KensingtonHomo

This happened 6 years ago. The NY Post is a mouthpiece for the NYPD, who are lamenting that weed was decriminalized. They exploited this poor girl’s murder to ratchet up a culture war issue. There hasn’t been a murder in that park since. This is a horrible tragedy but the number of white girls killed by men they knew dwarfs this one instance.

This is literally racist language. Who is this Columbia girl? Is she a fantasy in your head? I used to buy from black guys in Bushwick when I was a teenager. A very gay teenager. Never had an issue. Meanwhile a girl I grew up with was stabbed to death by her white drug dealer boyfriend in our white neighborhood.

Most of his reviews on Rentmen over the past 5-10 years describe someone you will not want to meet.

He has “findom” in his profile. That’s an immediate 🚩 for me.

We saw Jacob in Provincetown and he’s really wonderful. Easy to communicate with to set things up. Showed up on time. He’s got a great friendly energy to him. We chatted for a while. He’s very easy to talk to. Then the sex itself was fun and easy. For his age, his firmness was impressive. (It would be impressive for a 19-year-old.) Good kisser. Oral top with a lot of passion and a bit of Dom energy. I imagine he could dial that up if it’s your scene. Definitely recommend.

If you’re serious about your faith, you can say that you know he’s excited about his own faith but your prefer to keep religion out of your relationship. If he can’t respect that boundary, I’d find someone else.

I run a nonprofit and before that I was a fundraiser for many years. I have certainly offered advice to people looking to do the same. Usually, they’re really looking to create a service or solve a problem in their community. Within reason, I’m happy to provide some pointers because I had a lot of help when I was launching mine. To me, it’s very different than someone who’s looking to create a profit-based business. Because of the particular sector I work in, like @Ali Gator I’m a minor celebrity which also brings larger, for-profit entities knocking- wanting advice, me to speak to their staff, etc. I used to do it for cost, but then I realized I was selling myself short. So now I’ll still give advice to peers or those needing some mentorship but I charge all those who can really afford it. And I also serve on a couple of Boards for which I’m not paid.

No. I’ve dragged you for being needlessly cruel, fatphobic, perpetuating unrealistic body standards, and your virulence agism. I honestly do not care who you personally find attractive. While I have a broad palette, I also have a few types that really get me going. That’s cool. When people post providers I find attractive, I say do. When they post providers I do not find attractive, 95% of the time, I keep it to myself. On top of your harsh treatment of providers you regularly claim that most members here are old troglodytes who couldn’t get a hand job without forking over some cash. First, that’s not true. We’re in P Town right now and start off our week having a hook up with a gorgeous local bartender 20 years our junior who had an 8-pack. And we keep getting hit up by every twink in a 10 mile radius. Lots of younger gay man see into older guys. Second, internecine cruelty about age and appearance is horrible for our community. It reduces us to sexual commodities only as valuable as our abs or facial symmetry. And given that you’re not really part of the community, your toxic commentary is doubly irritating. Worst, you present your comments as if you’re proclaiming a brave truth against the “woke,” when you’re just perpetuating incredibly harmful stereotypes and marketing garbage meant to make people feel insecure. All you need to do in order to get people off your back is keep your negative opinions to yourself.

Girl, I have never once said “everyone is beautiful.” I have said I have a broad palette and rebuked you and others for being unnecessarily cruel when making nasty comments about others’ appearance or weight or age. Since you’re so OUT, post some pics of yourself and we’ll let you know what we think about your appearance. 😂😂😂

I haven’t really run into this. We’ve had one or two over 6 years of hiring that were slightly off, but nothing dramatic. I did once have a guy who was using someone else’s photos but he was also hot so it turned out okay.

The nature of my work doesn’t lend itself to providing assistance to providers. Still, we have one long time provider who I’ve offered General life advice and free back on his projects (he does film). We even saw a movie with him at one point. This has muddied the relationship. Now he’ll message us to “hang out”, which means hire him. The first time I thought he genuinely meant it and I suggested he join us for something. He then awkwardly made it clear that he was looking to be hired. To be clear, if we had hire him for his services, we’re happy to pay. I socialize with my hair stylist and some other people who also have some work for me. But those lines are pretty clear. He recently reached out to “get together.” I was direct and said money was tight following our anniversary trip. He didn’t respond after that. So now it just feels icky to me. 🤷🏻

Yes. They were. In fact, some of the earlier people fighting for our rights were gender nonconforming people - way back before Stonewall. And most queer people are harmed not for having gay sex but for not conforming to gender stereotypes. This was literally my senior thesis.

Again, you can only live in this fantasy because if I refute your claim with facts, I’ll be suspended.

Bingo.

There’s no way to refute your sunny version of events without violating the “no politics” rule of this forum. But we are very much under attack by the same reactionary forces that have alway hated us. They’re coming for all the gains we’ve made since the 1980s - from non discrimination in public accommodations to marriage equality.

Girl, your entire rant proves the points that were made about you by myself and others. But let me address what you have to say about me. I don’t care who is or isn’t willing to fuck you as long as it isn’t me. Putting aside that not everyone is everyone’s type, I’ve been out since I’m 16 and never once had difficulty dating the men I’m interested in. My husband of nearly 24 years is a former model and musical theater actor. He’s matured into such a silver fox in his 50s that I have to beat twinks off of him. Regarding my own looks, you “mistake” (or pretend to) my broad palette and general compassion for an admission that I’m physically subpar. I understand why you wish that were the case, but I regret to inform you that I’m very attractive. I went from a “heroin chic” twink in the 90s to a fit white collar professional in 2000s to my current status as a very handsome, fit middle-aged man with an ass most 30 year olds wish they had. I am generally mistaken for 10-15 years younger than my 52 years. Hell, I never even needed braces! if this site was about a different subject, I’d post photos just to gag you. Suffice it to say I look like the love child of Pierce Brosnan and Domhall Gleason. And I’ve chatted with several CoM members who can attest to that. Nevertheless, even if you are a “10”, that doesn’t give you license to disparage providers or clients. That you have the relentless need to suggests a deep insecurity that no amount of sex with perky assed twunks will ever alleviate. And for that you have my sympathy.

I haven’t met providers here (yet) though I’ve been talking to one we’re interested in meeting. A few of us are trying to set up a group situation with some client and providers in NYC. We haven’t been able to align stuff yet, but I’m hoping we can get it together soon.

I haven’t had negative experiences with three out of the five you mentioned, possibly because they gave me blocked. But IMHO Pubic Assistance is the Regina George of the group. I simply see no reason to degrade providers or our fellow members. Isn’t there enough awful in the world for queer people and sed workers without us dragging each other down? There’s a way to give critical feedback about a provider without dehumanizing them or being mean spirited. If you follow my comments you may realize I do not often find the providers the majority of you do appealing. But I do not comment on those posts because you don’t need me to yuck your yum.

It started with the toothbrush, but Anthony said the bathroom was generally pretty gross.

This is really a reach. If you walk into a bathroom that smells of urine, has visible dirt in the floor and the toilet is covered in gunk, you’d say “that’s dirty.

Same here. I have a few regulars with whom I’m also friends on Instagram. But for initial outreach, I always use Burner.

Same here.

It’s good to see this raised. I do appreciate the moderators and know it often feels like a thankless job. In my experience, which is primarily in the Daddy’s Den sections, there are a few guys (and I’ll refrain from naming them) who are consistently mean and nasty about members and providers alike. Their participation here seems to be limited to saying members and providers are ugly, fat, unattractive, etc. Worse, they rarely offer any actual reviews or insight from their experiences. As I tend to call these guys out, I get lots of DMs from more conflict averse members who thank me. Personally, I think any negative commentary about a member or provider’s appearance- not including if someone is older, heavier, using fake pics - should be removed. If a provider is being honest about his appearance, there’s no need to comment on it. Rather we should stick to the quality of service, connection, personal experience, etc. As this Board is anonymous, it’s particularly galling to have members ripping into providers’ appearance. If members were subjected to the treatment they give to providers, I suspect many would crumble. And allowing these members to constantly make derogatory comments about providers appearance reinforces the terrible “beauty” standards that are common in the gay male community. I see guys my age or a few years older express that they feel ugly and undesirable. At a time when our community is under attack, can’t we be kinder to each other?

I have to disagree. If an escort is hosting clients at his home, and that home is dirty, I would like to know that. Some people will not care because the guy is hot. But I would be upset if I went to see someone bsaed on rave reviews here and their place was a pigsty.

Oy, I generally don't yuck anyone's yum, but FinDom as a kink is completely outside my ability to understand. I grew up poor, had to put myself through college, and I won't even gamble. The idea of giving someone money as a source of sexual pleasure (without the actual sex) is like "what?"