the norm.

 

[+ WilliamM]

2 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

I'm sure good-looking, in shape and skillful clients occasionally happen but they're not the norm.

 

"In shape" is less important to most people, than good looking and have somethings in common.

[Rand]

I had a couple of encounters when provider didn’t take money or took just enough for a ride home. We had great chemistry and great vibe. I’m in general like to treat people the way I like to be treated. It pays off. I think nice is sexy. Also my recent provider asked to make a video next time we meet. All confidential off course. What I’m trying to say is it’s all depends… on so many things. 

[young11]

on a different note but along with the similar line, I hired two recently and both ended up being a bottom. They advertised as a vers, maybe I should have cut vers guys but they just wanted me to top them and not to ruin the mood, I did top them without showing my displeasure and I did make some effort to make it fun for us. I am a vers but when I hire, i am a bottom because I can be the top without paying. And we had amazing time, at least for them, one was really professional and didn't show much after our fun or maybe he was so good at faking during, who knows. The other was just asking me so many private questions and telling me repeatedly that we should meet again. I politely said sure but I was thinking, I should be the one who is charging lol

I also had a guy (who was not a regular in this industry) and I was his first client. After the first meeting, we became FBs for a few months until I left the city. We had such a fun time and I was happy to help his business instead of paying him (not that he asked me to but as I learned more about him, what he does etc and I saw I could actually be helpful in terms of giving an advice etc in his business)

[Jamie21]

On 12/17/2021 at 3:24 AM, WilliamM said:

"In shape" is less important to most people, than good looking and have somethings in common.

Personality, good manners, hygiene, humour, charm and humanity trump everything else. Clients like that are the absolute sexiest. Sex is fun if the client has those qualities. 

[rn901]

One of my best friends who I meet and hook up with once every week or so, started as a client. It's become a "situationship" where we aren't in a relationship but we're more than a simple friendship with benefits. He's young, in-shape, handsome, intelligent, educated and an extremely kind mannered introvert. Our first meet ups consisted of him giving me a massage prior to the sex (Not a bad gig to get paid for receiving massages!). More and more our sessions got longer, with wine and conversations late into the night. After a couple months of visits, I stopped charging. He then started taking me out to dinner and I regularly started spending the night. We live about a 10 minute walk from each other and see each other almost weekly now. This peculiar arrangement has lasted over five years, with us still reluctant to make anything official out of it (why change something that isn't broken?). I hesitate telling clients this because I don't want them to get any ideas. Throughout my career I've had other clients try to push to something beyond a client/provider arrangement and I've had to maintain boundaries. It's important to not let the lines get too blurry as things can get messy fast if such lines aren't clearly established.

I've had longtime regulars who have become some of the best friendships of my life. Some are almost like family, yet they still happily pay as clients because that's the sort of wonderful souls that they are. As Benjamin describes, they're the ones with social grace and fruitful effortless conversations. I hope to keep them all in my life well after I retire from this work. The ones who have treated me the best usually also made me feel very appreciated. I find it interesting that almost never do the most generous and most pleasant say they should be the ones getting paid instead. That's just not something they say. Others of a lesser caliber will act that way or say that but that's not how these best among clients think or operate. Rather, they be their great selves and they pay my rate without ever the slightest objection or hesitation. They're humble, while being the most giving. They're men of class and kindness. 

Edited January 4, 2022 by rn901

[Rudynate]

I like novelty and I have a short attention span, so when I hire a guy, I'm usually done after 2 or 3 times.  There is one provider who doesn't seem to be done with me, even though I have gone as far as I want to go with him, because he has offered free sessions a couple times now. It's flattering.