KensingtonHomo

I don't think this has anything to do with being "woke." Just like honoring someone pronouns, or being a good neighbor, not making negative comments on a provider you've never met, or judging their body harshly, is just being a decent, respectful person. I feel like online anonymity gives people license to behave in ways they never would in person. My general rule is if I wouldn't say this in person, I don't say it online.

This is it. A lot of "hobbyists" (my new favorite term) find a very specific type of guy (late 20s, ripped body, conventionally "hot", and look like actors from a teen melodrama) that - for the most part - I do not find very appealing. I wasn't drawn to men in their 20s when I was in in MY 20s. But I do not say "Ew, why are are you interested in someone so young? Are you emotionally stunted?" Because it's none of my business what two consenting adults do together, and if people want "a model", that's good for them. I also try not to yuck other people's yum. If I'm directly asked by a hobbyist about my experience, then I will share details in a PM, clarifying what I'm into, now it went, my perspective, etc. There's two guys I get asked about all the time. One, I think its absolutely wonderful and cannot recommend enough. The other, who is in the "type of guy" most folks on here seem to desire, was really not for me. But I have never badmouthed that provider bc he was professional, he met our expectations, and - since i hire almost exclusively with my husband - I can't speak to what a one-on-one encounter would be like. So I'm not going to fuck with this guy's business because I didn't love the experience.

I just saw Dan tonight. A provider I normally see wasn't available so I decided to take a chance without doing my research here. As others have mentioned, the price is a bit high for what he delivered. The massage was actually pretty good. Again, because I was rushed, I didn't get into what is included in the erotic massage. He kept his pants on most of the time and I thought "I guess it's not erotic." Then when I turned over, he took his pants off and mounted me - I should have known he was a bottom then. He was going toward the HE, and - to be frank - I generally do not orgasm from another guy jerking me off. He said, "you can have whatever you want you just have to ask for it." He then offered an "upgrade." I was like "I'm good." LOL TL;DR - massage was pretty good, definitely worked out the knots. He's definitely of a high opinion of himself. He's very attractive, if not my type, and I don't like al la carte, so I wouldn't repeat.

This person does not have a "fat belly." He has quite a tight waist actually, but this angle highlights the definition of his pelvis. And since his waist is smaller than his abdomen, it gives the illusion that he has a belly. In other pictures, he clearly has a four-pack. Everyone is entitled to their particular tastes, but you have no idea if you could get this guy "off the street." Judging people for their appearance is toxic. Many people who use this forum have bellies or are overweight, so think about how we feel when you show a muscular fit man and describe him as a "turn off" due to his "fat belly." And as someone with a belly, I frequently hook up with fit muscular or toned guys 15-20 years younger than me.

My feeling is that if I reach out in the manner that Liam outlined, a providers response is very indicative. If they answer my questions, and ask their own, we're on. If I get "sup", then it's not going anywhere.

This is almost exactly what my initial texts to a provide are like. I'm a little less explicit and I'm also scanning to see if the provider is open to working with a couple, and has experience doing so.

No, it's not usually painful. I think it's just that the prostate has being stimulated and the nerves are all activated so there's probably more blood flowing to that area, which is highly pleasurable for me. Occasionally it will make me feel like i have pee, but not usually.

It's hit or miss for me. Sometimes I am rock hard when getting fucked, and other times I lose my erection. But the erection isn't an indication of whether or not I'm enjoying it. Also, I am more likely to get hard and cum when I'm on top. My general sense (and I've heard this from sex therapists) that sometimes having your prostate pounded can make you lose your erection.

Don't let the name dissuade you, Dominus is a total doll: https://rent.men/Dominus

I don't enjoy doggy style or facedown for more than a few minutes. I definitely prefer missionary, being on top or being on my side. I have a fairly large ass and thick thighs which can get in the way. I am very flexible - can almost do a full side split, which definitely helps. I think ideally fucking goes through multiple positions, so I think stretching really helps as does having a strong core. I have a belly, which annoys me mostly when I'm fucking, so I will usually start in doggy or on top, depending on how hung the guy is, once we get going I like to move into missionary or side, which does involve me and the guy taking turns holding my legs up and back. Really, being flexible here is really key because I don't have my hamstrings resisting me or the guy. I've used slings recently with a couple of guys and that was really great. They also sell travel sex slings, which you can get for yourself. I've used it with a guy and it was good. https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/misterb-leather-travel-sling/9200000052173549/ I would say that you don't want to be in it for too long (more than 15 minutes) because it made my legs wobbly after.

I think this is fair. It's a bit of a dance. The client wants to be sure they will have a good experience and the provider wants to minimize time wasters. I imagine it's very difficult to differentiate between genuine clients reaching out to get a feel for the provider, and those who will waste their time. I do think if escort work was legal in the US, it would be easier.

I doubt it. I don't find him remotely appealing. He's average looking, zero charisma, seems like an entitled Gen Z XXX. Moderator's note: attacks against others are not permitted.

That sucks. What does MMV mean?

It seems my experience is different than yours. When I read the reviews I look for similarities between the reviews to see if there's a pattern in what the clients are saying. That can be helpful. Can you say more about how the people you hired were a "waste of time?"

Ya got me gal!

Once when I was like 19 or 20 and was with someone who was VERY hung. But I'm also very "in touch" with my GI system and what it feels like when I'm ready to go. I douche as a precaution or because I want to play on a different schedule than when my rectum will be clear. I should also be clear that I'm not getting fisted or using toys that larger than a decently hung penis.

I've been bottoming for three decades and douching a lot of that time and that's never happened to me. But I imagine it's possible if you douche too high (above the rectum) or too soon to the act.

There are no "individual" responses to a communicable pandemic. That's the kind of thinking that prevents society-wide response. And YOU are contributing to 300+ deaths per day because you're happy to accept it.

My mother died from a different infectious disease, and lots more can be done to mitigate COVID and other infections. We simply do a terrible job of infection prevention, control and public health because we don't spend any money on it. You can choose to accept it, but I do not.

You can be glib about COVID-19 as much as you want. 350 Americans are still dying every day from it. It's disrupting supply chains, air travel, schools, etc. And the vaccines minimize but do not prevent transmission. So enjoy a country that never recovers from a pandemic that could have been prevented or eliminated with different leaders and choices.

That's simply not true.

Nick Halden gives a nice massage and is an absolute delight sexually

This is just another example of masculine fragility. You can't handle someone pointing out that your "preferences" are socially constructed and feed into larger cultural prohibitions against femininity in men. So you've spent this thread lashing out of me for pointing out the facts. The reality is that the OP could have left that provider alone, or failing that, not posted about it here in a desire to have his shitty, anti-femme, heterosexist behavior propped up other cis men. All along providers and femmes have been dehumanized and treated like chattel because some people believe they have a right to demand physical changes because their sexual palate is in inch wide.

I have to disagree that it's "just intellectual nonsense." I never claimed everyone should be attracted to everyone else. I take exception when a gay man (or men) shame or belittle each other based on gender presentation. If the OP isn't interested in men with nail polish he can just move on from a provider he sees wearing it. Making a post about it, saying he'd send someone away without compensation, all based on a perceived gender transgression is shitty to the provider and it also reinforces heteronormative binary gender in a way that harms other queer people.

I’m not “trying to put people down.” I’m pointing out that some of you feel entitled in ways that are inappropriate and dehumanizing to providers.