KensingtonHomo

Honestly, I've known a lot of women. Most of my close friends are women. Some of them are gorgeous, some are plain, etc. And if you spoke about this dislike of "smoking hot women" in front of me, I would be utterly turned off by it. Sure, some women (and hell of a lot of men) who know they are beautiful abuse it and look down on others, but I don't think it's the majority. And, assuming based on your limited experience of a subset of women, that all or ever most women considered conventionally "smoking hot" is just dressed-up misogyny.

We're seeing him Sunday. I'll report back. So far he seems very nice in texts. And he lists himself as vers.

We're speaking to him about meeting up this weekend.

I've never had an orgasm hands-free, but lots of pre-cum. But I've also had prostate orgasms where the pleasure is so overwhelming my whole body shudders and rocks uncontrollably. Usually, I need some hand or mouth assistance to actually achieve a full-blown orgasm. I ultimately think it comes (pardon the pun) down to the wiring and one's ability to let go. I think my wiring is there, but I'm a type-A person so "letting go" is a struggle.

What's the Jason Sparks model?

That's not true. The Irish have never colonized anyone. And there are plenty of Americans who would hang us for being queer.

DHS should be abolished as should all borders. These imaginary lines, often created by colonizing powers, harm human beings but let international capital fly freely.

I take psychiatric medication for OCD and it definitely helps. However, most of my real progress came in the form of therapy. Most young people cannot afford the kind of therapy one needs to tackle entrenched issues with anxiety and depression. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (which is shown to be more effective than any med) takes 6 to 12 months to see real progress. And most insurances - particularly the kind of Obamacare, catastrophic plans that younger people get - do not cover mental health in a real way. But they will cover anti-depressants. So these young people are left to be on meds for years, instead of getting a year or two of real therapy that would teach them the skills they need to live their lives.

That sucks. What did he do that made you feel bad?

I think he's hot but I get the sense that he doesn't wear deodorant. Lots of talk about his "musky pits." I'm very sensitive to scents and BO makes me gag (in a bad way).

He’s not 43. We discussed his ages the last time I saw him a couple of months ago. I think he was born in 82 or 83.

He's one of my favorites. I'd say he's close to 40 but in good shape. I don't get a conceited vibe from him. I find him very handsome but also a bit of a goofball. I find that endearing and relatable, which I think others who rave about him might enjoy as well. I see him on average once a month and we have a nice rapport.

I actually pay for convenience. My husband and I play together and are both very busy. Hiring saves us from hours and hours on the apps. 🤷🏻‍♂️

He's pretty but too young for me. I'm in the market for 35+.

That's a dealbreaker for me. I control the music no matter where I am.

This wasn't about beauty. It was about a hobbyist claiming a clearly fit young man was overweight. Eating disorders and body dysmorphia is skyrocketing among young men. Creating unattainable physical goals for men in our community is unhealthy.

Same here. I recently met him in the context of his day job, and I guess he does this as a side hustle when he has time and if he finds the client attractive.

I've had the pleasure and it was pretty great. drtynycman can bang you out but he's also respectful of your limits, understands you may need a break, etc. Good guy.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. How many threads do we need with the same six people saying they hate tattoos? Then dehumanize providers by treating them like they've "ruined" their bodies or looks with tattoos. We get it. You don't like tattoos. I'm not attracted to half the guys who people start threads about. But I don't say anything because it's a) not particularly interesting and b) I don't want to yuck other people's yum.

Most people I know who have tattoos enjoy the way they look on their skin. All of mine have sentimental or other meaning to me, which is pretty common, too. I certainly think some people overdo it, but I find the constant hemming and hawing over it by certain hobbyists to be tres annoying. Remember, you always have the choice to post nothing.

I've been doing this a little longer than you, and I definitely feel like seeing random new guys can be frustrating. So I've been tending to stick with a couple of regulars, whom I always enjoy. I know what I'm getting as do they. And, importantly, I genuinely like them as people. For me, that means if one of us is having an "off day", it's so much more forgivable because we enjoy each other's company. And as providers - particularly the young, beautiful and nearly always inexperienced - want to charge $350 for a massage, my regulars have kept their rates the same. So I always tip them in appreciation. I do sometimes enjoy the thrill of a new person, but I tend to save that for when I'm traveling or if none of my "go-to" guys are available.

Nothing is more of a "boner killer" to me than feeling like the other person isn't into it.

Hey Sam, Glad you came on here to share your side of the story. I see too many guys on here talk about providers like they're meat. So I can imagine what you have to tolerate. I've had only occasional sketchy interactions with providers. Mostly, they've been very good or sometimes awkward. But I always emphasize that we're all human and have good and bad days.

Yup.

This is why I tell you all I don't see sensual or erotic massage with straight guys or even most who advertise themselves as bisexual. Clearly, clients should respect all provider's boundaries. For me, even if a provider is willing to do HE or MT, if he's actually uncomfortable with it I will sense that, and be turned off. Now, if I just want a therapeutic massage, then I don't care about the SO of the provider.