KensingtonHomo

This is very similar to my initial message. I'm a little shorter and generally ask what payment type they prefer.

A Nigerian accent is sort of a British accent thanks to colonialism. But it’s a bit distinct.

I have to co-sign Dominus. He's very kind and affectionate. He's from Nigeria and has a beautiful accent and speaking voice. Incredibly smart and well-traveled. Overall, he's just a great time. And if you want to go for anything sexual, he's up for it all. One of the best providers I've met.

Sounds amazing.

I want a lot of details after all the suspense.

My preference is to book a couple of days in advance. Particularly as a bottom I want to be sure I'm prepped and ready to go by watching my diet and making time to clean out. When traveling I prefer to start reaching out a week or so in advance, since I generally have tighter time frames. Despite that, when we just went to Montreal, we had two providers flake on us. The first was a couple. We had a penciled in evening and general time about a week in advance. I confirmed that time and place the day before. And then three hours before we were to meet, they canceled because one of them "forgot" and invited a friend over. Then they wanted to reschedule. We passed. We did end up finding a guy who was available for that evening, but I had long wanted to hook up with a couple so that fantasy is still on hold. Then we booked a pretty well-known guy. Again, conversation starts a couple of days out. Confirmed the day before. We had plans to do a tour that morning so he told me to text him when we were done. I did. Waited an hour. Texted him again. Nothing for five hours when he responds that his friend is having a crisis and asking if we can meet much later that evening. We passed. I don't know if the issue was real but we do our best to treat every provider we meet with professionalism and kindness. If we're hosting, we'll ask if they have a beverage preference. Flakey providers and clients make the rest of us look bad and foster mistrust. It's a bummer.

I feel the same way. If someone is going to be so not into me, they can't even get it up professionally, please let me know in advance.

I've had a few providers ask to see a photo when we booked; none of them ever canceled over it. Generally I offer a photo because I feel like I've already seen them. And I'd like to know who I'm meeting with. But I'm incredibly publicly gay so there's no reason for me to be discrete about it. Other people have valid reasons to want discretion.

I haven't had much of an issue with providers being late. Perhaps it's an NYC thing where time is always precious and we're all over booked. I've noticed when we hire in P Town, there's a tendency for the providers to be more lax with time but like 15-30 minutes, not more than that. I'm more forgiving in a vacation environment.

Girl, I didn't ask for your opinion, let alone for you to condescend to me with your "love" while asserting that I have "internalized homophobia." I've been in therapy since I'm 5 years old. I've well-processed all that happened to me. And I'm a prison abolitionist so I'm not calling the police over shit that happened 30 years ago, even if the statute of limitations hadn't run out.

I'm glad you cleared the air. Sounds like quite the ordeal and very unfair of this person to put you in this position.

Diabetes is also on the rise because of structural lack of health food options and limited time to exercise. What gets construed as "human nature" (including sexual orientation) is the result of socio-ecoonomic forces at a particular historical moment. We've had chocolate cake for hundreds of years but huge spikes in Type 2 diabetes happened in the past three decades. That's the result of increasing sugar and corn syrup in our food, as well as constant advertising of sweets to create desire.

I found any queer person who lives in Dubai suspect. Actually anyone who lives in Dubai. LOL

That's not human nature; It's consumerism primed by capitalism. Honestly, this guy is blandly pretty, with a nice body that's also kind of bland. It's all very "I'm a model." But I don't fuck with straight guys and he doesn't seem like any fun.

I read all your posts so don’t condescend to me. There is literally no good reason why you can’t plan for 10 am the morning of. But go off queen!

I work in an industry where I deal with/am answerable to a lot of stakeholders. If I neglect to respond to them for 2 weeks, it would be very bad for me because I would be considered "messy." @Gadfly22 has what, to me, seem like unrealistic expectations. But you're also admitting that you sometimes neglect to respond to clients or potential clients. I believe a lot of us are just oversaturated with email, texts, phone calls, social media, the news, etc. It's like we're drinking from a firehose.

Americans are particularly awful this way, and I say that as one of them. I've been actively trying to be more patient and also less available because it's a very mentally and physically unhealthy way to live.

Dude, you're coming off really poorly here. Yes, a reasonably prompt reply would be good. But since you've said you take a day off for your play, why wait until that day to make the appointment? As I've said above, we're going to Montreal in 6 days and I'm already setting things up. We met up with a provider we really enjoy in DC last weekend. I reached out to him when the trip was set to see if he'd be in town as he travels a lot. We kept in touch and had an amazing time. I think what providers here are objecting to is you wanting to set a date in a couple of hours and being pissed if the guys you want are busy. And, sure, a couple of guys I reached out to in Montreal haven't responded. That's fine. Either they're booked up and don't need the gig, or they're messy. If it's the latter, I don't want to see them anyway.

For me, I prefer to schedule things in advance. Perhaps it's because I'm a bottom and want to be clean, not have eaten right before. And as I get older I find I prefer late afternoon to early evening for sex. And since I play with my husband, we have to align our own schedules and, if we're hosting, we have to get our neighbors to watch the dog. (The dog is a sweetheart but very attached and will want to "help" the escort.) I tend to reach out a couple of days to up to a week in advance. And I think giving 24 hours for a reply is reasonable. We usually have someone in mind, with some back ups. However, I have had a few providers who refuse to schedule that far out. Or will ask us to text them the day before. Generally, the guys who want to confirm 24 hours in advance are flakey. If it's one of our regulars, we're much more open to negotiating a time. If it's someone we're checking out, refusing to schedule in advance (and we are willing to do a reasonable deposit), then we're going to move on. We're going to Montreal next week and we're already chatting with guys - not lengthy convos but getting rates, availability, checking for fit - and hope to lock a couple down before we arrive. A couple of guys have been unresponsive. And one asked us to text when we arrive. So we'll see how it goes.

Hey All, Hubby and I are off to Montreal next week for a few days. I've been checking out RM and we have a few guys who seem hot, but I'd love any recommendations from locals or people who've visited recently. I did a search but the last threat of this type was over three years old. So anything more recent would be great.

He's a pretty well known Porn star - though he has dumb politics. It's possible that he thinks you're hot and just wants to bone, but it could also be a scam.

I saw him today. Such a nice guy. Great technique and the extras (which were included) were delightful. He's very handsome, so don't let the lack of pics dissuade you.

As a native Brooklynite, we don't consider people who moved here to live in Manhattan to be actual New Yorkers.

That's borderline sexual assault. Consent to blow someone is not consent to swallow.

I don't think you need to be that embarrassed. I've told guys they're sexy or hot or whatever. Maybe it was a bit excessive but I think most people have had a moment where they were taken in by someone's sex appeal. I'm also sure you feel like you said it way more times than you actually did.