KensingtonHomo

I'm not going to post the screen grabs, but PA is engaging in apologia for Wolf. That you cannot see that is troubling.

Girl, he's not accused of molesting children. He's accused of possessing and transferring child porn, which may not go away, but I will never excuse it away as you seem to be doing.

There is no evidence that Wolf is suffering from mental illness, let alone that it was exacerbated by porn and social media. Let's not speculate about things for which there is no evidence.

AFAIK, Wolf is not being charged with anything related to his own videos. He is being charged with possessing and transferring child porn. I don't know why you're trying to smear this other provider. A quick look at his Twitter shows that he films with a wide variety of partners: muscle guys, bears, twinks, femmes, etc. Wolf's videos not only exclusively featured twinks for many years, but the scene partners got younger and younger. He also released videos in which he seemed to abuse these young partners. That is what made people suspicious of him. It seems many of us observed Wolf's shift over the years and found it creepy. I don't see the same pattern in DrtymnNYC.

That guy does not look like a child. He has hair over his entire body and facial hair. He also has his own OnlyFans. Honestly, you’ve posted about this provider- whom I’ve met and I am most certainly not a twink - a couple of times and it feels personal.

JFC, doing it for money is actually worse. If he couldn’t help himself, that’s horrific and no excuse but making a decision to exploit abused children for profit, is categorically wrong evil.

His neighbor was posting on Instagram. They raided his apartment back in April and took everything. Then they spent the past two months going through every piece of tech he owned. So they had him nailed to the wall before this arrest.

I wasn't expecting an Austin Wolf apologia. Truly horrifying that you see things this way.

I think you meant to write "an advocate against child exploitation"

I'm sure the Feds will shut down his site. OF and other sites would do well to remove all of his content posthaste.

As a provider, I’m surprised to see you engaging in nasty remarks about other sex workers. Would you want someone judging you this way, especially given it does seem like his scene partners were quite young? I also think given that Austin is the epitome of the physique and attitude so often priced by our community, we may want to use this as an opportunity to reflect on whether “ripped, roided, alpha dom daddy” is somehow we should be centering.

Same here. I thought he was hot when 15 years ago when his scene partners looked more like college students. But as he increasingly filmed with younger and younger looking guys, I was turned off.

The vast majority of pedophiles are heterosexual. That this man is also one is no more an indictment of other queer people than Jeffrey Dahmer being a cannibal. i see no reason to give credence to the “groomer” allegations so rampant against us now because this one sociopath happened to be a popular porn star.

Given his content, I am not surprised by this. https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/austin-wolf-arrested-child-pornography/5550436/

Depending on your birthdate, some people start university at 17. I'm just saying to be careful.

I'd check his passport. You don't want to get charged with trafficking.

This may seem harsh, but I find this to be very emotionally immature. Our lives are supposed to evolve as we age. If they have side pieces and that's their understanding, I have no issue with that. But any relationship that can be so easily disrupted by some younger guy has at least one person who is shallow and emotionally immature. When I married, I meant my vows. Sadly, we live in a society that encourages people to see themselves as individuals whose transient emotions are more important than fidelity, vows, and doing the work that a multi-decade relationship requires.

😂😂😂 One of us would have to be remotely interested in a romance with another person. We’re not. We hire to spice up our sex life. We have a couple of regulars who we’re friendly with but we don’t even want BFE. Honestly, a grown person leaving their partner for an escort is just a selfish immature asshole.

I feel like there's a way to maintain emotional boundaries without comparing people to take out. I believe I suggested this earlier but is there a reason you're not pursuing a romantic relationship with someone? I'm in a different situation as I'm married and only hire with my husband, so there's no chance or anyone catching feelings. Our hiring happens inside of our marriage not outside of it. But if I were single, perhaps I'd find myself in your situation. However, I love being married and would want that over all the escorts in the world. So perhaps if you were dating someone you'd have those emotional needs met and be less likely to project them onto a provider.

The Google form suggests to me that the massage is not therapeutic and he's monetizing his sex life. Honestly, that's the worst of all worlds. I can understand escorts engaging in more screening, but if you're just providing a massage, is he discriminating based on race, or age?

Your question was provocative. You asked if there was untoward collaboration between providers and the operators of this site. Now you're engaged in "cry bullying", where a simple direct response by a long-time and well-regarded provider is your proof that something untoward is afoot. Personally, I do not find your questions or responses to be in good faith.

I have never seen any favoritism toward providers who regularly post here. In fact, I'd say the moderators are laxer with client members and what they say about providers specifically and in general than I would allow. I've also had disagreements with @BenjaminNicholas and he can be direct - as can I - but I do not see any evidence of an attempt to bully anyone.

I agree with others here who have said you have to move on. It's not healthy for you to continue this relationship. Further understanding their dynamic will not ease your mind or lessen the pain. He made his choice, and - frankly - I cannot see a reason for him to keep engaging you unless it's as a fallback if this doesn't work out, even if he's not doing it consciously and does like you. If you're looking for a partner or someone you can have a future with, it won't be someone you meet through escorting. 65 isn't old even if it's "ancient" in the "gay community." You definitely seem caring, though perhaps you need better boundaries (as do many of us). There are many single men in your age cohort. And as a good looking and successful man, I'm sure you can find someone to be a true companion or partner to you (if that's what you want). Otherwise, you may want to change up how you hire (fewer regulars or clearer boundaries) so you don't get hurt again. I wish you a peaceful resolution to this.

Well, this saved me a lot of trouble.

Bigotry is not truth. I've known many overweight women who have no shortage of suitors. Most straight men prefer women with tits and asses, not rake-thin models. PCOS and other conditions that predispose women to both weight gain and difficulty conceiving are very real, so your comment is both inaccurate and mean-spirited. I will never understand how a gay man who lives in NYC in 2024 can still harbor such ugly beliefs.