Irrational turn-offs

[+ JamesB]

10 hours ago, caramelsub said:

Well, I’ve tried laser hair removal. Multiple treatments, which were very expensive. But the hair just grows back. I have seen a little bit of a reduction. But I want something more permanent than waxing or shaving.

 

2 hours ago, Angel-Ayy said:

I did laser hair removal treatments for two years. Never helped. Now I just ask my husband to shave my back for me about once a month 😂

 

Laser hair removal effectiveness depends on a few key factors: the type of laser used, your skin tone, and your hair color and thickness. My first experience was with IPL, and honestly, it was a complete waste of time and money. Later, I tried Alexandrite, and I've been really happy with the results.

Is it permanent? Not exactly. I go in for a couple of maintenance sessions once a year, and that routine has worked well for me. For reference, I have light skin and medium-thickness dark hair, which seems to be an ideal combination for this type of treatment.

[+ Charlie]

Male body hair seems to be a pretty regular turn-on or turn-off for most gay men. I suspect it often determines whether one is turned on by twinks or daddies, and a book could be written (and probably has been) on the reasons for that dynamic.

[MikeBiDude]

2 hours ago, Charlie said:

Male body hair seems to be a pretty regular turn-on or turn-off for most gay men. I suspect it often determines whether one is turned on by twinks or daddies, and a book could be written (and probably has been) on the reasons for that dynamic.

Good intro to my (completely irrational) “turn off”, too much body hair. It kind of irritates me that it bothers me! I can see an absolutely handsome/adorable so my type face, and then a hairy chest and I go “meh”. 

I know so many of you like hirsute men, I wish I could get over it. I’m not sure if it’s linked to my early fun exploratory days with my hairless Boy Scout friends? Or even a few high school buddies?

I’ve learned to “get over it” and have enjoyed many a hairy man, including one of the best longer serious arrangements in my past. But, I’ll still quickly scroll past a RentMen ad with a hairy providers and scroll for the “light hairy” or “naturally smooth”.

[Guest]

17 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

Good intro to my (completely irrational) “turn off”, too much body hair. It kind of irritates me that it bothers me! I can see an absolutely handsome/adorable so my type face, and then a hairy chest and I got “meh”. 

I know so many of you like hirsute men, I wish I could get over it. I’m not sure if it’s linked to my early fun exploratory days with my hairless Boy Scout friends? Or even a few high school buddies?

I’ve learned to “get over it” and have enjoyed many a hairy man, including one of the best longer serious arrangements in my past. But, I’ll still quickly scroll past a RentMen ad with a hairy providers and scroll for the “light hairy” or “naturally smooth”.

Both of you and @Charlie bring up good points... where do turn ons/offs come from?

I remember when I was younger, a new pupil started in my grade, and my mom pointed out what pretty eyelashes he had. He was Latino. It was the first time I had looked at another male and observed his beauty. Must have planted a seed because I never got over it and I've ALWAYS had a thing for Latinos. In HS there were a couple Latinos who caught my eye. Now I'm 36 and married to a Latino 😂

same with foreskin. My first gay sexual experience was when I was in 2001, and my friend was uncut. Lo and behold, I still LOVE uncut (and yes my hubby is uncut).

 

as for turn-offs, I don't know where they derive from 😂😂

[Otterlybelievable]

Hairy shoulders have killed one too many boners for me

[+ Pensant]

On 3/12/2025 at 10:20 AM, Angel-Ayy said:

"papi/daddy"

I hate those words. Also don’t like being called “baby” when doing initial texting.

[Guest]

2 minutes ago, Pensant said:

I hate those words. Also don’t like being called “baby” when doing initial texting.

Exactly!

[+ Pensant]

On 3/12/2025 at 10:59 AM, Charlie said:

Nose rings and other facial jewelry.

I like a side nose ring on a cute twink, but not the thick septum ones. I also find a navel ring hot on the right type of slender body. Think theoriley in LA.

[Knightrider]

First and foremost.."BAD BREATH!" regardless how goodlooking (facial, body..etc) the guy may be. I'm a passionate kisser, therefore; nice moist lips and good smelling breath is a must for me. Second: "NON-Reciprocation"...immediately I begin losing interest and eventually stop due to "lack of chemistry. Myself, being someone's sex-puppet infuriates me. I deserve to be "please" as well! I'm relevant just as much as the guy I'm with. Too many guys "out there" that will enjoy reciprocating intimacy..etc. to settle for less.

[Guest]

10 hours ago, Knightrider said:

First and foremost.."BAD BREATH!" regardless how goodlooking (facial, body..etc) the guy may be. I'm a passionate kisser, therefore; nice moist lips and good smelling breath is a must for me. Second: "NON-Reciprocation"...immediately I begin losing interest and eventually stop due to "lack of chemistry. Myself, being someone's sex-puppet infuriates me. I deserve to be "please" as well! I'm relevant just as much as the guy I'm with. Too many guys "out there" that will enjoy reciprocating intimacy..etc. to settle for less.

Exactly!

The idea that the guy will just sit/lie there and let me do all the work while he ignores me... I don't get it.

[Nightowl]

Cock rings, genital piercings, and completely shaved “down there”

[Jack Vernon]

For me it's what I would call "aggressive circumcisions" - what I mean by that are really uneven and/or bad scars and rough dried out heads.  I just kinda cringe when I see them.

I feel bad because those guys probably were cut as babies without their consent, but I can't help what I like/don't like. 

[shinj518]

Long nails (including when someone leaves just one long nail)

Hair longer than just above shoulder-length (Aragorn in LOTR is about the limit)

Long beards

Bad breath

Bad smells (I find there's a fine line between musk that's a turn on and bad body odor that's a complete turn off and its so hard to know if a hot guys smell is going to be bad, I just end up always preferring a recently showered man)

[ICTJOCK]

Greasy hair.    That always is a deal braker for me.  Not sure why.

[+ 7829V]

Thongs.

Huge turn-off. No matter how hot the guy is, if he’s wearing a thong, the mood instantly dies for me. It’s like seeing a gourmet meal served on a paper plate—just ruins the whole experience for me. 

[+ Pensant]

9 hours ago, 7829V said:

if he’s wearing a thong

Not a big thong fan, either.