KensingtonHomo

I believe he lives in Brooklyn and would host there, but I'm unsure.

I feel like "party gays" are their own species. Circuit party types are not really amenable to being friends with people outside that world. It's like the Fire Island gays versus Provincetown gays (we're the latter).

Honestly, as a child-free gay guy, my experience is 180 degrees from this. Nearly every friend I have who had children more or less vanished on me, whether straight or gay. I occasionally - like once a month on average go to a gay club - and we do see theater and musicals, etc. But none of that prevents me from attending a kid's birthday party. I'm also the oldest of 19 first cousins and have a 6-year-old nephew (who is the light of my life). The main issue I note is that a lot of my friends who are parents are overwhelmed with their kids' schedules. And several have moved to a suburb- which I have offered to visit. At the same time, I'm very friendly with many parents in our co-op, but their having kids prevents them from socializing. I don't think it's really about gays versus straights so much as parents versus child-free lifestyles.

I don't know exactly why but this descriptor always turns me off. I don't think I have an issue with most of the acts but I don't like "piggy" as an adjective.

Not yet. 😈

My understanding is that it dramatically varies, and there are intimacy coaches and sex surrogates. Most are probably closer to a therapist or life coach, who is just talking to you and offering advice and techniques. Then, some are closer to sex workers, where they will physically engage. And with sex surrogates, they are engaging.

We elected to do consecutive massages but will likely do a couples one next time.

We just saw him and he was terrific. Good massage performed nude. He is even more striking person because he's 6'5". Wolffdad has also been training as an intimacy coach, so he's open to discussing what you want from the massage. We're considering seeing him again to do some of that work as I have trouble finishing. And at $200 - though he charges more for the intimacy coaching - he's very reasonable.

Honestly, I could not be less interested in someone like this.

This is the point I was making. Asserting gay men commit sexual assault at the same rate as straight men is BS. No one has presented any evidence to support this claim.

Again. Please post a citation from a reputable source to support your frankly homophobic claim.

I disagree. I’m not going to Jersey for anything. I’d go to the Bronx first and I live in Brooklyn.

I live in Brooklyn but have and will travel to NYC for a provider I really like. I can also host but usually that’s for me and my husband to get massages. That’s another angle to consider @Simon Suraci. If you’re traveling and willing to come to people’s homes, I think there are lots of couples who want to have in home massages.

Again, I'll need a citation for that. As an SA survivor myself, two of my three assaults were by straight men.

Since RM is not based in the US, I'm unsure how this will impact them.

My feelings about this have not changed since the 1990s. Perhaps because I'm a bottom, but I do my best to protect myself. So if I'm going to bareback, I'm on PreP. I do think most reputable escorts are on PreP, and I have appreciated the two times a provider contacted me to say I may have been exposed to an STI. I did notice that in Mexico condoms were pretty standard, perhaps because PreP is not as accessible.

I didn't comment on whether or not he was handsome. I said he doesn't do it for me. Tom Cruise is handsome but he does nothing for me. Many of the guys here want hairless muscle twunks, and they can have them. If you go back through my posts you'll I don't generally imply or infer, I just say what I think.

The formulation doesn't preclude sexual desire being part of the equation. It just puts it after the use of force and power to get "sex" without consent.

I actually had a great massage from a guy in LA last week who prefers to speak on the phone. He's in his late 50s (though he doesn't look it), and I found it refreshing. Once I showed up we were immediately on the same page.

I thought he was hot but his face pics aren't doing it for me.

They fail to support their core claim, which flies in the face of 50 years of research into the motivations for rape. Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence, and they do not even provide a dribble of proof. In fact, their arguments reflect the rape-supportive attitudes of sexual assault perpetrators. Sexual Assault Perpetrators’ Justifications for Their Actions: Relationships to Rape Supportive Attitudes, Incident Characteristics, and Future Perpetration PMC.NCBI.NLM.NIH.GOV Perpetrators use rape supportive attitudes and sexual assault incident characteristics to justify forcing sex...

I cannot believe you published this pile of garbage from Quilette. Please provide the citation for this claim: " Homosexual men actually have as high an offense rate as heterosexual men. Gay men are just as likely to attack males as straight men are to attack females." Of course, the article was written by two old white men. I hope law enforcement is keeping track of them because if they they rape is about sex, they're dangerous.

This part. It has nothing to do with whether one can get laid. Rape is about power, forcing yourself on someone, being a predator. There are some instances of date rape where it seems things got out of hand due to alcohol and misread signals, but what Diddy did is clearly about wanting to hurt people.

Ah... sorry, guys, I did mean to write more. It's been a minute but my overall recollection is that it was a mediocre experience. Mostly, it could have been a better match regarding what I like versus what he's providing. I like Doms, who are kind and get off on the role play rather than the actual physical discomfort of the sub. He was the opposite. I also found him to be less active and more into being worshipped ( which, as someone who gets off on being desired, is a snooze fest for me). To be clear, he didn't violate my boundaries; it wasn't what I was looking for. I've had much better experiences with Luca D'Amore, Dominus (DC) and - more recently - Joel Someone. With each of them, there was a sense of care and interest in my pleasure. Of course, YMMV.

I'm going to PM you.