*Why use rentmasseur when you want sex?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 7/15/2026 at 9:22 PM, San Angelo said:

The German ancestry is Americans in exaggerated. People in the USA tend to overstate their non-British and "American" (colonial British) blood because they think is more exotical. 

We've learned not to question how one self-identifies.  One can choose to identify as German, English, black, Mexican, etc., just like one can identify as man, woman, other, etc.  Similarly, whose to question why one identifies as a masseur or a prostitute?

For whatever the reason, I hire a mix of both.  Sometimes I feel like a massage, sometimes I feel like a nut 🥜, and sometimes both. 😉 

Edited Friday at 11:47 PM by Vegas_Millennial
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[+ Gar1eth]

On 7/13/2026 at 12:49 PM, Typical said:

I personally don’t find on demand paid sex interesting. I’ve only done it twice and both times were unsatisfactory to me even though both guys were exactly my physical type. A massage gets us to the same room together generally unclothed, so the big logistics hurdles are over. Then if two consenting adults want to go for it, it’s more exciting than an explicit sex transaction, at least for me. 
 

If a masseur who has not committed to sex decides he actually wants to have sex with me, that’s a lot more fun in my book. 

So in your case-it seems like what does it for you is the uncertainty of whether you will get sex or not. That wouldn't have worked  for me when I was hiring. If I hired a guy (for the most part), I was horny and wanted sex.  

[San Angelo]

4 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

We've learned not to question how one self-identifies.  One can choose to identify as German, English, black, Mexican, etc., just like one can identify as man, woman, other, etc.  Similarly, whose to question why one identifies as a masseur or a prostitute?

For whatever the reason, I hire a mix of both.  Sometimes I feel like a massage, sometimes I feel like a nut 🥜, and sometimes both. 😉 

If I decide to identify as a tree, will that make me a tree? Mmm okay... 

A masseur is supposed to give massages. A prostitute is a sex worker. You know exactly what I mean. 

Edited Saturday at 04:35 AM by San Angelo

[ACluelessGent]

3 hours ago, San Angelo said:

If I decide to identify as a tree, will that make me a tree? Mmm okay... 

A masseur is supposed to give massages. A prostitute is a sex worker. You know exactly what I mean. 

Agree! By definition, masseurs <-> massage only. Anything more, sex work <-> escort (and not the ridiculous term "provider"). 😅

[+ FrankR]

6 hours ago, San Angelo said:

If I decide to identify as a tree, will that make me a tree? Mmm okay... 

A masseur is supposed to give massages. A prostitute is a sex worker. You know exactly what I mean. 

 

2 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

Agree! By definition, masseurs <-> massage only. Anything more, sex work <-> escort (and not the ridiculous term "provider"). 😅

Humans and their behavior do not fit neatly into specific boxes for your convenience.  Your insistance that the world consists of “we are a Ford family…they must be a Chevy family” is just ridiculous.  You may also want to avoid KFC or Popeyes…if they hand you a spork, your brain may explode. 

[Mark_fl]

Let's not fool ourselves. A Masseur who advertises at rates double a standard massage, has nude or almost nude photos, lists his sexual preference, and often his HIV status is not simply a masseur.

So why choose a masseur? Because you want some semblance of massage before you get to the sensual stuff. 

Sure, maybe you just want a massage with some good glute work,  but I think that's pretty rare, and you wouldn't need to pay double a standard massage rate for that. 

I get a monthly massage at Hand and Stone for $80. That's not what should be offered for 200 from a guy whose ad shows him flexing in underwear.

Edited Saturday at 03:02 PM by Mark_fl

[ACluelessGent]

23 minutes ago, FrankR said:

 

Humans and their behavior do not fit neatly into specific boxes for your convenience.  Your insistance that the world consists of “we are a Ford family…they must be a Chevy family” is just ridiculous.  You may also want to avoid KFC or Popeyes…if they hand you a spork, your brain may explode. 

I am afraid you entirely miss the point. It has nothing to do with human behaviour and certainly not with my convenience. It is a matter of linguistics. Language relies on mutually agreed-upon rules and shared definitions. We need conventions like these, as a universal user manual for communication to allow us to turn raw thoughts into structured messages that others can easily process and understand. That's all.

[+ FrankR]

46 minutes ago, ACluelessGent said:

I am afraid you entirely miss the point. It has nothing to do with human behaviour and certainly not with my convenience. It is a matter of linguistics. Language relies on mutually agreed-upon rules and shared definitions. We need conventions like these, as a universal user manual for communication to allow us to turn raw thoughts into structured messages that others can easily process and understand. That's all.

Oh pleaae.  Ask an American about football rules…then ask a European. They wont agree since they arent even talking about the same sport.   You are sadly imagining “rules” that dont exist in real life. Speaking for myself, i never agreed to them so there was never a meeting of the minds. 

If you want to use rentmasseur to find sexual partners - you do you. If you prefer a gay bar - you do you.   Understanding leads to acceptance.

[soloyo215]

On 7/13/2026 at 12:22 PM, muscmtl said:

Genuine question here.

I just don't get all the posts about hiring a masseur and commenting if he tops, bottoms, suck, etc. Blows my mind that instead of going an escort, you'd rather go for a masseuse hoping it leads to sex.

It's like I wanna have my windows cleaned, but instead of hiring a window cleaner, I hire a guy to mow the grass, hoping he looks up and see me pointing at my window.

 

Because I want both

Because I don't want just sex

Because I don't want a full escort experience, just a quick getting off

Because I fucking choose to

 

Questions to you: Why does that bother you? What is your problem with that? Why do you need to analyze this? What is the obsession with labeling and wording things?

[DunwoodyGuy]

On 7/15/2026 at 5:44 PM, Becket said:

I like the fantasy of a massage leading into some sex. It makes me feel "surprised." That's a great turn on.

I believe this is the answer to the original poster's question. For many people on this board (I think), the moments when a massage goes from therapeutic to sensual, from sensual to erotic, and from erotic to sexual are delicious. In fact, for some of us, I dare say, it is the ultimate turn-on, our deepest fantasy.  That mystery is simply not there with an escort who doesn't do massage. The mystery is that you never know where it's going to lead, and that's what makes it so powerful. If the connection is there and the chemistry is right and the masseur is willing--and the fee and tip are agreeable to both parties--why should anyone object or judge?  

[ACluelessGent]

15 minutes ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

I believe this is the answer to the original poster's question. For many people on this board (I think), the moments when a massage goes from therapeutic to sensual, from sensual to erotic, and from erotic to sexual are delicious. In fact, for some of us, I dare say, it is the ultimate turn-on, our deepest fantasy.  That mystery is simply not there with an escort who doesn't do massage. The mystery is that you never know where it's going to lead, and that's what makes it so powerful. If the connection is there and the chemistry is right and the masseur is willing--and the fee and tip are agreeable to both parties--why should anyone object or judge?  

This I understand, thank you. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

17 hours ago, San Angelo said:

If I decide to identify as a tree, will that make me a tree? Mmm okay... 

It depends if you're hard wood or soft. 🪵 Men here would pay a premium for hard wood 😉 

[+ Jamie21]

18 hours ago, San Angelo said:

If I decide to identify as a tree, will that make me a tree? Mmm okay... 

A masseur is supposed to give massages. A prostitute is a sex worker. You know exactly what I mean. 

I do massages, and I provide sex. It’s included in the massage. What am I? Masseur or Prostitute? Or the all encompassing Sex Worker?  I don’t mind what you call me. The label isn’t important. 

[Nue2thegame]

41 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I do massages, and I provide sex. It’s included in the massage. What am I? Masseur or Prostitute? Or the all encompassing Sex Worker?  I don’t mind what you call me. The label isn’t important. 

You’re a “provider” - and a very good one. 

[San Angelo]

6 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I do massages, and I provide sex. It’s included in the massage. What am I? Masseur or Prostitute? Or the all encompassing Sex Worker?  I don’t mind what you call me. The label isn’t important. 

You are both a sex worker and a masseur. 

[San Angelo]

7 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

It depends if you're hard wood or soft. 🪵 Men here would pay a premium for hard wood 😉 

I identify as a mango. I'm a mango. Eat me. 

[ACluelessGent]

6 hours ago, Nue2thegame said:

You’re a “provider” - and a very good one. 

Oh please drop this stupid term.

[BeHappy]

7 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

Oh please drop this stupid term.

Agree

[Nightowl]

7 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

Oh please drop this stupid term.

Maybe we should call him a “supplier” instead.  Gives the term “supply chain” a whole new world of exciting possibilities.

[BeHappy]

2 hours ago, Nightowl said:

Maybe we should call him a “supplier” instead.  Gives the term “supply chain” a whole new world of exciting possibilities.

Funny, interesting possibilities!

I like “New Friend”

[Vulgarii]

On 7/18/2026 at 3:42 PM, Jamie21 said:

I do massages, and I provide sex. It’s included in the massage. What am I? Masseur or Prostitute? Or the all encompassing Sex Worker?  I don’t mind what you call me. The label isn’t important. 

 

I wouldn't want to be called a sex worker. That's more insulting and degrading because I do this sh!t because I don't want to work. 🤪🫡

[Muscleking]

On 7/13/2026 at 1:14 PM, sf westcoaster said:

I don't have a factual data, but I think cost is a factor. Masseurs tend to be less costly than escorts.

Yes I agree I think most lads will hire a masseur hoping it leads to sex because they don’t want to pay escort rates. 

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Vulgarii said:

 

I wouldn't want to be called a sex worker. That's more insulting and degrading because I do this sh!t because I don't want to work. 🤪🫡

Ha ha yes, although most of the time it’s not like work is it! 

[ThrowawayAccount]

On 7/13/2026 at 12:22 PM, muscmtl said:

Genuine question here.

I just don't get all the posts about hiring a masseur and commenting if he tops, bottoms, suck, etc. Blows my mind that instead of going an escort, you'd rather go for a masseuse hoping it leads to sex.

It's like I wanna have my windows cleaned, but instead of hiring a window cleaner, I hire a guy to mow the grass, hoping he looks up and see me pointing at my window.

 

I find it crazy when there's providers on rentmen that only do massage and no sex. Its like a plumber advertising on an electrician page. 

[Nue2thegame]

1 hour ago, ThrowawayAccount said:

I find it crazy when there's providers on rentmen that only do massage and no sex. Its like a plumber advertising on an electrician page. 

I’ve run into some of these that actually do offer a full menu but selectively. They advertise on RM as massage only but if they’re in the mood and find the client appealing, they’re willing to do more. It gives them a measure of control.