Do bottoms enjoy tops who can keep going for hours?

[Constantine]

I find it hard to cum easily. This is both a blessing and a curse because I can actually keep going for two to three hours until I climax, however, some bottoms need to stop after an hour because of soreness. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Here's some interesting commentary from Bottoms on quick cummers vs those who take a while:

 

 

Edited March 18 by Vegas_Millennial

[+ DrownedBoy]

My personal answer. No.

[Luv2play]

I’m a devoted bottom but I cannot take a top going at it uninterrupted for more than half an hour. At that point I need a break. If he cums in that time great, otherwise I seek to do other things than just have him ramming away. Water sports are always an option for me. 

[hungry4darkmeat]

Depends but usually I love when my tops can go for hours- although I typically start getting tired after 45 minutes or so i love when they won’t let me tap out and make me keep taking it until they’re totally spent and done with me. While I can easily enjoy a quick or standard hour long session I’m not usually fully satisfied with just one round 

[Mo Mason]

Wow, some of you bottoms are super troopers.  I'm not taking a hard pounding for an hour.  3 minutes, tops.  

But good for you.

[+ Jamie21]

No, and when I top, nor do I want to go at it for hours. It’s actually quite unimaginative to do so. I prefer to mix it up; inside for a bit, then suck, swap roles, then go back in, then cuddle a while, rim each other, kiss. It’s much better than pounding away for hours. 

 

[soloyo215]

I've always taken a long time to cum when fucking. As a top, at this age, I do not want to go for a long period of time. Fucking is not even my primary enjoyable activity when having sex. When I was young, my second ex loved it. We could go for hours, and he enjoyed my penis for that long. He also liked sleeping all night with my penis in his mouth. I know that's only one person, but I guess that there are bottoms out there who do enjoy and can go for extended periods of time.

Edited March 22 by soloyo215

[Ron Katt]

I do, and have been complimented for lasting. 

[liubit]

16 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

Fucking is not even my primary enjoyable activity when having sex.

Exactly like @soloyo215 says. What gets me going is intimacy; body touch; passionate wet kisses with lots of tongue; licking all over, including armpits and feet; sucking dick; rimming long and deep; swallowing cum; sharing cum in deep kisses….you get the picture.  I am not against anal sex, but it is just an accessory to me, a side dish, and definitely not the main course. 

[pubic_assistance]

I used to bottom when I was younger.

I remember one particular guy who took a long time to nut. I'm thinking maybe half an hour....and THAT was too much. My asshole was always sore the next day. (Although I kept meeting up with him because he was so handsome ) 🤣 I just can't imagine how torn-up my hole would be after a full hour !! Thank you...NO.

On the flip side...as a top I sometimes get too excited while fucking a dude and I cum too soon. So I prefer to get off quickly with a hook up, by jerking--off or dumping a load in his mouth. That way I am more able to provide a longer lasting ass-fucking on round two. But even then I can't last more than 20 minutes. I get so turned on fucking a nice ass, that I never last too long. Even on a third or fourth (fifth or sixth when I was younger) round.

 

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[+ ApexNomad]

On 3/22/2025 at 9:26 AM, soloyo215 said:

He also liked sleeping all night with my penis in his mouth.

You’re lucky your ex didn’t bite your dick off—TMJ is no joke.

[Simon Suraci]

Depends on how good and experienced the top is, which position(s) and if we are switching positions frequently to maintain interest and avoid fatigue on both sides of the equation. Regular reapplication of lube helps, and silicone lasts longer between applications.

Some of my longest encounters have been when flip fucking, switching it up every twenty to thirty minutes. Each partner’s hole gets a break for a little while before going again. 

Also depends on intensity and pace. Sometimes I can be inside a bottom and slowly, intentionally, and sensually linger hard and being fully inside him, barely moving, pulsing to stimulate his prostate and areas around it and past it. He feels every micrometer of movement and fullness and appreciates it. Helps him fully relax and engage the experience and heighten his senses, so that when we do pick back up to medium or faster pace, he feels each thrust even more intensely. Like tasting and chewing thoroughly each bite of a delicious, nicely prepared meal, and pacing one’s self to enjoy the whole dish. Not just gobbling it down mindlessly and feeling “full” but unsatisfied.

Changes in pace are good too, if not position. Jack hammering is ok for short times when the bottom is into it, all the way back down to the slow sensual pulsing I mentioned, and most of the time it’s something in the range in between the two extremes. It can be fun putting just the tip in back and forth to stimulate his magic button. Also pulling all the way out and plunging back in at different speeds and angles and positions. My god there are a lot of ways to fuck. Why not enjoy all of them? Sometimes that takes a long while to do them all.

Breaks are good too, but I like long sessions with a compatible partner. Even better when my bottom can go more than an hour. Short sessions are fun too, don’t get me wrong, and most of the time a single round of sex lasts under an hour. With enough variety, pacing, positioning, and stamina, though sex can be an amazing adventure lasting well over an hour, and something comfortable and enjoyable for both parties. Fun when it works out.

People’s bodies have various limitations like joints getting sore or poor flexibility, or whatever. Then of course holes get sore too. Long fuck sessions aren’t for everyone.

[big-n-tall]

To answer the OP's question, I think for the most part, no. I'm sure there are outliers, but I don't think the majority want someone who can go for hours.

Now I have met some insatiable guys who like to go at it, but they tend to want to break up the sex into multiple sessions as opposed to doing one long ass session. Beside I'm not as young as when I started this hobby so I need breaks, even though I can still orgasm multiple times in a session. 

The one guy who asked if I wanted to do a marathon sex session, only wanted to do so if he got high on cocaine first. I refused.

[Nightowl]

All I can say is that if I were the bottom and the top was going to be pounding away for hours, I’d better have a good sightline to the TV, access to the remote, and a good movie that I can watch.  If I were the top, well, I would be done long before the end of the first hour. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Fucking can get boring/monotonous after a certain amount of time. 

If the top looks the role, is appropriately verbal and moves like a sexual metronome, the bottom is going to want him to cum PDQ.

I don't get the guys who want to fuck for hours and hours.  That's either some unreal Penthouse Forum shit or a sign of dudes who party.

Reality:  I'm more impressed by guys who can shoot multiple loads versus take an hour (or more) to get one single load out.

 

[jeezifonly]

Keep going, as in non-stop rhythmic slamming it in and out, is different from 

keep going, as in remaining present and hard throughout several variations of manual/oral/anal engagement and positions, including some rhythmic slamming.

I prefer the top to be the latter. 

[+ ApexNomad]

57 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Fucking can get boring/monotonous after a certain amount of time. 

If the top looks the role, is appropriately verbal and moves like a sexual metronome, the bottom is going to want him to cum PDQ.

I don't get the guys who want to fuck for hours and hours.  That's either some unreal Penthouse Forum shit or a sign of dudes who party.

Reality:  I'm more impressed by guys who can shoot multiple loads versus take an hour (or more) to get one single load out.

 

I’m more impressed by guys who care about their partner’s pleasure, put their needs ahead of their own, and actually enjoy intimacy beyond just getting off.

Cuddles > endurance marathons any day.

[soloyo215]

On 3/23/2025 at 10:46 AM, ApexNomad said:

You’re lucky your ex didn’t bite your dick off—TMJ is no joke.

What makes you think he didn't bite?

What makes you think I didn't like it?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

On 3/23/2025 at 6:19 PM, ApexNomad said:

I’m more impressed by guys who care about their partner’s pleasure, put their needs ahead of their own, and actually enjoy intimacy beyond just getting off.

Cuddles > endurance marathons any day.

Sure, but that's not really the direction of what the op was talking about.

This is a nuts & bolts conversation.

[+ ApexNomad]

49 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Sure, but that's not really the direction of what the op was talking about.

This is a nuts & bolts conversation.

Speaking as a bottom, and based on your comment about what impresses you, my question isn’t so much whether a top can go for hours. Having my ass catch on fire doesn’t impress me. What impresses me most is exactly what I said—putting a partner’s needs above your own. Creating intimacy. Because the simple truth is, if a top is going for “hours,” there’s really no benefit to the bottom at that point. It becomes painful. It’s no longer about them; it’s about the top.

[Rod Hagen]

On 3/23/2025 at 3:21 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

Reality:  I'm more impressed by guys who can shoot multiple loads versus take an hour (or more) to get one single load out.

 

Another reality is that coming is difficult for some of us and it does take hours to get out that single, unimpressive, load.

[DznNYC]

Yeah, I feel like there’s not a lot to be gained from endurance for endurance‘s sake.  Like … “Look how long I can continue to pound on repeat!”

I’ve got plenty of endurance as a bottom but continuing to pound over and over for hours can be problematic.  You want to feel like you’re on a journey with your top, and sometimes endless repetitive fucking just feels like a long road to nowhere. 

It’s fully case by case though.   Long sessions can be dynamic and exciting and highly connective.  But I’ve certainly had tops who wore out - not my endurance - but my attention span. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 3/23/2025 at 4:19 PM, ApexNomad said:

I’m more impressed by guys who care about their partner’s pleasure, put their needs ahead of their own, and actually enjoy intimacy beyond just getting off.

My sexual desire is exactly opposite.  I want my top to put his needs first in the bedroom, and use me and abuse me however he needs to in order to get off.

Out of the bedroom, that's when I want a partner who puts my needs first!

Edited March 27 by Vegas_Millennial

[BrickBuilder]

From the way I read a lot of this, I am guessing there is a real need for an appropriately adjusted rate for a 30 minute 5G (get here, get in, get off, get paid, get out) session.  If that is all a top or bottom wants to or can perform, why the airs of "only hour increments"?

A while back I had a provider (who was the bottom) play with himself so furiously that within 15-20 minutes he got off and said basically "all done".  I told him "well I am not" but he had no interest in any other activity and wanted his money.  I told him to sit naked on the floor for the next 40 minutes without his phone and in silence and I would 'admire' him, then I would pay him.  After all I did purchase his time.  He explained to me that he got guys got off in like 15-20 minutes so that was all he planned for and he could not have gone an hour anyway.  After his ranting and raving and a bit of name calling he settled for about a third of his rate and left.  

I do believe in truth in advertising and in setting expectations.  The majority of providers don't want to spend a few minutes to understand the expectations (interests, limits, expectations, duration, etc) of new potential clients, they view it as time wasting/sexting/etc.  When I find a provider that will take that extra time I typically have a stellar experience with him.