What to say in a text?

[Redbook]

Hi - there is a provider I’m interested in. I sent him an RM message and got his auto reply, which provided his number, saying he does not use the RM messenger and prefers texts. That’s cool, but every other time I’ve texted with a provider, we’d already exchanged some RM messages and he’d seen my RM account, knew how old I was (in my 50s) and what I was looking for.

For an introductory text, what or how much should I say? Just “hi I saw your ad and I think you’re really attractive and would love to connect? Or do I describe myself and what services I’m looking for?

Thanks 

[DMonDude]

Maybe this is a preference thing, but I've never described myself to the providers unless they have asked me to (only one has ever asked me anything about my appearance/age before meeting), and i didn't have any of that listed on my profile until very recently either. If that's something that providers like/prefer then that's news to me haha.

If I'm messaging them for the first time through text though, and we didn't already have an RM exchange. I usually start with "Hi i saw your ad on RM and was interested in booking. What are your rates and services?" This is also what i start with if messaging them via RM. ". Then i just go with the flow from there.

[Keenan]

22 minutes ago, Redbook said:

Hi - there is a provider I’m interested in. I sent him an RM message and got his auto reply, which provided his number, saying he does not use the RM messenger and prefers texts. That’s cool, but every other time I’ve texted with a provider, we’d already exchanged some RM messages and he’d seen my RM account, knew how old I was (in my 50s) and what I was looking for.

For an introductory text, what or how much should I say? Just “hi I saw your ad and I think you’re really attractive and would love to connect? Or do I describe myself and what services I’m looking for?

Thanks 

Say where you found him.  Mention when you are looking for and if you are looking for him to come to you or you go to him.  Mention how much time you are looking for and mention what you enjoy.  This should limit numerous texts back and forth and gets right to the point.  Be aware that he might not be available at the time you are requesting.  If so have some alternative times.  Also be aware that if you are trying to do a same day booking that it might not happen based on his availability.  You might want to ask his rates also.

[Yukon21]

When I get the auto reply I respond with a second message stating "I prefer to keep the conversation here.  If we set up an appointment we can move to text.  Thanks."  Im batting close to 100% on a reply on the Rentmen system and we go from there.  

[GentJ]

37 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

If that's something that providers like/prefer then that's news to me haha.

🙋‍♀️ I definitely appreciate it. A picture is great too. I don't usually ask because I don't want anyone to feel judged. But it's easier for me to get comfortable with someone if it's not a complete surprise. And I think that tends to make it lots more fun.

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Here are some really helpful threads (all closed) that provide great examples of what to include, and what to be sure not to do, in your first text message:

 

 

 

Edited 20 hours ago by Vegas_Millennial

[savantsav]

My goto is:

"Hi soandso I hope you're having a great evening, my name is blah, I saw your Ad on RM and wanted to know about your availability/rates for an incall/outcall to XXX on DD at HH:MM? I'm mostly a bttm/top/verse and I'm interested in x/y/z, hopefully is something you can accommodate, thank you!"

[DMonDude]

26 minutes ago, GentJ said:

🙋‍♀️ I definitely appreciate it. A picture is great too. I don't usually ask because I don't want anyone to feel judged. But it's easier for me to get comfortable with someone if it's not a complete surprise. And I think that tends to make it lots more fun.

 

Very interesting! That makes sense. Huh, yeah I've only ever been asked for a pic once and was too nervous/self conscious to provide it so i ended up not seeing that guy. I did just very recently fill in some basic stats on RM and have noticed slightly better response when i inquire with a provider. So this checks out.

9 minutes ago, savantsav said:

My goto is:

"Hi soandso I hope you're having a great evening, my name is blah, I saw your Ad on RM and wanted to know about your availability/rates for an incall/outcall to XXX on DD at HH:MM? I'm mostly a bttm/top/verse and I'm interested in x/y/z, hopefully is something you can accommodate, thank you!"

This is good. Very succinct, gives all info about you needed and totally puts the ball in their court to possibly effectively have something locked in within the next 2 or 3 messages. With my messages i usually don't list a preferred time i want to meet cause i assume they have a busier schedule than me and part of me wants to be accomodating for them. But in hindsight, listing a preferred day/time maybe then makes it easier for them to be like "yes i'm free then, let's do it" or "i'm not free then but i'm free X hours or the day before that". So still seems more efficient the way you do it.

Edited 20 hours ago by DMonDude

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

1 hour ago, Redbook said:

For an introductory text, what or how much should I say? 

Thanks 

This is Bozo's opening gambit:

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
What is the charge...
...to spend an hour with you?

BTC
🤡

[jeezifonly]

Stick to basics

Who. (Give your name)

What. Saw your ad on xx, want to book (massage, other) of x duration. Add brief compliment.

When. Day (and date) and time

Where. His place or yours 

•Save $ inquiry for 2nd-3rd if he's not volunteered•

 

[GentJ]

It's also helpful to mention your RM name! (Maybe not for people who have an auto-reply message), but sometimes I have trouble keeping track of which text message threads go with which RM threads.

[Nightowl]

I always say I’m a new client, looking to book a massage/session with him, want X amount of time, incall (or outcall), and ask for his availability during a couple of specific dates.  I usually avoid explicit details of what I want in the first text with a new provider but open the door to the discussion with something like “we can discuss specifics via text or RM message.  Please let me know your preference. Hope we can work something out.” 

[MikeBiDude]

I’m a bit different, I don’t ask/mention date/time. Usually “Hi I’m xxxx, “ give my age, preferences, location (visiting locally or not), “curious what a visit allowance to me would be?” Then a second message “I hope all is well with you…take care!”

As far as I can tell it’s never failed. 

[+ azdr0710]

keep it brief, to-the-point, polite, and professional.....I don't say, "I think you're attractive" (should be obvious!).....I don't ask for rates in the first communication, usually to be discreet and to not appear like I'm shopping around......I do give a brief accurate description of my stats and appearance in the first chat and I suggest very specific dates and times of day (a few options) for the meeting in that first chat (many see that as a serious client)......I don't mention specific "acts" so as to minimize appearance to the provider of a sting.......and I close it (the first text/communication) with asking the provider if they have any questions or requests for me......more specific logistics and planning can rapidly come in the second text.......after the first communication, DO NOT make giddy daily "can't wait!!!" texts.......only the minimum necessary communications

this is not written in stone and clients have their own styles.....some will disagree with my method........

 

[spidir]

Keep it concise. I do it in 18 words... friendly greeting and simply state where and when I want to meet and ask their hourly rate. Thank them and share my first name. 

[TonyDown]

My initial brief text could be.

_____________

Good evening (profile name)

I read your profile.

Are you booking appointments this week? 

________________

If I get an auto reply,  I read that reply and then decide whether to proceed. 

After an auto reply I tend to wait for the provider to follow up.  For example he could have a client on the massage table, and need time.

I might wait an hour or so but not too long.

If I don't hear back, then  I'll send a second text to stay in his queue, such as.........

_________________

I'd like a daytime appointment.   Would you be able to book a 90 minute session Thursday or Friday?

_________________

I do try to confirm details about his technique after he responds, keeping my texts brief.

[savantsav]

5 hours ago, DMonDude said:

Very interesting! That makes sense. Huh, yeah I've only ever been asked for a pic once and was too nervous/self conscious to provide it so i ended up not seeing that guy. I did just very recently fill in some basic stats on RM and have noticed slightly better response when i inquire with a provider. So this checks out.

This is good. Very succinct, gives all info about you needed and totally puts the ball in their court to possibly effectively have something locked in within the next 2 or 3 messages. With my messages i usually don't list a preferred time i want to meet cause i assume they have a busier schedule than me and part of me wants to be accomodating for them. But in hindsight, listing a preferred day/time maybe then makes it easier for them to be like "yes i'm free then, let's do it" or "i'm not free then but i'm free X hours or the day before that". So still seems more efficient the way you do it.

9/10 answer with saying hello back and letting me know if it's a match or not and when they are or not available followed by their rate.  If it's a match great we set everything up right there, if the rate is probably higher than what I would expect I reply with "I appreciate your response, and XXX is more that what I usually do of YYY. I'll keep that in mind in the future if anything changes but thank you and have a great rest of your evening". I don't message them again but usually they reply back accepting the rate but in the end I don't like wasting anyone's time and get all those things clear from the get-go.

[Luv2play]

6 hours ago, Redbook said:

Hi - there is a provider I’m interested in. I sent him an RM message and got his auto reply, which provided his number, saying he does not use the RM messenger and prefers texts. That’s cool, but every other time I’ve texted with a provider, we’d already exchanged some RM messages and he’d seen my RM account, knew how old I was (in my 50s) and what I was looking for.

For an introductory text, what or how much should I say? Just “hi I saw your ad and I think you’re really attractive and would love to connect? Or do I describe myself and what services I’m looking for?

Thanks 

In cases like yours, I always refer to my profile on RM where I am a premium client. That way I don’t have to repeat my details. If they advertise on RM then they have access to my profile. 

[Redbook]

Thank you everyone for the replies! Really appreciate you and this community