KensingtonHomo

I really appreciate @Simon Suraci thoughtful and honest post. We have had two providers who alerted us following a session that they tested positive for an STI. In both cases, our response was similar to Simon's client. We're Gen X and used to testing for HIV and having the sharing of that information be urgent. So we are always grateful for providers being honest. We keep it to ourselves of course. And we've never actually had an STI from a provider.

I agree. And I've been with many true bi or even pansexuals. But I think some providers who are Kinsey 1 or 2s advertise themselves as "bi" and then don't want to go "whole hog." That then makes some guys feel like "bi guys are phonies."

I'm very tattoo positive but his says "young" - how long will that be valid?

I have an ongoing joke with my husband about how I clean for providers like my mother's coming over. I am 100% doing too much, but I can't help it.

Yeah - I can understand a bit of Face Tune - I do it myself - but this is too much. And his butt isn't natural either, which is perfectly fine, but I also wonder if that's been digitally enhanced. I generally worry that so many people from Hollywood to our friends constantly using tech to upgrade their appearance is going to destroy our self esteem.

I'd check his ID. Still looks like jail bait.

I had been doing that but then other guys were like "you should include the tip", so I've started doing that.

It seems like a Millenial/Gen Z thing - I think they believe it's sexy.

One of my current favorite providers is bi. We've had no issues with him being passionate or kissing. I do think you run a bigger risk with bi guys having more limits than a gay guy, but I also agree with others that perhaps you've been unlucky.

But COVID hasn't made STIs more plentiful or different. Gonorrhea is indeed becoming treatment-resistant, which is a concern, but if you're working with guys who are careful about their health, you're probably going to be fine. We've had two instances in the past five years where a provider contacted us to say they tested positive for an STI. So we went and got tested. Neither time did we have the STI. Now, I'm an anxious person, so I understand that fear is irrational, but I think the odds are in your favor.

So you had this amazing experience and won’t tell us who it is? 😬

I don’t know much about you, but the providers we see are open about their STI history. I have friends that speak openly about STI scares. We’ve had a couple of scares but haven’t had one yet. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

I saw him today. He’s absolutely wonderful. His massage was strong, sensual and engaging. He’s very sweet and as far as extras go, they were well incorporated and unique. Some of the massage positions particularly with my legs and butt were novel to me. For me, the best sensual/erotic masseurs manage to seamlessly incorporate the erotic elements into the massage itself. Wagner really excels at that. He looks as good or better than his photos. If you like thick, muscular, and furry guys, you’ll love him. I did 60 minutes but next time I see him, I’ll go for 90.

I just did this for the first time with a provider I see pretty regularly. It was post-massage and his suggestion. It wasn't super involved but we did wash each other, which was nice.

Yeah… I’d have canceled too.

He’s not my type but he’s been around a while. Have you searched for previous threads?

I have been with gay men (providers and not) who were mechanical in bed and bi guys who were great in bed and vice versa.

That's more than sufficient time for them to book someone else.

When is the appointment? If you're giving 24 hours notice or more, there's nothing for them to get the claws out about.

Same. I have no idea.

I agree with this. I generally do provide a time or a window especially when I'm traveling. And if the provider isn't available, I move on. But if a provider says they're wide open and then declines one or two times you offer, that's a wrap for me.

We average once a month with escorts and a bit more for massage. And it's a mix of regular guys and then new guys.

Unlike many others who I will not tag or name, I rarely comment on providers’ appearance or desirability. And what I said was he’s not for me. I hope you find the time to call out all the posts saying providers are fat, ugly, old, etc. 🙄

It's funny. This came up with my regular guy yesterday. He said he doesn't escort because he's not able to perform if he's not attracted to the person. And he's had a couple of experiences with crazy clients - like stalker shit - even just doing massage. So he just feels like escorting would increase the chances of dealing with crazy.

In my experience, when you seem the same masseur regularly things progress naturally to the level they're comfortable. My regular guy definitely goes way further now than when I started seeing him three years ago. But we also have lovely chats, and genuine chemistry. But that unfolded over time.