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1 hour ago, rustyrex said:

if things turn crazy during the encounter how do you handle it?

The primary rule is to protect yourself, so get away fast. Or if it’s in your own home, get him out fast.
 

It doesn’t matter if it costs you extra $ to extricate yourself from the situation. Nothing is more important than preserving your life and health. 

Just wonder how interactive he, as a ‘straight’ service provider, might be… 

@Buckeyeseven Would you describe him as very gay-friendly?  

3 hours ago, AZN_NYC said:

repeatedly asking about "tell me about your sexual adventures", "when did you last met with another client", "how was your last experience and when was it?"

Not an escort nor a current client. But I’ve known this to happen on dates with guys, sometimes in talk over dinner but more often in post-coital chat. I think some men are simply nosy.

My answer is to smile in response to such questions. I then say “I’m happy to answer questions about myself but that stops at the bedroom door. Intimate experiences are private matters”. 

Perhaps the OP has not been completely open with us about what he specifically requires.
 

• Perhaps he requires an escort/stripper/dancer (ESD) to glide smoothly as he incorporates the pole into his routine. 
• Perhaps he wants the ESD to handle a certain thickness of pole.
• Perhaps he expects the ESD to be able to use a certain length of pole.

Personally I’ve always found it very difficult to dance while disrobing, and I’m sure it’s even more difficult to perform sexually while stripping. It’s why I always enjoy my bottom removing my clothes before I top him. 😎

26 minutes ago, purplekow said:

Brought him a small cake and then smeared it all over him.

You baked him a cake for his birthday, and then he didn’t eat it? How rude!

13 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I remember many hot threeways in my younger years, but I don't cum twice as much that it would make paying twice as much worthwhile.

Splendidly put. I wonder if I can get a stonemason to inscribe that on my headstone…

I had the OP’s problem with 2 Italian-Brazilian men who shared an apartment. They advertised as working singly and as a duo. Both were very attractive physically so I hired each singly. I found I preferred one (Vincenzo) much more than the other (Ricardo). I topped both using condoms.
 

Chatting with each in post-coital bliss, I found their views of their relationship varied. Vincenzo told me Ricardo was NOT his boyfriend; Ricardo said he was. I was discreet as Vincenzo told me Ricardo was a little jealous, and Vincenzo did with me certain acts that Ricardo said they didn’t do. For example, Vincenzo was very happy to suck me off to completion and he readily swallowed my load; Vincenzo also rimmed me, whereas Ricardo said they never rimmed.  
 

For the OP, my 2 cents are Hire the man you prefer as often as you like. Maybe hire both when you want a 3some, but first discuss with your preferred guy how it may go with the two of them. Or hire another guy when you want to play with the preferred man in a 3some. 

I had several regulars over the years, tho I only hired when I was between boyfriends.
 

Frequency varied a lot. I saw each regular at least 1x a week, generally for an overnight date. I recall one regular, a nice guy who didn’t want an overnight date, so in the first flush of lust, I’d date him for 1-2 hours 3-4x a week. I’d take my regulars on weekend trips at first. Once we’d established full compatibility, I’d invite a regular on an overseas vacation. 
 

One aside: I got to know very well a young man who was not only splendid physically but also very versatile in bed. He had wonderful reviews here. One night, he confided over dinner that I was his only regular - he’d been so surprised when he started working that so many clients always wanted variety (a new guy) and no matter how great the date went, his clients didn’t repeat. 

Maybe an escort could call himself Brad Pi…and offer a recurring orgasm

Have you reached out to him at all @jojolaca ?
 

Sometimes an offer to open a big thick wallet will cause a cute muscleboy to re-examine his options. Surely you owe it to Clayton to ‘expand his horizons’ 😎

52 minutes ago, BSR said:

the "manufactured crisis" is exactly what Whinge & Ginge want.  If their precious celebrity ever fades, lucrative offers will dry up.

I agree entirely. I’ve never understood why King Charles hasn’t stripped them of their titles and royal status. As ordinary folk, there’d be little or no interest in them; they could lead their daily lives without Press attention.
 

They seek, however, to monetise their status but their behaviour is distasteful. “Leopards do not change their spots” was a saying my mother used about people behaving badly.

Equally I don’t understand why they are accorded status, and their titles used, while living in a republic. It may be a courtesy but they are undeserving of such consideration. 

The claims by Whining Harry & Grifter Meghan are absurd.
 

I used to live on the UES and when traffic was bad, I’d often walk home after going to a play or a concert. There’s no way they could have driven at “high speed” from Midtown to wherever they were staying.

As usual, the NY Post has judged it well…

3 hours ago, shadowcatzxxx said:

Would be hiring him more often if he wasn't quite so pricey. The sex is absolutely off the charts

Remember @shadowcatzxxx you’re not paying for sex. You pay him to leave.

And as someone of similar age to you, I say Enjoy spending your disposable income while you still can.

This thread brings back memories. I was last there in 1998…so 25 years ago. I was there with an old friend and as I was just out of an LTR (14years), he was keen for me to “get back in the saddle”.

I was in my 40s and chatted to a young man in his 20s. He was an Israeli who had just completed his military service. Surprisingly he had a car so we drove to my place on the UES and luckily there was a space in my garage. The sex was decent but not brilliant (my fault, I feel): he asked me to come not in him but on his chest, which I did. We cuddled after and he decided to clean up in the bathroom while I lay in bed. To my surprise, he returned from the shower with a warm washcloth and proceeded to clean me up lovingly. It was the first, and only, time that someone has done that for me. He was a very sweet man.
 

@Lucky I agree with @nycman  

I rank it as highly as a previous production of Streetcar I saw in London - IIRC in 2014  - which had Gillian Anderson as Blanche. That was a stunning production with thrilling performances by the lead actors.

Did you mean to reveal your ID this time @ThroatCummer?

1 hour ago, Statham said:

I'm completely in love with this man at this point. I know he feels the same way.

Trust me on this: you are not, you are in the first flush of physical lust and romantic affection. And No, you don’t know - just because he says so may mean he’s polite or he’s from a different cultural background (Hispanic?) or he may be as giddy as you are.

You haven’t said anything about your experiences and prior relationships. Perhaps you were rather alone (or lonely) before you met him. Also you haven’t said what country he’s from. 
 

I’d strongly suggest you go slowly. And in response to your questions:

Take the time to get to know him fully.
Stop paying him for his time (and services) and see how that plays out.

Do not buy him an expensive gift just because you “make a lot more money”. Rather, you should get him a thoughtful gift (maybe a book he’s wanted to read) - something that shows you’ve listened to him and thought of him. See if he reciprocates. 
 

Bear in mind the golden rule - everyone behaves at their best in the early meetings - so see him in a variety of settings, watch how he handles other people, ask yourself if he’s kind, and check online that he’s honest (there’s a lot of information online so check that what he tells you is accurate and truthful).

I really enjoy ‘Beef’. I’ve recommended it to everyone I know.

But like @jeezifonly I would not binge-watch it. For me, the greatest pleasure is to watch 1 episode per evening. 

13 hours ago, jessmapex said:

I want to make sure I am not splurging beyond my means. 

FWIW @jessmapex my approach was different. I first worked out what my level of spending would be for a comfortable retirement. Then I tripled it. That gave me my target retirement income after tax. It allows for inflation, tax changes, currency fluctuations etc. I also assumed I’d earn only 3% after tax on my capital. 
 

I suggest you do your own calculations and use modest or conservative rates of return as everyone spends differently and enjoys life in myriad different ways. Also everyone’s health and views on longevity will be different.

You did ask about comparative spending. I’ve been retired for a long time, but in my 50s, I was very sociable. I dated a lot of nice young men and I spent readily. My annual ‘hobby’ (or wellness) spending peaked at about $70000 but most years it averaged $15-20000. I don’t regret it as I had a great time. Now I’m older, I still save (ie don’t spend all my pension income) and my investment income is automatically reinvested.

It’s sad that such a great and long-standing performer has died. I opened a topic on him in the Live Theater thread, but I thought I’d mention it here too as this has more visibility.

I wonder if our Australian posters know whether Barry will get a State funeral? He truly was a national treasure.

Moderator's comment - As you anticipated the topic in the Lounge has attracted all the comments, so I merged the two threads. Mike C.

Just FYI @Jim_n_NYC that the show “Guys and Dolls” (well-reviewed and mentioned above by @Lucky) has had its run extended until February 2024.

Sad news that the marvelous comic/entertainer Barry Humphries (aka Dame Edna Everage “Melbourne housewife” and Sir Les Patterson “cultural attaché”) died today. 
 

I saw him perform many times over the years. There was always riotous laughter throughout his shows. 
 

Barry Humphries: Dame Edna Everage comedian dies at 89 https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/entertainment-arts-65328507

On 4/21/2023 at 5:31 AM, nycman said:

Anyone not afraid to stand on stage and belt next to Freddie Mercury, is a Queen in my book. 
 

 

I saw their debut recital of this one evening at the Royal Opera House. She’d sung several arias solo earlier. 
 

On 4/21/2023 at 7:20 AM, Bargara Leatherboy said:

an absolute operatic treasure 

I agree (and I was lucky enough to see her perform on stage many times). Certainly she was viewed as that in Catalonia. I was once at Barcelona airport when she came off a flight, and I was staggered by the public response on sighting her.

18 hours ago, Quincy_7 said:

I'm currently on my fourth dedicated trip to London solely for the purpose of sex.

That would make a wonderful marketing headline. 
 

Allow me to thank you, not only for the boost to the UK tourism industry but also for adding to London’s huge surplus derived from the service sector.

I’m not bothered about “pet peeves” as even the nicest guys seem to have some.
 

And I prefer to know a guy’s likes and dislikes upfront: the info helps me choose someone compatible. 

13 hours ago, questbear said:

It may sound weird but I don't like fingernails scratching…me

 Not weird at all. That happened to me once when seeing a masseur in SF.
 

After the first few scratches, I politely asked if he would stop and file or buff that nail smooth. When he resumed, it was better…then I was again scratched. Repeated my polite request; he said he’d dealt with the problem and carried on; I was still scratched at times. At the end, I left no tip and he hassled me for one.