Fantasies that you NEVER want to actually live out

[+ Just Chuck]

Do you have a fantasy that:

• Really turns you on to think about AND
• You ABSOLUTELY NEVER want to try out in real life?

I'm sure that I have several, but here's one that had me thinking lately:  It's being used (as a bottom) in a completely anonymous fashion where I never get to know who did it.  I can't remember where I heard of the San Francisco Horse Market but when I web-searched the term . . . holy cow!

The Horse Market is a gay sex party where attendees sign up in advance as either a "mare" or a "stallion".  Mares are bottoms.  They arrive at the event earlier than the stallions (who are tops) strip and are blindfolded with cloth hoods, taken into the "stable" (play area) and lightly restrained. When the tops arrive, they can examine, grope, and fondle any of the mares and "mount" them however he chooses.  The mares get used (probably by several stallions) during the party but never get to see or know which stallions they serviced.

Actually doing that (either as mare or stallion) crosses several big red lines for me.  But, thinking about it is currently a turn-on for me. 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

While the idea of being tied to a post and whipped until I'm half dead has an appeal, it wouldn't be good for my skin.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Being raped in a prison cell

[+ purplekow]

I have a vivid sexual imagination and an adventurous inclination.  Although that was true when my sex life was limited to women, it fully blossomed after I began having sex with men rather late in life.  I thought I did not have enough time to do everythingI I wanted to do with men. so if an opportunity arose to do something out of my comfort level, I should do it. 

However, I do not think I would ever have sex while sky diving.  I fantasize about a tandem jump with both of us with strategically placed holes in our flight suits which would allow me access to my tandem partner's ass.  I think the idea of a free fall and the desire to come coordinated with pulling the chute as I shoot and the thrill of the chute jerking us up and shooting my load as we get pulled up.   While I know of at least one escort who loves parachuting, I doubt I would consider doing a jump, as that urge passed with my youth. In addition, I think the experienced skydiver takes the to position in a tandem dive and being the bottom is not part of this fantasy 

Edited March 21 by purplekow

[+ Just Chuck]

2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Being raped in a prison cell

I had a guy ask me for an abduction role-play and consensual-non-consent "rape" scene.  I declined.  One of my biggest fears around that would be to be mislead and actually harm someone who didn't want it. 

Now, if I already knew the guy and had been a successful sexual partner with them and trusted them to look out for everyone's safety, I might consider it.  But, I'd require a written contract and a video-recording of us both showing ID's and discussing what he actually wanted to do to him, any limits or warnings, and safe-words.  

Then, I'd have to stage the "abduction" so that any bystander would not be alarmed.  Like maybe, I just walk up behind him and whisper in his ear "come with me or else".

 

[TeddyBear]

3 hours ago, purplekow said:

I have a vivid sexual imagination and an adventurous inclination.  Although that was true when my sex life was limited to women, it fully blossomed after I began having sex with men rather late in life.  I thought I did not have enough time to do everythingI I wanted to do with men. so if an opportunity arose to do something out of my comfort level, I should do it. 

However, I do not think I would ever have sex while sky diving.  I fantasize about a tandem jump with both of us with strategically placed holes in our flight suits which would allow me access to my tandem partner's ass.  I think the idea of a free fall and the desire to come coordinated with pulling the chute as I shoot and the thrill of the chute jerking us up and shooting my load as we get pulled up.   While I know of at least one escort who loves parachuting, I doubt I would consider doing a jump, as that urge passed with my youth. In addition, I think the experienced skydiver takes the to position in a tandem dive and being the bottom is not part of this fantasy 

On my 60th birthday, I decided to do a tandem skydive.  The cute professional was behind me.  He had an appropriate rainbow parachute.  I also hired another skydiver to do a video.  Best birthday present ever.  And, yes, I have had the fantasy of being fucked while doing this.

When I was researching doing this, I found a gay skydiving group which was what I used.  There are gay groups for everything:  Scuba, Skiing, etc.

[Nightowl]

Unfortunately, most of the fantasies I have, I also *want* to happen but they can’t without causing significant irreparable damage to my life. As a married (to a woman) man, I could never pursue them.  My biggest fantasy right now is going to Palm Springs weekend and being surrounded by men who just want to be together, experience pleasure, and be free.  And some of them will be naked, including me.  It’ll never happen.

[+ Just Chuck]

26 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

Unfortunately, most of the fantasies I have, I also *want* to happen but they can’t without causing significant irreparable damage to my life. As a married (to a woman) man, I could never pursue them.  My biggest fantasy right now is going to Palm Springs weekend and being surrounded by men who just want to be together, experience pleasure, and be free.  And some of them will be naked, including me.  It’ll never happen.

I hope that you are able to find some comfort in this forum and in whatever ways you are able to express that side of your sexuality whether in the physical or imaginary world.  I hope you get the most satisfaction possible.

[Nightowl]

18 minutes ago, Just Chuck said:

I hope that you are able to find some comfort in this forum and in whatever ways you are able to express that side of your sexuality whether in the physical or imaginary world.  I hope you get the most satisfaction possible.

Thank you very much for the support.  I found this community and man-on-man massage later in life and it has given me the opportunity to learn from men who enjoy other men, as well as first-hand experience physical pleasure with other men.  I wish I had discovered both earlier but I’m glad I eventually took the jump.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Nightowl said:

Unfortunately, most of the fantasies I have, I also *want* to happen but they can’t without causing significant irreparable damage to my life. As a married (to a woman) man, I could never pursue them.  My biggest fantasy right now is going to Palm Springs weekend and being surrounded by men who just want to be together, experience pleasure, and be free.  And some of them will be naked, including me.  It’ll never happen.

It must be difficult to be in a relationship where partners can't be honest to share with each other 😢 

[Nightowl]

3 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

It must be difficult to be in a relationship where partners can't be honest to share with each other 😢 

Honesty isn’t possible.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

...and safe-words.  

From "Will & Grace", where Grace and Karen are locked inside Karen's voice-command "Smart Shower" as it fills up with water: 

KAREN:  Oh, my God, honey, that's it! That's it! The shutoff code is Stan and my safe word!

GRACE: Oh! Oh, oh. Thank God! What's your safe word?

KAREN: I can't remember.

GRACE: How could you not remember your safe word?

KAREN: Well, honey, I've never used it. Takes a lot for this little lamb chop to feel unsafe.

...

KAREN: Well, I know it's something that really kills the mood for me sexually...

GRACE: Oh, oh! [YELLING TOWARD THE CONTROL PANEL] Sobriety!

KAREN: No...

GRACE: Hillary Clinton!

KAREN: Oh, that's actually kind of a turn-on.

…(Later in the episode, when Grace and Karen reconcile their argument while still in the shower)...

GRACE: Well, you have it. I love you, Karen Walker.

KAREN: Right back at you, Grace Adler.

SMART SHOWER: Shower off.

GRACE: Wait a second.

KAREN: Oh, eh...

GRACE: "Grace Adler" is your safe word? My name is your sexual buzzkill

😁 

[+ Just Chuck]

@Vegas_Millennial On the "Watts the Safe Word" podcast a listener emailed in the question: "what's the funniest safe word that you ever remember hearing?

The answers that I remember laughing at were: "Lawsuit", and "I LOVE YOU!"

 

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Nightowl said:

My biggest fantasy right now is going to Palm Springs weekend and being surrounded by men who just want to be together, experience pleasure, and be free.  And some of them will be naked, including me.  It’ll never happen.

Reading this makes me extremely sad. 

Some fantasies should stay just as fantasies, because often the reality is never as good as the imagination. But when a fantasy is simply to be free, well that’s one that everyone deserves to feel. I hope you find it. Never give up on it. 
 

 

[Nightowl]

11 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Reading this makes me extremely sad. 

Some fantasies should stay just as fantasies, because often the reality is never as good as the imagination. But when a fantasy is simply to be free, well that’s one that everyone deserves to feel. I hope you find it. Never give up on it. 
 

 

Thanks.  As opportunities present themselves I find the freedom I can. It may be a couple of hours at a time with someone behind closed doors, but the momentary satisfaction keeps me going.

[+ Just Chuck]

@Vegas_MillennialMaybe you'd like the InterroGATion events.

[CuriousByNature]

On 3/21/2025 at 10:26 AM, purplekow said:

However, I do not think I would ever have sex while sky diving.  

You'd need to make sure you're yanking the rip cord and not something else.

[Mo Mason]

I fantasize about getting hit in the face, really fucking hard, by a gorgeous alpha Man.

But I don't want that to actually happen because it would hurt, really fucking bad.

[caramelsub]

Having someone spit or piss in my mouth. I love to watch that in porn, but don’t think I would like that in real life.

[+ sync]

My fantasy that I would never want to live out is Nicholas Galitzine pledging his love, as my insane possessiveness would instantly obliterate the relationship.

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

On 3/21/2025 at 6:18 AM, Just Chuck said:

Do you have a fantasy that:

• Really turns you on to think about AND
• You ABSOLUTELY NEVER want to try out in real life?

Yes. 
As a young clown, Bozo used to have sexual fantasies involving a wild 3-way with Fred and Ethel Mertz. Bozo always wondered what Fred and Ethel, particularly Fred, looked like naked.
The fantasy involved Fred Mertz wearing a Lone Ranger mask and cowboy boots, and Ethel wearing only a thong. IIRC, there was plenty of U-bet chocolate syrup involved.

BTC
🤡
 

[+ Just Chuck]

1 hour ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Yes. 
As a young clown, Bozo used to have sexual fantasies involving a wild 3-way with Fred and Ethel Mertz. Bozo always wondered what Fred and Ethel, particularly Fred, looked like naked.
The fantasy involved Fred Mertz wearing a Lone Ranger mask and cowboy boots, and Ethel wearing only a thong. IIRC, there was plenty of U-bet chocolate syrup involved.

BTC
🤡
 

Wow! 😲 

 

That is a very specific niche kink.

[56harrisond]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Yes. 
As a young clown, Bozo used to have sexual fantasies involving a wild 3-way with Fred and Ethel Mertz. Bozo always wondered what Fred and Ethel, particularly Fred, looked like naked.
The fantasy involved Fred Mertz wearing a Lone Ranger mask and cowboy boots, and Ethel wearing only a thong. IIRC, there was plenty of U-bet chocolate syrup involved.

BTC
🤡
 

[+ sync]

3 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Yes. 
As a young clown, Bozo used to have sexual fantasies involving a wild 3-way with Fred and Ethel Mertz. Bozo always wondered what Fred and Ethel, particularly Fred, looked like naked.
The fantasy involved Fred Mertz wearing a Lone Ranger mask and cowboy boots, and Ethel wearing only a thong. IIRC, there was plenty of U-bet chocolate syrup involved.

BTC
🤡