*Hiring your neighbor ? *sigh*

[MscleLovr]

1 hour ago, Ali Gator said:

He quoted me $350….more than I was expecting or budgeted for…. more than what I usually pay for 'this hobby'.  He smiled and told me he was definitely worth it

No disrespect @Ali Gator but in my view, you’re being too cheap. And the only person who will suffer here is you.
 

You’ve dreamed and thought of this man a lot. Now he’s available and you put obstacles in your own path.
 

I feel you will bitterly regret not taking the glorious opportunity offered to you.

[+ ApexNomad]

7 minutes ago, Ali Gator said:

More nonsense. 

Who cares if $350 is in the market for 'plenty of places' ? Doesn't concern me. $250-$300 is in the market for where he is now. You don't seem to understand the basic concepts of business. Why bother addressing the rest of your nonsense ?

The only nonsense here is you walking away when the stars lined up perfectly in your favor. Can’t wait to see your next fantasy post.

[Ali Gator]

52 minutes ago, MscleLovr said:

No disrespect @Ali Gator but in my view, you’re being too cheap. And the only person who will suffer here is you.
 

You’ve dreamed and thought of this man a lot. Now he’s available and you put obstacles in your own path.
 

I feel you will bitterly regret not taking the glorious opportunity offered to you.

I guess not everyone lives within a budget and has plenty of 'fun money' to spend. Unfortunately, at this time, I don't. I don't consider sticking within a budget a 'putting an obstacle in my path', I consider it being financially responsible. 

Last year when shopping for a new car, I had my 'dream car' in mind of what I wanted. Alas, after doing my research and visiting the dealership, the price of the dream car didn't match what I could afford, so I settled for something more practical and affordable for my monthly payments.

I got over it. 

Edited August 30 by Ali Gator

[Ali Gator]

45 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

The only nonsense here is you walking away when the stars lined up perfectly in your favor. Can’t wait to see your next fantasy post.

I think you should post more often on the Personal Finance forum and share more of your solid financial advice with us over there. You are a financial wiz.

[LookingAround]

The whole thing is hilarious. 
Did everyone look up pseudologica fantastica? Because that's what this has proven to be. 😂😂😂

[pubic_assistance]

2 hours ago, Ali Gator said:

Who cares if $350 is in the market for 'plenty of places' ? Doesn't concern me. $250-$300 is in the market for where he is now.

So he's both a sexual fantasy fuck AND a neighbor who you know and care about. BUT spending an extra $50 is unreasonable ??? 🤔 

My bullshit-meter is going off the charts. 

 

Edited August 30 by pubic_assistance
grammar

[+ azdr0710]

@Ali Gator  Thanks for the update. I'm glad you two are in contact about it all and that it wasn't awkward. "You do you", as they say, and keep us updated on that fascinating neighborhood of yours!  

[+ ApexNomad]

20 minutes ago, Ali Gator said:

I think you should post more often on the Personal Finance forum and share more of your solid financial advice with us over there. You are a financial wiz.

Sure. Lesson #1: Don’t spend four pages hyping a fantasy guy and then pass when the price tag is basically a rounding error. Lesson #2 will drop after I see The Wizard of Oz at the Sphere this afternoon. I’ve got Glinda the Good Witch VIP tickets. All courtesy of my passive income.

[BSR]

1 hour ago, Ali Gator said:

I guess not everyone lives within a budget and has plenty of 'fun money' to spend. Unfortunately, at this time, I don't. I don't consider sticking within a budget a 'putting an obstacle in my path', I consider it being financially responsible. 

Last year when shopping for a new car, I had my 'dream car' in mind of what I wanted. Alas, after doing my research and visiting the dealership, the price of the dream car didn't match what I could afford, so I settled for something more practical and affordable for my monthly payments.

I got over it. 

Yeah, but the difference between your dream car and the one you ended up buying was (I’m guessing) $thousands whereas the difference between your scorching-hot and nice to boot neighbor you’ve been fantasizing about for years and Joe Schmoe escort is $50-100.

I can understand being on a budget, but come on, for a hundred bucks you’re passing on a fantasy-cum-true escort who will shatter your mind like a ton of dynamite in a window factory?!?!  You could save $138 just by skipping the detailing, going to the local car wash, and doing the vacuuming yourself.  Why the burning need for a full detail?  I would drive around in the vehicular version of Pigpen for a romp with the scorching-hot neighbor I’ve been lusting after for years, but apparently you have different priorities.

[Ali Gator]

1 hour ago, ApexNomad said:

Sure. Lesson #1: Don’t spend four pages hyping a fantasy guy and then pass when the price tag is basically a rounding error. Lesson #2 will drop after I see The Wizard of Oz at the Sphere this afternoon. I’ve got Glinda the Good Witch VIP tickets. All courtesy of my passive income.

Sound advice. Expect no less from you. 

[+ nycman]

[LookingAround]

49 minutes ago, BSR said:

Yeah, but the difference between your dream car and the one you ended up buying was (I’m guessing) $thousands whereas the difference between your scorching-hot and nice to boot neighbor you’ve been fantasizing about for years and Joe Schmoe escort is $50-100.

I can understand being on a budget, but come on, for a hundred bucks you’re passing on a fantasy-cum-true escort who will shatter your mind like a ton of dynamite in a window factory?!?!  You could save $138 just by skipping the detailing, going to the local car wash, and doing the vacuuming yourself.  Why the burning need for a full detail?  I would drive around in the vehicular version of Pigpen for a romp with the scorching-hot neighbor I’ve been lusting after for years, but apparently you have different priorities.

Not even $100. It's really $50 difference by his own account. 

[+ purplekow]

37 minutes ago, LookingAround said:

Not even $100. It's really $50 difference by his own account. 

Perhaps one should consider asking him if he would do the detailing and do you for $400.  You were expecting to pay $100 plus tip, assuming $ 20 dollars for the tip, and you are okay with $300 for the session, $420 total.  Split the difference with him and have him do you and your car for $450.   I would also tell him, you are definitely worth it.  He left the door open, Walk on through.      

 

In situations like this, I frequently consider that I am going to die with at least that much money left to my heirs, so where is that money better spent.  I almost always pick me.  Those bastards can earn it themselves as I did.  You are talking about $2 dollars a day for a month.  Skip those lattes and go for the cream. 

Edited August 30 by purplekow

[+ Lucky]

3 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

I feel you will bitterly regret not taking the glorious opportunity offered to you.

If the opportunity was ever real.

[topunderachiever]

Jussie Smollett syndrome.

[CuriousByNature]

@Ali Gator sometimes the unknown is more attractive and captivating than the known.  Now that it is clear your neighbour would have no qualms meeting up with you, is it possible the attraction may have dimmed on your side?  Or, could it be that you have some reservations and concerns that go beyond the donation amount?  Perhaps the possibility of awkwardness exists for you, and you anticipated he would not be open to the arrangement for similar reasons?  In any case, each of us operates according to our own priorities.  I would have no right to judge your decision either way, even if it is for purely financial considerations.  Maybe it's for the best that you remain platonic neighbours.  There's nothing wrong with that.  And nothing wrong with sharing all that you've shared here.

Edited August 31 by CuriousByNature

[polysome]

To resolve this thread 🧵, I think one of us should just book the dang neighbor.

I volunteer as tribute!  😛

[+ SirBillybob]

7 hours ago, polysome said:

To resolve this thread 🧵, I think one of us should just book the dang neighbor.

I volunteer as tribute!  😛

Edited August 31 by SirBillybob

[Wings246]

So at the end, he is not worth an extra $50 to $100, which makes me wonder: is he that over-the-top delicious as you described in the first place?

[SometimesBi]

On 8/30/2025 at 8:40 AM, Ali Gator said:

He's around the next few days and gave me a price of $150 for detailing,

There's a big difference between Detailing, and a basic car wash. Professional detail services can easily exceed $200, so his 150 sounds like a bargain.

As for his 350 rate, traveling escorts charge their normal rate, no matter where they go. So one shouldn't compare with one's local area average. 

[Spikeguy]

The detailing quote also seems reasonable for a car that hasn’t been detailed since before the pandemic.  That’s minimum 5.5 years.

[cany10011]

On 8/30/2025 at 12:58 PM, ApexNomad said:

Four pages of advice, the dream scenario falls right into your lap, and you balk at $350? That’s a bargain compared to what guys charge in bigger cities. Why even approach him, let alone post, if you weren’t serious enough to follow through?

I would have given him whatever he asked… after all this pent up discussion and talk about his hotness…!

[soloyo215]

I have no interest in shaming or attacking you, though I do understand that some might be pissed (for lack of a better word) to find out that the reason is not happening is money, especially after so much support and advice was provided.

When this thread started, I remember suggesting to plan for the worst case scenario. This might not be the "worst" scenario, but it's most certainly not the one expected.

If it's not going to happen for you, what do you plan to do to move on from this, if at all? What's next, start trying to save money to make it happen in the future or forget about the whole thing? I'm not judging you or attacking you. Financial reasons are legitimate reasons to not proceed (though finances change).

What's next for you? Hopefully you don't obsess and get creepy when you see him, nor it becomes too awkward, and hopefully you can come up with the money in the future. But how you handle this from this point on is important.

Edited 17 hours ago by soloyo215

[CuriousByNature]

5 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

Hopefully you don't obsess and get creepy when you see him

[Spikeguy]

In some ways asking but not following through is worse because the escort can share with people that you propositioned him when you didn’t even have any fun.