Your Man in Arlington

In my dozen plus meetings over the past year, I have rimmed every guy with with no issues—usually welcomed, even—whether or not it was listed in their profile. Being the giver in rimming is more important to me then getting, which I do enjoy, and pretty much a must for me whether I'm topping, bottoming, or flipping. I have only been rimmed 3 times: Once the guy just kept traveling south after some head. With another, I had asked about rimming when we started the meeting, meaning me rimming him, but while he was giving me a backrub/massage at the start of the session, he dove right in. The latest asked if he could rim me while we were in the middle playing, and to others' point in this thread, it was one of the best—if the not the best—rimming of my life because he was just into it as an activity. I hesitate to ID any one provider, because for whatever reason, I agree with @marylander1940 think it's a more likely to be a case by case or moment by moment decision for a provider than other activities. I'm also meticulous about cleanliness, and will be sure to thoroughly shower, prep and/or finger check as close to a meeting as possible.

Down to one faceless chest pic and "Usually looking for around 1k to meet…" is now in profile text (which I didn't think was allowed).

Based on the photo with the tape measure, he doesn't know how to properly measure, and is adding 1.5" - 2" to quoted length. I don't see the actual length a problem—not a size queen, and it's plenty big—but why make an assertion and then have a photo that disproves it?

This can sometimes be an issue with me depending on the provider, mood, or how recently I came. When this happens, I have no problem saying that we need to take a break, and even breaking contact (pulling out or guiding them off or away). Never been a problem, and providers have been more than happy to make sure I'm getting the desired experience. So, I would provide some direction along with those four words, eg. "I come very easily, so we may need to slow down or back off at times."

If you're reading a forum or particular topic the search box defaults to restricting your thread to that scope. I've been faked out by this many times, it's very frustrating.

The reviews would most likely be on Mr Number. RM doesn't allow providers to review clients on their platform.

Just commiserating: I'm still figuring all of this out, too. After prepping for almost an hour earlier this week, I still had a very little bit of mess, but enough to interrupt activities. Then today, I didn't prep at all (other than the finger test) for a meeting with a strictly/mostly bottom. Plans changed, his "service top" side emerged, and I was as clean as, or even cleaner than a whistle. The two differences I can discern are that I forgot to take psyllium the night before the first guy and met with him in the afternoon, which was after my first meal of the day. For the second guy, I took psyllium the night before, and met with him earlier in the day, before my first meal. Too bad there's no way to perform a controlled, double-blind study for each independent variable. 😜

I saw Djthomas in DC last July, have since had numerous PM inquiries from my post on the thread about him, and all reports back have been very positive!

Some providers are strictly safe-only with clients, but not in their personal life or when creating OF content.

Maybe there are negative comments on Mr Number associated with the number you text from?

This! Communication is key, and 15 minutes without communication is my upper limit, as well. Fortunately, all of my hires so far have been on time or communicative, even if just a few minutes late. I think the longest I've had to wait is 15 minutes. And, I've even had a few guys arrive "Japanese on-time" time: 5 - 10 minutes early. One case that was somewhat different was a same day hire, who said that he would shower and head my way, but couldn't confirm an ETA. He seemed more worried about me flaking, as he spent his entire metro ride chatting with me over text.

I'm married, but for me kissing is still a part of hot🔥hot sex.

Was just quoted $300/hr or $550 for 2, lowest NYC rate I've seen in about a year.

I'm looking for more of a BFE type experience when I hire (kissing required), so I avoid straight providers. I've had good experiences with both gay and bi guys, and am more concerned about "I am into" than orientation.

I will always start on RM messenger before moving to text, unless the profile specifically says to contact them by text. Mostly works out for me. I've recently noticed some providers include a phone number for texting, so you have to contact them on RM messenger first. Probably provides them some level of inquiry control and screening?

Just in the past couple of months a few providers I've met with before have reached out to ask if I'm interested in getting together again. They've all been tasteful, pleasant and respectful and it's worked (good marketing!), I've re-booked with all of them. More to the point of this topic, this is a new phenomenon for me and I was wondering if there was a general slowdown in the market.

Used to be August_NY and August_Stud:

I've noticed that too. Quite weird. Duck face but for guys?

See: But, I guess you won't see this, since you're ignoring me now. 😝

There are guys who are just plain into sex or particular sex acts and the way they feel (what someone can do for them), and if it doesn't matter so much with whom, money can be a deciding factor. Others are sexually into being paid for sex. Still others will find some particular quality they're into about someone they're not generally into, that it makes the experience together pleasurable. I fell into this last particular category when I was working. Like everything related to human behavior, sexuality is not black and white. This may all still equate to "they're not actually into you," but it's a more nuanced topic than *boom*.

First, this is a website on the internet where members are free to post their thoughts as long as they meet community guidelines; no one is obliged to meet your or anyone else's specific demands. And, yes, you are free to add anyone to your ignore list for any reason, no matter how petty (eg. discussing things on a discussion forum). Second, some here have genuinely been trying to help you out without having the name of a specific person: Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

Me, too. I would actually be willing to pay a higher rate (rather than look for a discount) for a provider who enjoys (or at least finds a way to enjoy) meeting up, since it makes a better experience for me.

Yes... poor wording on my part (now edited). For 2 hours I'm being quoted $600 - $800 total at a straight 2 x the hourly rate.

As others have said above, my experience over the past year has been rates are between $300 - $400 per hour, trending towards $400 per hour. I almost always schedule for 2 hours, and so far I've only had 2 providers offer a multi-hour discount.

He must have good genes!