KensingtonHomo

Uhhhh, I never said I wanted to "dictate" or "change" a provider's grooming habits. I was looking for a way to broach what a provider typically does in terms of grooming because I've hired guys whose pictures show them with hair and they should up bald. If they prefer to have no pubic hair, they're not the provider for me.

Hey Providers, I am incredibly sensitive to smell, and while I don’t mind a bit of natural musk, I much prefer men who wear deodorant and keep their crotches smelling fresh. I know many of my brethren like pit smell and such but it’s not for me. is there a sensitive way to bring this up to a provider? If a guy really doesn’t want to wear deodorant, that’s cool but he’s not the provider for me. Similarly, I like some public hair but not 70s bush or completely shaven. Nice way to ask about that? I do my best to be respectful of providers and their choices but if someone has a strong odor or is completely bare in their crotch, I’m really turned off. Thanks in advance.

While I agree SOME people feel this way, it is a horrible mindset to approach being a client or a provider.

On the one hand, I get the question. I was offered an opportunity to do sex work (kind of a bordello situation) in college. But PreP wasn't yet available and as a bottom, and as a twink who looked younger than my age (twink tops weren't a thing yet), I felt it was entirely too risky. Plus I'd been sexually assaulted twice at that point, so I was very cautious. But if I were in my 20s now, I'd probably do it. BUT the biggest obstacle for most men is that they are raised to pursue sex, even up to paying for it. Women are socialized to make themselves beautiful, be service-oriented, and exchange affection and sex for material security. Most men are just not. And, even in more sex-positive communities, I know many sex workers who insist on discretion because it's a side hustle, and being "outed" could ruin their other careers. Particularly in NYC there are lots of escorts whose real passion is the arts.

I think you're recalling the hysteria over "popcorn lung" in teenagers. While some teenagers did get irreparable lung damage it wasn't from using FDA-reviewed vaping products like Juul. Rather, they were ordering marijuana and other illicit types of vaping juice online. I suspect this died down as more places legalized recreational weed. I wouldn't say vaping it harmless. But, thus far, it seems to be far less harmful than cigarette smoking.

I prefer more average and diverse-looking guys in porn. Similar to what advertising and porn have done to women, gay men constantly pressure each other to appear like the statue of David (or better). It's very unhealthy for us, individually and collectively.

The best part is that he has reviews and none of them paid him more than $225 and that was in April. 🤷🏻‍♂️

As a client, when a provider's profile is up to date and has photos, I don't need more. When I reach out, I want to confirm price, compatibility, and logistics. I try to be mindful of a provider's time and not waste it if we're not going to meet up.

I've been texting with him. He wants $325 for an erotic massage - ($275 if he keeps his underwear on). I told him that was more than I would pay, as I can get a sensual/erotic massage for $200-$250. He was very polite. If he can get guys to pay him an extra $50 to take his underwear off, more power to him!

I more or less feel the same but some of these folks are NOT carrying of the fantasy. As I mentioned earlier, I pass for a decade younger than I am. So to have someone claiming to be 15 years younger than me LOOK 10-15 years older than my chronological age is off-putting.

I'm generally into guys who are 35 and up, so I don't run into this as much. Still, I am okay with a few years, particularly if they look younger. People generally guess that I'm a decade younger than my age. However, if someone claims to be 25 and they're clearly 40, that makes me think they're untrustworthy or deluded.

I agree with those who highlight consent. As an SA survivor, I think it's important to remember that consent can be revoked at any time, even by someone you're paying. So be very clear about what you want upfront and also check in as you go.

This guy was out of bounds. I run into providers from time to time. If they're regulars we might have a chat. We follow each other on Instagram, and in the contexts where I run into them (gay clubs, bars, concerts), it's easy to just know each other from the scene. Some of them are full SWs and open about it. Others are more discreet, so I am respectful and judge the situation by their response.

I looked myself up. Oddly I’ve never pulled a no show so curious who this was.

I'm not sure where you're located, but if it's a city of any size or a hotel of any size, seeing two men of different ages and looks is not unusual. We were in Mexico City in July and there were two men who I couldn't decide if they were father and son or a couple. The hotel staff couldn't care less. What to you feels like a scintillating experience is just Monday to them. Particularly if you're not engaged in any public displays of affection, IF they take notice - and that's a big IF - they will likely think your friends or colleagues.

I feel the same way. I don't even find 21-year-olds attractive. They're not done baking to me and are nearly always bad at sex. Plus in my experience, the younger, more ripped guys can act like they're doing you a favor. But I don't value youth, so I'm like "meh..." For me, guys in their mid-30s to 40s are ideal escorts. They tend to have been in the business for a while and have been successful enough to last a decade or more. Or, they're guys with other interests or work who escort because they love sex and having it with various people. Regarding @Jarrod_Uncut raising his prices, I think he should. Nearly everyone has experienced inflation and everything costs more. I've noticed that providers who lived near us and who we host don't really charge more but those who are visiting and paying for a hotel, etc, have raised their prices.

Was there a HE? Or just the massage?

Nothing like making assumptions... I run my place of employment, so that's not my concern. And, if such a photo was leaked, I'd say "yep, that's me. I have sex."Might that shock some people? Maybe. But I've never cared what others thought of me. Again, for someone who does or used to engage in this hobby you mostly project a very low opinion of those in the profession.

This post is mind boggling for two reasons. It's dehumanizing of providers when most of us would attest that our experiences are overall good and often great. If you think of all the famous women who have had exes or agents or photographers leak their photos, it doesn't seem we have to worry about escorts. Second, if you have social media (Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn), anyone can take a photo of you and claim anything about you. And in this era of deep fakes and AI-assisted video and graphic design, people with the right skills can copy your voice, etc. I wouldn't sweat someone having your picture.

He does nothing for me. He couldn’t pay me to be massaged by him. That you choose to pay more for a masseur without tattoos is fine. People pay more for youth, looks, musculature, etc. maybe it’s the NYC market but there are plenty of providers who don’t have tattoos. Why is it so hard for people in here to not “yuck other people’s yum?” If you don’t like tattoos, don’t get any and don’t hire guys who have them. What you do not have to do is post on here about how tattoos show that people are desecrating their bodies, showing they’re low class or any other moral or ethical judgment.

This entire paragraph is just confirmation bias. You follow some guys without tattoos and see they get good reviews but you have no control group, you have no way of discerning if their lack of tattoos is meaningful. I've already posted an actual study that shows you're in the minority, and that minority is growing as boomers die out and millennials and Gen Z make up more of the population. I'm not an escort so I don't know why you think I'd be angry or venomous about a minority of anonymous clients being opposed to them. Since most escorts have some tattoos it's more for me!

Go back and read what you wrote. If you said, "I don't care for tattoos", that's fine. But you called them disgusting an went on a complete diatribe about those of us who have them. I don't care for facial hair on 99% of men. Search this forum and see if you ever find me saying that beards are "disgusting, ruin people's face" or anything that is equivalent to your remarks.

Sure, as you can see the vast majority of people see tattoos as a non-issue. A minority of people find them unattractive or indicative of someone being less respectable. But, again, it's a minority. United States - perception of people with tattoos 2015 | Statista WWW.STATISTA.COM This statistic shows the results of a 2015 survey among adult Americans on the perception of people with...

You sound like MItt Romney. The vast majority of people like or are unfazed by tattoos, piercings and other body art. This relentless obsession that some of you have with wanting physical perfection (which is, of course, entirely subjective) is a huge boner killer. It makes you sound completely out of touch with most human beings.

I texted him twice to set up appointments and he never responded. I gave up after that.