KensingtonHomo

You're the queen of projection. Given that you live a completely heterosexual lifestyle, you should really mind your business about LGBTQ issues.

Exactly. I'm reading a lot of internalized homophobia in this thread. "Gay men are the creepy neighbor." "Don't be perving on your neighbor's 34-YEAR-OLD son." If he was coming over to detail Ali Gator's car (with no RM Ad) and AG tried to entice him into something, THAT would be creepy and possibly cause drama.

I don't see a problem here unless you're very close to his parents and you would feel awkward having slept with their son. He didn't create an RM profile for you. He approached you and told you he's taking "odd jobs." And he's working in your area. Even if he does move back, he's not going to live across the street from you. The only downside I can imagine is his parents or a nosy neighbor noticing him coming and going from your house.

I love that you took the plunge. Was he vers or a bottom? I like his look, but I'm getting a bottom vibe (also, you can't get tops to shut up about it). He's also a bit young for my taste but I like his chest hair.

Ooh, I haven't noticed him before. Very sexy. Curious if others have met him.

I cannot imagine why anyone cares that a chain restaurant is rebranding.

PS: I'm at a point in my life where I cannot sleep in, so I would also probably be jealous of a provider who could snooze till noon. LOL

It's a bit hard to say as we don't know what kind of trip it is. Are you at a resort? Are you seeing a new city? If it's the former, I can see sleeping in as that's a relaxing trip. There's probably not a lot on your agenda. If it's the former, he would be holding you back from seeing the sights. I somewhat agree with @sync that this provider may not be a suitable travel partner. It's also possible that there's a lack of communication regarding your expectations. If you are at a resort, do you go for breakfast? Do you expect him to go with you? From the tone of your post, I don't think you're upset about the money so much as being left to your own devices. If you're paying for companionship and not getting it, you probably feel lonely too. If you really enjoy this provider, you can have a conversation with him about your expectations and carve out reasonable time for him to workout, be on his own, etc. Even if you decide to go with another provider, I believe you would have to set expectations. Otherwise, how does a provider know what you're looking to get out of the trip?

As a power bottom, I looked at his profile which says he’s “versatile” and I thought “she’s a bigger bottom than I am.” So I’d say President and CEO of Bottoms Unlimited LLC. 😂

So I’ve been bottoming for over 35 years and I can count on one hand the number of times there’s even been a smell. Partly, I’m very in touch with my body. Partly, it’s because I’m very regular and have my douching game on lock. A lot of guys over douche, pushing water into their sigmoid colon. That’s where the feces stays BEFORE it’s ready to exit. When douching you only want to clear out there rectum and unless you’re doing fisting or other extreme anal play, getting water into the sigmoid colon will either make prepping take hours. Or it will get trapped there and while you’re fucking, a a move in the wrong direction can rapidly empathy the water poop from your sigmoid colon into the rectum. I recently had a little accident. I was getting a massage- no plan on getting fucked. But the provide was massaging my butt for a long time and I guess the pressure pushed a tiny bit out which he noticed. I was mortified. He was very kind about it. I went and washed off but it was over for me. I was turned off. And while we tried to get relaxed again, it didn’t work: With my husband or a provider I know, I probably could have gotten past it. Or been willing to see them again. But I also understand why the provider might not want to see @ThirdEye again. It’s not anything ThirdEye did. In fact, it sounds like he was awesome. But he’ll remind the provider of the accident, which sounds more severe than mine, and it can be hard to get past that.

That guy is an asshole.

I don't mind if providers contact me, if they're outside of NYC and passing through. Sometimes we can meet, sometimes we can't. If we have a great time with a provider, I generally send them a text within 24 hours saying we enjoyed the session and hope to see them again. They usually respond positively. For our regulars, we generally connect on Instagram and keep in touch that way.

Girl, this isn't even English.

You sound manic. Maybe it's time you seek help.

I don't know who you're hanging out with but your comments are bordering on homophobic.

Don't do that. Most of the providers I know don't live particularly extravagant lifestyles and many are sober.

It could mean a lot of things but I suspect at least that they didn't find their time with your unpleasant or objectionable. It could mean the rent is due. It could mean that they found you an "easy client" based on any number of factors: hygiene, looks, easygoingness, sexual prowess, etc. We have some regulars who will hit is up from time to time. I know we're pleasant, easygoing and attractive for our age, so I imagine we'd be high on desired regular client list. I think that more providers don't do it because in the US it's illicit work, and maybe they fear if they're seen as pestering, they'll get a bad review.

There is a difference between true professional sex workers like @BenjaminNicholas or @Jamie21 and many young, attractive men who want to monetize their sex lives. The latter I avoid like the plague; the former are cut from a different cloth.

Of course, this is my own blend of neurosis and being a virgo.

As I said, he belongs on Seeking Arrangements.

LOL - the amount of projection you're capable of is wild. And, no, we're not going to debate the use of the English language because you're not equipped for the task.

Oddly, I worry more about whether the house is clean enough; do we have something to drink; are the "hand towels" laundered? I'm conventionally attractive for someone my age (though I look ~10 years younger) - kind of a mash up of Domhall Gleason and Daniel Day-Lewis but GAY. My husband is a former model and actor, so quite handsome. He looks like Clark Kent. Similar to @jeezifonly we tend to hire guys closer in age to us - usually 30s or 40s. The only 20-something we've seen regularly is CollegeBoyforFun, and he's extremely mature.

You cannot disagree with facts. This is the equivalent of me saying "the earth revolves around the sun," and you saying "I think the sun revolves around the earth. Agree to disagree!" Edit: Let’s keep politics out of the discussion.

That is not objectification. It’s role play. Your failure to not understand what words mean is not my issue. One cannot consent to objectification nor can one objectify oneself. I am confident that you do objectify the men you hire. I suspect it’s necessary for you to get off. If they were people, you might have to be respectful of them and treat them as human beings. Regarding my one proclivities, I’m not remotely vanilla. But I don’t objectify or dehumanize the people I have sex with. 🤷🏻

This is not what objectification is, though. Objectification is the act of "degrading someone to the status of a mere object", which removes their humanity. It's not role playing or engaging in dom/sub activities or even having sex with someone whom you've just met or hired. It's treating someone as if they are not human, not a feeling, thinking person, but rather a tool. Fighting Sexual Objectification: How to Stop Objectifying Women | Integrative Life Center - Nashville, TN INTEGRATIVELIFECENTER.COM Uncover the negative impact of sexual objectification and learn how you can stop objectifying women, as... It seems like you're new here @DMonDude. I can see how you might think this is a disagreement over definition or interpretation. If so, @pubic_assistance's definition is incorrect. But, really, it's that over the past couple of years there's a pattern of him sexually objectifying providers to the extent that if he does not find them personally attractive, he makes dehumanhizing remarks about them. He also regularly opines that men on here who are older, overweight, out of shape, etc., "have to" pay to get anyone to touch them. That is also objectification. If these man are not sexually desirable in his eyes, they're worthless. And as you can see below, my insistence that every person deserve to be accorded basic dignity and respect is met claims that I'm full of "righteous indignation" based on an "elevated view of" myself. Not that I'm a sexual assault survivor, who is sensitive to providers feelings, or that I was raised to treat everyone with respect until they show themselves unworthy of it. Or that I'm extremely learned and well-read in social sciences, particularly with respect to the queer community. No, it must be that I'm trying to be a woke scold or some nonsense. You'll note that "white privilege" is in quotes because PA doesn't believe it's real. But I became aware of my white privilege before that was a regularly used term. In high school, everyone else who was out was black and latino. So those were my first queer friends, and I noted how we were treated differently whether shopping or in line for a club. Finally, a person cannot objectify themselves. Objectification happens in a social context and one cannot treat oneself as an object. At best, it could perhaps be argued that an Asian escort would accept that he's going ot be objectified or fetishized by clients. That doesn't make it right, nor does it make it healthy for either party.