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Yes 🚩! My second hour is 15% less than the first hour. I don’t publish rates longer than 2 hours but the % reduction would be about the same. It really depends on the set up and my willingness to do a longer session. I generally am not keen to do multiple hours so I’d price it accordingly. I had one guy ask me for my rate for a 4 hour booking. I gave him a number. He divided that by 4, came up with an hourly rate….and then asked to book just an hour. Smart. Of course I said ‘sorry it doesn’t work like that, the first hour is more expensive’ so he said ‘ok I’ll book just the 4th hour then please’ 😳

Well, this is going to be fun...

One of the things that has affected people of all ages who are interested in making new friends is the development of social media, like the site on which you raised this topic. More and more people are sitting at home in front of their computers rather than physically interacting in person. Most of the people on this site who I think of as "friends," because I interact with them online regularly and know a lot about their personalities and beliefs, but I don't even know their real names and could walk past them on the street without recognizing them. I don't want to deny the importance of this kind of friend, but it is not the same as a friend whom I could call to get together for lunch or ask for a ride to the doctor. Going to a movie with a friend and discussing it afterwards is not the same as commenting about it here, although both may be satisfying experiences. When I moved to a strange new place where I knew no one, I found the best way to make new friends was to join groups where I could interact with others who had a similar interest. For my spouse it was volunteering at a place which helped people who were recovering from a stroke, an experience which he could understand. For me it was joining a tennis club and learning how to play a sport which I had never tried before. We all need real friends as much as, or even more than, Internet friends.

I packed up and move across country, single and with only a few social connectiona where I now live. It has been 6 months and in that time I have made a few acquaintances who may become friends. Most of these have beenat the gym I attend which has a predominantly gay clientele. The people have been very friendly, but ultimately, they all have their own circle of friends and so for the most part, I think I will meet people who are open to the idea of adding to their social group or men in the same situation as I am. I try to be outgoing and strike up converations wherever I go. When I started at the gym, I wore a multicolored fedora, not only because I looked damned good in it, but it also gave people something by which they could recognize me and something which might spark a conversation, I had good results with that. The people at the bank and the grocery store recognized me by the second or third visit and the people. At the gym several people came up to me and said they had noticed my efforts, most because of the hat but one said no it was not the hat but the belly. They had been overweight and lost weight by going to the gym and he wanted to encourage me to keep up the work. So my advice is either join a gym, wear a brightly colored hat, or be noticeably obese. I chose all three. You have to recall that not everyone is looking for friends and their is no hanky code to identify who is and who is not.

If you are a reader, you may look around for a book group. About 6-8 of us meet more or less monthly in the homes of each other for a meal and discussion; yes, we actually discuss the books, but we also discuss life as it unfolds for each of us; I find myself being energized after our gatherings. And, we are multi-generational gay men, ranging from late 30s or early 40s to late 70s; the younger guys pick books that I would have never read on my own, but it stretches my mind a bit and I find it delightful. This group was formed by invitation; a couple of us recruited guys we thought might be interested, and it has been ongoing for several years now; I suspect a local library or LGBTQ+ community center may know or even sponsor a group.

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You do know you don't have to use an exclamation point at the end of every sentence don't you?

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Yeah mine is 300 for first hour 200 for each hour after. Which from speaking to others have found to be pretty average

My son's best friend in elementary school had two moms and it was all perfectly normal. Not common, but normal. Kids should be told that families come in all flavors: one mom, one dad, two moms, two dads, one mom, one dad, etc. We've equated it to what goes on in the bedroom and kids don't care or think about that. Kids need to be raised with love; the gender and quantity of their parents is irrelevant.

CL and Backpage were fabulous back in the day. Some of the hottest providers ever!

We generally don't hire beyond 2 hours. But often a provider will discount the second hour. So if their rate is $300/hour, they'll do 2 for $500.

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I wasn't looking for masseurs. Craigslist was where I found escorts, though most of them weren't professionals. Rather they were young guys who escorted occasionally to supplement their day job earnings or student stipends. Nothing against the people I hire from rent.men these days, but I liked those young guys' innocence, if you can apply that word to a sex worker. Seeking may be the closest thing these days to the old Craigslist m4m, though Seeking is filled with young men with ridiculous expectations that I never ran into on Craigslist.

The market will simply humble them. I suspect newbies are the ones throwing these out (or exceptionally hot VIP providers, who are in my opinion,rare). I doubt that seasoned, client-retaining providers, in our current macroeconomic downturn, are the ones with $600-per-hour price tags. Best to stick with the regulars who aren’t charging insane prices.

I like 90 min sessions with a new provider since I find 1 hour too short but want to avoid 2 hours if the session is not going well. I find though that some will agree to. 90 minute session but at 450 if the first hour is 300. You were lucky I think to get it for 400.

This man is the first one I would call if I could locate him, not that I could do much for him anyway. The only way I could take his appendage is perhaps under an arm. 😛

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A nice find! I haven't played with an Indian male in a long time but I keep fond memories of past experiences. They can be very subtle where it matters most - in bed. My concern would be that his pictures look very professional for a newbie. A name search on IG shows a model/influencer with 34k followers. Is this the guy who will show up? Another, more serious, concern is that he describes himself as straight. Maybe it is just marketing, but I find that the scope of activities with straight guys is limited. I would love to find out more, but I am sceptical.

I continue to make friends of all ages. I sat next to a friendly guy on the flight to Seattle who was with his young son for summer visitation. We plan to do a hike in the Cascades this coming Saturday. He’s straight. Most of my friends are, strangely enough.

Nice!! He would look better without the mustache.

I lived and worked in the SF Bay Area for most of my adult life, so my network of friends is basically there. After retiring, I moved to Denver as that is where what little family I have is located. Other than family, I did not know a single person here. I decided to get involved in the local senior center, and have made quite a few new friends there. I volunteer a couple of days each week for a few hours, sign up for various bus trips of interest, attend informative classes, and play a variety of games. It keeps me both social and active. There is also a gay community center in Denver that offers a variety of activities for seniors. I have also met a few persons that way as well. The senior center is 5-6 minutes from my house, so much more convenient for me to participate there several times a week, meet people for lunch or dinner, or just to hang out at the park and engage in conversation. The gay community center is about 45 minutes by car, so not nearly as convenient.

It does get harder. When I was young, friendships formed with people who were all in the same situation as I was. College, job, you name it. We bonded out of common interests and difficulties. Finding people with the same interests later in life has been more difficult. It’s compounded by my disinterest in bonding over “things”—sports, superhero movies, etc—and my desire to form connections over common feelings, attitudes, and, yes, emotions. Joining clubs related to hobbies won’t necessarily provide that. Mens groups geared toward inner thoughts and desires might help but those are hard to find. Sorry, I realize I’m just commiserating….

There was far more variety on craigslist than we have now on RM. CL ads were anonymous, free, easy to create, and easy to delete. A guy looking for extra cash could post an ad, meet up with a customer, and delete his ad the same day without looking back. It was just an odd job, like mowing lawns. That must still be going on, but I don't know where they advertise.

I was in line at the TKTS booth in Lincoln Center for last minute theater tickets on Saturday. The guy ahead of me requested 2 tickets to Cabaret. The box office attendant said "So you know, Billy Porter isn't performing tonight". The man replied, "I know that. I would not be purchasing tickets for tonight if he was".

My guess is that RM is indeed full of “clients” who wish to jack off to provider’s pictures without actually paying to meet- as well as actual scammers who make client profiles. A provider who declined my request at first told me exactly that. A premium account is a possible sign that you aren’t a time waster/ you’re possibly actually interested in meeting them.