How would you know if a dancer would come to your place?

ajvanguard · January 31

I’m headed to Fort Lauderdale. I appreciate the info on the clubs. Any hints on how to approach dancers ( or patrons)?

BeamerBikes · January 31

It’s been said before in the forums. It bares repeating.
Hire escorts.
Get a massage from a masseur.
Tip your Go-Go dancers.

it’s tricky to pick up a go-go all my success has been after multiple nights of interaction. Exception being if I know they have an ad on RentMen. Picking up a go-go after a shift is sometimes a long shot as well. They are getting off of a shift at work, and may need to prepare before your time.

All that being said, show interest with tips and conversation. If it appears to going well after 15-30 min, you can always directly ask if they’d be interested in meeting up at your hotel. Be prepared to get a brush off (at best), continued teasing expectation of tips/lap dances can drain your balance fast and there’s no guarantee they’ll perform as expected.

Escorts / Masseurs / Gogo’s all have different job profiles. It’s rare to find someone versed in even 2 of those 3. If you want to pick up an escort but want some face time, ask for FaceTime or offer to meet up for drinks before hand.

ajvanguard · January 31

Appreciate it

mtaabq · January 31

@BeamerBikes Thank you for that advice. I had not read that in the forum before, stated like that, and that is excellent info to have.

@ajvanguard There's no harm in asking directly; the worst thing they're gonna say is "no" - referring back to @BeamerBikes - you need to be prepared to get the brush off.

The one time I asked a dancer directly we were able to negotiate a later visit at my hotel during a lap dance. Dude showed up when promised and gave me a very good time for a fee that I was willing to pay. But he easily could have told me "no". Guess I got lucky. I haven't tried that again since.

Veryshyone · January 31

Such a novice am I!! Never really thought about approaching a dancer to meet me after their shift. A new perspective to explore. Thanks COM!!!!!

hwic04 · February 1

All good advice above. I would add that if a dancer gives an especially good lap dance it can be an indication he’d be up for spending more intimate personal time. Dancers who are more standoffish or just going through the motions during a lap dance are in my experience less likely to agree to a meeting outside the club. A question that has worked for me, “Do you ever do private shows?” They’ll know what you mean.

Poppie · February 1

And then .... there are dancers that will approach YOU. Last time I was in Montreal, in less than an hour .. I had 3 dancers tell me that they would go back to my hotel during the shift. I was flattered to say the least. One hotter than the other. Never did talk about a fee, but thinking I lost an opportunity to add another memory to my adventures.

+ *SirBillybob* · February 1

You would know for sure when he’s at your home under the rain shower prior to donning a fluffy bathrobe and sauntering to the sheepskin rug in front of the fireplace.

Edited February 1 by SirBillybob

+ *poolboy48220* · February 1

12 hours ago, hwic04 said:

A question that has worked for me, “Do you ever do private shows?”

I've also asked "Do you ever see guys outside the club?" I've got a decent record of taking dancers home. It's always been after getting a private dance from them. Rarely that night (since by the time their shift ends I'm definitely asleep), but we make arrangements for another night.

Actually there was one time 'that night', a dancer was very interested and we fooled around in my car in a roadside parking lot after the club closed. That was a hookup, not a paid encounter, and kind of amazed me, he was way out of my league.

Jasrb36 · February 1

Ive never asked but i have had dancers ask me after ive done lap dances. I have only accepted one offer recently after I knew the dancer for a long time and have since asked him a few times. It wasnt something i really thought about doing prior.

+ *jeezopete* · February 1

11 hours ago, Poppie said:

And then .... there are dancers that will approach YOU.

6 hours ago, Jasrb36 said:

i have had dancers ask me after ive done lap dances.

I've had dancers ask questions like, "Where are you staying?" and "Are you staying alone?" when I've just told them I'm from out of town.

Last night for example, during a lap dance with a dancer from out of town, he asked, "Do you live alone?"

Questions like that often indicate a good direction for the conversation to lead to private arrangements.

In answer to the OP's question, when you and a dancer are discussing a lap dance, or during/after a lap dance, you can always say something like, "If you ever want to do more than a lap dance, let me know." Just a simple sentence that can either end there or lead to a more promising discussion.

riowanderer · February 2

Since 1996, I've been hiring hot dancers for private hotel shows at both Campus and Stock. I'm no longer interested in spending my private hotel show budget on $20 dances in the back, so whenever a hottie at the club I'm interested in approaches me or vice-versa, I politely let them know right off the bat that I'm only looking for a private hotel show, in order not to waste their valuable time. By doing so, it eliminates the dudes who are either not open to doing them or not available that night, while starting a brief convo / negotiation about connecting back at my hotel with the guys who are open. Having cut to the chase, I then let them know briefly what services I'm ideally looking for and ask about their specific fee. I'm typically only looking to give perform one-way oral + kissing, so anything above $300 is a total non-starter for me and I make that politely clear in order not to waste anyone's time. Many dancers though aren't actually doing much more than that from my experience, although there are certainly exceptions! And depending on multiple factors, the dancer may either agree, decline, or let me know he'll circle back later depending on how his night goes. His decision will typically be based on multiple factors, including how busy the night is...how much $$ he's made...what monthly bills need immediate paying...other customer offers for private shows...the specific services being sought...if you're a regular private hotel show client...if you have a solid reputation with other dancer friends of theirs at the club...if you're staying at a nearby hotel...and whether you're asking early on in their shift or later near closing when they have the best grasp of their financial situation that night and other higher-fee private show opportunities!:) At the end of the day for most of these guys, it all comes down to bottom-line $$$ offered and their financial need, provided you don't come across in a sketchy, unprofessional, unfriendly or disrespectful manner. Some dancers typically will give you the familiar line about "let's do some dances in the back first" before talking further about a private hotel show, "so we can get to know each other better". LOL > some guys mean this sincerely, but for most of them it's just another way of getting your $20 private dance business at the club and they're never really available for private hotel shows!:) The dancers who are truly open to & experienced with high-fee hotel shows do not require to "get to know you better first" in the back > I've learned that the expensive way many times in the past!:) And while dancers can certainly leave the club on their breaks throughout the night for nearby private hotel shows, I've typically found these to be much more rushed vs waiting until after they finish their shift and they're then more focused on you for the standard unrushed standard full 60 minute session!