KensingtonHomo

I'm a fit, attractive middle-aged guy who looks younger (late 30s). I have frequently had masseurs do everything from kiss me, to rim me, to ask to fuck me. I never expect those things but I've begun asking what an "erotic/sensual massage" means to them because the definition seems to vary wildly from provider to provider. And, while it's subjective, I've also noticed that there's no rhyme or reason to how attractive the provider is. Providers like @proudwhore can't police what others are offering, but I'm not sure all the fault lies with clients. If guys are giving some clients full service for $200, they're undercutting their competition.

In my experience, lots of providers have average-sized dicks - or maybe the high end of average, like 7". The other things you desire are coded as white and either midwestern or maybe from New England ("All American, fairly smooth, clean shaven). So maybe filter for those qualities too.

Hard disagree. This is very dehumanizing. In fact, "at will" employment is dehumanizing. Treating human beings like replaceable widgets is one of the reasons the US is one of the most miserable countries in the world. While I do think @savantsav is overthinking it a bit, I respect him for wanting to treat this provider with care and humanity.

Thank God you're anonymous. 🤣🤣🤣

Is there a medical or other reason why cumming is difficult for him? I occasionally have difficulty orgasming but I know that it's in my head. I realize a lot of providers don't guarantee cumming, but as it's really important to you and you don't see him that often, I'm a little surprised that he cannot rise to the occasion.

Sure, but since he cannot come consistently, why not find someone else? If you're flying to see him or him to see you, I'm sure you can find someone who meets all your needs.

I'm sorry that you felt/feel this way. There's so much pressure to be young in gay culture. It's quite sad because we internalize these pressures and it robs us of enjoying our lives as fully as we could.

On the surface level, it doesn't seem like you're compatible. You want a particular experience that he seems incapable of delivering consistently. Is there something outside of sex that keeps you coming back to him?

Since my husband and I mostly hire together, we often have threesomes. I find that with any sex people occasionally need a break because they've been going too hard, or they're overwhelmed with stimulation. I don't see that to be an issue. If anything, it's an advantage of having more than two people. That said, depending on participants' preferences (who's a top, bottom, vers), I could see someone feeling pressured to perform throughout. But we usually try to assure the other guys that they're allowed ot take a break.

This cannot be emphasized enough. If you look at providers' posts on here, the most common complaint is that a client isn't hygienic.

I call everyone "girl." It's certainly not meant as an insult. I find most women far superior to most men, so if anything, it's a compliment. Also frequently use "hooker," "bitch," or "hoe." But not in a sexual context.

I'm not into guys who immediately jump to "bro speak." Like calling me "bud," "buddy," "bro." I'm both too mature and too femme to be anyone's "bro." I assume that it's part of the "masc for masc" fantasy that so many guys are into, but it's a turn-off. Similarly, "Daddy" is a huge turn-off. I tell guys my name in my initial message. For me, the safest thing is to address me that way.

Assuming the guy advertises as "sensual," I ask what that means to them. That way, they can tell me what they're comfortable with. I've certainly had encounters where what's on offer is greater than what is initially shared.

In my "ho" phase, which was mostly before social media, I always sent the name, phone number and address of whoever I was meeting to a friend. I'd been SA'd twice before college, so I needed a backup.

This is 💯. I know female providers. Any quality woman escort has a lot more requirements and costs 3-5 times what man does. And it's exactly because it's much more dangerous.

Do you let strangers into your home? I don't. I wouldn't even accept a hook-up from Grindr without a face pic. Because I'm not opening my door to someone I don't know. The idea that escorts should abandon that basic security measure is wild. Some of you seem to think that an escort having your face pic is damning evidence that you've broken the law. It's not. If you have a LinkedIn or Facebook profile, there's a public face pic of you out there. If it ever came up that an escort had it, well, it's public. Anyone could have it. I also note that this tends to correlate with people who can't or don't want to host. It seems to me that your "discretion" likely results from you stepping out on your partner/spouse without their knowledge. That's really the issue. And, as someone who cares a great deal about consent, having sex with people other than your partner without their knowledge is unethical.

You didn't answer my question. And you're not a moderator, so buzz off.

If you think your services are worth more than your quoted price, why not raise it? I'm more likely to tip someone I've seen more than once, especially if it's over a few months or more than a year, since they generally don't raise their rates. But when someone sets their own price and keeps it all, a tip seems unnecessary. I'm also more likely to tip someone who charges a lower rate ($350/hour) than someone who charges $500/hour. The latter, I'm hard-pressed to consider hiring, as my experience is that providers charging that much tend to be less skilled and less fun than those in the $300-$400 range.

What does that mean? I’ve been with my husbands for 24 years so I’ve never been on a dating app.

I learned how to do that in high school.

From my POV as a client, who has a busy life, I generally include the day and time I’m looking for - it’s generally a 3-4 hour window. If that doesn’t work, I have to move on. And we have 2-3 providers that we have great chemistry with so usually one is free. We also generally plan several days to a couple of weeks in advance. Some providers tell me to reach out the day before. I don’t do that unless it’s a regular.

I wouldn’t go near it. He wants to monetize his sex life. His profile says: “Best matches are also fit and are on the masc side. No use in meeting if we don't vibe.” I can’t imagine he’ll do well.

I have met one provider, Strong Strokes, without seeing his face but he's a masseur. Only because he was raved about and I was given a decent sense of his looks. He is very handsome and very much my type. I've seen him many times over the past three years. But he could just as easily not have been my type.

If you're doing it correctly, absolutely.

I do enjoy the face fucking.