Do providers cum out of obligation, or desire?

[+ APPLE1]

I estimate that a little over 50% of the providers I have met with came. It often gives me some questions. 

Is it sense of obligation to a client, or desire? Sometimes one? Sometimes the other? 

Sex should be fun. I don't want anyone involved to be miserable, so I am always willing to continue when any party expresses "almost there" or "could you do X." 

But, when we have the conversation about how our session will go, is it rude, or direct, to just lay out there that "I can be an active participant if you want to cum, and if you don't want to, that's fine too." 

Would providers feel less pressure and more relaxed having that knowledge from the start? 

Edited February 8 by APPLE1
Clarity

[Rod Hagen]

Yes, please be direct.

Don't take it too personally.  If an escort has more than one appointment in a day, he may guard his ejaculations, just as a protective measure.

 

[big-n-tall]

To answer your question I think it's a little bit of column "A" and a little from column "B". It really depends on the escort... his physical limitations, how horny he is, whether he's in it to have fun too, etc.. 😛 

I would say out of all the providers I met most of them orgasmed/came. I have never asked/told an provider before the fun began, "I want to see you cum."  For me personally, it kind of takes away the experience, to say that in the beginning. Although I do understand it's a very import outcome for some clients. No pun intended. So i get why people ask upfront.

I have had a few providers ask me directly if I wanted them to cum after I had already did. I'm easy going... so I usually say, "if they want to." Most have. Some don't. For me the best is when it's obvious the provider wants to cum without me prompting. Even better when I make them cum and they didn't expect it or they're in the moment. I think one of my hottest is after a long session, I orgasmed and sat up to stretch at the edge of the bed. The escort says to me, "where are you going. I want to cum too"... raging boner in hand. I reassured him I wasn't going until he was happy as well.  

Edited February 8 by big-n-tall

[soloyo215]

16 hours ago, APPLE1 said:

I estimate that a little over 50% of the providers I have met with came. It often gives me some questions. 

Is it sense of obligation to a client, or desire? Sometimes one? Sometimes the other? 

Sex should be fun. I don't want anyone involved to be miserable, so I am always willing to continue when any party expresses "almost there" or "could you do X." 

But, when we have the conversation about how our session will go, is it rude, or direct, to just lay out there that "I can be an active participant if you want to cum, and if you don't want to, that's fine too." 

Would providers feel less pressure and more relaxed having that knowledge from the start? 

what I have learned is that there are providers with multiple appointments, so they try not to wear themselves out too much. I personally go into an appointment with a provider with that as a premise, that I am most certainly not the one and only person that they are going to see that day. I am ok with them not coming if they don't want to, for as long as I have a good experience.

Yes, the more the provide knows about what you'd like to experience, the better they can tell you if they can accommodate.

[jmichaeliii]

28 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

what I have learned is that there are providers with multiple appointments, so they try not to wear themselves out too much. I personally go into an appointment with a provider with that as a premise, that I am most certainly not the one and only person that they are going to see that day. I am ok with them not coming if they don't want to, for as long as I have a good experience.

Yes, the more the provide knows about what you'd like to experience, the better they can tell you if they can accommodate.

I find morning appointments are the best if you are looking for that. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

For me…desire 

[+ Tygerscent]

I can’t imagine not coming~ I don’t see more than one client per day… So, there’s never any pressure on my end that I’ve come before I’ve seen somebody or after I’ve seen somebody… If I’m with somebody for a number of days or a month, I don’t really care how many times a day we come. sometimes it’s none and sometimes it’s eight or 10 times depending on the person and both of our stamina, mindset and personal bonds~ Usually, usually when I’m with people for days or a month or two, we’re doing other things. Shorter appointments have a different field And we pace ourselves, according to the time frame available… So, it’s very rare that I don’t come… I don’t really care if they come. Sometimes coming for them is not the point and there is no pressure there. I personally enjoy coming and I do. If that is multiple times… And they’re down with that, even better~    
If I’ve already come a number of times, then, I like certain things done to me, or I like to do certain things to the other person/persons that make it all fall into place for another kaboom

[+ Tygerscent]

It’s pretty fair to assume that guys who take multiple appointments per day are probably not ejaculating to all of them because they need to keep their mojo at top speed for their next client. There can be some fun and games with edging but, even then, I’m going to want to cum.  Not really convinced that not cumming repeatedly for extended periods is good for your prostate either.
 Dont want your pipes to get rusty.

Edited February 9 by Tygerscent

[Jamie21]

I can sometimes (not often) see 3 clients in a day. These are massage sessions where my focus is on the client and their climax but clients often want to reciprocate and I’m fine with that. Some of my sessions are escort type sessions where the massage goes onto ‘full service’ as they say!  If it’s important to the client that I cum then I do but many clients aren’t expecting me to and that’s fine with me. I prefer that they tell me if they want me to cum.

Where it’s difficult sometimes is if the client wants me to cum in his mouth as he sucks. Unless he’s an expert at it (I’ve only met one guy who set the bar on that.. he was unbelievable ..but that’s a different story!) I struggle to cum by being sucked. I need some hand work to get me there!

It’s the specific requests that can be challenging, like “I want you to cum same time as me and shoot it on my face”. So I’m trying to get him off with one hand, work out when he’s close, get me close but not too close with the other hand, aim at his face. It’s not easy! 

 

[Guest]

Cum or not is ok with me, just don’t fake it; diminishes the experience if someone thinks I’m stupid.

[DWnyc]

On 2/9/2024 at 7:23 AM, Km411 said:

Cum or not is ok with me, just don’t fake it; diminishes the experience if someone thinks I’m stupid.

Rather, don’t get caught faking or make it obvious. Isn’t most of the entire experience of client provider interaction fake (on the provider end surely)? The physical output aside, which I guess can’t be faked, a grand performance by a skilled performer if requested should be available. 
 

[DWnyc]

It was a surprise to me the first time a provider came as i always thought they’d be relieved to be able to save it for the next client. I didn’t know about Trimix etc at the time. 

I’ve had providers even act resentful if I didn’t allow them the opportunity or help them along the way (again a surprise, since I’ve always assumed providers don’t really get turned on by clients). 

So far so good, surprisingly hot.

The one area I have a problem with all this is when providers have sometimes used the “I need to get off” motif to extend time beyond what has been agreed - which would be fine (assuming I had the time … the assumption is always providers’ time is so valuable and clients abuse this) except it also often comes with a price tag. If a provider needs to come (and some have said they prefer to, allows them a clean break mentally and physically to whatever they have going on after a client leaves) then they should either plan the events accordingly within the agreed time, or so whatever is needed on their “own” time, with or without the client. 

[marylander1940]

On 2/8/2024 at 3:25 AM, APPLE1 said:

I estimate that a little over 50% of the providers I have met with came. It often gives me some questions. 

Is it sense of obligation to a client, or desire? Sometimes one? Sometimes the other? 

Sex should be fun. I don't want anyone involved to be miserable, so I am always willing to continue when any party expresses "almost there" or "could you do X." 

But, when we have the conversation about how our session will go, is it rude, or direct, to just lay out there that "I can be an active participant if you want to cum, and if you don't want to, that's fine too." 

Would providers feel less pressure and more relaxed having that knowledge from the start? 

Depends on the guy.... some feel pressured, picture yourself at their age being forced to cum with someone you're likely not attracted to....

If a client is into seeing someone cum, offer a tip and be patient. 

[dbar123]

If you’re expecting the escort to explode all over you, it’s best to let them know up front so you won’t feel cheated. If you’re last on the daily roster that might be a problem

[Decatur Guy]

Mine usually do, and it's funny because it's OK with me if they don't. In fact, sometimes I wish they'd hold off. I've had my fair share of 40-minute one-hour appointments .

[newdad]

If you want him to cum, tell him way ahead of time, so he can schedule you accordingly.

[ICTJOCK]

Sometimes I do,  sometimes not.    As an escort,  I never equate  getting off with having a good time.   I almost always have a great time with a client.    

If I have multiple clients in a day,  it helps not to get off,  honestly.   There are some clients that prefer that their escort gets off with them,  but for others, it is about the service to them and their satisfaction.    I think its great to get off.    I don't think I ever think of it as an obligation.    

[newdad]

16 hours ago, ICTJOCK said:

Sometimes I do,  sometimes not.    As an escort,  I never equate  getting off with having a good time.   I almost always have a great time with a client.    

If I have multiple clients in a day,  it helps not to get off,  honestly.   There are some clients that prefer that their escort gets off with them,  but for others, it is about the service to them and their satisfaction.    I think its great to get off.    I don't think I ever think of it as an obligation.    

That is true. The point is that clients should be upfront with expectations and what they want out of the service. Some clients prefer no sex at all. If a client wants to experience a guy cumming on them, then they should be upfront with it, so the provider would know if he'd be able to provide that.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Providers?

Just about every male on the planet,  straight or gay, usually feels an obligation to come for their partner.

(I won't comment about women or fake orgasms).

[FrancisCA]

On 2/9/2024 at 12:07 PM, Tygerscent said:

I can’t imagine not coming~ I don’t see more than one client per day… So, there’s never any pressure on my end that I’ve come before I’ve seen somebody or after I’ve seen somebody

I’m on the same boat too. I’m also more of a one a day kinda person lol For the rare chance I do get two clients a day I’ll just cum again no problem! 

[viewing ownly]

On 2/13/2024 at 3:16 PM, DrownedBoy said:

Providers?

Just about every male on the planet,  straight or gay, usually feels an obligation to come for their partner.

(I won't comment about women or fake orgasms).

I think you have this completely backwards. Having the client climax is where the focus is. Nearly a decade into this fun recreational hobby of mine, and I've had a mere two men climax, too, out of several dozen. Mutual attraction as already mentioned is VERY key, and that I know I'm not.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

We have no expectations of a provider coming. We always ask if they'd like to cum. Most of the ones who are full-time escorts say no. The guys for whom it's a side hustle are more likely to cum. 

[Jamie21]

On 2/12/2024 at 3:25 AM, Decatur Guy said:

Mine usually do, and it's funny because it's OK with me if they don't. In fact, sometimes I wish they'd hold off. I've had my fair share of 40-minute one-hour appointments .

That’s interesting that they finish when they finish so to speak!! If I cum early in the session that’s not the end of it. I think if the client booked an hour or whatever time and my view is that’s what they expect. In general I won’t cum and that’s usually fine with most clients.

However some clients specifically want me to cum and I prefer to know that in advance. I had a client last week who wanted me to cum on his chest. He’d booked 90 minutes and got his load after 30 (his choice). Trouble is he wanted another one later on…. I didn’t have any more clients so he got the second load (then he came himself) but I found it very challenging. 

[fancyboot]

I try not to demand too much from my masseur. If he cums, great. If he doesn't, that's fine.  

 

[Dolman]

One of my regulars told me he takes a supplement that increases how much and how often he cums. It certainly seems to work! Maybe more providers should look into it.