Would you hire a “side” provider?

[asiantwunktop]

Hi everyone — I used to escort back in college and I’m thinking about getting back into it now. Made decent money then on account of being 19 (lmao) and I figure I might make decent side hustle money now since I’m in better shape. 
 

Thing is, I have a partner who’s fine with me escorting, but he’d prefer that I don’t engage in penetrative sex with anyone (or at the very least that I don’t bottom). As clients, how likely are you to engage a provider’s services knowing that they’re a side? Is that still worth anything to you or would you likely just find someone who still  has all the options on the table? 
 

If it’s at all helpful, here’s the profile I just recently set up for fuller context (open to feedback as well, lol): 

Oxford_Comma - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in New York City, NY | RentMen

RENTMEN.EU

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Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in New York City, NY - Oxford_Comma: Korean twink for sophisticated...

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Overall, I think you're very cute, the pics are great and your copy is good. Personally, as a bottom, I'm unlikely to hire an escort who isn't open to fucking. But it seems to me that there are plenty of guys who are into just oral, kissing, body contact, etc. I do think it's a mistake to identify yourself as a "top" though as most will read that as for anal. 

 

[asiantwunktop]

11 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Overall, I think you're very cute, the pics are great and your copy is good. Personally, as a bottom, I'm unlikely to hire an escort who isn't open to fucking. But it seems to me that there are plenty of guys who are into just oral, kissing, body contact, etc. I do think it's a mistake to identify yourself as a "top" though as most will read that as for anal. 

 

Thanks for the feedback! The site unfortunately doesn’t really provide any options beyond top/vers/bottom, and at the end of the day my only hard limit (no pun intended) is with bottoming, so if the demand was there I’d definitely be open to topping. I appreciate the kind words! 

Edited July 7 by asiantwunktop

[+ Just Chuck]

I'm a side more often than not but occasionally top or (fairly rarely) bottom.  I'd gladly hire a side escort but would appreciate knowing that's what I was getting before the meeting.  

 

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, asiantwunktop said:

As clients, how likely are you to engage a provider’s services knowing that they’re a side?

I generally meet people through massage services. Not escort. Because of that, most of my initial sexual encounters with those providers have been NON-penetrative. Perhaps you should consider taking some courses in massage and focus on erotic massage services instead of traditional escorting. The expectations of fucking are much lower (to non-existent) with masseurs.

Edited July 7 by pubic_assistance
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[asiantwunktop]

27 minutes ago, Just Chuck said:

I'm a side more often than not but occasionally top or (fairly rarely) bottom.  I'd gladly hire a side escort but would appreciate knowing that's what I was getting before the meeting.  

 

I’d definitely never try to mislead or obfuscate before meeting — I like to be very transparent about expectations. 

Edited July 7 by asiantwunktop

[Whippoorwill]

I’d hire you in a NY minute. I think if I were you I would advertise as a side. It’s a lot easier to go up the services ladder than down. As a bottomish client I would go expecting non penetrative sex, and then try and up the game as multiple sessions engender more comfort on both sides. And for that matter, your bf may get more comfortable with time also. 

[+ Just Chuck]

2 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I'm a side more often than not but occasionally top or (fairly rarely) bottom.  I'd gladly hire a side escort but would appreciate knowing that's what I was getting before the meeting.  

 

And I should have said that you look fantastic and sexy and I would definitely hire YOU without hesitation.

[soloyo215]

9 hours ago, asiantwunktop said:

As clients, how likely are you to engage a provider’s services knowing that they’re a side?

Is that still worth anything to you or would you likely just find someone who still  has all the options on the table? 

Extremely unlikely.

No.

That said, that's just me. There might be interest in that "sides" thing from people who prefer that or are only able to do that. Best wishes.

[ShortCutie7]

100% yes, most of my hookups (both with escorts and via apps) are non-penetrative.  I think your copy and pics are great and give potential clients a clear idea of what to expect!

[liubit]

I am very oral, that is what turns me on. I very rarely engage in anal -whether with providers or with unpaid hookups- and, when I do, I am more bottom. So, yes, I would hire you without hesitation, @asiantwunktop, you are very cute. Full disclosure: I am a Caucasian living in Hong Kong and I love Asian boys. Good luck, hottie.

 

[+ Pensant]

Oh, I could have a lot of fun with you, hot man!

[Act25]

I'd hire you if we were in the same city. 

[LostUpstate]

I’ve only ever hired for non-penetrative services, with both escorts and for erotic massages, so there’s a market for it. When I’ve hired an escort, I pay the same rate as for escorting and not massage, and I’ve usually been very happy. 

[Oakman]

I have hired “sides” in the past, but not on purpose. Please make your limitations easy to understand in your ad copy. 

[Archangel]

I wouldn’t hire if sex weren’t part of the arrangement.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 7/7/2025 at 11:34 AM, pubic_assistance said:

Perhaps you should consider taking some courses in massage and focus on erotic massage services instead of traditional escorting. The expectations of fucking are much lower (to non-existent) with masseurs.

As a patron of both massages and paid sex, I agree with this 👆

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, Oakman said:

I have hired “sides” in the past, but not on purpose. Please make your limitations easy to understand in your ad copy. 

Agree.  He might be able to select "side" from the drop down menu of choices, but he can elaborate in his ad copy. 

The ONLY way I would consider hiring escort with "side" only is if he was great at eating ass and and with finger penetration and stated so specifically in his ad copy.

I may not get his penis inside my anus; but, by golly, I need to feel some part of his body in there!

Edited July 8 by Vegas_Millennial
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[+ nycman]

Zero chance from me, but I’m willing to bet there’s a market out there for it.

[asiantwunktop]

17 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Agree.  He might be able to select "side" from the drop down menu of choices, but he can elaborate in his ad copy. 

The ONLY way I would consider hiring escort with "side" only is if he was great at eating ass and and with finger penetration and stated so specifically in his ad copy.

I may not get his penis inside my anus; but, by golly, I need to feel some part of his body in there!

Great advice. I do love eating ass and I definitely want to promote that, haha. 

[Peter Eater]

On 7/7/2025 at 10:34 AM, asiantwunktop said:

it’s at all helpful, here’s the profile I just recently set up for fuller context (open to feedback as well, lol): 

Side’s cool, but my only advice is to include at least one smiling photo. You’re a good looking guy, but you also look, uh…less than happy. 😊 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Grindr has a "side" designation.

I'm one so I'd hire one, but like Grindr, RM customers usually only have ass on their mind.

[liubit]

18 hours ago, asiantwunktop said:

I do love eating ass and I definitely want to promote that, haha

You love to rim? You are getting higher and higher on my like list, @asiantwunktop Maybe you have family or friends to visit in Asia: a detour in HK should be a priority.  😈

Edited July 10 by liubit

[asiantwunktop]

Pleased to report that being a side does not seem to be nearly the deterrent that I feared! Thanks everyone for their feedback. 

[+ sync]

I'm sure there is a healthy market for your side services, but honestly, it would take a lot of restraint to resist jumping your bones.  😛