topunderachiever Posted May 12 Share Posted May 12 I would caution you regarding this tingly desire to impress him. Thelatin, blck37, + KensingtonHomo and 2 others 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nate_sf Posted May 12 Share Posted May 12 I think everything you've outlined is fine, just to have on hand. The only thing you need to mention when he arrives is the offer of beverages. Everything else can just be there in the background. If either of you get hungry, the food can be out on the counter as though it was gonna be there anyway. I like @Vegas_Millennial's suggestion of having the condoms and lube in sight, which is the same thing I do when hosting in a hotel. No need to say anything about it, he'll understand what they're there for. My only concern is you mention the house will be well scented. I'm not sure what that would involve, but I'd suggest against any artificial "room fresheners" like Febreze, Carpet Fresh, etc. since they can be disagreeable to some people (like me - they give me a headache). Scented candles should be OK though, particularly if they're subtle. Lastly, a gift is nice but not necessary. Depends on what it is, but as others have suggested, it might be a bit over the top in trying to impress. Just be freshly showered, welcoming, and respectful of boundaries... that's really all a provider is looking for (and of course to get paid). 56harrisond, jmichaeliii, Proximusss and 1 other 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted May 13 Share Posted May 13 I'll come by for the homemade bread after he leaves.....thanks so much! mike carey, + DrownedBoy, BSR and 5 others 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atyla Posted May 13 Share Posted May 13 What snacks do you usually get? I'll come by for the homemade bread after he leaves.....thanks so much! [2] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted May 13 Share Posted May 13 On 5/11/2024 at 2:15 PM, Proximusss said: I don't have direct communication with this masseur as I book him through an agency so I can't ask him. He wouldn't be comfortable giving you his cell #? I know you don't want him to possibly get in trouble going around the agency to set appts with him but it would seem to be easier to just deal with him directly. Especially with you being a reg client he wouldn't have an issue with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proximusss Posted May 13 Author Share Posted May 13 3 hours ago, Atyla said: What snacks do you usually get? I'll come by for the homemade bread after he leaves.....thanks so much! [2] Why, are you thinking of coming over too? 😌 I mainly just have some fresh fruit and items that are individually wrapped such as popcorn, pretzels, cookies/biscuits. I also make a mean graze board (so meats, various cheeses, breadsticks, hummus, cake pops, chocolate, etc) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proximusss Posted May 13 Author Share Posted May 13 2 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said: He wouldn't be comfortable giving you his cell #? I know you don't want him to possibly get in trouble going around the agency to set appts with him but it would seem to be easier to just deal with him directly. Especially with you being a reg client he wouldn't have an issue with it. It would make things a lot easier for sure, but I haven’t thought to ask him. I know he’s registered with multiple agencies owned by the same person and I would hate for him to get blacklisted if it got out that he’s effectively poaching clients. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proximusss Posted May 13 Author Share Posted May 13 2 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said: He wouldn't be comfortable giving you his cell #? I know you don't want him to possibly get in trouble going around the agency to set appts with him but it would seem to be easier to just deal with him directly. Especially with you being a reg client he wouldn't have an issue with it. I also quite like the sense of separation that we have as a result of going through an agency to book the massage. We have each other’s social media accounts and we know each other’s real names. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ APPLE1 Posted May 13 Share Posted May 13 (edited) On 5/12/2024 at 1:16 AM, Monarchy79 said: Can you provide these preparation tips to guys in the regular dating world? They really need help in this area. I can’t tell you the number of times some guy invites me over to his place, and it’s not up to standard for any visitors…. Isn't that false advertising?? Why should I have to wait until my 6th or 7th time visiting to discover his place isn't impeccably clean, and he's a bit of a slob? I'd rather see the horrors up front to know if it's beyond what I can deal with, and then I cut and run early on in the relationship. Edited May 13 by APPLE1 Proximusss 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monarchy79 Posted May 14 Share Posted May 14 17 hours ago, APPLE1 said: Isn't that false advertising?? Why should I have to wait until my 6th or 7th time visiting to discover his place isn't impeccably clean, and he's a bit of a slob? I'd rather see the horrors up front to know if it's beyond what I can deal with, and then I cut and run early on in the relationship. Well…. I’ll dig deeper and say that more men need to learn how to be “full-spectrum” (beyond looks) attractive and keep traits that can attract and keep a partner, consistent. So in a good scenario, I’d like to date a man who bathes daily, has proper, consistent oral hygiene, and whose home is clean, fresh and well appointed. + APPLE1 and + KensingtonHomo 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BSR Posted May 14 Share Posted May 14 21 hours ago, Proximusss said: Why, are you thinking of coming over too? 😌 I mainly just have some fresh fruit and items that are individually wrapped such as popcorn, pretzels, cookies/biscuits. I also make a mean graze board (so meats, various cheeses, breadsticks, hummus, cake pops, chocolate, etc) If you set out this kind of spread for a massage appointment, your dinner parties must be off the charts. + DrownedBoy, + Vegas_Millennial, Monarchy79 and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peter Eater Posted May 14 Share Posted May 14 On 5/12/2024 at 4:17 PM, nate_sf said: Lastly, a gift is nice but not necessary. Depends on what it is A car? liubit, thomas and BSR 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolus Posted May 21 Share Posted May 21 I ensure my home is clean, and nothing of value is visible. Not to assume they're thieves or dishonest, but then i don't like to take chances. I also ensure the bathroom is clean and often the like to freshen up or change into something more comfortable before the session. dbar123 and + DrownedBoy 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted May 21 Share Posted May 21 I’ve an out call regular client who sometimes bakes a cake and we have it with some tea after the session. The cake is delicious. It’s nice to have a chat over tea and a slice of whatever he has made. He’s an interesting guy. I appreciate his custom. + Vegas_Millennial, Simon Suraci, thomas and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whippoorwill Posted Friday at 07:20 PM Share Posted Friday at 07:20 PM Bedding clean; bathroom/shower clean; floor clean; appropriate temperature. That's all it takes. But then that being said, I once tricked with a japanese man at his apartment. The next morning, in the bathroom, he had laid out a beautiful wooden box, like a bento box, with a personal toothbrush, toothpaste, deoderant, comb, face cloth, etc. It made me feel special, until I went to contact him again a few days later and he'd ghosted me. Six months later he tried to contact me, but I decided the statute of limitations had run out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DrownedBoy Posted Friday at 09:08 PM Share Posted Friday at 09:08 PM On 5/21/2024 at 5:49 PM, Jamie21 said: I’ve an out call regular client who sometimes bakes a cake and we have it with some tea after the session. The cake is delicious. It’s nice to have a chat over tea and a slice of whatever he has made. He’s an interesting guy. I appreciate his custom. I've had a cuppa with some of my providers. I'm sure that's common in the UK, but not Chicago! + Vegas_Millennial 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted Saturday at 11:11 AM Share Posted Saturday at 11:11 AM 14 hours ago, DrownedBoy said: I've had a cuppa with some of my providers. I'm sure that's common in the UK, but not Chicago! It’s the law here. Tea must be provided Lohengrin1979, + Vegas_Millennial, + DrownedBoy and 4 others 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proximusss Posted Saturday at 06:38 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 06:38 PM 7 hours ago, Jamie21 said: It’s the law here. Tea must be provided What happens if one does not drink tea? Asking for a friend 🤣 + DrownedBoy and + Vegas_Millennial 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted Saturday at 07:14 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:14 PM 34 minutes ago, Proximusss said: What happens if one does not drink tea? Asking for a friend 🤣 Is that a thing? mike carey and liubit 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SouthOfTheBorder Posted Saturday at 07:27 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:27 PM the most important thing - a clean hole top or bottom - eventually, someone goes there for something liubit and + Vegas_Millennial 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proximusss Posted Saturday at 10:42 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 10:42 PM 3 hours ago, Jamie21 said: Is that a thing? Definitely (again, answering on behalf of a friend). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted Sunday at 07:58 AM Share Posted Sunday at 07:58 AM 9 hours ago, Proximusss said: Definitely (again, answering on behalf of a friend). Very strange. 🫖 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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