KensingtonHomo

I haven’t really run into this. We’ve had one or two over 6 years of hiring that were slightly off, but nothing dramatic. I did once have a guy who was using someone else’s photos but he was also hot so it turned out okay.

The nature of my work doesn’t lend itself to providing assistance to providers. Still, we have one long time provider who I’ve offered General life advice and free back on his projects (he does film). We even saw a movie with him at one point. This has muddied the relationship. Now he’ll message us to “hang out”, which means hire him. The first time I thought he genuinely meant it and I suggested he join us for something. He then awkwardly made it clear that he was looking to be hired. To be clear, if we had hire him for his services, we’re happy to pay. I socialize with my hair stylist and some other people who also have some work for me. But those lines are pretty clear. He recently reached out to “get together.” I was direct and said money was tight following our anniversary trip. He didn’t respond after that. So now it just feels icky to me. 🤷🏻

Yes. They were. In fact, some of the earlier people fighting for our rights were gender nonconforming people - way back before Stonewall. And most queer people are harmed not for having gay sex but for not conforming to gender stereotypes. This was literally my senior thesis.

Again, you can only live in this fantasy because if I refute your claim with facts, I’ll be suspended.

Bingo.

There’s no way to refute your sunny version of events without violating the “no politics” rule of this forum. But we are very much under attack by the same reactionary forces that have alway hated us. They’re coming for all the gains we’ve made since the 1980s - from non discrimination in public accommodations to marriage equality.

Girl, your entire rant proves the points that were made about you by myself and others. But let me address what you have to say about me. I don’t care who is or isn’t willing to fuck you as long as it isn’t me. Putting aside that not everyone is everyone’s type, I’ve been out since I’m 16 and never once had difficulty dating the men I’m interested in. My husband of nearly 24 years is a former model and musical theater actor. He’s matured into such a silver fox in his 50s that I have to beat twinks off of him. Regarding my own looks, you “mistake” (or pretend to) my broad palette and general compassion for an admission that I’m physically subpar. I understand why you wish that were the case, but I regret to inform you that I’m very attractive. I went from a “heroin chic” twink in the 90s to a fit white collar professional in 2000s to my current status as a very handsome, fit middle-aged man with an ass most 30 year olds wish they had. I am generally mistaken for 10-15 years younger than my 52 years. Hell, I never even needed braces! if this site was about a different subject, I’d post photos just to gag you. Suffice it to say I look like the love child of Pierce Brosnan and Domhall Gleason. And I’ve chatted with several CoM members who can attest to that. Nevertheless, even if you are a “10”, that doesn’t give you license to disparage providers or clients. That you have the relentless need to suggests a deep insecurity that no amount of sex with perky assed twunks will ever alleviate. And for that you have my sympathy.

I haven’t met providers here (yet) though I’ve been talking to one we’re interested in meeting. A few of us are trying to set up a group situation with some client and providers in NYC. We haven’t been able to align stuff yet, but I’m hoping we can get it together soon.

I haven’t had negative experiences with three out of the five you mentioned, possibly because they gave me blocked. But IMHO Pubic Assistance is the Regina George of the group. I simply see no reason to degrade providers or our fellow members. Isn’t there enough awful in the world for queer people and sed workers without us dragging each other down? There’s a way to give critical feedback about a provider without dehumanizing them or being mean spirited. If you follow my comments you may realize I do not often find the providers the majority of you do appealing. But I do not comment on those posts because you don’t need me to yuck your yum.

It started with the toothbrush, but Anthony said the bathroom was generally pretty gross.

This is really a reach. If you walk into a bathroom that smells of urine, has visible dirt in the floor and the toilet is covered in gunk, you’d say “that’s dirty.

Same here. I have a few regulars with whom I’m also friends on Instagram. But for initial outreach, I always use Burner.

Same here.

It’s good to see this raised. I do appreciate the moderators and know it often feels like a thankless job. In my experience, which is primarily in the Daddy’s Den sections, there are a few guys (and I’ll refrain from naming them) who are consistently mean and nasty about members and providers alike. Their participation here seems to be limited to saying members and providers are ugly, fat, unattractive, etc. Worse, they rarely offer any actual reviews or insight from their experiences. As I tend to call these guys out, I get lots of DMs from more conflict averse members who thank me. Personally, I think any negative commentary about a member or provider’s appearance- not including if someone is older, heavier, using fake pics - should be removed. If a provider is being honest about his appearance, there’s no need to comment on it. Rather we should stick to the quality of service, connection, personal experience, etc. As this Board is anonymous, it’s particularly galling to have members ripping into providers’ appearance. If members were subjected to the treatment they give to providers, I suspect many would crumble. And allowing these members to constantly make derogatory comments about providers appearance reinforces the terrible “beauty” standards that are common in the gay male community. I see guys my age or a few years older express that they feel ugly and undesirable. At a time when our community is under attack, can’t we be kinder to each other?

I have to disagree. If an escort is hosting clients at his home, and that home is dirty, I would like to know that. Some people will not care because the guy is hot. But I would be upset if I went to see someone bsaed on rave reviews here and their place was a pigsty.

Oy, I generally don't yuck anyone's yum, but FinDom as a kink is completely outside my ability to understand. I grew up poor, had to put myself through college, and I won't even gamble. The idea of giving someone money as a source of sexual pleasure (without the actual sex) is like "what?"

Did he have bad breath or did his mouth taste bad? I'm not sure where you think someone should keep his toothbrush outside of the bathroom. I don't have a dog in this particular fight as I don't find him appealing, nor do I think he looks like a model. He looks like one out of every five white guys at 3 Dollar Bill.

No, I don't worry it at all.

My husband and I fell into hiring while on vacation in Spain. The short version is we went to a guy for sensual massages and the session turned into a full-on sex. We had been mostly monogamous up to that point and it was a revelation. So while still on vacation, we decided to hire an escort explicitly. And we had a great time. We're both busy professionals with hobbies, a large friend group, and lots of family nearby. So after returning from Spain, we decided to open up to having sex with other guys together. After a few months of frustration with the apps, we decided to give Rent.men a try. And it was great for all the reasons mentioned above. We're both attractive and in shape (though not muscle guys) and can find guys interested in us on the apps. However, there's all the frustration people have mentioned, we also tend to be hit up by guys MUCH younger than us (which isn't our taste), and there's not the return on investment. We can hire and set up a time that works for both of our schedules, vet the candidates to ensure compatibility, and, with a couple of mediocre exceptions, it's been great for us. In addition to having fun with new and different guys, it's also invigorated our non-hiring sex life.

We’ve seen him. He’s great. You can read more in the linked discussion above.

I generally prefer a trimmed but natural crotch and butt. Completely hairless crotches are a turn off. Since I’m mostly a bottom, I keep my dick and balls trim, but since my butt is only lightly furry I’ve never touched it. I felt like if I started shaving, waxing, etc it would grow in thicker. I’ve had a few very uncomfortable instances of hairy men who had shaved and had significant stubble. It’s like having sexy with a porcupine.

I don't mind if a guy shaves a couple of years here and there, especially if they look the part. But 17-18 years is a bit much.

I'm not interested in perfect chiseled physiques, so if we were seeing a provider who increased their rate by $80, we'd decline. If he said it was because he was much fitter, it wouldn't change our decision.

What a nightmare @RadioRob. Thanks for your hard work and perseverance.

LOL - When I asked him about it, he said he was aiming to refer to Tom of Finland. He is of Irish descent if you're into that sort of thing. I meant "super hot." He has a partner, and also lives up in the Bronx. He wasn't charging $600 when we saw him. This is a side hustle for him and I've noticed some guys who have another gig charge more since it's not their main income.