Playing with Escort

[sky]

For those that hire how many of you like playing with the escort without reciprocation, just having them lay nude while you stroke them, maybe edge them and finger them.  While I like reciprication at times I also like to take control of the escort, staying dressed myself and pleasuring the escort.  I've always seen escorts more as an object since I am paying.  

[nomad]

Curious if this includes only the provider climaxing?  Since ur staying dressed.  

[jonasfoleson]

sometimes. but they are there to pleasure me, but it makes a nice change of pace.

[SecretProvider]

You are not alone - there are a lot of people who get pleasure by giving pleasure. 

I can only speak for myself - but it is a really nice change of pace when I get a client who wants to flip those dynamics and focus on giving pleasure.

[nomad]

I am feeling a little selfish then.  🤣  That has never occurred to me.  

[jmichaeliii]

Do it all the time.  I love that part!

[nomad]

Shouldn't it be all about me?  Oops, I mean Eve! 😝

[Mark_fl]

I really want the provider to have a good time and get off, so I will ask what they like and don't like, if there are any restrictions, etc. I don't want to make them uncomfortable...but I do want reciprocation, so I'll always want my turn;)

[Whoisyourdaddy]

This is me. I'm extremely shy, but promiscuous. (Ironically, I have always tried to maintain a decent BMI.)

I love giving oral, though. If the script changes in any way, I lose all interest. 

Recently, I had an Asian provider insist that I get naked. He claimed it was a cultural requirement. After getting naked, I couldn't suck him to save my life. I think I was just too distracted.

[+ Jamie21]

I find most clients want to interact in some way. Of course my focus is on them, and whilst I’m ostensibly in charge of the session I’m constantly trying to discover what the client likes or wants (because they’ll rarely be able to state this before we start - they find it easier to say what they don’t want but not so much what they do want), so in reality they are leading the session.

Thinking of clients I saw last week they all wanted to interact with me, and most of them were keen for me to cum. I think clients enjoy it more if it’s clear that I’m also turned on and it’s a great positive feedback loop because the client enjoying themselves is a big turn on for me. 

[jmichaeliii]

I have two providers I see often that have a submissive side I didn't originally know about until I made a move and they went along with it.  Was sooo hot!

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

I think clients enjoy it more if it’s clear that I’m also turned on and it’s a great positive feedback loop because the client enjoying themselves is a big turn on for me. 

I think every client enjoys it more when the provider is turned on too. 

[BigK]

What’s with all this talk of providers. The term seems very woke to me. They are escorts!! Working Men! I think of the best of them as entrepreneurs and businessmen.  I will often complement an escort on their entrepreneurial skills when they’ve exhibited great communication skills and marketing abilities. Just basic things like letting me know when they’re going to be in town. Remembering what I like.
 

Providers just strikes me as a weak ass name. Sort of like sissies.  Personally, I won’t use the term but go ahead if you feel you must.

 

 

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, BigK said:

What’s with all this talk of providers. The term seems very woke to me. They are escorts!! Working Men! I think of the best of them as entrepreneurs and businessmen.  I will often complement an escort on their entrepreneurial skills when they’ve exhibited great communication skills and marketing abilities. Just basic things like letting me know when they’re going to be in town. Remembering what I like.
 

Providers just strikes me as a weak ass name. Sort of like sissies.  Personally, I won’t use the term but go ahead if you feel you must.

 

 

It's just another word bro. No one's forcing you to use it, relax 🤣

[jeezifonly]

They are paid solely for their time.

I can absolutely see the value in the money spent, if all the client really wants to do is wank while surveying and touching living flesh of extraordinary beauty. 

 

[big-n-tall]

Although I can see the fun in just servicing the provider, it just doesn’t work for me if there is no reciprocation of any sort.

There has to be some interaction even if the guy doesn’t do in return exactly what  I do to them. One of my fav regulars never did oral. However if I went down on him he’d say sexy/dirty things like, “kiss me, I want to taste my dick.” Then we’d make out passionately before I returned to giving him oral. That type of scenario I’m all for.

There have been a small number of guys I’ve encountered who just stood there when we first met and I had to guide the session… with them making no attempt to do anything. I would lay them down and play with their body, but they just lay there like a dead body with little in the way of response. No touching me no talking or moaning. I go limp immediately or never get hard in the first place.

[Luv2play]

14 hours ago, BigK said:

What’s with all this talk of providers. The term seems very woke to me. They are escorts!! Working Men! I think of the best of them as entrepreneurs and businessmen.  I will often complement an escort on their entrepreneurial skills when they’ve exhibited great communication skills and marketing abilities. Just basic things like letting me know when they’re going to be in town. Remembering what I like.
 

Providers just strikes me as a weak ass name. Sort of like sissies.  Personally, I won’t use the term but go ahead if you feel you must.

 

 

I agree we have gotten into the habit here of calling the escorts providers. It rather lumps them together with all the other service categories in our lives.

Like insurance, cable, telephone, etc. that perform essential services we couldn’t do without. 
Escorts, on the other hand, provide a luxury service to those who can afford buying sexual services. There, I used the word provide, hence they are providers too. 
But the term seems very impersonal.

Edited June 6 by Luv2play

[TBD]

i have hired guys and i have wanted them to just lay there and let me blow them.  They seem to like it as much as i do. they always cum. 

[Mark_fl]

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.

I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

[+ Just Chuck]

In another forum, I saw “provider” used as the generic term for people who provide sensual/erotic massage and for escorts. I even saw them use the term “Adult Service Provider” with ASP as an acronym.

EDIT:  I left out BDSM pros from the subcategories of providers.  I’ve probably left out more.

Edited June 7 by Just Chuck

[soloyo215]

Not my thing. I don't judge, but I don't see myself doing that.

[Peter Eater]

On 6/5/2026 at 5:53 PM, BigK said:

What’s with all this talk of providers. The term seems very woke to me.

And that’s a problem because…why? Woke is admirable.

[Peter Eater]

22 hours ago, Luv2play said:

agree we have gotten into the habit here of calling the escorts providers. It rather lumps them together with all the other service categories in our lives.

Like insurance, cable, telephone, etc. that perform essential services we couldn’t do without. 

Well, if the last cable guy that came over also wanted to provide sex, I definitely would have been into it.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 6/5/2026 at 8:53 PM, BigK said:

Providers just strikes me as a weak ass name. Sort of like sissies.

"Providers" is an umbrella term for escorts, masseurs, cam boys, etc. It's wild that you find it triggering. 

Also, what's wrong with sissies? You suck dick, eat ass, have anal sex, and you're somehow better than a "sissy?" Girl, please... 

[nomad]

Some of the guys I am friendly with jokingly call me a wannabe whore.  I am not offended by it in the least.  We're all animals and just wanna have fun. 

Genesis 1:28  Be fruitful and multiply...

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