KensingtonHomo

I live in Brooklyn but have and will travel to NYC for a provider I really like. I can also host but usually that’s for me and my husband to get massages. That’s another angle to consider @Simon Suraci. If you’re traveling and willing to come to people’s homes, I think there are lots of couples who want to have in home massages.

Again, I'll need a citation for that. As an SA survivor myself, two of my three assaults were by straight men.

Since RM is not based in the US, I'm unsure how this will impact them.

My feelings about this have not changed since the 1990s. Perhaps because I'm a bottom, but I do my best to protect myself. So if I'm going to bareback, I'm on PreP. I do think most reputable escorts are on PreP, and I have appreciated the two times a provider contacted me to say I may have been exposed to an STI. I did notice that in Mexico condoms were pretty standard, perhaps because PreP is not as accessible.

I didn't comment on whether or not he was handsome. I said he doesn't do it for me. Tom Cruise is handsome but he does nothing for me. Many of the guys here want hairless muscle twunks, and they can have them. If you go back through my posts you'll I don't generally imply or infer, I just say what I think.

The formulation doesn't preclude sexual desire being part of the equation. It just puts it after the use of force and power to get "sex" without consent.

I actually had a great massage from a guy in LA last week who prefers to speak on the phone. He's in his late 50s (though he doesn't look it), and I found it refreshing. Once I showed up we were immediately on the same page.

I thought he was hot but his face pics aren't doing it for me.

They fail to support their core claim, which flies in the face of 50 years of research into the motivations for rape. Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence, and they do not even provide a dribble of proof. In fact, their arguments reflect the rape-supportive attitudes of sexual assault perpetrators. Sexual Assault Perpetrators’ Justifications for Their Actions: Relationships to Rape Supportive Attitudes, Incident Characteristics, and Future Perpetration PMC.NCBI.NLM.NIH.GOV Perpetrators use rape supportive attitudes and sexual assault incident characteristics to justify forcing sex...

I cannot believe you published this pile of garbage from Quilette. Please provide the citation for this claim: " Homosexual men actually have as high an offense rate as heterosexual men. Gay men are just as likely to attack males as straight men are to attack females." Of course, the article was written by two old white men. I hope law enforcement is keeping track of them because if they they rape is about sex, they're dangerous.

This part. It has nothing to do with whether one can get laid. Rape is about power, forcing yourself on someone, being a predator. There are some instances of date rape where it seems things got out of hand due to alcohol and misread signals, but what Diddy did is clearly about wanting to hurt people.

Ah... sorry, guys, I did mean to write more. It's been a minute but my overall recollection is that it was a mediocre experience. Mostly, it could have been a better match regarding what I like versus what he's providing. I like Doms, who are kind and get off on the role play rather than the actual physical discomfort of the sub. He was the opposite. I also found him to be less active and more into being worshipped ( which, as someone who gets off on being desired, is a snooze fest for me). To be clear, he didn't violate my boundaries; it wasn't what I was looking for. I've had much better experiences with Luca D'Amore, Dominus (DC) and - more recently - Joel Someone. With each of them, there was a sense of care and interest in my pleasure. Of course, YMMV.

I'm going to PM you.

The sense of risk providers and clients have regarding texting varies greatly. Personally, I'm not worried about it. No one has access to my texts but me (and my husband, I guess), and I doubt L.E. is interested in me. That said, there are apps you can use, like Burner, that give you a separate untraceable number that you can use for your hobby.

Ummm, were you okay with that?

Same. This just happened last week. I booked an hour and we spent closer to 2 hours. I offered to pay more, and he said, "No, I'm really enjoying just hanging out with you." Now, he's a good friend of another provider we see regularly, which may have led to more of a connection. But I do find this becomes more common when you visit a provider regularly. Yes, it's still a business relationship but I'm also friendly with my doctor, accountant, etc. I just try to be cognizant of not taking advantage.

I agree with all this. You're overthinking this, probably because you have a good time with this provider and are afraid to make it awkward. I've become friendly with some providers I see - we chat on Instagram (not like sexting, just discussing shared interests), and if you have a connection with someone, you're not going to offend them by asking for something they probably get all the time. I saw a provider this past week and, unprompted, he asked if I'd like to record some of our time together. He did it on my phone and didn't charge extra. Now he has a super successful OnlyFans. I'd have let him use it if I was more confident and had less of a public job.

I saw Joel last week and he was incredible. He is fun, empathic and incredibly skilled in bed. Joel does film and travel a lot. I lucked out that I was in LA while he was taking some downtime. And his fee is incredibly reasonable given how successful he is in porn. I would see him again in a second.

Not effeminate! Oh the humanity!

There are definitely good masseurs in NYC. I see a few of them regularly and would recommend both of these who have around a $200/hour price point. Wagner is a total sweetheart, despite looking like rough trade. His massage skills are A plus with sensuality sprinkled throughout. WagnerNY | RentMasseur RENTMASSEUR.COM Male Masseur WagnerNY in New York City, NY: offering M4M Massage, therapeutic, sensual, erotic, swedish... StrongStrokes is also great and I've seen him many times over the past three years. Yes, he doesn't show his face due to his other job, but if you like conventionally handsome white guys with blue eyes and dark hair, you will find him attractive. StrongStrokes | RentMasseur RENTMASSEUR.COM Male Masseur StrongStrokes in New York City, NY: offering M4M Massage, therapeutic, sensual, erotic...

I guess we know different straight guys because I've known many who will ogle big boobs without regard to who they're attached to. I find that many gay guys are obsessed with bodies (muscular, athletic, twinks) over facial beauty of cock size. Similar to you, I'm about the total package. I don't even get dick pics because a disembodied penis does nothing for me. I also don't get the excitement over someone with a 10" or larger dicker. It's challenging to give a guy that hung head. It's also far larger than needed for anal sex. Most rectums are about 6" deep, so anything longer than that is hitting the anal canal, and possibly the sigmoid colon.

He looks great. Does he share a face pic? What was his rate?

How do you know this? Are people on here sending you their nudes so you can critique their aging and weight? I'm younger than you and look a decade younger than my age (most people guess I'm 35-40), and I'm also in good shape, as is my husband. We're also happy to share photos. Are we getting better rates? Maybe. I'd be curious to hear from providers if they offer a price and then deduct based on age and then deduct more based on fitness level and attractiveness. So it's like 1 hour = $400. Deduct $50 for under 60; Deduct $50 because the client's hot = $300. Is that how providers are treating some people?

I'm curious where people saw him and his rate. Because he looks and sounds great.

I can't do the lack of body hair and pubes.