KensingtonHomo

Totally agree. I have preferences around shape, girth, direction. An as a bottom, I'm not interested in pushing my limits. I find that 7-9 is my sweet spot, depending on other factors.

I've seen a lot of providers who have partners. In fact, some of them are both sex workers. It does seem to be that you're harboring some puritanical judgment here, which is not unusual for most Americans. I agree that looking into what this bothers you and seeing if it's just a holdover of a value you don't really hold is worthwhile.

Same. I'm always willing to send $25 to lock in an appointment with a new provider. More than that gives me pause, only because I did a larger deposit once and then had to cancel. This was due to a change in business travel beyond my control. I told the provider more than 48 hours in advance that I had to cancel and please return my deposit. He never did, which I've shared here. My advice to @Daniel84 is to institute a modest deposit for new clients and see if it hurts your bookings. If it doesn't and decreases your no shows, then it's worth doing.

No shade but I don't understand this. If i'm not attracted to someone's face, they could have an adonis-like body and I'm not remotely interested. Whereas if they have a face and vibe I'm very attracted to, an average or reasonably fit body is totally fine. In fact, in my experience with providers is the more ripped they are, the less interesting and good in bed they are. Again, I'm not talking about guys in good shape. Rather the guys who look like Men's Fitness models.

I'm totally fine some good pics - body, nudes, etc. on the profile. But I'm not going to meet up with anyone without seeing a face pic. For the reason @BuffaloKyle pointed out. People can have a very attractive body but the face doesn't appeal. And it's not like "oh, his body is a 10 but his face is a 3." It's more like his face isn't attractive to me personally. I can also understand why guys - especially those who escort or massage on the side - don't want their face on their profiles. So I'm find with someone who will share a pic once you've contacted and we're starting to plan to meet up.

If you've met him on Rentmasseur, he's probably been asked about extras before. My advice would be to ask him - maybe in a text if that's more comfortable - if he offers as a more sensual or erotic version of his massage. Usually, when I schedule, I emphasize consent. I say that I want to make sure we're both comfortable and don't overstep, so please let me know what his boundaries are. Is he open to mutual touch, he, oral, etc?

This is why I prefer paying electronically. That way if I want to give a bigger tip, I can. If the session was "meh", I can pay just the agreed upon rate.

I'm not sure I'd say most escorts are "mediocre" but there's a large degree in variability. In my experience, the best escorts are those who have chosen it as their profession. Maybe they started off due to circumstance but at some point, they began to really enjoy their work. The care about their clients - not in a romantic way - but in the sense of wanting the experience to be top tier. They seem to really love sex or giving massage, so you never get the sense that they're phoning it in. My one caveat is that with very few exceptions, these guys will be in their 30s or older. I have met one or two guys in their 20s who had that vibe.

If I’m traveling, I like around 9 or 10 so it will help me sleep. Home I like late afternoon or early evening for massage and escorts. It’s when I’m feeling my best - I’m ready to bottom if that’s on the menu - and then I be can have dinner. Also, providers tend to have a lot of energy and particularly if it’s a massage; I don’t need them to cum.

This is rich from you. You can write endless negative commentary about providers, fellow posters but you draw the line at someone make the most obvious statement about a rich person - Edited by moderator to remove political reference.

I think many of my fellow hobbyists are overthinking this. I'm middle aged but look about a decade younger than my age. In my conversations with providers, those with any real experience are not worried about age at all. Their biggest concerns are respectful interaction, treating them well and - this is frequently stressed- excellent hygiene. Chemistry is unpredictable. If I enjoy a provider's company - even just in the greeting and saying goodbye - I am more likely to see them again. And those who enjoy my company (or ours if I'm hiring with my husband), tend to follow up or reach out. Is that intimacy? Sometimes. I have a couple of regulars who I care about but as I do my hairdresser or doctor. But perhaps being married and not interested in romance with anyone else, I'm less likely to "fall" for a provider.

We saw Shareef about a month ago. And he was wonderful. His massage skills are strong. He looks younger and more handsome in person. And he wad very sweet. Definitely seeing him again.

RFK Jr. is undoubtably on a cocktail of testosterone, HGH, and who knows what else. No 71 year old can look like that without pharmaceutical assistance. Plus he's insane.

I am younger than you and still hire primarily for convenience. But, I agree with @Jamie21 that a big part of it is your self-perception. I was SO insecure when I was younger, particularly around sex. The older I've gotten, the more secure I feel in terms of what I want and my body. Sure, I'm not 25 but I'm quite fit for my age, look at least a decade younger, and I remain flexible. So I don't struggle to keep up with a younger provider. I think @Vin Marco is on to something: regular exercise - particularly strength training - is essential as we age. I would add a good stretching routine to that.

Yeah, young Dick Ward definitely made me gay.

This isn't weird at all. I'm a bottom who can switch between being submissive, dominant or somewhere in the middle. A lot of it depends on the chemistry with the other guy.

LOL - Not toxic gay masculinity ruining your threesome.

I saw him last night. He was fantastic. Great massage and wonderful extras.

This is why I generally prefer providers who are over 30. Often, they've been at it for a few years and just want to be treated well, paid well and not incite or receive drama. There are exceptions, as we've seen a 24-year-old recently who is super cool, easy to talk to, passionate, and all you could want. I looked my number up on Mr. Number, and there was one complaint that I "flaked" on someone. It didn't give other details so it doesn't bother me.

This is unnecessary and mean.

It looks like he has multiple sources of income and only wants to see men who can afford a premium price. Maybe he's aiming for a sugar daddy or maximizing his time and energy. Either way, he's priced himself out of most of the market. That's his prerogative and none of you have to waste time hitting him up.

We generally look to see if someone is mentioned here. If they are and there are red flags, we'll probably stay away. A lot of enthusiasm may make us more likely to hire. That said, if someone isn't mentioned here but they have positive reviews on RM, we'll generally go ahead with him.

He doesn't have anything that other providers with a more reasonable fee have.

No, we hired someone who we found more attractive than you and your buddy. And had a great time. i notice you didn’t post your attempt to insult me. I’ll share it here so clients know what you’re really like:

I guess Logan is on some damage control mission. Because he started texting me today. As was clear in my post that he quoted, the experience I was referring to was trying to set up a meeting. We were only interested in him; not his buddy. When he insisted we pay for the services of someone we were not attracted to or interested in, we declined. Had Logan just come over and met with us on his own; we would have paid his fee happily. He seems to think this is a “gotcha” but we found a local guy in Maui and had a great experience. 🤷🏻‍♂️