Addiction

[Aaron 90]

Anyone ever become addicted or close to it with hiring? 

I may have to watch myself 😅

[jmichaeliii]

12 minutes ago, Aaron 90 said:

Anyone ever become addicted or close to it with hiring? 

I may have to watch myself 😅

Yep, I struggle with it too!

[jeezifonly]

Always a good idea to be mindful of quantity when consuming irresistible and decadent delights of all sorts. 

[Nightowl]

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted but about two days after a session I start thinking about scheduling the next one…

[Aaron 90]

10 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted but about two days after a session I start thinking about scheduling the next one…

Or me during the current session 😆

[soloyo215]

14 hours ago, Aaron 90 said:

Anyone ever become addicted or close to it with hiring? 

I may have to watch myself 😅

I don't think "addiction" is the correct word to describe the times when I feel I can't get enough. In my case it's more like a binge of sort that stops at some point. After my initial first binge I've never been so actively hiring. I do hire but within reason and within my resources.

I've never allowed hiring or providers interfere with my life, my family, my work or any other aspect of my life. I understand that one of the aspects of addiction is that it takes over people's lives, and fortunately, that's never been the case with me. My position is that for as long as it doesn't interfere with anything in my life, it's not an addiction, nor is it a concern of any kind.

In fact, self-care was the original reason why I started hiring.

Edited 10 hours ago by soloyo215

[+ Pensant]

I’ve tapered off after a number of years, but I still like to binge occasionally. Fortunately I have three regulars who provide me with plenty of erotic satisfaction.

[BeHappy]

2 hours ago, Pensant said:

I’ve tapered off after a number of years, but I still like to binge occasionally. Fortunately I have three regulars who provide me with plenty of erotic satisfaction.

I am in that camp as well!  I still like to go on binges though!  So fun to meet new fellas and the excitement of the first meet up!  
It’s not an addiction but more of an adventure!  

Edited 8 hours ago by BeHappy
Grammar

[jeffla]

I’m not addicted. I usually wait at least 15 minutes into my current session before I start scheduling the next one for later that morning.

[Stasoxxx69]

I understand the compulsive feeling to hire, but at least with straight up escorts, I have always found those experiences to not live up to what's in my head going into them. If you are trying to stop, my best advice is to to think it through...how are you feeling leading up to the idea to hire? how are you going to feel after you hire? when do you tend to want to hire? Is there a patter there? If yes, another thing to do is replace the behavior with something else, so if Friday nights tend to be triggering for you and lead to hiring, find something else to do that isn't congruent with hiring. I think the struggle for me is the need to hire for massage. Over the years I have felt less sexual about massages, though I still partake in sexual interactions when they seem right, but mostly it's because we're all human beings and we need to be touched. If I'm in a dry spell and not hooking up or dating someone, it can be weeks without any real intimate human contact, this isn't healthy either. 

[Mark_fl]

I find that when I have a booking I'm looking forward to in the future, I have little inclination to book another, even it the booking is a month or more away. 

Especially if the booking is with my favorite provider. Maybe it's my monogamous nature. Maybe it's that anything less than that expectation would be a disappointment. 

[Aaron 90]

2 hours ago, Stasoxxx69 said:

I understand the compulsive feeling to hire, but at least with straight up escorts, I have always found those experiences to not live up to what's in my head going into them. If you are trying to stop, my best advice is to to think it through...how are you feeling leading up to the idea to hire? how are you going to feel after you hire? when do you tend to want to hire? Is there a patter there? If yes, another thing to do is replace the behavior with something else, so if Friday nights tend to be triggering for you and lead to hiring, find something else to do that isn't congruent with hiring. I think the struggle for me is the need to hire for massage. Over the years I have felt less sexual about massages, though I still partake in sexual interactions when they seem right, but mostly it's because we're all human beings and we need to be touched. If I'm in a dry spell and not hooking up or dating someone, it can be weeks without any real intimate human contact, this isn't healthy either. 

Very well said. Totally agree. Finding a healthy balance is the key.

[+ DrownedBoy]

"Binge" to me means hiring more than one person a week.

I have a line item in my budget specifically for this hobby. Nothing in the line item, no hiring. One area where my relationship with money helps.

[jeffla]

7 hours ago, BeHappy said:

I am in that camp as well!  I still like to go on binges though!  So fun to meet new fellas and the excitement of the first meet up!  
It’s not an addiction but more of an adventure!  

I love your attitude. I feel the same. The excitement of the first meet-up is the best, even though I'll see favorites many times. Binge to me is maybe 3x in a week on occasion.