KensingtonHomo

To me, he's quite average looking but he's not "weird." Honestly, what's weird about him?

Does your wife know you'd leave her for a hot man? If not, you absolutely should tell her. JFC.

He's not my cup of tea, but there's no need to demean him. He's a guy that @viewing ownly finds perfect. Good for him. He's not chubby. He's 26 and hasn't starved himself to look like the cover of Men's Fitness. His voice is pretty typical of most gay men and tattoos are awesome. Thankfully, I'm secure enough in my looks that I don't have to yuck other people's yum.

Sounds like you should stick with working with the younger guys.

I didn't say we don't "hook up." I said that "hook up culture" is a straight thing - about 15 years ago, heteros started worrying that their kids weren't dating but just "hooking up." Whereas gay men have had casual sex in our communities since WWII.

I'm sure he's delightful, but we hire mostly because it's more efficient than wasting hours on the apps. I've tried a couple of times, and that's all the energy I'm willing to give it.

"Hook up" culture is a straight people thing. Gay men have always had tons of casual sex. And we're not doing what escorts are doing. I hire because I value my time and do not want to be on apps where people are flaky and ridiculous. Being an attractive couple in our 50s attracts mostly much younger men who want us to be their "daddies." That doesn't appeal to us, especially the machine-gun rapid hole pics these kids send. I love a nice ass, but I do not want to give you a colonoscopy. We no longer go to nightclubs and only rarely go to bars. So meeting other men who want to have casual sex is highly unlikely. But every so often, we'll meet a guy that we do just hook up with, and usually it's while we're on vacation, we're not stressed from work, and it's usually lovely.

I'd say our hiring has slowed for two reasons. Our regulars are not available when we want to meet up. NYC has a few escort "types," most of which do not appeal to us. They probably make up 3/4 of the escorts. Also, we prefer to host, and with the weather being what it was for most of the past three months, it's been a hard sell to get guys to come to us. So it's not a lack of interest per se, but more an unwillingness to settle for a likely subpar experience that will also cost more than usual.

Is he in NYC because I'd want to avoid him?

It's funny I've been noticing a lot of guys on Rent.men who open their ads by saying they give great massages. Feels like mission drift. 🤭 In general, I'm as direct as I can be without offending. I say I want an "erotic" massage - even though that's not an option on Rentmasseur anymore. Then I try to assess what is being offered. If I suspect they're offering less than I want, I move on. THIS annoys me. Because we either believe sex work is work and we've given up our puritanical ideas that the body is some Godly vessel, or we haven't. I have to do a lot of public speaking and take meetings where my goal is to persuade people and institutions. There are plenty of times when I'm not "feeling it." But it's my job so I have to "get it up", and sometimes fake my enthusiasm and passion. Other times, it comes very easily because I believe in what I do.

Is this him? 6'6" would probably sway me. https://rent.men/Daniel_Richards

Okay, do you have any evidence for this wild claim? This is essentially "girls are attracting rapists by how they dress." I grew up visibly gay in NYC and suffered more than my fair share of bullies, getting jumped, etc. It actually made me incredibly tough and resilient. We can't discuss politics here but there are many more real threats to gay men and other queer people in the US than losing $50 to a guy pretending to be an escort. Seven years into this - frequently making nominal deposits - I've had one guy flake on me. I also met up with a provider in person at a bar near my hotel once. Unfortunately, he brought up some controversial topics where we didn't agree. When I went to the bathroom to think of how I would explain to him I didn't want to follow through, he vanished. Worse, he left my coat and messenger bag alone to anyone who wanted to rob it and - of course - I had a $30 bar tab (and I don't drink). The funny part is that I was planning to offer him $100 for his time.

Sign me up for Nightwing cosplay. I have red hair so can be his Barbara Gordon. LOL As a Gen Xer, Burt Ward's portrayal of Robin in the old Adam West Batman series was part of my queer awakening.

Meh... This guy is a criminal defense attorney. He's looking for business.

I don't know about that. When my husband and I were on the apps, we were most often approached by young men, 20 to 30 years younger than us. These are not escorts; just young men who prefer older men, as I did in my 20s. While I've aged, my taste hasn't changed. I'm not interested in 20-somethings, but they are certainly plenty out there looking for older guys

I asked to cancel two days in advance, after: I said that haggling is a huge turn-off for me He repeatedly wanted to change the initially confirmed time He kept insisting on making the session longer and more expensive So he materially changed the terms under which I made the deposit. If I made a deposit to get my hair done and the stylist wanted to upsell me, then change the appointment time and so on, that's them breaking the terms under which the appointment is made, and they should return the deposit.

My experience is similar to @DMonDude. Occasional asks for a nominal deposit for first timers. I don't have Crypto or gift cards - blah blah blah Also never been on A4A

When do you realize the mismatch? Are you communicating in advance? I've had the occasional mismatch but mostly it works out pretty well.

Unique in a good way.

There are lots of mixed-race people who look "white," particularly white/Asian or white/Latino. I had assumed my neighbor was white until I met her Chinese mother. She is fairer than this guy. He could have tattoos on his back, which we don't see. Also, some guys cover them up for photos like this.

I'm not paying anyone to give them unreciprocated head. First, I'm WAY too good at it. Second, I could go on an app right now and find a reasonably attractive guy who just wants head. The private pics contain one very similar to the public one, just a different angle. And then one of his dick, which is nice, but nothing earth-shattering or particularly unique.

I can assure you that I do not wash my body or douche with bleach. My soap is primarily Dove Sensitive Skin, and my body wash is lightly lavender-scented. It's a far cry from a hospital lab or an operating room.

Not to yuck anyone's yum, but... I never liked body odor (pits, crotch), but since I quit smoking 12-13 years ago, my sense of smell is so acute that a guy with what others consider mild musk makes me gag. I similarly cannot handle strong deodorants or anything more than a dab of cologne. I have never understood the appeal of it, particularly as a bottom who takes effort to be very clean and hygienic. 🤷🏻‍♂️

A lot of it depends on the vibe and the provider's level of talkativeness. I use my real first name though I use a Burner number. I will talk about my life in vagaries - travel, family, work - but not mentioning specifics (company name, etc.). I generally do not worry at all about LE or even about being blackmailed, because they have as much, or more, to lose than I do. I also tend to stick with providers who have been in the business a while and are well reviewed, which I think helps. And I also tend toward providers in their 30s and 40s which has usually weeded out a lot of the tweekers.