KensingtonHomo

I'm surprised the legal issue didn't come up sooner. If an escort sets prices for specific acts, arguing that the money is compensation for their time becomes difficult. I am pretty explicit about what I want. If someone doesn't offer that, I move on. The guy who recently stiffed me on my deposit, and I canceled because he said he doesn't kiss. If I'm hiring an escort who lists themselves as a top and offers various services, I expect them to be included in the overall price. Of course, if someone shows up smelling or dirty, a provider has every right to refuse service.

I want to reach out to CollegeBoy for this weekend. His profile doesn't list a phone number. For those who met him, did you message him through Rentmen?

In my experience, if it's a quick shower it doesn't matter.

I mostly agree with you. In fact, if we're having an escort over, the Virgo in me insists on cleaning like we're having a dinner party. I'm sober and my husband only drinks socially, so that rarely comes up. Regarding our first impression of the provider, I think manners go a long way toward having that be positive. And hygiene should not be an issue. It's the summer in NYC, so offering a shower is always good if I show up sweaty or the provider does. I am personally susceptible to smell and do not like anything more than a hint of musk. So I avoid providers who talk about armpits or being "ripe" in their profiles. I don't have any issue with those who enjoy it, but I literally could not have sex with someone who smells. Same for excessive cologne.

That's what I thought. I do understand that a lot of tops prefer raw sex (many think it feels better) but as a bottom I can barely tell the difference. So the idea of upcharging for someone who wants to avoid possibly getting or transmitting an STI is just whack.

I almost admire the gall of someone who catfished you to try and flip it into something long term. We’re the pics of him but at a different age/fitness level or someone else?

We just had a weird experience with Logan. We’re vacationing in Maui and there’s very few escorts. It turns out, he was going to be here for part of the time we are. We chatted a few times over a the last couple of weeks so arrange stuff. today, he texts that he’ll be arriving in Maui at 6. We discussed meeting up tonight. Confirmed a time and then he says “I’m traveling with a buddy. We do 4 handed erotic massage. Would you be interested in that?” We weren’t prepared to pay for two escorts so we said no. After some time I wrote. “Is that a dealbreaker?” And he said “yes it is.” His buddy lists his age as 22, and he’s not terribly attractive. So I have no idea what’s going on here but be warned if you reach out.

I'm inclined to agree with @Saabster. While I will send a deposit of no more than $50, the aggressive language is a turn-off. And insisting that you pay the rest before anything happens is a red flag. You'll see many people on here who paid upfront and got shorted time or suddenly promised services were not available. So I will make a deposit but I will not pay upfront. Christian

Yeah, we're looking at a provider right now and his profile says he's straight. However, in researching him he seems INCREDIBLY gay. All his porn is gay; his Insta is gay, etc. And he's not ubermasculine or what have you. So I'm guessing it's just a marketing tactic. Edited to add: We're going someplace with very few listed providers or I wouldn't have considered someone who said they were "straight."

I'm sorry to hear of your mother's passing. How far in advance did you cancel? I feel like 24 hours or more notice is not something to worry about.

I was recently burned by a provider that I sent a deposit to but it hasn't turned me off to the practice. I wouldn't send $250. But I'm generally open to $25-$50 depending on how much the total will be. I feel it's a reservation fee and having done this for 5 years and only been burned once, it seems most guys are legit. Caveat that I also check reviews and on here before I send on.

I'm cackling at the idea that both some clients and providers - who are MEN - are too precious for there to be body hair. Most men have a decent amount of body hair. So, expecting them to show up looking like dolphins or putting that expectation on yourself is giving into a pathological obsession with unrealistic looks in our community. Sure, we all have our preferences, and that's great. Oddly, I don't like facial hair, so I sometimes ask if a provider is sporting a beard or mustache. No one is offended. To the OP, I agree that if you want to see him again, tell him you're a bit hairier now. I also think it won't be an issue.

I hate them. If someone brings one out, I'm like "no thank you."

You guys have totally piqued my interest.

I think that @Walt is right. But if you've seen someone before and their profile is expired, it might just mean they're busy. But I've reached out to guys before who are still working and happy to see me. If the profile is deleted, I usually get no response.

I just searched Las Vegas on Rent.men and there was a ton of fit, muscular and ripped guys on there.

It sounds to me like you have a specific type (muscular) and "sexy", the latter of which is entirely subjective. We certainly have plenty of conventionally muscular men here. I don't find overly muscular men attractive. I prefer everything from average to tall and lanky - kind of naturally athletic looking but also into dorky guys. What is the typical Vegas type? Are they skinny?

Do you live in a city with no or only a few providers? I"m wondering why it was bad for these guys.

He's okay. If that's what you're into. I'll be giving my money to my fellow queers.

Yes, starting on top is the best approach. You can face him so you can see him, and you can take it at your own pace. Another piece of advice, which is going to be a challenge your first few times is that you have to RELAX. So, you need to start warming up. Get a dildo (not too big) and use that with a lot of lube. When you feel pain or resistance, stop - take a deep breath and as you breathe out through your mouth imaging your rectum relaxing. Do this until he's in. And then start slowly moving up and down. Once you're warm and open, he can take over. The Bottom's Digest on YouTube is also a great resource: https://www.youtube.com/@BottomsDigest

Let's not use the word "junkie." I've known many good people who ended up with substance abuse issues. The current thinking is that addiction is caused not by the substance but by the social and psychological circumstances of the user. That's why people who are healthy, well-adusted, and have strong social ties can have surgery, use oxycontin for a few days or weeks, and then never think about it again. However, if you have unaddressed trauma, low social ties, extreme stress and other factors, you can become dependent. Johan Hari's book "Chasing the Scream" is an incredible historical look at addiction. The short version is criminalization makes everything worse.

Obviously, you're going to see a lot of different scenarios. For instance, we mostly host providers. It's just our preference. But we're in a building in NYC, and we average 1-2 a month, some regulars. So there's the anonymity of NYC, plus we don't have a parade of randos every week. I would not worry about inviting over a provider who is well reviewed on here and RM.

I haven't been since 1995. I fooled around with a hot gymnast and then ran into my ex who I mooned over for the rest of the time I was there.

I'm not sure how many providers would admit to that. We've had it happen a few times. Sometimes, I suspect the guys have already been working in the past 24 hours. Other times, I think it's nerves. I am surprised that more guys don't take viagra to ensure they can perform.

I feel like there has to be quite a few in London.