Do you become less selective over time?

[Proximusss]

4 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

Same here with the same providers.  When you book over and over with someone, I have found they make sure you want to continue.

Agreed!

And the sessions are just a lot more pleasant. None of that initial awkwardness or trying to scope each other out. The two providers that I see somewhat regularly have also become way more intimate over time and are always the ones who initiate the ‘extras’. 

[jmichaeliii]

1 minute ago, Proximusss said:

Agreed!

And the sessions are just a lot more pleasant. None of that initial awkwardness or trying to scope each other out. The two providers that I see somewhat regularly have also become way more intimate over time and are always the ones who initiate the ‘extras’. 

Absolutely.  I love the intimate part as it just makes things so much better...amazing connection.

I get it is a transaction, but it is still a friendly comfortable relationship.

[jeezifonly]

I've been forced to adjust, looking to younger men. 

I have always been into men older than myself, which has narrowed the field considerably over time. 

The legal implications alone...

I mean, solicitation is one thing, but graverobbing, quite another. 

 

[+ JEC]

On 1/27/2026 at 12:20 PM, Mark_fl said:

Question for those of you hiring, or even just having encounters. Do you find that your tastes have expanded, or you've become less selective over time? 

With women I've been able to be attracted to women my age. But it seems with men I've only been attracted to a much younger specific type.

I feel this would preclude me from ever having an appropriate same sex relationship outside a financial one unless miraculously someone that much younger would find me attractive.

Has anyone else ever been in the same boat and have your tastes evolved over time?

My tastes are pretty broad, at the same time I find that I get more focused on the experience I want over time.  So, I will take an 8/10 who delivers that experience over a 10/10 who does not.

[+ DrownedBoy]

As I get older I find myself more willing to experiment with other body types. It used to be pure muscle I  looked for. Now I'm willing to hire younger and skinnier.

Ditto for dating, which is probably healthy.

[ShortCutie7]

I wouldn’t say I’ve become more or less selective; more that my preferences have evolved.  For example, I assumed I was a bottom for quite a long time despite not actually enjoying bottoming, which then shaped the types of men I seeked out. Now that I am no longer interested in bottoming and am dabbling in topping, I am interested in a slightly different set of men than I used to be.

[+ purplekow]

I was 48 when I first hired.  I had never had an experience with a man of any significance.  I went through a site that had about 500 thumbnail pictures and out of those 500, I found three men attractive enough to consider having sex with them.  I was basically hiring because my tolerance for women had bottomed when my wife passed away and I felt as though sex with women was somehow cheating on her.

So 3 of 500.  For several years my hiring practices were limited to muscular, handsome, and with a sexy quality to their photos.  Over time, I have expanded my tastes.  I would probably find more than 100 men on that list of 500 that I first saw.  I think this is because I realised that my enjoyment was based on actions not appearanaces.  Sure, the photos get the motor running, but I need someone who is willing to put the pedal to the metal in innovative and fun ways.  So now my age group hiring is much broader.  Though I still prefer muscular men, the bodybuilder look is not as high on my list.  Socially, I now find that I will be willing to try all different styles of men.  

Viva la difference!!  

[Rudynate]

On 1/27/2026 at 9:20 AM, Mark_fl said:

Question for those of you hiring, or even just having encounters. Do you find that your tastes have expanded, or you've become less selective over time? 

With women I've been able to be attracted to women my age. But it seems with men I've only been attracted to a much younger specific type.

I feel this would preclude me from ever having an appropriate same sex relationship outside a financial one unless miraculously someone that much younger would find me attractive.

Has anyone else ever been in the same boat and have your tastes evolved over time?

I have always liked men in a certain age group - 30's to 40's. Now that I'm in my 70s i'm still attracted to those men, but they are now younger men rather than the mature men I used to relate to.  What has changed for me is that I used to be uncomfortable around men that are much younger  - 20's, but no longer.  I still like mature men, but those younger guys, wow!