Sharing pictures/stats with providers as a courtesy

[+ DrownedBoy]

It's my policy to never send personal pics. If there's fakes on RM, there are also blackmailers.

I keep my RM client stats accurate and available, and often send a link.

The only time this was a problem was when a new hire came to my floor. I went into the condo hall to greet him, and at the same time, one of my neighbors came into the hall too. The neighbor was fat and old, and the escort greeted him, thinking that he was the client. When I called to him, he seemed relieved  

[Medin]

On 5/20/2024 at 4:53 PM, ShortCutie7 said:

I’d think a description of yourself would be sufficient so that there’s some amount of familiarity that the person the escort is meeting is the one who contacted him, as well as to alert the escort to anything major that could be a dealbreaker (ie I think it’s important that he knows how short I am).

Same here.  I provide a description but would never provide a photo.   I completely agree with Simon above.   I'm paying $300+ for a service and in my opinion, that includes anonymity to some degree.   I'm kind of surprised to read that so many other guys send their pics to an escort for what is still (unfortunately) an illegal activity.  I've met enough crazy providers to know it is likely not in my best interest for them to have my photo and attached message asking about their rate and sexual interests.   In all my years of hiring, I think I've been asked to send a photo twice.  Both times I refused and they still saw me.  

[Simon Suraci]

6 hours ago, ThroatCummer said:

I have a 'client' profile on RM that has my stats, a couple of G/PG photos, my "intos", and some text of what I like and get into. It also shows the reviews I have left for other providers.

Why?  It helps to let them know I am serious and have hired before and I am not a time waster.

^YES. This. 

It’s really helpful to post info to your profile. It shows you are serious. You don’t need to post a photo or stats but those are nice and do give a sense that you are more serious. The basics of what you’re looking for are the most helpful. You may want different things at different times, with different providers, so that only goes so far. Be clear about what you want when you contact your provider.

Post your “intos” if you tend to have the same or similar range of interests in most of your encounters. For example, your kinks or fetishes, or kissing is really important to you, you like longer sessions with a dinner date, or you want to be dominated, or you are a strict bareback top, or what have you. The more you share, the more we get a sense of what you want, and we use that info to better serve you.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

3 hours ago, Medin said:

I'm kind of surprised to read that so many other guys send their pics to an escort for what is still (unfortunately) an illegal activity.

We live in an age of deep fakes. If you have an online presence, anyone could make up a story about you hiring hookers for scat play. And mostly no one will care. Certainly not the police. 

[Archangel]

On 5/20/2024 at 3:23 PM, Simon Suraci said:

That’s part of the inherent value of hiring; not having to appeal to another person’s tastes and preferences, particularly with regard to the way you look.

Some providers stipulate however. As if it’s a quasi dating arrangement. I find that offputting even if I meet the “criteria.” I move on from said “provider.”

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Archangel said:

Some providers stipulate however. As if it’s a quasi dating arrangement. I find that offputting even if I meet the “criteria.” I move on from said “provider.”

Those guys haven’t quite got the idea of what the job is. Definitely right to move on. 

Sometimes I get clients sending me a description of themselves and they ask if they’re suitable to book. They might even include a photo. They have this perception that they need to be ‘fit’ to come for a session. I tell them they only need to be healthy, as in no health conditions that might be a problem, but that their physical appearance is immaterial.

This belief that you need to be conventionally fit arises because so many bad sex workers have criteria or age caps on who they will see. I don’t think those guys are worth booking. Your session will be all about them. 
 

[Medin]

7 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

We live in an age of deep fakes. If you have an online presence, anyone could make up a story about you hiring hookers for scat play. And mostly no one will care. Certainly not the police. 

Well.....considering that the police just busted a couple of guys in a hotel a few blocks from my home (one that is used by many of the escorts who come through town), I'm not sure it's accurate to say police don't care.  If I remember correctly, it's happened quite a few times in Texas recently as well.  I'll stick to the anonymous route.  

[+ KensingtonHomo]

5 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

This belief that you need to be conventionally fit arises because so many bad sex workers have criteria or age caps on who they will see. I don’t think those guys are worth booking. Your session will be all about them. 

It doesn't help that certain clients constantly insinuate that everyone who hires except them is ancient, obese and disfigured. 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

43 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

It doesn't help that certain clients constantly insinuate that everyone who hires except them is ancient, obese and disfigured

this is accurate.  those tropes indicate a certain self-loathing & their own struggles w getting older and/or hiring providers.  

[+ KensingtonHomo]

31 minutes ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

this is accurate.  those tropes indicate a certain self-loathing & their own struggles w getting older and/or hiring providers.  

Yup. I finally blocked some of the worst offenders because they make being on here miserable. I really wish the moderators would take a heavier hand toward this toxic behavior. 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

3 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Yup. I finally blocked some of the worst offenders because they make being on here miserable

much better that way - a full block/ignore makes them invisible  
there are lots of guys here full of self-hatred and working out their issues….or not.  the tone is telling.
and then there are those living vicariously through others who never post anything about their own actual experiences - yet, live to pick apart details posted by others. typically, they populate this forum & similar forums 24/7.  

of course, the Karens are here too - feverishly working to control the narrative w frequent reports to the mods to censor & cancel people they don’t like. easily identified by their passive/aggressive tendencies and “ownership” of the space

it takes a village 

[carolus]

This must be an American or LA thing. it's not common in other parts of the world do this. 

I guess it's the escort's right to choose whom they want fuck or be sexual with.  ut the implication is that it's sex for pay, so pickiness is limited somewhat. The normal format is that as long as a person isn't overly stinky, or has evident skin conditions, or in terms of behaviour 

[pubic_assistance]

10 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

This belief that you need to be conventionally fit arises because so many bad sex workers have criteria or age caps on who they will see. I don’t think those guys are worth booking. Your session will be all about them. 
 

Sorry, but I don't agree with this statement at all.

As was commented above, there are guys who are simply looking to get a little revenue out of their sex life and others who simply have a limit to how gross a client can be.

Kudos to those providers who can fuck anything that moves, no matter how disgusting, but that does NOT mean others are going to be malignant narcissists simply because they have limits.

I've been with plenty of VERY handsome young men who have limits and required photos up front before accepting a client.  YES it's more like a Grindr hook up and YES that means you might be rejected. But it's not like they expect you to be HOT, just not GROSS.

[LookingAround]

On 5/20/2024 at 5:17 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

Since you're a provider, I will take your word for your experience. I do not expect a provider to comment on my appearance. I'm just letting them know what I look like so when I buzz their apartment, they'll know it's me and not the Amazon delivery guy. 

Based on many regular posters here, your first concern about people assuming a complimentary provider is disingenuous seems very real. I'm not an ego maniac but I'm very confident that I am conventionally attractive. The second concern seems odd because I don't think someone genuinely complimenting a potential client is unprofessional. If a hairdresser said, "Wow, you have very thick hair", I'd think that was nice but also irrelevant. 

Regarding your third concern, I think the best response would be, "Thanks for sharing the photo; I look forward to meeting you." 

But it does seem that some people on here are convinced that you and other providers are disgusted by most of your clients. No provider can win over someone with that mindset. 

Completely agree. First, I could care less what the provider thinks. I certainly don’t need their validation. Second, any gushing of compliments in an email or text I’d take to be disingenuous. 

[LookingAround]

4 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Yup. I finally blocked some of the worst offenders because they make being on here miserable. I really wish the moderators would take a heavier hand toward this toxic behavior. 

You’ve just given me an idea. Thanks. 

[+ Jamie21]

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

no matter how disgusting,

I don’t think it’s right to describe someone as disgusting!  Not to your liking or attraction yes.., but to describe someone is disgusting? I have to say when I hear something like that it says a lot about the view of the person saying it. 

 

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

there are guys who are simply looking to get a little revenue out of their sex life and others who simply have a limit to how gross a client can be.

Yes, there are. I wouldn’t call them sex workers though, especially those looking to monetise their sex life. I still argue those guys will be paying attention to their own gratification during your session rather than being focused on your enjoyment. If you’re ok with that then go with it, but don’t complain if he treated it like a Grindr hookup. 

 

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

but that does NOT mean others are going to be malignant narcissists simply because they have limits.

Yes I agree, it doesn’t mean that. I looked back and I don’t see that I wrote that they were ‘malignant narcissists’. I don’t know where you got it from?

Everyone has limits, but I still argue that true a sex worker’s limits will be of a behaviour and attitude kind rather than a physical kind. I don’t mind about someone’s physical appearance but I do have limits about their attitude and behaviour. Anyone who is ignorant, disrespectful, arrogant, dismissive or entitled won’t be seen. If somehow they do get through they get as little as possible and won’t come back. Fortunately these kind of people reveal themselves very easily, as is evident. 

[Archangel]

13 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

This belief that you need to be conventionally fit arises because so many bad sex workers have criteria or age caps on who they will see. I don’t think those guys are worth booking. Your session will be all about them. 

I’ve had those guys. It’s very disappointing. 

[Archangel]

8 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

disfigured

Now…that’s a word you don’t encounter daily!

[pubic_assistance]

5 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I don’t think it’s right to describe someone as disgusting!  Well...certainly not to their face, you shouldn't. Talking around the subject is all very lady's tea party in personality. Just not my personal style. I'm a New Yorker now, so upfront and honest is my approach. But the point is moot because I didn't describe anyone as disgusting. It was a general statement about clients. Not a slight at anyone in particular.

Yes, there are. I wouldn’t call them sex workers though, especially those looking to monetise their sex life. I still argue those guys will be paying attention to their own gratification during your session rather than being focused on your enjoyment. If you’re ok with that then go with it, but don’t complain if he treated it like a Grindr hookup.    I can't recall a single Grindr hook up that was merely self gratifying by the other person. So I am unfamiliar with this problem. Sorry if you have such awful Grindr hook ups. Maybe your profile needs some tweaking.

Yes I agree, it doesn’t mean that. I looked back and I don’t see that I wrote that they were ‘malignant narcissists’. I don’t know where you got it from?  You didn't . But you indicated that if someone is picky they would automatically be completely self focused. Which is the definition of a malignant narcissist's behavior.

Everyone has limits, but I still argue that true a sex worker’s limits will be of a behaviour and attitude Agreed

I don’t mind about someone’s physical appearance That's YOU. Not everyone who chooses to fuck for cash.

but I do have limits about their attitude and behaviour. Anyone who is ignorant, disrespectful, arrogant, dismissive or entitled won’t be seen. If somehow they do get through they get as little as possible and won’t come back. Fortunately these kind of people reveal themselves very easily, as is evident. All true.

As I stated, I DO admire people who can fuck anything that moves. It's a real talent. And a true gift for people who were born unfortunate in the looks department or gentlemen who have let themselves go over the years. I know a fellow from college who used to be so gorgeous, I would have gladly sucked every drop of cum from his cock when we were in our 20s. Now he's old, bald, fat and not attractive at all any more. Divorced and living alone, he's quite busy having the time of his life down in Florida with a series of attractive women who he pays for his fun. God bless those gals who don't care. But of course he IS as you discussed a very nice fellow. 😃

 

[Archangel]

20 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

t. I looked back and I don’t see that I wrote that they were ‘malignant narcissists’. I don’t know where you got it from?

Don’t feed the troll. 🧌 

[Lohengrin1979]

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Sorry, but I don't agree with this statement at all.

As was commented above, there are guys who are simply looking to get a little revenue out of their sex life and others who simply have a limit to how gross a client can be.

Kudos to those providers who can fuck anything that moves, no matter how disgusting, but that does NOT mean others are going to be malignant narcissists simply because they have limits.

I've been with plenty of VERY handsome young men who have limits and required photos up front before accepting a client.  YES it's more like a Grindr hook up and YES that means you might be rejected. But it's not like they expect you to be HOT, just not GROSS.

Just curious, but how many of those young men were repeat providers for you or even stayed in the business long enough to be? You’re telling an experienced, successful provider you don’t agree with them when their business model works and has provided them longevity.

You don’t seem to value providers beyond their ability to impress you physically and ragdoll under you for a steamy session. Which is fine, but not what everyone is looking for and not what every provider provides. Go ahead and pay for your Grindr hookup if you must but I’ll reserve my bouillon for masters of the craft

[pubic_assistance]

7 minutes ago, Archangel said:

Now…that’s a word you don’t encounter daily!

I'm sure even Quasimodo would like to get his dick wet once in a while. Fortunately for him some of the gentlemen on the thread claim they wouldn't turn him away.

[+ Jamie21]

4 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

 

Oh god I seem to have ended up in one of those Twitter exchanges where all nuance and shades of grey are lost and things are binary…

9 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Sorry if you have such awful Grindr hook ups.

I’m not on Grindr. 

[pubic_assistance]

5 minutes ago, Lohengrin1979 said:

You’re telling an experienced, successful provider you don’t agree with them when their business model works and has provided them longevity.

No.

I'm telling then THEIR business model isn't EVERYONE'S business model.

Huge difference.

 

[pubic_assistance]

Just now, Jamie21 said:

I’m not on Grindr. 

Oh ? 🤔 You commented that Grindr hook ups are selfish and that only a hook up with a professional escort would get anyone the satisfaction they deserved.

so...if you're not using Grindr where did you get that impression ?