KensingtonHomo

Block him. You life will be improved. I don't believe a word he's saying. I think he's a sad, closeted guy who takes his anger out on people.

Yup. I finally blocked some of the worst offenders because they make being on here miserable. I really wish the moderators would take a heavier hand toward this toxic behavior.

It doesn't help that certain clients constantly insinuate that everyone who hires except them is ancient, obese and disfigured.

We live in an age of deep fakes. If you have an online presence, anyone could make up a story about you hiring hookers for scat play. And mostly no one will care. Certainly not the police.

Same.

Archeology, anthropology, and sociology are not "social justice theory." You have little knowledge of cultures outside your own, virtually no historical knowledge, and cry "social justice warrior" when you cannot produce a rational argument. It's truly an Emperor's New Clothes situation.

That’s because you don’t understand sociology or the impact of mass media on sexual culture. Nor do you appreciate that most counties that lack capitalist media are sex segregated, marriages are arranged, etc. In fact, what constitutes attractiveness in those cultures is vastly different. Rather than putting your ignorance on display you could educate yourself.

There's nothing wrong with finding a younger (or older) person attractive. But having an aversion to people our own age is socially produced largely through capitalist media. If one believes that people their own age are sexually repellant, they also believe that about themselves (or they're a narcissist or sociopath). That's just how our minds work. It also means that long time couples - who have been indoctrinated - are likely to let their sex lives fall apart as they age. And one or both will rationalize this by saying "It's natural that I don't find my aging partner attractive." But none of that is natural. The most natural way for humans to live based on archeological and anthropological studies (see the book Sex at Dawn) is in relatively large, multigenerational communities with some degree of primary relationships but also sex outside of those relationships. The resulting children are raised by the community even if they have primary caregivers.

I've explained this before. Putting aside sexual desire for mating, which would have us all attracted to young women with big hips and busts, everything else is socially constructed. We are inundated with media that show highly specific kinds of beauty, which creates these desires - mostly to sell us shit that is not sex.

From what you’ve said you’re not the subject of this thread. I don’t recall you writing endless posts about how unattractive men your own age are. I also do not usually care for facial hair, though I make exceptions. But I maintain that if someone has a sexual aversion to people of their own age, they should look very closely at that. It’s not natural and likely internalize homophobia and ageism.

Yeah, it could be that too.

Since you're a provider, I will take your word for your experience. I do not expect a provider to comment on my appearance. I'm just letting them know what I look like so when I buzz their apartment, they'll know it's me and not the Amazon delivery guy. Based on many regular posters here, your first concern about people assuming a complimentary provider is disingenuous seems very real. I'm not an ego maniac but I'm very confident that I am conventionally attractive. The second concern seems odd because I don't think someone genuinely complimenting a potential client is unprofessional. If a hairdresser said, "Wow, you have very thick hair", I'd think that was nice but also irrelevant. Regarding your third concern, I think the best response would be, "Thanks for sharing the photo; I look forward to meeting you." But it does seem that some people on here are convinced that you and other providers are disgusted by most of your clients. No provider can win over someone with that mindset.

No experience but the spot above his pubic area looks like a scar/keloid.

You need a VPN and then to choose a country (I used Switzerland) where escorting is legal.

Same here. I think it's odd to expect anyone to show up at your door or let you into their home sight unseen.

Per hour, most therapists are cheaper than an escort.

This is really a matter for your therapist. Because if you're in bed with a skilled lover as you say, you're likely preventing yourself from finishing due to your own psychology.

No thanks. I’d rather people have bodily autonomy.

Having seen Wagner recently, I think @edinbrooklyn means he’s kinder and sweeter than his muscular, tattooed rough appearance.

I don’t think there’s any sociological evidence to support this point of view. Arguably it’s the opposite. The sex work and workers who are targeted by law enforcement are usually poor or working in marginalized communities. The former president of the US is on trial for paying off Stormy Daniels to keep their transaction a secret. Trump and his ilk employ sex workers all the time with zero accountability. Legalization would end the harm that occurs to sex workers due to criminalization, recognize that people have been paying for sex and companionship since civilization, and allow law enforcement to focus on people being trafficked.

I was not in my 20s in the 70s but I was very grateful to my predecessors who fought for that first nondiscrimination laws, who founded GMHC and ACT UP, who created and entire culture and when I was in high school and college were bearing the brunt of the AIDS crisis. Honestly, it’s even more disrespectful for young queers today to lack appreciation when the information is so readily available. And the rising tide of anti-queer fascism is cutting our rights off left and right in many states. So the kids should wake up before they find themselves in a pre-Stonewall situation just like we’re in a post-Roe situation.

This is a terrible analogy. First, lots of queer men from every generation have raised children. Several of my friends (Gen Xers) have children, biological, step and adopted. Second, younger people in a marginalized community should be grateful to their forbearers. Should African Americans take MLK for granted? Third, me and most of my friends are very grateful to our parents for what they did for us. Sure, we had bratty moments as teenagers but as an adult - whether you're a parent or not - you realize how much your parent(s) provided you with love, security, mentoring, etc. Lastly. as a non-parent, I see a lot of parents in my generation doing an absolutely shit job and raising little entitled narcissists. That's not "natural." That's just bad parenting.

We see a bi provider whose partner is a woman and also a sex worker. He told us that her vetting process is extensive: MrNumber search Asks for references from other escorts No face pics Non-negotiable 50% deposit (and her rates are three times the average gay escort) And there's some stuff I can't remember. I'm not saying we should feel bad for straight guys hiring but, for me, it helps to have a broader sense of the field.

I don't have anxiety but I do my best to ensure I'm pristinely clean before engaging.

This is so true. It's why I - as bottom - do not rim most guys I have sex with because tops don't know how to keep their asshole clean.