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Thanks for posting the above @Lucky I hadn’t seen the article.

Personally, I didn’t rate the production of “Medea” but we have tickets for “Streetcar” next week. Luckily we did not buy tickets for “A Little Life” - the run is now sold out - as the reviews have been scathing (eg “2* melodrama”) tho James Norton is praised for his stamina and bravery as he’s nude for many scenes. 

Of course, many of these plays won’t be running in September when the OP plans to visit. There’s a useful UK website www.atgtickets.com where I often purchase tickets. Also the National Theatre has its own website for both its upcoming plays and those that are or will be running in commercial venues www.nationaltheatre.org.uk

It’s clear @Unicorn that you have had a hard time adjusting to retirement and miss being granted respect by the indigent patients in the clinic you used to reference so often. I do feel, however, you could be more mature and just disagree politely as an adult.
 

Your ponderous responses, with inappropriate illustrations and quoting large chunks of Wikipedia, simply come across as snarky and dismissive. I certainly hope that you are not the same in person.

11 hours ago, Unicorn said:

I'd love to know where you come up with your "information."

From living in Spain, owning property there and dealing with officialdom.

11 hours ago, Unicorn said:

There is only one official language in Spain

Not so. As I stated, there are 3 languages that have official status (Castilian, Catalan and Galician).
 

There are indeed Spanish citizens who are intransigent and dislike being spoken to, or having to read menus, in Catalan when they visit Catalonia, the Balearic Islands etc. I have witnessed several such linguistic arguments. 

11 hours ago, Unicorn said:

Basque could not possibly be a dialect of anything

If you had read carefully, you’d acknowledge that I stated it is “deemed a dialect”.
 

The language of the Basque Country (Euskadi) has been controversial. Some separatists have sought official status for it.  There was considerable disruption some years ago in the National Parliament when some tried to use it in a formal session.

12 hours ago, Unicorn said:

Galician, and Aranese have co-official status

The language spoken in Galicia (Gallego) is officially recognised. But it’s simply absurd of you to include Aranese.

I can’t recall the exact figure from the last census but less than 4000 people speak it. All of whom would readily respond in Catalan.
 

Similarly, Catalans and Occitan-speakers in France easily understand each other. When to my surprise, I met some Occitan-speakers in southern France, we chatted easily in Catalan and they told me they often switched to Occitan when they were dealt with rudely by French citizens visiting from other parts of France.

18 hours ago, menaughty said:

really love Barcelona and would love to learn their but I dont want to learn Spain's spanish

To answer the OP, I learned at a language school in Barcelona. Immersion is a good way to learn quickly but it is tiring. 
 

It is generally held in Spain that the Catalans have the purest accent in speaking Castilian (Castellano) and that is why schools in Barcelona were recommended.

One small point. Spain has 3 official languages: Castilian, Catalan and Galician. (The Basque language, Euskadi, is deemed a dialect).

Most models have Instagram pages. I know Ben Lins does. Have you thought of sending DMs on IG to guys that interest you?

You do know there are two different ways to over-ride that feature and reach a person, right?

On 3/30/2023 at 1:40 AM, Jaroslav said:

I prefer the German hesitancy to label people Freund.

I agree with this. I have a small number of good friends. My “acid test” for friendship is whether I could call them at 2am asking for help and know they would respond. 

Yes, there are lots of hourly hotels in Buenos Aires. Locally such hotels are known as ‘telos’.

Several of them are located on a side street near the cemetery in Recoleta. Locals do use them. Access to them is easy and no-one blinks if you’re a gay couple rather than a heterosexual couple.

Over the years, I’ve used several. The room sizes and amenities do vary - eg some have mirrored ceilings - but all were clean and had showers etc. I always paid in cash.

I can’t comment on rates as I haven’t visited since pre-pandemic days. The fee is certainly much less than you’d pay in the US or Europe.
 

Of course, it’s much easier to negotiate if you speak Spanish well. If you only speak English, be sure that you specify the currency: prices in Pesos are often shown as $ while prices in dollars may be shown as USD. I think it’s important to note that like other nationalities, Argentines enjoy being treated with respect and they dislike crass behaviour. 

As I alluded to earlier in this thread, I have paid high fees in the past. I once had a ‘holiday romance’ with a local heart-throb. He was an actor, a very handsome man who I happened to speak to in the street, and we hit it off. He looked after me regularly for most of my month-long stay. My point is that tho his fee was high, the time it bought was far in excess of the time you’d get in the US or Europe. I still fondly recall a 4day weekend when I took him to the beach in Uruguay - he was a passionate and loving companion, and I had a great time - where I paid all our costs and afterwards asked him what he needed. He asked for US$300 and I gave him US$1000. 
 

If you do a search, there’s lots of info here on Argentina. 

I hope @socurious isn’t going to be angry with me for repeating what he wrote!
 

She is to be found* on Twitter (using their Search function) as Alyssa lov3

It brings up a couple of names but hers has the blue tick. And as I stated above, you will find lots of images of sexual action

(*FWIW I repeated the search just to make sure it works)

I don’t understand @Italiano and @BaronArtz. I just went to Twitter and typed in the Search function the name that @socurious provided.
 

It’s definitely there. And I saw more images than I care for (not being into she-males at all)

For anyone who, like me, wondered about this production 

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2 hours ago, Jaroslav said:

Is the original statement about not dropping you like a used condom to be believed or is such behavior indicative that you’ve been ghosted

Yes.

Don’t get wound up over this. You’ll waste time and energy if you overthink why a provider has reacted this way to you.

If, in the future, there's a point when you’d like to meet the guy again, send him a short message with your date/time. If he responds, you’ll know you’re no longer ghosted; you will become a client. If he doesn’t respond, move on.

5 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Most masseurs who do sensual or erotic massage will welcome this. 

Wouldn’t that depend heavily on where the OP and the masseur are based?
It seems to me that such a video would be rather compelling evidence if law enforcement became involved…

Ben Murphy - an actor I saw in the 70s in ‘Alias Smith and Jones’. He had long hair, such a pretty face and a smooth muscled body. 

There are so many providers in both cities and there are constant newcomers. You will have a huge choice of men interested in earning dollars. 
 

Assuming you speak Spanish and can make yourself understood in Portuguese, spend some time looking at the men on the usual sites/apps. 

My memory is good and I remember the encounters but not so much how they began. At their place, guys mostly greeted me barechested and in jeans. 
 

There are, however, two encounters (2 different guys) where I have excellent recall of how they began. Earlier I’d expressed to each guy my interests (kissing with tongue, topping, getting oral to completion) and my desire to exercise my dominant streak.

1. I saw the first man’s good fit body when he opened the door, dressed only in classic white briefs. He lowered his head modestly as I entered. My hand lightly brushed his bulge and he promptly French-kissed me.

2. I’d already had an excellent first date with the other guy. He had a superb physique from playing various sports. Greeting me, he hugged and kissed me. He was clad only in a white C-IN2 jockstrap which I commented “looks as if it’s spray-painted onto you”. He then surprised me. He dropped to his knees, unzipped me and he sucked my engorged cock until I blew my load in his mouth. On our first date a month before, I’d disclosed that I dreamt of a guy starting a date by sucking me off (‘just a kiss, no talk, I unload and then I can relax before round two’) and he decided to greet me this way.

33 minutes ago, Pensant said:

I’m simply enjoying it and feeling buoyant…Sometimes these gossamer relationships appear and should simply be relished.

So well put. I entirely agree. When I first had a relationship with a much younger man, I spent months worrying about the age difference, whether it was appropriate for him and whether it would work. When he said first that he loved me, I relaxed and simply enjoyed the 3 years that followed. 
 

And reading in the papers today, age is clearly irrelevant either for heterosexuals or for billionaires. Rupert Murdoch (92) has got engaged for the 5th time to a younger woman (66). Hope springs eternal!

I too would suggest Barcelona. It has all the attributes of a great city (music, theatre, art) located by the sea and combined with many good restaurants and friendly locals. 
 

It also is on the high speed train network so you could also visit other cities in Spain (eg Seville, Cordoba, Madrid) and France (eg Montpellier and Paris).

To the South, there is Sitges of course. And to the North, there is some beautiful countryside and villages with good hotels (it is very popular with Catalans).

“Thank you. That was great. I’ll certainly remember this for some time”…

Said smilingly as I exited from the provider’s place after a disappointing time or an OK time but the bedroom or the bathroom was dirty 

4 minutes ago, Drew Collins said:

Congratulations to the happy couple!

If indeed they are formally married, I agree. (I say “if indeed” because all the reports state ‘rumours’ as their source)

My curiosity is about the size of the lawyers’ fees and just how many pages their pre-nuptial and non-disclosure agreements comprise.

In answer to the thread’s title: IMO there’s a very substantial downside.

With my donations, I insist on anonymity. Even with organizations that I enjoy supporting but where they rank donors in ranges (like Carnegie Hall and The Met) I insist as being numbered among the Anonymous.

My reason for being strict is this. Some years ago (post 2008) I gave a lump sum of money to (what was then) a very good theatre with terrific programming. I asked for no publicity. But I later found that their marketing department had shared my contact details with other arts organisations. Six of these knew me as a supporter already and they immediately contacted me, each asking for a similar-sized gift.

My contact details ended up on the marketing lists that many charities and arts organisations exchange. As a result, I received an overwhelming number of requests for financial assistance. I reckon I received about 3 letters a week (along with emails) for some years. 

45 minutes ago, Charlie said:

the hottest guy in the class: tall, handsome, built and a jock.…married a classmate who was short, fat and homely, but with a lively personality.

So @Charlie “the hottest guy” was emotionally mature and intelligent too

Total overlap. 
 

I’ve always been most attracted to handsome, very fit preppy young men 21+. And in bed I’m only a lazy selfish top with a dominant streak. So I only ever dated muscleboys who played bottom and were eager cocksuckers to completion.

It’s a very nice body. Is his face handsome @Mrprofessional ?

12 minutes ago, BtmBearDad said:

there’s also a large number of “glass closeted” men.

 May I ask you to expand please on what you mean by this phrase.

6 hours ago, spaman said:

I've used both viagra and cialis and while they cause hard erections, I find it nearly impossible to ejaculate when using either

I used Viagra a couple of times only: it made my erection very stiff but it also gave me a bad headache. I preferred Cialis as it has a more ‘natural’ effect on me. Neither affected my ability to ejaculate.

I use Vardenafil (Levitra) nowadays as my physician thinks it’s best for me, tho I find its duration to be much less than Cialis. I climax easily when and how I want. (It undoubtedly helps that I have sex with a young, attractive partner).

3 hours ago, nycman said:

I can pound a muscle bottom all night,
but at some point I feel like I’m just a jackhammer 

Some years ago, I found this too (using Cialis) on occasion. It seemed to occur when there were expectations about my ability to perform (I had a reputation at the gym as a top that could pound a bottom repeatedly and vigorously). The longer I topped a guy, the more I worried about ejaculating. I resolved the problem by deliberately relaxing and not concerning myself about the bottom’s pleasure or wants (oddly enough, this turned on some guys).

I know there are a number of factors (physical and psychological) that can affect the ability to ejaculate. Without speculating too much @spaman, is your weight appropriate, do you have a balanced healthy diet, moderate alcohol (and limited drug) usage? And are you having the sex you enjoy with a partner you find desirable?
 

If you function well otherwise, you may find it best to consult your physician on this particular aspect.