KensingtonHomo

He's okay. If that's what you're into. I'll be giving my money to my fellow queers.

Yes, starting on top is the best approach. You can face him so you can see him, and you can take it at your own pace. Another piece of advice, which is going to be a challenge your first few times is that you have to RELAX. So, you need to start warming up. Get a dildo (not too big) and use that with a lot of lube. When you feel pain or resistance, stop - take a deep breath and as you breathe out through your mouth imaging your rectum relaxing. Do this until he's in. And then start slowly moving up and down. Once you're warm and open, he can take over. The Bottom's Digest on YouTube is also a great resource: https://www.youtube.com/@BottomsDigest

Let's not use the word "junkie." I've known many good people who ended up with substance abuse issues. The current thinking is that addiction is caused not by the substance but by the social and psychological circumstances of the user. That's why people who are healthy, well-adusted, and have strong social ties can have surgery, use oxycontin for a few days or weeks, and then never think about it again. However, if you have unaddressed trauma, low social ties, extreme stress and other factors, you can become dependent. Johan Hari's book "Chasing the Scream" is an incredible historical look at addiction. The short version is criminalization makes everything worse.

Obviously, you're going to see a lot of different scenarios. For instance, we mostly host providers. It's just our preference. But we're in a building in NYC, and we average 1-2 a month, some regulars. So there's the anonymity of NYC, plus we don't have a parade of randos every week. I would not worry about inviting over a provider who is well reviewed on here and RM.

I haven't been since 1995. I fooled around with a hot gymnast and then ran into my ex who I mooned over for the rest of the time I was there.

I'm not sure how many providers would admit to that. We've had it happen a few times. Sometimes, I suspect the guys have already been working in the past 24 hours. Other times, I think it's nerves. I am surprised that more guys don't take viagra to ensure they can perform.

I feel like there has to be quite a few in London.

We haven't done it a lot but in our limited experience, @Jamie21 is right on. We've mostly hired two separate guys and paid them separately.

Based on your comment and the lack of people having seen him on here, I suspect he falls into the category of provider who's monetizing his sex life. Maybe he didn't like my description or didn't want to do the things I requested (which he indicated he was "into"). But he sent me face pics, and he's really not hot enough (or as @Decatur Guy suggests) good enough to be a flakey thief.

Since it's been almost three days with no refund, here is the provider: Leaky_pole - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Atlanta, GA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Atlanta, GA - Leaky_pole: bi guy, leaking (precum) often I also wrote the details of what happened on a thread about him here.

So, a warning about this provider. I was setting up a meeting with LeakyPole in Atlanta for this week. He's really attractive, and we seemed to be a good match. He asked for a deposit to secure the time, which I sent. A couple of days later, he asked me to share what I wanted from the experience. Two of the things I enjoy (which he listed on his profile as things he's into), he said he doesn't care for one and never does the other. I have never had an issue sending a deposit before, but I pointed out that he lists those activities on his profile, and there was no response. Given all this, it's not a good fit. So I messaged him and said, "I'm sensing this isn't the right fit for me. So please refund my deposit." That was 10:30 on Saturday night, and it's been radio silence. He has a day job, so I gave him some time. I sent him a message requesting the refund which he has ignored. 24 hours later, I said, “It’s been 24 hours, and you’re ignoring me, so I guess you’re not refunding the deposit, which is fucked up.” I also sent him a request via Zelle, but no response. I'm not going to see my money back but I want others to be warned that he cannot be trusted.

I typed in Hunter Cox OnlyFans and it popped right up.

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I would guess that some providers subscribe for multiple months because it's cheaper and neglect to cancel or remove their ads when life comes up.

Oh, I don't care. Florida (along with several other states with anti-queer legislation) is on my boycott list. Plus, he's not my type. I just noticed that this provider whose profile I doubt I've ever even viewed (see boycott), and thought it was interesting.

Oddly, he's blocked me too. And I don't recall ever looking at him and I've never been to Ft. Lauderdale, so it's very weird.

He’s 5’8”. Imagine charging that for under 6 feet. 😂

I’m not worried. He has a day job that’s pretty nerdy. We live in different cities. And I’m pretty dangerous myself.

Me and my husband are coming up on 23 geese together married over 9. We were monogamous for many years, but after a a sexy couples massage turned into a threesome, we decided to explore. We mostly hired, hook up with a third, and attend parties together, but erotic massages are fine solo. We still have sex one-on-one, and we’ve found that by having diverse experiences together and separate; we bring new things to our sex life. in terms of “falling in love”, publicassistance made good points. For us, our sexual adventures take place inside our marriage. It’s not external to it. Nor do we hook up with randos on our own. We don’t have the time, energy or inclination.

I sent him a message requesting the refund which he has ignored. 24 hours later I said “it’s been 24 hours and you’re ignoring me so I guess you’re not refunding the deposit which is fucked up.” He wanted to use Zelle, which meant he gave me his real phone number. So now I know his full name, address and where he works. I’ve been debating just sending him his address to see if that concerns him. But he could find out the same about me. So it’s like mutually assured destruction. 🤷🏻‍♂️

They’re certainly not checking. Any STI test is only valid till the next time you have unprotected sex. So if a guy uploaded a negative HIV today and then had sex with four guys over the weekend, what good is that test?

Just go through the Wikipedia page on him and follow the links. Lou Dobbs - Wikipedia EN.WIKIPEDIA.ORG

No hourly rate? My math is that is roughly $315 an hour.

There is no need to dehumanize the friends that Daniel lost. People who battle substance abuse deserve our empathy and help to recover, not your judgment.

Thanks, Simon. I always appreciate your (and other providers') insights. I won't let one bad apple spoil the bunch. I already have another meeting set up. Me and my husband (since we usually hire together) really do our best to treat every provider with respect, empathy, and kindness. I'm an SA survivor so I never want someone to do something they're not comfortable with. I just feel like, in this instance, his profile is falsely advertising.