providers requesting 5star reviews on RM

[+ JamesB]

I’ve had several providers ask me to leave a review. If the experience was just “meh” I usually acknowledge the request with a quick emoji and leave it at that without posting anything.

Recently, I had a provider bring it up twice before I even left and then follow up again by text afterward. That felt a bit excessive, so I ended up ignoring the message altogether.

[+ RyanDean]

Thanks, all -- so helpful to hear all your perspectives on this situation. Especially @Ichabod's admonition to "find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request." 

[+ azdr0710]

[mike carey]

1 hour ago, azdr0710 said:

I saw one of those at an airport. I didn't respond to it. I just thought, WTAF, rating a loo? God give me strength!

[Mark_fl]

1 hour ago, azdr0710 said:

I hope it all came out ok.

[jackcali]

9 hours ago, Luv2play said:

These are coming from all sides now. I get them from my hair dresser, from hotels I stay at, from my car dealer when I take my car in for servicing and the odd escort, which actually happened to me in the last month. He asked me at the end of the session ( our second) and I did post a review. But I probably won’t see him again as the session was sort of meh, like yours. 
So there’s your answer. 

I get them from the check-out cashiers at my supermarket!  They print the receipt, circle the review website on it and ask me to leave them a review.  Of course, during the trip home, I think about what I'm going to say about the experience.  They efficiently scanned my purchases?  They packed them appropriately, with the eggs on the top of the shopping bag?  They told me to have a nice day as I left?  It's ridiculous, but then I worry that in this data-driven world, their pay may be effected by whether and how I respond.  

So now I do the only thing I could think of.  I go through the self-checkout line.  

Edited Tuesday at 09:52 AM by jackcali

[Luv2play]

1 hour ago, jackcali said:

I get them from the check-out cashiers at my supermarket!  They print the receipt, circle the review website on it and ask me to leave them a review.  Of course, during the trip home, I think about what I'm going to say about the experience.  They efficiently scanned my purchases?  They packed them appropriately, with the eggs on the top of the shopping bag?  They told me to have a nice day as I left?  It's ridiculous, but then I worry that in this data-driven world, their pay may be effected by whether and how I respond.  

So now I do the only thing I could think of.  I go through the self-checkout line.  

Interesting. I always make sure the eggs are on the bottom because they are heavy. I place lighter items like boxed lettuce or bread on top. Lol

[+ Pensant]

The other issue with most reviews is that the questions go on ad nauseum. If a review has more than 5 questions I abort.

Edited Tuesday at 11:41 AM by Pensant

[Luv2play]

1 hour ago, Pensant said:

The other issue with most reviews is that the questions go on ad nauseum. If a review has more than 5 questions I abort.

I agree. If it’s too many questions I start to think they are profiling me. 

[muscmtl]

21 hours ago, SirBillybob said:

See screenshots.

I’m seeing 5.0 average on Peck.

I looked up a local guy Dylan … 89 reviews: 83 at 5, 2 at 4, 1 at 2, 3 at 1 … average 4.81; platform depicts 4.8 as expected. 

Dylan j... Nope

[savantsav]

Interestingly enough, I had a conversation with @SecretProvidera few months back where he didn't believe when I said escorts would demand 5 start reviews and be so upfront and borderline threatening if you didn't.

I've resorted to "I don't have premium sorry"

Edited Tuesday at 07:40 PM by savantsav

[SecretProvider]

1 hour ago, savantsav said:

Interestingly enough, I had a conversation with @SecretProvidera few months back where he didn't believe when I said escorts would demand 5 start reviews and be so upfront and borderline threatening if you didn't.

No, what I didn't believe was that they demanded you hand over your phone so they could go into your account, type up a review and post it. And you let them. That people ask for reviews - of course people do. As people pointed out above - you can barely shit in a toilet without being asked to give a review. 

[+ SirBillybob]

19 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

The blow dry was on point. I came in a person and departed a gastrointestinal study recruit.

Edited Tuesday at 09:56 PM by SirBillybob

[Wings246]

The rating system proposed by @Mark_fl would be very useful, assuming I have enough interest and time to read through each line item and description individually.  However, it reminds me of a typical job performance evaluation in today's corporate world, which inevitably induces stress and anguish.

For a 5-star rating system, my brain somehow translates a 5 into an A, a 4 into a B, and a 3 into a C.  Anything below a 3 (aka C) will be unacceptable.  In other words, to @SecretProvider's point, anything other than a 5 could potentially be damaging.  For this reason, and to answer @RyanDean's question, I'd just ignore the request and let the provider stay at the "A" level.

Edited Wednesday at 12:29 AM by Wings246
typo

[b2bf]

On 5/4/2026 at 11:21 AM, Mark_fl said:

I shouldn't be afraid that a provider will be upset with a 4 rating.

While I agree the the current review system is silly, it is what it is and the fact is that any overall rating other than 5.0 is seen as deficient.
This morning I was confronted with this 4-star review:

"xxxx was absolutely amazing. He pleased me more than I thought possible. A beautiful man with the tools to really satisfy."

which brought the providers accumulated rating down from a 5.0 to a 4.8 and left me none the wiser as to why.
Unless you can clearly articulate the non-trivial reason for not giving the provider 5.0 I suggest that you just don't bother.

[+ SirBillybob]

I don’t see the need to alter a well established Likert rating scale, but it would be useful if the platform went a further distance elaborating conventional score meanings. Most of my hires are 3 or 4 and I often repeat. One 5 post-pandemic but door-to-door 16-20 hours to travel to him. If there were to be a 5 locally there would be no importuning for that rating from others because there wouldn’t be others. One obsessive state of limerence at a time.

Edited Wednesday at 05:08 PM by SirBillybob