KensingtonHomo

If you can see an argument for weight, age, or physical appearance (I get hygiene), then why not race? Once we accept that some people deserve professional treatment more than others based on immutable characteristics, then it's fair game on everything. I'm seasoned enough to remember when "no fats, no femmes and no <insert race here>" was constant on gay social networks.

You sound like a Trump supporter. I don't care about "moral superiority." I care that people on here feel comfortable participating without providers or clients being constantly berated for their appearance, age or taste. That Pubic has the most basic desires is great. Happy for him. I encourage you to search and see if I've ever shamed him for who he hires. I'm not going to waste my time cataloging the constant nasty stuff he posts.

To be clear, I’m not saying he should be banned. I’m saying he should be made to follow the forum rules, specifically 1, 4 and 5.. And if he posts hateful stuff it should be removed. I’ve been called on the carpet by moderators before, and I’m not as prolific or regularly hateful as him.

The reality is that some people suffer from rampant internalized ageism and homophobia. @pubic_assistance relentlessly makes disparaging and even hateful statements not only about providers who fall outside of his incredibly narrow view of whom we should all "naturally" be attracted to, but he also - as he does here - treats those of us who hire escorts who are over 25 with more than 5% body fat as if we're insane. He does not recognize that sexual attraction is highly variable and subjective. And, of course, if someone hires an older escort or a bear type of guy, then it can only be because you are so grotesquely ugly that you can't even get undesirables to fuck you for free. I do not understand why @CoM Moderators continue to allow him to spew anti-fat, anti-femme, agist, and ableist crap on here. I can't imagine that the providers enjoy his constant yapping about how hideous they are. Worse, though he has zero relationship with the queer community, he opines on how we should live and who we should want to fuck. Maybe if he went to P-town or Fire Island or got on Scruff with his actual age, he'd see how easy it is for a conventionally attractive middle-aged man to attract younger ones. My husband and I have to bat twinks off like flies when we're out.

Bumping this as I'm considering meeting him and curious if anyone has seen him.

If you have studies about the health benefits of circumcision, post them. My understanding is that circumcision may marginally reduce STI transmission but not to the extent of condom use. Do the Benefits of Male Circumcision Outweigh the Risks? A Critique of the Proposed CDC Guidelines - PMC WWW.NCBI.NLM.NIH.GOV The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) have announced a set of provisional guidelines concerning male... Symmetry is attractive in general. But “perceived power” is neither universally attractive nor abstract from capitalism.

I do think you can share nearly anything with a provider so long as you ask. I would suggest that you express to the provider what you did here. That the session was great and you’re shy and not great at expressing yourself, so can you share some scenes you find hot? If he says “yes”, go for it.

Neither of these statements is remotely true. The "universal standards" are Western attributes sold to most of us and, increasingly, the rest of the world through the power of advertising. As a minor example, most Americans consider circumcised penises to be more appealing than uncircumcised. That has been "naturalized" to the point where people with no religious reason to have their male children circumcised do so. Multiple studies have proven there is no hygienic benefit. Outside of the US and Jewish communities, circumcision is rare so for 80% of the world, most American penises are weird. By Western standards, most people of color were not historically considered attractive. This led to Asian people having their eyes surgically altered, African Americans lightening their skin, and straightening their hair. The current UNIVERSAL standard is the Godforsaken Kardashians, who have been relentlessly cosmetically and surgically altered so they look like the product of AI. Lastly, suppose I assume that everyone finds what I do attractive. In that case, I'd be excluding everyone with brown eyes, everyone under 6'0", everyone with a bushy beard, every muscle boy with a shaved body, etc., etc., etc., yet many, many, many people find those attributes incredibly attractive. So, yes, it is narcissistic to assume that everyone finds that incredibly narrow and - for God's sake - so damn basic - things you find attractive.

Tell me you're a narcissist without telling me...

I feel like this isn’t something one should spring on a provider. And for me I’m very sensitive to scent in general so even a provider wearing a lot of cologne is off putting.

I agree that it's important to remember that this is a provider/client relationship. That said, I think there is some degree of acting but the best providers - whether you specify a BFE or not - are people who really enjoy meeting people, getting to know them, and providing them with pleasure. That part of it probably isn't an act per se. But they are definitely playing a role.

Same because I look 15 years younger 😉

We wanted to get the M Pox vaccine ASAP so we went to the government clinic at a local school. It was a nice community experience, seeing people we know, and a sense that we were protecting each other. Given that COVID had been politically insane by then, it was a nice change.

I would add that I look at the reviewers to see if they have left reviews for other providers. They seem to me to be the most trustworthy.

Block him. You life will be improved. I don't believe a word he's saying. I think he's a sad, closeted guy who takes his anger out on people.

Yup. I finally blocked some of the worst offenders because they make being on here miserable. I really wish the moderators would take a heavier hand toward this toxic behavior.

It doesn't help that certain clients constantly insinuate that everyone who hires except them is ancient, obese and disfigured.

We live in an age of deep fakes. If you have an online presence, anyone could make up a story about you hiring hookers for scat play. And mostly no one will care. Certainly not the police.

Same.

Archeology, anthropology, and sociology are not "social justice theory." You have little knowledge of cultures outside your own, virtually no historical knowledge, and cry "social justice warrior" when you cannot produce a rational argument. It's truly an Emperor's New Clothes situation.

That’s because you don’t understand sociology or the impact of mass media on sexual culture. Nor do you appreciate that most counties that lack capitalist media are sex segregated, marriages are arranged, etc. In fact, what constitutes attractiveness in those cultures is vastly different. Rather than putting your ignorance on display you could educate yourself.

There's nothing wrong with finding a younger (or older) person attractive. But having an aversion to people our own age is socially produced largely through capitalist media. If one believes that people their own age are sexually repellant, they also believe that about themselves (or they're a narcissist or sociopath). That's just how our minds work. It also means that long time couples - who have been indoctrinated - are likely to let their sex lives fall apart as they age. And one or both will rationalize this by saying "It's natural that I don't find my aging partner attractive." But none of that is natural. The most natural way for humans to live based on archeological and anthropological studies (see the book Sex at Dawn) is in relatively large, multigenerational communities with some degree of primary relationships but also sex outside of those relationships. The resulting children are raised by the community even if they have primary caregivers.

I've explained this before. Putting aside sexual desire for mating, which would have us all attracted to young women with big hips and busts, everything else is socially constructed. We are inundated with media that show highly specific kinds of beauty, which creates these desires - mostly to sell us shit that is not sex.

From what you’ve said you’re not the subject of this thread. I don’t recall you writing endless posts about how unattractive men your own age are. I also do not usually care for facial hair, though I make exceptions. But I maintain that if someone has a sexual aversion to people of their own age, they should look very closely at that. It’s not natural and likely internalize homophobia and ageism.

Yeah, it could be that too.