Rejection?

[PileDriver]

haven't hired in ages....but when I am looking to hire some guys are quick to reject my advances...sometimes it's no big deal..with others I'm offended...thought we were on the same page? Any thoughts?

Edited September 17 by PileDriver

[Nightowl]

Can you share any details about how you approached them and what you might have said or asked for?  Seems odd that you’d be rejected without some reason behind it.

[DMonDude]

Much more context is needed.

[BaronArtz]

I hire in NYC and have never been rejected.  Been doing it for about 30 years now.

It must be your approach.

[aiseeya]

Ghosted: yes. Ignored: yes. Under performed: yes. Never rejected upfront tho.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I've been rejected by quite a few guys who got creeped by for the fantasies I hire for. 

I just reject them as timid and unprofessional.

[jeezifonly]

Tell us about the page - the one you were both on...

 

[Wings246]

4 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

who got creeped by for the fantasies I hire for

This statement alone is begging for elaborations.  I can't help but wonder if it's related to your user ID.

[Spikeguy]

Yes I was thinking cold bath followed by cadaver roleplay.

[DznNYC]

21 hours ago, PileDriver said:

haven't hired in ages....but when I am looking to hire some guys are quick to reject my advances...sometimes it's no big deal..with others I'm offended...thought we were on the same page? Any thoughts?

 

Have you looked yourself up on Mr Number?  The providers may be seeing something you're not.  

 

[soloyo215]

21 hours ago, PileDriver said:

haven't hired in ages....but when I am looking to hire some guys are quick to reject my advances...sometimes it's no big deal..with others I'm offended...thought we were on the same page? Any thoughts?

Without details of the interactions it's difficult to establish any thoughts on it.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I agree with others. Unless you can provide some additional context, it's hard to offer you any advice. 

[MikeBiDude]

Maybe the tone of the OP’s initial request to providers is causing him a problem?

[jeezifonly]

On 9/16/2025 at 7:51 PM, Spikeguy said:

Yes I was thinking cold bath followed by cadaver roleplay.

[GentJ]

I'd say most of the time I would pass on something it centers around some red flag about the patron's ability to pay.

[Pepper Young]

I've never been rejected. The boy with the cold hard cash is always mister right. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

4 hours ago, Pepper Young said:

I've never been rejected. The boy with the cold hard cash is always mister right. 

Come on Madonna fan! 

[Spikeguy]

I love you honey you pay my rent

[Nightowl]

5 hours ago, Spikeguy said:

I love you honey you pay my rent

Pet Shop Boys

[Asterisk]

On 9/16/2025 at 11:07 AM, PileDriver said:

haven't hired in ages....but when I am looking to hire some guys are quick to reject my advances...sometimes it's no big deal..with others I'm offended...thought we were on the same page? Any thoughts?

Didn't you just hire Big_Joe in August? Or was that an old war story?

[RyTorrens]

Not sure what qualifies as a flat out reject but I often times will ask if a provider offers a certain activity (like kissing if not listed in their interest). And I'll just not get a response. I just take that as a "no" and find we aren't compatible. 

[Nightowl]

1 hour ago, RyTorrens said:

Not sure what qualifies as a flat out reject but I often times will ask if a provider offers a certain activity (like kissing if not listed in their interest). And I'll just not get a response. I just take that as a "no" and find we aren't compatible. 

I think it’s just rudeness.  Happens all the time with all types of activities, business or personal.  Ghosting seems to have become the go-to response when confronted with something you don’t want to do.  Manners and courtesy have gone out the window.  But then, I still send hand-written thank-you notes….

[NYXboy]

On 9/21/2025 at 3:39 PM, Asterisk said:

Didn't you just hire Big_Joe in August? Or was that an old war story?

its so funny to me to see the OP make a comment like this.  I had a dreadful and actually scary experience with a provider in a VERY similar way - I showed up and he was high on drugs, aggressive and threatening me if I did pay in full  (I did pay in full, after 5 minutes and left)  and posted here to warn others, and after I  posted the warning about it  @PileDriver admonished me, telling me I should be kinder/how dare I say this etc. He even wrote another big thread called "Ugly Clients and Providers With Substance Problems"  about how we need to be kinder to drug addicts who threaten us.  This has now given me the biggest chuckle.  

I guess he only gets upset or thinks people need warnings when it happens to him.    

Edited 1 hour ago by NYXboy