Why are some clients saying “I only pay in cash”, when…

[TallMuscl37]

…when there’s ample hotels that don’t accept cash? Like come on, don’t play games. They should know just as well. I’ve stayed at a mid level hotel last week in, and prior to that a Hilton in a downtown area. More and more are not accepting cash anywhere on the property to check in or pay for food, unless it’s a tip.
 

Idk why some people have this idea that they should only give cash, though it’s usually to avoid giving a deposit or some irrational fear that a provider is going to hack their account somehow. Even if it’s paper trail issue: there’s ways to get around that. Lots of cheap prepaid card options. There’s even banks that offer a separate debit card number, from your main account.

I’m not a no cash person, but I can’t plan multi-city tours, based on someone potentially showing up with cash. I’ve done that before many times, sometimes it works: many times it doesn’t. For me it’s better to KNOW it will, so I don’t waste time and money going out to places with no actual proof of a real man being available to meet. There needs to be an expectation that a confirmation besides cash is going to be required by some. 
 

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Edited November 6, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[TallMuscl37]

I wouldn’t advise a check ever…because there’s no way to ensure it wouldn’t bounce back: but many people these days are familiar with the instant use of Venmo, cash app, etc as acceptable ways to pay for just about everything. 
 

My thing is: I have laid out in my ads what I require to arrange a session (deposit), yet some will reach out and insist that they will only pay cash. Okay then, that’s fine but: unless the cash is mailed or given in person somewhere before the booking, there’s still no way to consider that a way to confirm a booking and contribute towards the necessary expenses which may be needed to arrange a visit.

And the main ones who often say this: are the ones who want me to host, when I’m somewhere out of town but not hosting. Which means I have to then reach into my own pockets and front a hotel to host, that they will more than likely not show up to or cancel last minute after I hand over my own credit card.

Edited November 6, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ JEC]

59 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

…when there’s ample hotels that don’t accept cash? Like come on, don’t play games. They should know just as well. I’ve stayed at a mid level hotel last week in, and prior to that a Hilton in a downtown area. More and more are not accepting cash anywhere on the property to check in or pay for food, unless it’s a tip.
 

Idk why some people have this idea that they should only give cash, though it’s usually to avoid giving a deposit or some irrational fear that a provider is going to hack their account somehow. Even if it’s paper trail issue: there’s ways to get around that. Lots of cheap prepaid card options. There’s even banks that offer a separate debit card number, from your main account.

I’m not a no cash person, but I can’t plan multi-city tours, based on someone potentially showing up with cash. I’ve done that before many times, sometimes it works: many times it doesn’t. For me it’s better to KNOW it will, so I don’t waste time and money going out to places with no actual proof of a real man being available to meet. There needs to be an expectation that a confirmation besides cash is going to be required by some. 
 

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This is not complicated, many people (including me) do not want any record that the transaction occurred, for legal (and confidentiality) reasons.

[+ ThroatCummer]

Bitcoin. :) 

Back in 2017, I paid someone 2 BTC for a trip  that was worth about $6k at the time. I specifically told them not to cash it out and just keep it and don't so anything with it and just wait. 

They didn't listen to me. Today that would have been worth $150k. 

I'd urge every provider to take all payment methods possible.

Edited November 6, 2024 by ThroatCummer

[Trick]

Simple answer: I am the client and I want to pay in cash.  If the business does not accept my preferred mode of payment, I will go somewhere else.  In this case, I will hire someone else.

Why would I ever transact business with someone who makes it so difficult for me?  I am the client, I am the one to be pleased and satisfied, not the other way around.

[Trick]

9 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

I see... your post is more about "deposits" then. 

Were you expecting something else?

[Colton]

People say they only pay cash because they only want to pay using cash.

You constantly compare escorting with hotel reservations and salon appointments. They are not comparable in the US.  Ask any law enforcement officer if you don't understand why.

[Archangel]

1 hour ago, Colton said:

You constantly compare escorting with hotel reservations and salon appointments

We like to compare escorting to other industries when it supports our point; it’s its own thingy when we want to set different economic rules. Done you know that?! 🤣 

[+ DrownedBoy]

The vast majority, if not all, of the providers I hired preferred cash.

Asking for CashApp prior to coming = a scam so obvious that even Grindr users learn about it after a week.

[Chiguy3]

In my experience cash is a dead thing now with the newer generation! People prefer digital payment cause it quick and easy and all the money / proof is there. Yes providers now are asking for deposits and that’s largely due to a lot of people flaking or not showing up wasting the providers time. Also if you are the one paying for service maybe be mindful of how they like to be paid it’s not that hard 

5 hours ago, Trick said:

Simple answer: I am the client and I want to pay in cash.  If the business does not accept my preferred mode of payment, I will go somewhere else.  In this case, I will hire someone else.

Why would I ever transact business with someone who makes it so difficult for me?  I am the client, I am the one to be pleased and satisfied, not the other way around.

 

[Trick]

29 minutes ago, Chiguy3 said:

Also if you are the one paying for service maybe be mindful of how they like to be paid it’s not that hard.

No!  They should be mindful of how I want to pay. I don’t want to leave a paper trail with these kinds of transactions.  Should the provider be involved in a scandal or crime, I don’t want feds tracing anything back to me.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

13 hours ago, Chiguy3 said:

In my experience cash is a dead thing now with the newer generation! People prefer digital payment cause it quick and easy and all the money / proof is there. Yes providers now are asking for deposits and that’s largely due to a lot of people flaking or not showing up wasting the providers time. Also if you are the one paying for service maybe be mindful of how they like to be paid it’s not that hard 

 

Ask the responsible 12 year old how he's going to pay for his snack, drink, or merchandise, and it will still be cash.  Ask the older, but foolish, 20 year old taking out loans for her degree in underwater basket weaving, and she'll say digital payment. 

Just because a generation is doing it, doesn't make it wise 🦉 

Edited November 7, 2024 by Vegas_Millennial

[+ Jamie21]

I accept cash or card. Some clients prefer to pay in cash because of the anonymity. That’s fine with me, I’ve accepted any currency: €, £, $. I used to accept PayPal but that organisation became difficult so I avoid it now. It’s about what’s convenient for my client. If the meet involves significant up front costs from me and the client is new then I’ll seek some pre payment or assurance or I’ll decline the business. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

16 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

…when there’s ample hotels that don’t accept cash?

I pay my Travel Agent in cash, and he books flights and hotels for me on my behalf.  I carry no cards, and I have no digital wallet.

[Trick]

36 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

It’s about what’s convenient for my client.
 

Thank you.  May your tribe increase.

[Archangel]

I prefer cash if possible. Not because I haven’t done electronic. I have. I will. But cash seems like the vulgar part of the transaction is over and done and then the rest of the visit can be pleasant. I also don’t hire for hookups. I do weekend overnights as a BFE.

[Archangel]

I have also taken a provider to a bank where he can deposit the cash. All part of spending time together.

[rvwnsd]

6 hours ago, Chiguy3 said:

In my experience cash is a dead thing now with the newer generation! ...

 

Tell that to the two 27-year-old provides I see who prefer cash. 

4 hours ago, Archangel said:

I have also taken a provider to a bank where he can deposit the cash. All part of spending time together.

I did something similar once. Provider asked if there was a Chase ATM nearby. It would have been a mile-long walk down a very trafficky but not well-lit street so I drove him.

[viewing ownly]

14 hours ago, ThroatCummer said:

Bitcoin. :) 

Back in 2017, I paid someone 2 BTC for a trip  that was worth about $6k at the time. I specifically told them not to cash it out and just keep it and don't so anything with it and just wait. 

They didn't listen to me. Today that would have been worth $150k. 

I'd urge every provider to take all payment methods possible.

OR, hanging on to it could have potentially backfired, and the 2 BTC might have turned into junk status with a bad financial turn. He wasn't a fool to take what you gave him at that time. I was urged by a door to door salesman 30 years ago to switch to Enron - I'm glad I didn't. 

[pubic_assistance]

On 11/6/2024 at 4:29 AM, Vin Marco said:

I see... your post is more about "deposits" then. 

Circle of life.

[+ Pensant]

6 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

I did something similar once. Provider asked if there was a Chase ATM nearby. It would have been a mile-long walk down a very trafficky but not well-lit street so I drove him.

Wow! My old Orange County regular also deposited the fee at the Chase in Newport Center, until we agreed on Zelle.

[jackcali]

For the same reasons of confidentiality mentioned by many posters above, I always pay in cash and will never pay by another method.  If you don't take cash, I'm sorry but I'll move on.  In my experience, younger providers are fine with cash, though my guess is they'd also take Venmo if I asked them. 

Just a couple of months ago, I went to an ATM to get cash and it only dispensed twenties and tens instead of hundreds, so that evening I gave my provider a ridiculously thick stack of bills.  "Just like the old days" was his response. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I do not regularly carry cash but if a provider requests it; I will get some. Maybe it's an NYC thing but almost every provider I've seen takes some form of digital payment. 

[+ ApexNomad]

Cash is king, especially if you’re a new client to a provider you’ve never seen before. I just add it to my day’s checklist before he arrives: douche (check); shower (check); brush teeth (check); bottles of water by the bed (check); pillow mints/snacks (because of course); wipes (just in case); extra underwear (in case he rips mine off 😉); lube / condoms (check); cash (check!!!)

Viola!

[rvwnsd]

3 hours ago, Pensant said:

Wow! My old Orange County regular also deposited the fee at the Chase in Newport Center, until we agreed on Zelle.

Funny, but he eventually agreed on Zelle.