So few reviews about trans men (or FTM) providers…?

[Erbenle]

First off, thanks for this great site! You’ve all helped me more than you know, and I really appreciate the camaraderie here.

As the title of this post suggests, I’ve been wondering why there seem to be so few (if any) discussions about non-biological male,providers. I’m never quite sure which terms are most widely accepted, but trans and FTM come to mind. I know there are other identities I may not be familiar with, and I certainly don’t mean to generalize or exclude—or to objectify. This is just something I’ve noticed and I would love to be able to look to this site to get your insight on some of the providers I am interested in meeting.  

I can’t be the only one who enjoys spending time with all kinds of guys, so I’d love to hear from anyone with insights, experiences, or thoughts on this. Are there specific spaces where these conversations are happening, or is it just not a common topic here?

For context, I’m 63, tall, and slender—not a gym body, but a darn nice guy. 

Looking forward to your perspectives!

[marylander1940]

That's not the cup of tea of most of us but I'm sure some would like to try it because it's in there to do list. You're welcome to start threads about specific providers and share your own experiences with us. 

 

[Archangel]

The term is “transman.” Having dated a transman, I speak on that with some level of confident authority. No doubt it will be called into question and challenged but that’s been my experience.

[+ 7829V]

I’d say it’s because they’re a minority within a minority. It’s like trying to find a left-handed redhead who also speaks fluent Icelandic—pretty rare! On RentMen, I’ve only seen a couple of providers like that, on MasseurFinder just one, and on RentMasseur—none at all. Definitely not a common sight!

[SirBillybob]

40 minutes ago, 7829V said:

 

I’d say it’s because they’re a minority within a minority. It’s like trying to find a left-handed redhead who also speaks fluent Icelandic—pretty rare!

I think somebody somewhere in Kansas named Sam already has her claws in Viglundur.

Edited March 5 by SirBillybob

[Archangel]

Having dating a transguy, I just don’t resonate physically. Initially it was okay because of a personality compatibility, but when that fell apart, it was really not physically compatible either. 🤷🏼‍♂️ 

[Erbenle]

I’m the kind of guy that likes a guy by who he is as a person. I dated a transman briefly and it was no different than dating a bio guy.  He was sweet and fun…what’s not to like, ha. From that sweet relationship, I have had the random opportunity to meet other people who aren’t born male and I enjoy it very much. As I said above, objectification is not what I’m into at all, it’s the guy.

has anyone here hired a transman before?

[Alin]

2 minutes ago, Erbenle said:

I’m the kind of guy that likes a guy by who he is as a person. I dated a transman briefly and it was no different than dating a bio guy.  He was sweet and fun…what’s not to like, ha. From that sweet relationship, I have had the random opportunity to meet other people who aren’t born male and I enjoy it very much. As I said above, objectification is not what I’m into at all, it’s the guy.

has anyone here hired a transman before?

I attempted to do it a few times, as I genuinely have a preference for FTMs, but all my attempts failed miserably.
Usually, they are unwilling to engage in a “full frontal experience,” which I am certain is due to valid medical reasons.

The few who said they were ok to do it when I contacted them came across as extremely rude or far above the expected rate. 

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve filmed a couple of porn films with a lovely FTM guy called Eddy. He’s available for hire. Really great guy. Obviously he’s based in London (like me). I’d recommend anyone interested in hiring a trans guy to try him. 
 

[MikeBiDude]

I met a wonderful FTM on seeking.com a couple years ago, we met off/on for a year or so, he was a university student. Was SO MUCH fun, very twinkish, we had great chemistry. Lost touch when he graduated and I’m guessing moved home which was the other coast.

[mike carey]

Gentlemen, and any who identify differently, this is not the place to have a general discussion about trans issues. The question posed was a simple one, why is it that there are so few reviews of trans men who are providers. Part of the answer is the number of such providers advertising. Members' replies have also reflected that demand for their services is somewhat niche. 

Although the original title was somewhat oblique, the ensuing conversation has been open in using widely accepted terms so we've amended the title to use those terms. We will moderate the thread to remove comments that are or can easily be perceived as transphobic, and ask that you discuss these providers respectfully and not misgender them.

[Archangel]

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I hope that link works. But right there, simply putting in “FTM” renders 47 results. That’s more than you get with other searches that I would consider less niche. I didn’t do any further sleuthing, but you could cross-tab reference those usernames here in search to see if any have reviews.

 

[Simon Suraci]

I’ve worked with a trans FTM provider in TX, and contacted several others on behalf of clients for a threesome but never met due to logistics/scheduling conflicts. They had reasonable rates, on par with cis providers in their respective markets. I was surprised they weren’t charging a premium because it can be so difficult to find a trans man offering services in many areas of the country. Los Angeles has more than most, but still not that many options. Only some providers responded to my inquiries, and all of those that did were promising.

True, interest in trans masculine providers is niche, thus why you will see less traffic here on topics like this one, but quite a few members here are interested in a range of trans men nevertheless. I’m in that group. I enjoy play with trans men, for work and personal.

As to the reviews, again, FTM providers are a small minority. Fewer clients are seeking them out. Some are newer providers and few or no reviews is par for the course for any newer provider. RentMen has created unnecessary barriers to writing reviews for all providers in recent years, which we’ve discussed ad nauseam elsewhere.

You can’t be so picky with FTM providers. I’d say if you have an interest in one, just go for it. Barring any common red flags, try hiring the one you like. You may have to travel to his city or pay for him to visit yours. That’s just the reality of hiring any provider that falls within a minority that will not be well represented everywhere. It takes extra effort and/or cost to do that for the right provider for you, but it is what it is. Or hire one of the few available in your area and be willing to let go of some of your preferences, or get over his lack of public reviews. Just the nature of the beast.

[soloyo215]

23 hours ago, Erbenle said:

First off, thanks for this great site! You’ve all helped me more than you know, and I really appreciate the camaraderie here.

As the title of this post suggests, I’ve been wondering why there seem to be so few (if any) discussions about non-biological male,providers. I’m never quite sure which terms are most widely accepted, but trans and FTM come to mind. I know there are other identities I may not be familiar with, and I certainly don’t mean to generalize or exclude—or to objectify. This is just something I’ve noticed and I would love to be able to look to this site to get your insight on some of the providers I am interested in meeting.  

I can’t be the only one who enjoys spending time with all kinds of guys, so I’d love to hear from anyone with insights, experiences, or thoughts on this. Are there specific spaces where these conversations are happening, or is it just not a common topic here?

For context, I’m 63, tall, and slender—not a gym body, but a darn nice guy. 

Looking forward to your perspectives!

In my experience, although I've known of FTM (trans men), they have been a very tiny minority in comparison with the availability of gay men. That might be a reason why there aren't that many discussions about them. I do know of them since the 90s, so they have been around and available for some time. However, it was in time after being widely known that it seems like the largest demographic for FTM providers are gay men. That might be another reason for them having more visibility recently, and almost anonymity in the past.

I know of many men who have curiosity for them, but I have no idea of how many actually satisfy their curiosity. I personally have no interest in FTM providers, but they are out there, available just like other providers. In my experience and opinion, they are just not that many.

It'll be great if an individual who is a trans man could join and give their perspective.

Edited March 6 by soloyo215

[Beancounter]

If you do a Rentmen.eu search and set penis size to 4 inches you’ll get 3 pages of FTM providers.  I’m sure many of them will have reviews that you could then peruse.  I realize this an awkward way to seek out reviews.  Perhaps the OP is only interested in a general discussion about FTM from other Forum members though.  If that’s the case, the awkward approach I mentioned earlier would probably not be a viable option for him.  

[BuffaloKyle]

Hiring a FTM provider is at the top of my sexual bucket list @Erbenle so I know how tough it is to find one at all let alone one that checks all my boxes. Hopefully someday soon I'll get to hire one.

[Archangel]

@BuffaloKyle, check out the link to the search results I provided above. 53 options to wade through. 

[BuffaloKyle]

48 minutes ago, Archangel said:

@BuffaloKyle, check out the link to the search results I provided above. 53 options to wade through. 

I have searched for and know all the FTM providers on RM. I haven't been able to do any travels lately due to too much personal stuff going on with me but next time I plan a trip somewhere it's gonna be somewhere with one or two FTM providers I wanna get with for sure.

[+ ThroatCummer]

I posted a thread on this a few months ago that may be of interest: 

 

[pubic_assistance]

On 3/5/2025 at 5:47 PM, Alin said:

all my attempts failed miserably.
Usually, they are unwilling to engage in a “full frontal experience,” which I am certain is due to valid medical reasons.

I've never HIRED a trans man but I DO have some bit of FTM sexual experience from years ago. I find your struggle to get a full frontal experience strange, since to ME that is the whole point. I've never slept with anyone who had one of those micropenises built. All my FTM fuckbuddies were top-only surgery.

I do see providers pop up on Rent.men from time to time but they also disappear quickly. So not sure if it's lack of demand or negative experiences by the providers...but it IS a niche interest group that is under represented.  One word of advice would be to AVOID anyone who's fairly recently into their hormone therapy. The testosterone dump takes time to get accustomed to and FTM people can become very emotional and irrational (at least that's MY observation and experience).

Edited March 8 by pubic_assistance
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[+ sniper]

Are you insistent that it be a provider experience as opposed to just a hookup? Because there are transmen on both grindr and scruff. The reality is that due to their relative rarity the odds of a, um, custom experience are low anyway. If you're just looking to cross it off your bucket list, you have options. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

17 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Hiring a FTM provider is at the top of my sexual bucket list @Erbenle so I know how tough it is to find one at all let alone one that checks all my boxes. Hopefully someday soon I'll get to hire one.

Not me.  I've worked hard to maintain my Platinum Star Gay status, so I'm not going to risk losing it for experimentation 😆 

[Bokomaru]

3 hours ago, sniper said:

Are you insistent that it be a provider experience as opposed to just a hookup? Because there are transmen on both grindr and scruff. The reality is that due to their relative rarity the odds of a, um, custom experience are low anyway. If you're just looking to cross it off your bucket list, you have options. 

Not a bad suggestion as long as one keeps in mind that a hookup means the other person will have additional expectations that have to be considered. In my experience you have to get past the wariness of being objectified as trans. This is less of an issue with a provider, where you can be up front about being merely curious for the experience, since it’s more transactional in flavor. 

[+ sniper]

59 minutes ago, Bokomaru said:

Not a bad suggestion as long as one keeps in mind that a hookup means the other person will have additional expectations that have to be considered. In my experience you have to get past the wariness of being objectified as trans. This is less of an issue with a provider, where you can be up front about being merely curious for the experience, since it’s more transactional in flavor. 

Yeah but frankly when it's a rarer niche the provider is in a position to call some shots too. Most providers are not "I will give you precisely what you want no questions" unless the money is REALLY good. You're still dealing with a live person.

[Erbenle]

I’ve been chatting with a sweet guy recently and we’re meeting today. He’s trans, hot, seems to be a kind guy… I’m really excited to meet him. I found him on rentmen; he’s traveling through NYC for the day. I’ll report back.