KensingtonHomo

I'm sure some people just move on but I'm much more interested in what a provider says about themselves than their photos. The one rule I rarely break is that I won't meet without seeing a face pic.

I can see yours. I guess some providers are putting some as private.

I'm confused. I'm a paying member of RM and the Premium photos are locked to me. I assumed escorts were doing this to keep "shoppers" from seeing the goods without interaction.

As a client, I like hearing from escorts who I'm not likely to hire - mostly due to geography - about what they like or dislike about clients. I think it makes me a better client.

I'm just using this as an example not to drag Bozo per se, but I find it ironic that so many clients who regularly complain about providers on here - often going over the same topics (deposits, looks, flakiness, scheduling drama) again and again. Why do clients get to hem and haw over the same issues over and over again, but a provider who is dealing with a difficult environment gets blamed? I've mentioned before how often I find comments about providers on here dehumanizing. This is another example. If you don't want to engage with Jarrod's posts, you can simply add him to your block list. Coming to his threads and telling him to quit or stop complaining is just nasty and unnecessary. The majority of Americans are unhappy in their jobs. And even those who like or love what they do have bad times and need to vent. Why is Jarrod not afforded the same latitude? Job unhappiness is at a staggering all-time high, according to Gallup WWW.CNBC.COM Workers are unhappy and disengaged, to a staggering degree, according to Gallup, and it's a big issue for...

Yes, I've seen this not only among masseurs I see but also masseurs advertising lack a package rate (3 massages for X price). I suspect they're trying to drum up business like any service provider.

This is what I've most experienced and appreciated from providers we see regularly. Either keeping the price the same when they're charging new clients more or not watching the clock as closely, e.g. letting an hour-long massage session go into 1:15 or coming over for 2 hours and staying 2.5. And we tip a bit more in those instances.

"Innocent until proven guilty" is a legal standard, not a cultural one. The Courts and a jury, if one is involved, need to maintain a presumption of innocence; we do not. It's shocking that you can see all the men who got away with being predators for decades (Weinstein, Cosby, Epstein) and continue to ask why women didn't come forward sooner. What Me Too changed is that survivors feel more confident coming forward because doing so will no longer destroy their lives and careers. When I was sexually assaulted at 16, there wasn't much evidence left and no witnesses. The world was much more homophobic then, so what would happen if I came forward? I would have been dismissed as countless women were for most of modern history.

I don’t believe he’s accused of human trafficking like Tate but we’ll see.

This is ridiculous. Most sexual assaults are not reported let alone prosecuted, including mine. Watching a bunch of gay men claim women are destroying the careers of men (I can count on one hand the number who’ve faced real consequences) is just gross. There is extensive data going back decades showing how widespread sexual harassment and assault are. Brand’s accusers are all women he worked with where he had a lot of power. And other people are coming forward to say this was an open secret for years.

Only on here.

I’ve seen one guy without a face pic bc he was so well regarded on here. And he’s become one my favorite regulars. This was for massage. Not sure I’d do it for an escort session.

I don’t lick anyone’s armpits. I get that some guys are super into them, but they don’t hold any appeal to me.

Uhhhh, I never said I wanted to "dictate" or "change" a provider's grooming habits. I was looking for a way to broach what a provider typically does in terms of grooming because I've hired guys whose pictures show them with hair and they should up bald. If they prefer to have no pubic hair, they're not the provider for me.

Hey Providers, I am incredibly sensitive to smell, and while I don’t mind a bit of natural musk, I much prefer men who wear deodorant and keep their crotches smelling fresh. I know many of my brethren like pit smell and such but it’s not for me. is there a sensitive way to bring this up to a provider? If a guy really doesn’t want to wear deodorant, that’s cool but he’s not the provider for me. Similarly, I like some public hair but not 70s bush or completely shaven. Nice way to ask about that? I do my best to be respectful of providers and their choices but if someone has a strong odor or is completely bare in their crotch, I’m really turned off. Thanks in advance.

While I agree SOME people feel this way, it is a horrible mindset to approach being a client or a provider.

On the one hand, I get the question. I was offered an opportunity to do sex work (kind of a bordello situation) in college. But PreP wasn't yet available and as a bottom, and as a twink who looked younger than my age (twink tops weren't a thing yet), I felt it was entirely too risky. Plus I'd been sexually assaulted twice at that point, so I was very cautious. But if I were in my 20s now, I'd probably do it. BUT the biggest obstacle for most men is that they are raised to pursue sex, even up to paying for it. Women are socialized to make themselves beautiful, be service-oriented, and exchange affection and sex for material security. Most men are just not. And, even in more sex-positive communities, I know many sex workers who insist on discretion because it's a side hustle, and being "outed" could ruin their other careers. Particularly in NYC there are lots of escorts whose real passion is the arts.

I think you're recalling the hysteria over "popcorn lung" in teenagers. While some teenagers did get irreparable lung damage it wasn't from using FDA-reviewed vaping products like Juul. Rather, they were ordering marijuana and other illicit types of vaping juice online. I suspect this died down as more places legalized recreational weed. I wouldn't say vaping it harmless. But, thus far, it seems to be far less harmful than cigarette smoking.

I prefer more average and diverse-looking guys in porn. Similar to what advertising and porn have done to women, gay men constantly pressure each other to appear like the statue of David (or better). It's very unhealthy for us, individually and collectively.

The best part is that he has reviews and none of them paid him more than $225 and that was in April. 🤷🏻‍♂️

As a client, when a provider's profile is up to date and has photos, I don't need more. When I reach out, I want to confirm price, compatibility, and logistics. I try to be mindful of a provider's time and not waste it if we're not going to meet up.

I've been texting with him. He wants $325 for an erotic massage - ($275 if he keeps his underwear on). I told him that was more than I would pay, as I can get a sensual/erotic massage for $200-$250. He was very polite. If he can get guys to pay him an extra $50 to take his underwear off, more power to him!

I more or less feel the same but some of these folks are NOT carrying of the fantasy. As I mentioned earlier, I pass for a decade younger than I am. So to have someone claiming to be 15 years younger than me LOOK 10-15 years older than my chronological age is off-putting.

I'm generally into guys who are 35 and up, so I don't run into this as much. Still, I am okay with a few years, particularly if they look younger. People generally guess that I'm a decade younger than my age. However, if someone claims to be 25 and they're clearly 40, that makes me think they're untrustworthy or deluded.

I agree with those who highlight consent. As an SA survivor, I think it's important to remember that consent can be revoked at any time, even by someone you're paying. So be very clear about what you want upfront and also check in as you go.