Asian exclusion

[francisssgorg]

Just curious, why is it that the least attractive guys for gay community in western world are asians? Like 60-70% would already back out if they learned that the person is asian, especially with gay guys. 

I was on reddit earlier this morning, just killing time, when I responded to a topic about gay guys who love watching cfnm instead of cmnm, which is a weird topic, I know. But to make it short, I do watch cfnm sometimes and I like it better than cmnm in some instances but I always concentrate on the guy. So then I got a message in the chat section from an anonymous redditor and he initiated the conversation about liking cfnm despite being a gay guy. I said I live in the States and he said he's from Spain. We weren't hitting on each other and it's gonna be awkward if we do since we're both anonymous users. We just found a common ground. As I was telling some of my kinks other than cmnm, in my responses, I always mention "back in my country" and when he asked, which country, I said Philippines. That's when he stopped chatting. Lol.. This is probably the third or fourth time it happened to me on reddit, and one time I got blocked even, after I mentioned I'm Asian. Sometime ago, when I was on vacation in Seattle, I was looking for cruising spots in the area, and whenever I mention where I'm originally from, it's like an instant auto block. I respect preferences. But sometimes, it hurts our confidence and our insecurities are heightened. Disclaimer, I won't consider myself as a physically attractive asian guy, but there are millions of really hot asian guys in the world and they are missing out 🤣. Gay guys from western countries, their common asset is that they're packing down there. Yes, bless their genetics lol! But you know, being an asian sized guy, I believe that we have to double our efforts to showcase our "skill sets". There's a lot of verse asian guys for starters. Also, we satisfy a lot of kinks that some big dicked western guy are clearly lacking. No offense, but I've experienced a lot of lazy tops, whether it'd be whites, blacks, latinos or whatever... They thought, "oh we have a big equipment, we don't need to put on a whole show, they would just worship me and work around it" oh please. But anyway, I'm not saying all of them are, but mostly. 

Anyway, those are just my two cents. If they don't wanna, it's fine. And for those who I had an encounter with, thank you, I hope you are satisfied with my vacuum powered, washing machine like mouth 🤣 I have a killer head game, I believe. If I could just eternalize those guys words and moanings 🤣

[+ Lucky]

In my experience, it was lack of knowledge. I grew up in the Midwest where, then, there were few Asians. When I moved to San Francisco, that changed. It took me a while to realize that I was quite popular with Asians. One thing led to another, and I now prefer Asians.

Please don’t sell yourself short over the lack of experience many whites have when it comes to different races.

[+ sniper]

I think it all goes back to my theory that men are like ducklings and imprint on what they jerked off to at 14.  Some expand their tastes. But most don't. 

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I love twinks, and Asians make great twinks. Unfortunately, some RM Asian twinks are guilty of using other people's pictures. I make sure they're vetted on this site before I proceed.

[Pd1_jap]

I've always been an equal opportunity whore. There's some really hot Asian guys in LA. 

It's a real shame that racism blocks people from having a fun time. As for Asian escorts, I usually avoid as they often don't use photos of themselves and even when they do they don't really know how to fake being into me. Also I generally can get a hot Asian guy without having to pay on sniffies. 

Regardless what anyone thinks you have to be happy with yourself and tell all the haters to piss off.

[BSR]

4 hours ago, sniper said:

I think it all goes back to my theory that men are like ducklings and imprint on what they jerked off to at 14.  Some expand their tastes. But most don't. 

I think you’re onto something.  Even though I’m Asian myself, but for a few exceptions I was never really into Asian guys.  But now that I’m living in Manila, holy sh!t, my head is on a swivel checking out all the cute Filipinos.  I’m sitting at Starbucks right now trying (but failing miserably) not to be too obvious while staring at one of the most beautiful men I’ve ever seen.  Not the most beautiful just in the Philippines or Asia, but anywhere.  Oh gawd, security is about to kick me out for stalking, eek!

Once you get past the imprinting, there’s a whole wide world out there.

[liubit]

Before I moved to Hong Kong four years ago, I had never had sex with an Asian man. Oh, what a world I discovered here: local guys are mostly passionate and sweet lovers, great kissers, and just plain hot. Their smooth skin is a delight to lick. Furthermore, many cute HK twinks are very much into Caucasian hairy daddies (exactly my type), so I have had my very fair amount of free sex, no real need to hire much. 

Guys who off-hand reject Asian men do not know what they are missing. Nevertheless, I have to admit that many Asian guys plainly state that they are NOT attracted to Asians themselves, so go figure. 

A word to @francisssgorg and @BSR: every Filipino boy that I have met here has proved to be an awesome kisser. Yes, I mean awesome, and each and everyone of them. Is there something in the water in Manila? 😊

[+ Just Chuck]

I’ve heard of an American bias about asian men.  I’ve even read popular media articles about it.  And, I’ve read how asian women are often fetishized.

Personally, I find asians to be very attractive.

I’m 1/2-white and 1/2-American Indian, so my ice age ancestors were asian and it shows on a DNA test.  I have been surprised at how often asian men expressed interest in me.

 

[maninsoma]

Except when I was still a teenager, when about the only kind of guy that attracted me was the California, blond surfer type, I've always had fairly broad taste when it comes to what I find attractive.  I'm generally less attracted to fair skinned guys like myself, and if I was able to make a list of everyone I've ever had sex with I'm guessing that Latin and Asian men would dominate the list.  

[Charlington]

5 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

I've always been an equal opportunity whore. There's some really hot Asian guys in LA. 

It's a real shame that racism blocks people from having a fun time. As for Asian escorts, I usually avoid as they often don't use photos of themselves and even when they do they don't really know how to fake being into me. Also I generally can get a hot Asian guy without having to pay on sniffies. 

Regardless what anyone thinks you have to be happy with yourself and tell all the haters to piss off.

It’s not racist to not be attracted sexually to a certain ethnic group. Everyone has their type. I’m generally attracted to hot Indian men, but not as much East Asians. I don’t think that makes me racist. As I respect Asian culture and people. 

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

Some people prefer white meat chicken while others prefer the drumsticks, some prefer their steak rare while others like it well done, some like white bread while others prefer wheat. Bozo could go on and on but you get his point. Now, what exactly is your point? That we have different taste in men like we have different taste in food? Or furniture? Or clothing? Or hairstyles? Or wallpaper? Or just about everything else?

@Charlington is absolutely correct. There is NOTHING racist about having a preference in men just like having a preference in everything else in life.
It is simply human nature. NOT racism.

BTC
🤡

Edited 22 hours ago by BOZO T CLOWN

[Whippoorwill]

We all have our preferences. I am white. Since I was ten years old, my preference has been Asian. My partner of many decades is Chinese American. His parents were immigrants. Of his generation, half are married to Chinese, half to other. The next generation is completely mixed amongst all ethnicities and religions. Family gatherings are truly the rainbow coalition and it’s wonderful. 

My partner has zero sexual interest in another Asian. All his boyfriends have been white, although he is very Chinese culturally, and very proud of it. 

One of the reasons I moved to San Francisco is so I could finally have an Asian boyfriend. And I quickly found that many Asian guys go for older white guys. Yea. 

I was talking with one of my massage boys (Japanese) who was complaining that he was invisible to most (white) guys in the gym. I sympathized but had to point out to him that one of the reasons I picked him was that very characteristic…his ethnicity.

 Once I had a straight Chinese American roommate. He was only interested in blond white girls. My best buddy (white) is only interested in Filipino guys, has a Filipino husband, and absolutely loves his big Filipino in-law family. I have another good friend who is Eastern European Jewish, whose ideal is Scandinavian blondes. 

When I scroll through the various porn pictures on this site,  it’s always the Asian twunks that stop me in my tracks. 

Racist? Some will say so, but it’s definitely hard wired into some of us. 

 

 

Edited yesterday at 01:47 PM by Whippoorwill

[maninsoma]

I'll wade into the "is it just a preference or is it racism" debate with an anecdote.

I was visiting a friend of mine about 20 years ago who was telling me that he just doesn't find black men attractive.  (We're both white.)  I happened to have brought a fitness magazine with me that had an incredibly gorgeous black man on the cover.  I showed him the magazine and asked, "Are you really telling me you wouldn't have sex with this guy if he asked?"  My friend admitted that the guy was hot.  I think the "racism" part is that he generally didn't even give black men a second look; he saw the skin color and immediately thought to himself, "Not for me."  It's not like all black men look alike, nor do all men of Asian decent look alike.  Someone saying they just don't find men of a certain race/ethnic background attractive indicates to me that they have a preconceived notion that each person in that category won't turn them on rather than having an open mind and then ultimately acknowledging that they find a larger percentage of whatever category it is less appealing.  

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I understand preferences but I don't understand absolutism.

[+ Charlie]

My parents would pretty much roll their eyes whenever they heard anyone say, "Asians are ......," "Blacks are.....," "Italians are....," etc. They made it clear to me that human beings are individuals and should be regarded as such, no matter their ethnicity or race. When it came to who I was attracted to sexually, the most important characteristic was whether or not they were male. There were plenty of males who did not attract my sexual interest, but it was never due to the color of their skin, the language they spoke, or their preferences in food or music. I was much more interested in the shape of their bodies, their hair patterns, their facial character, and their behavior. He didn't have to be tall, dark and handsome--he could just as well be short, light, and handsome. And, of course, he had to be interested in having sex with me.

[LostUpstate]

Sorry to hear that some guys completely drop the conversation when they find out you’re Asian. I’m Caucasian but I’m attracted to all types, it’s the individual himself that attracts me, not what ethnicity he is. I like White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, Middle Eastern, Indian and anything else that I may have left out. And the stereotypes don’t always apply- I’ve been with some Asian guys who have been very well-endowed. But it’s not just the size of their junk, I’m attracted to guys who aren’t as well-endowed, too, because they have something that I find attractive. I’ve been with Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Thai, Vietnamese, Filipino, Indonesian and Chinese-Caucasian mixed, and I’ve enjoyed them all! 

[+ Lucky]

4 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Some people prefer white meat chicken while others prefer the drumsticks, some prefer their steak rare while others like it well done, some like white bread while others prefer wheat. Bozo could go on and on but you get his point. Now, what exactly is your point? That we have different taste in men like we have different taste in food? Or furniture? Or clothing? Or hairstyles? Or wallpaper? Or just about everything else?

@Charlington is absolutely correct. There is NOTHING racist about having a preference in men just like having a preference in everything else in life.
It is simply human nature. NOT racism.

BTC
🤡

You seem to be missing the point the OP made. We are not talking sexual situations, but anonymous online conversations. It shouldn't matter what the race of the other party is, but what he has to say.

Edited 22 hours ago by Lucky

[Charlington]

I do love this hot Asian onlyfans star called Simba Korea. Though I’m pretty sure he had cosmetic surgery done on his eyes to look less Asian.

[Stormy]

I had a fling with a Filipino man.  Tight muscle body, great communicator and excellent in bed.  You are missing out if you automatically exclude any race 

[francisssgorg]

11 hours ago, liubit said:

A word to @francisssgorg and @BSR: every Filipino boy that I have met here has proved to be an awesome kisser. Yes, I mean awesome, and each and everyone of them. Is there something in the water in Manila? 😊

I’m good with my mouth lol🤣🤣 and we like worshipping too… using our mouths lol

[francisssgorg]

7 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Some people prefer white meat chicken while others prefer the drumsticks, some prefer their steak rare while others like it well done, some like white bread while others prefer wheat. Bozo could go on and on but you get his point. Now, what exactly is your point? That we have different taste in men like we have different taste in food? Or furniture? Or clothing? Or hairstyles? Or wallpaper? Or just about everything else?

@Charlington is absolutely correct. There is NOTHING racist about having a preference in men just like having a preference in everything else in life.
It is simply human nature. NOT racism.

BTC
🤡

Before commenting, try to dissect first what the OP had written. I specifically said “I respect preferences”. And I NEVER wrote the words “RACIST/RACISM”. 
 

This is about getting the opinion of western men/specifically gay men as to why is it that they prefer other western men. Whether it’d be white, or blacks or latinos who are born here or in some other western countries, and choose another westerner… this question is made out of curiosity. 
 

Side note: it’s the second time you attacked a topic I created when all I did was to ask an honest question with no derogatory statements whatsoever. Yeah, your profile fits you. You really are a clown  👍

[francisssgorg]

And just before this topic gets steered into RACISM, again, please read my post. I never ever stated RACIST/RACISM in my honest question/observation. I was simply asking (in summary) as to why MOST westerners choose other westerners as well. And I just simply specified that most of the time, they exclude ASIANS in their option. Which is completely fine, I just wanna know why they don’t “prefer” us.
 

P-R-E-F-E-R. 

[jeezifonly]

When it comes to the personal relationships we speak of here, at age 70, I automatically exclude anyone with the immutable characteristic of being under 35.

It would be natural for a 30yr old to take offense. Just as it's natural for me to steer clear of Reddit. 
 

 

[francisssgorg]

Anyway, thank you to those who answered the question directly. I appreciate those answers that the intention was to enlighten the mind of the OP and some other Asians who have the same thought. It’s not just me in general. I’ve encountered other Asian gay men who lives here in the US as well. Some of them have the same sentiment as well. It has also been featured in some public articles whether online or not. 
 

And if you misinterpreted this question/observation, it reflects back to you, your mindset and personality overall. No need to be defensive because I never meant this topic to be offensive AT ALL. If you got offended, I apologize, but also, WHY would you get offended in the first place? 
 

And there’s no need to undermine a lowly user of this forum, which was created to be a safe space for us I believe. Throw in more of those sarcastic responses, I will consider it as YOU and your opinion. I definitely, still appreciate it 🙏 

[+ sync]

1 hour ago, francisssgorg said:

Anyway, thank you to those who answered the question directly. I appreciate those answers that the intention was to enlighten the mind of the OP and some other Asians who have the same thought. It’s not just me in general. I’ve encountered other Asian gay men who lives here in the US as well. Some of them have the same sentiment as well. It has also been featured in some public articles whether online or not. 
 

And if you misinterpreted this question/observation, it reflects back to you, your mindset and personality overall. No need to be defensive because I never meant this topic to be offensive AT ALL. If you got offended, I apologize, but also, WHY would you get offended in the first place? 
 

And there’s no need to undermine a lowly user of this forum, which was created to be a safe space for us I believe. Throw in more of those sarcastic responses, I will consider it as YOU and your opinion. I definitely, still appreciate it 🙏 

Unfortunately, within social media there is no safe haven from trolling.  Stand your ground and "keep on keeping on."  🙂

[+ JamesB]

On 3/31/2026 at 9:08 PM, francisssgorg said:

Just curious, why is it that the least attractive guys for gay community in western world are asians? Like 60-70% would already back out if they learned that the person is asian, especially with gay guys. 

I was on reddit earlier this morning, just killing time, when I responded to a topic about gay guys who love watching cfnm instead of cmnm, which is a weird topic, I know. But to make it short, I do watch cfnm sometimes and I like it better than cmnm in some instances but I always concentrate on the guy. So then I got a message in the chat section from an anonymous redditor and he initiated the conversation about liking cfnm despite being a gay guy. I said I live in the States and he said he's from Spain. We weren't hitting on each other and it's gonna be awkward if we do since we're both anonymous users. We just found a common ground. As I was telling some of my kinks other than cmnm, in my responses, I always mention "back in my country" and when he asked, which country, I said Philippines. That's when he stopped chatting. Lol.. This is probably the third or fourth time it happened to me on reddit, and one time I got blocked even, after I mentioned I'm Asian. Sometime ago, when I was on vacation in Seattle, I was looking for cruising spots in the area, and whenever I mention where I'm originally from, it's like an instant auto block. I respect preferences. But sometimes, it hurts our confidence and our insecurities are heightened. Disclaimer, I won't consider myself as a physically attractive asian guy, but there are millions of really hot asian guys in the world and they are missing out 🤣. Gay guys from western countries, their common asset is that they're packing down there. Yes, bless their genetics lol! But you know, being an asian sized guy, I believe that we have to double our efforts to showcase our "skill sets". There's a lot of verse asian guys for starters. Also, we satisfy a lot of kinks that some big dicked western guy are clearly lacking. No offense, but I've experienced a lot of lazy tops, whether it'd be whites, blacks, latinos or whatever... They thought, "oh we have a big equipment, we don't need to put on a whole show, they would just worship me and work around it" oh please. But anyway, I'm not saying all of them are, but mostly. 

Anyway, those are just my two cents. If they don't wanna, it's fine. And for those who I had an encounter with, thank you, I hope you are satisfied with my vacuum powered, washing machine like mouth 🤣 I have a killer head game, I believe. If I could just eternalize those guys words and moanings 🤣

I’m sorry you’ve been having these kinds of negative experiences. I can relate in my own way. I’m personally very attracted to most Asians and I’ve definitely had moments where people reacted as if that preference was unusual or hard to understand.

I think it’s important to separate the idea of having a personal “type” from the broader issue of bias. Everyone has preferences and that’s completely natural. At the same time, those preferences don’t develop in isolation. They’re shaped, at least in part, by the culture we grow up in, the media we consume, and the stereotypes we’re exposed to over time.