KensingtonHomo

Speaking of reality. The OP never said he was "roughed up." Many escorts identify as "doms," "daddies," "frat bros," or other role-play characters, where "thug" can also sit comfortably as part of a client's fantasy. Lots of women get raped and assaulted by Fraternity bros. So if I hire someone who advertises as a college guy, frat type do I deserve to get roofied and raped?

There’s a lot of truth here. I would include genuinely bi guys as well. We actually had a 26 year old provider over today. We see him occasionally and he’s smart, mature and an absolute tiger in the sack. But he doesn’t have abs. 😂😂😂

Yes. This is well put. I do wish he’d posted the provider’s profile because even accounting for some questionable decisions on his part this “provider” sounds like a scam artist.

I'm so sorry you went through this. I doubt you were ever in danger of law enforcement. It sounds to me like this guy was a grifter who never intended to provide the service. I am surprised that more clients aren't at least sympathetic to your experience. While it's true that you had options, it can be hard to see them when you're dealing with a lot of anxiety. I do find it hard to understand why you would agree to meet a provider at a bath house, if you had a negative experience at one before. Why not a hotel? Was it a cost issue?

I don’t know of any in the US besides those already named. SleepyBoy is way better in the UK tho.

I don't mind sending a face pic because I won't meet a provider without one. But that's once all the details have been worked out. Similar to what @GentJ said, knowing what someone looks like creates some sense of familiarity. I use photos that are more or less publicly available, so if someone ever attempted to use them against me, I'd say, "They took that from X website." That's partly why I don't understand most guys' reluctance to send a face pic. Unless you have no social media presence or business online, almost anyone can find a public photo of you.

The best experience I had in LA was with Joel Someone but he's more of a daddy type. But what a fun, engaging and sexually adept man.

There are ample examples of this among a few regular posters here, who frequently dehumanize providers.

We are still treating the providers we hire with kindness and respect. And I haven't noticed any increase in poor manners from providers. We have a few regulars and occasionally hire outside of that. I haven't noticed any decline in their behavior either. I did have a rather insane interaction in Leeds where the provider asked to meet for a drink before our appointment. He turned out to have rather conservative beliefs, and was offended when I disagreed with him. The conversation got a bit heated and when I excused myself to the bathroom, he left before I got back. I had already decided I wasn't interested in continuing the date and was going to offer him some money for his time. But he bolted. That shows that discussing politics in these situations is never a good idea.

The amount of "telling on yourselves" in this thread is mind-boggling. 🤣

I've seen him discussed many times. It's quite sad what he's done to his body. I suspect his saying "no sex" is because he cannot perform due to his modifications. If someone wants a sugar daddy, they probably need to be more adaptable. And with his modifications, he's left himself desirable only to a small community.

I saw this provider last night and it was a great experience. He’s a very warm and kind person. Great energy. His mix of sound and Nuru techniques were both sensual and relaxing. Will definitely see him again. His apartment is also very nice and super tidy.

“Attack?” That’s a bit hyperbolic. I pointed out that I would not enjoy or prioritize what you had as criteria. I don’t even think your kink is that remarkable. What irritated me about your criteria was your vision that some men are superior than others-particularly those whose mindsets are focused on accumulating wealth for its own sake. As we are social and communal animals, people with that mindset are maladapted. And as that mindset has become pervasive, it’s corroded our society.

I cannot imagine caring about whether or not a provider invests his money. I don't even know how it would come up. I'm quite friendly with a few regulars and we've never discussed our portfolios. I understand not wanting to hire addicts who are messy but if a provider wants to smoke a joint, take an edible or go out dancing on E outside of our appointments, it's really not my business. Also, the topic of investing makes me want to gouge my own eyes out. I do it because we live under this capitalist hellscape and I'd rather not end up eating cat food in my old age. But if a provider brought it up, I'd probably run for the door. In fact, I'd rather trade stories about fun nights at a club or weird drug experiences since I had my youthful days of partying. A person use of drugs or investing doesn't make them "superior" to anyone else. In fact, people who work in the financial markets are notorious for their aggressive drug use, and let's not get into what goes on a frat parties.

I can do you one better. We've had clients ask us to unlock our pictures. I always decline them. It's hard to know why someone is doing this. Perhaps they find you attractive (if you have pictures). But I'm not sure it matters, unless you have information that can trace to your actual name, etc. You may be able to block them.

It's NYC! What do you want to do? Do you know his interests? You could see a show. You could explore cool restaurants. The weather is nice so you could head to Central Park or Union Square park.

Same here. I'm usually honest to the extent I can be.

Does this gaslighting work in your real life? Do people fall for it? I'm curious how you find such easy marks.

Because 20-somethings are not of interest to us sexually. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Baby, you wish you were as hot, fun, and sexy as I am, given our similar ages. Never mind that my husband is model gorgeous. You often confuse me for those people you look down your nose at on here because "they have to PAY for sex." Because they're too old or too large or not conventionally attractive enough. We pay primarily for convenience and to find skilled partners. We could easily have a line of 20-somethings by just going on Grindr. And you're also wrong about women; probably because you don't have any women friends (except your wife). But vast, clear majorities of women in study after study prefer men with "dad bods" over ripped and chiseled bodies. The Unexpected Appeal of Men With Dad Bods | Psychology Today WWW.PSYCHOLOGYTODAY.COM The non-physical traits attributed to those bodies are the key. In praise of Olly Murs' before bod: why we don't actually fancy the ripped bods WWW.STANDARD.CO.UK What is a “dad bod” and what does the phenomenon reveal about our psyches and social worlds? Among Pubic's many virtues is his consistent misogyny, despite being married to a woman. It is, Blanche. It is. I have a challenge for you. Show how you write on here to any provider and let us know if he doesn't run for the door.

Oh, you're back. We thought someone had dropped a house on you. I don't eat fast food. So when I EAT I want to YUMMY food that is well prepared and plated well. If only you actually believed "to each his own," instead of insisting your penchant for hairless, 20-something twunks is the universal ideal of beauty. You're like those straight guys who couldn't believe women preferred the dad bod over the ripped bod.

I probably said earlier that I'm not generally drawn to "premium" or "Instagram" providers. Putting aside that abs and such don't really appeal to me, I find that personality, charm, and "being game" makes for the best providers. The guys we see regularly are attractive but probably not "Instagram" models. We generally aim for 30s and 40s age-wise but have good experiences with some guys in their late 20s. The latter is hit or miss because we may not have much in common. But it's really HOW they handle their clients that makes us repeat clients. Are they responsive when we reach out? Are they considerate and communicative? Do they show up sober, energetic, and ready to play? Are they kind? Of course, there are exception but we tend to find those things to be true among providers who are a bit older and more seasoned.

Okay, now I'm on to you. There have been a few long-time members who have recently stopped posting. I'm fairly certain you're one of them, as your writing style is nearly identical. A similar obsession with youth and beauty being the only currency in sex work. Why am I not a professional athlete? Maybe because I don't like sports. I also don't hire "Instagram models" because I don't find that type attractive.

He joined Rentmen like three weeks ago. He has a basic, white-guy gym body. Requesting stats probably means he wants to meet up with other "hot guys." My guess is that he lost his job and is trying to make money as an escort, but he probably isn't really cut out for it.

Girl, I don't know who you think you're talking to, but this response reads as a TROLL. You come in swinging on someone who is among the first to advocate for providers and - as said above - am happy to pay a reasonable deposit. You have totally gotten the wrong person. There may be people like that on here but I'm not one of them. Rather, I'm an excellent client with several regulars. This part, I believe. I'm an above-average-looking, fit, and fun guy of a similar age. So our experiences are bound to be different. "The top of the food chain..." is exactly the kind of toxic thinking that leads clients to treat providers poorly.