KensingtonHomo

Sure, but since he cannot come consistently, why not find someone else? If you're flying to see him or him to see you, I'm sure you can find someone who meets all your needs.

I'm sorry that you felt/feel this way. There's so much pressure to be young in gay culture. It's quite sad because we internalize these pressures and it robs us of enjoying our lives as fully as we could.

On the surface level, it doesn't seem like you're compatible. You want a particular experience that he seems incapable of delivering consistently. Is there something outside of sex that keeps you coming back to him?

Since my husband and I mostly hire together, we often have threesomes. I find that with any sex people occasionally need a break because they've been going too hard, or they're overwhelmed with stimulation. I don't see that to be an issue. If anything, it's an advantage of having more than two people. That said, depending on participants' preferences (who's a top, bottom, vers), I could see someone feeling pressured to perform throughout. But we usually try to assure the other guys that they're allowed ot take a break.

This cannot be emphasized enough. If you look at providers' posts on here, the most common complaint is that a client isn't hygienic.

I call everyone "girl." It's certainly not meant as an insult. I find most women far superior to most men, so if anything, it's a compliment. Also frequently use "hooker," "bitch," or "hoe." But not in a sexual context.

I'm not into guys who immediately jump to "bro speak." Like calling me "bud," "buddy," "bro." I'm both too mature and too femme to be anyone's "bro." I assume that it's part of the "masc for masc" fantasy that so many guys are into, but it's a turn-off. Similarly, "Daddy" is a huge turn-off. I tell guys my name in my initial message. For me, the safest thing is to address me that way.

Assuming the guy advertises as "sensual," I ask what that means to them. That way, they can tell me what they're comfortable with. I've certainly had encounters where what's on offer is greater than what is initially shared.

In my "ho" phase, which was mostly before social media, I always sent the name, phone number and address of whoever I was meeting to a friend. I'd been SA'd twice before college, so I needed a backup.

This is 💯. I know female providers. Any quality woman escort has a lot more requirements and costs 3-5 times what man does. And it's exactly because it's much more dangerous.

Do you let strangers into your home? I don't. I wouldn't even accept a hook-up from Grindr without a face pic. Because I'm not opening my door to someone I don't know. The idea that escorts should abandon that basic security measure is wild. Some of you seem to think that an escort having your face pic is damning evidence that you've broken the law. It's not. If you have a LinkedIn or Facebook profile, there's a public face pic of you out there. If it ever came up that an escort had it, well, it's public. Anyone could have it. I also note that this tends to correlate with people who can't or don't want to host. It seems to me that your "discretion" likely results from you stepping out on your partner/spouse without their knowledge. That's really the issue. And, as someone who cares a great deal about consent, having sex with people other than your partner without their knowledge is unethical.

You didn't answer my question. And you're not a moderator, so buzz off.

If you think your services are worth more than your quoted price, why not raise it? I'm more likely to tip someone I've seen more than once, especially if it's over a few months or more than a year, since they generally don't raise their rates. But when someone sets their own price and keeps it all, a tip seems unnecessary. I'm also more likely to tip someone who charges a lower rate ($350/hour) than someone who charges $500/hour. The latter, I'm hard-pressed to consider hiring, as my experience is that providers charging that much tend to be less skilled and less fun than those in the $300-$400 range.

What does that mean? I’ve been with my husbands for 24 years so I’ve never been on a dating app.

I learned how to do that in high school.

From my POV as a client, who has a busy life, I generally include the day and time I’m looking for - it’s generally a 3-4 hour window. If that doesn’t work, I have to move on. And we have 2-3 providers that we have great chemistry with so usually one is free. We also generally plan several days to a couple of weeks in advance. Some providers tell me to reach out the day before. I don’t do that unless it’s a regular.

I wouldn’t go near it. He wants to monetize his sex life. His profile says: “Best matches are also fit and are on the masc side. No use in meeting if we don't vibe.” I can’t imagine he’ll do well.

I have met one provider, Strong Strokes, without seeing his face but he's a masseur. Only because he was raved about and I was given a decent sense of his looks. He is very handsome and very much my type. I've seen him many times over the past three years. But he could just as easily not have been my type.

If you're doing it correctly, absolutely.

I do enjoy the face fucking.

I'm totally fine with a provider not posting his face pics. Some guys do this as a side hustle, some are in relationships, etc. But if I'm not attracted to someone's face, I'm not going to be interested. That said, I'm happy to do a video call if that's the provider's preference. As long as there's some way to see the provider before we set the appointment.

Sorry, this just doesn't comport with the providers on here, not anonymously, say. Nor does it reflect what the providers I see regularly say about their business. Are we expected to believe you get hundreds of texts a day? That you spend hours responding to them? I feel like you're overstating your case, and you came in real hot on a thread where no one did anything wrong. That said, I don't think anyone should waste anyone's time, nor do I think (honestly, it wouldn't even occur to me) that guys should be texting or calling a provider to get their jollies off. That's disrespectful and also just fucking weird. Like go on Pornhub, bro.

As an initial response to @soloyo215 query, this is a LOT. I'm the first to leap to providers' defense, but this and the rest of your response read as entitled and out of touch. Nearly every person who has a customer-facing job - especially one where you're a solo practitioner (hairdressers, make-up artists, realtors, salespeople) deals with some unserious inquiries. If I'm looking to rent an apartment or book a massage, I may reach out to a few providers to see who fits my schedule and budget. That is not wasting your time. That is an initial inquiry to see if it's worth moving ahead. Now, I rarely reach out to a provider looking for an appointment on the same day. I'm generally planning several days, sometimes a couple of weeks in advance. And often providers don't want to commit that far in advance. I'm also not masturbating to their pics at any point. As someone who also texts people and fields inquiries at times, I also have standard replies. It would take me under 20 seconds to copy a standard reply from my Notes app to iMessage. So, if you receive five inquiries in a day, you're spending 2-3 minutes total replying to those initial texts. That's not a lot of time to vet clients when you're charging $400 to $500/hour.

Yes, a provider's reply definitely makes a difference. Do they reply in a reasonable amount of time? Is their response friendly? Does it answer my initial questions? Of the responses you received, I would agree with how you ranked them.

I can’t say. I married for love not money. I had a very wealthy boyfriend when I was in my early 20s. He was about a decade older. Handsome, great in bed but wanted everything HIS way. I decided I’d rather be poor than under any man’s thumb. It all worked out in the end.