Providers not responding? Am I blacklisted?

[afterfallhours1]

I’ve messaged a couple of providers last night (such as Harold Lopez, Mark_Fitt, Parker Logan,  Felifer, RodrigoXLMiami, etc) and none have responded and it’s been almost the whole day already. I don’t know what to do, I’m horny and no one messages me back on dating apps so I’m using rent men but none of the guys I’ve messaged replied back. Are these guys usually busy and reply late?

[maninsoma]

Messaged via Rentmen's platform, or by text directly to them?

I'm less likely to think the lack of response is about you being blacklisted than something else such as: a) they haven't seen your message yet; b) they are simply busy; c) your initial message didn't interest them for whatever reason; d) they are actually advertising to promote their porn and not trying to get clients.

[Zimby]

I do not know the cost of advertising on Rentmen, but it has a prime audience of men that either pay for companionship or are not averse to that idea.  And it looks like a listing on the site allows you to list your website and twitter handles.  So why wouldn't there be some listings that are really just advertisement for their other businesses?  This is the audience you are trying to reach.

I have only booked massages so far but I have also run into providers that do not respond.  And that is what happens when you are dealing with independent contractors... its not like you are calling the receptionist at your local massage envy.

If I have have not heard back from a masseur I simply move on.  I would not take it as a personal attack.

[pubic_assistance]

17 hours ago, afterfallhours1 said:

none of the guys I’ve messaged replied back.

If you're using the chat on Rent.men you may not get a quick response. Some providers check their RM messages infrequently and others only respond to direct text.

[jmichaeliii]

I think if you try to hire enough, it's just gonna happen.  On rentmasseur I have had guys completely ignore a message (and you can see they read it), but then I'll text them and hear right back.

[Monarchy79]

21 hours ago, afterfallhours1 said:

 it’s been almost the whole day already. I don’t know what to do, I’m horny and no one messages me back on dating apps so I’m using rent men but none of the guys I’ve messaged replied back. 

1.) Jack off

2.) Blast off

3.) Take a cold shower

 

You’ll be over it in less than 10 minutes. 

 

 

 

[Jackrabbitslim]

Some providers make take up to 48 hours to respond, while others get back to you right away. It all depends on the individual you are contacting.

If you add providers as buddies on the RentMen site, you can get notifications when an escort is available for the next 1-6 hours. That might help you to get in touch with providers that you want to meet up with sooner rather than later. 

[BaronArtz]

You have received some valuable advice here.  It can also depend on the tone and content of your text messages - if you did indeed contact them via text.  Could it be that there was something off-putting in there maybe?  It is just a question.

Edited March 6 by BaronArtz

[+ DrownedBoy]

It takes practice, to figure out the right words, timing, and tone to take when contacting people.  Keep working at it and you'll get there.

Several times, I had new providers tell me that the moment they read my initial text, they knew I was both serious and a good client.

To write those texts: Always politely ask if they're taking customers, make sure you read their ad in full, give them a name to call you by, use full sentences (with correct grammar and spelling), and call them by their assumed name.

[Oakman]

Example solicitation:

“Hi Mr. Provider, this is Mr. Client, I saw your profile on RM 🤩 (attach photo of myself). It looks like you are in town this weekend and I am interested in setting up some time to hang out with ya on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. 
 

I’m 46, 5’11”, 200 lbs, bald, fit, muscular. I like to be submissive with big men. I’m a pleaser, so am pretty open to you being in control and doing whatever gets you off. I’m also affectionate. 
 

I think your photos are amazing. If this sounds like a good match, please let me know if you’re up for an outcall to my place at (provide Goggle map link to my location). I’ll cover the ride and your travel time. What’s your rate for an hour?”
 

😘

 

I’m open to feedback. This tends to work.

[dbar123]

5 minutes ago, Oakman said:

Example solicitation:

“Hi Mr. Provider, this is Mr. Client, I saw your profile on RM 🤩 (attach photo of myself). It looks like you are in town this weekend and I am interested in setting up some time to hang out with ya on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. 
 

I’m 46, 5’11”, 200 lbs, bald, fit, muscular. I like to be submissive with big men. I’m a pleaser, so am pretty open to you being in control and doing whatever gets you off. I’m also affectionate. 
 

I think your photos are amazing. If this sounds like a good match, please let me know if you’re up for an outcall to my place at (provide Goggle map link to my location). I’ll cover the ride and your travel time. What’s your rate for an hour?”
 

😘

 

I’m open to feedback. This tends to work.

IMHE this is a bit wordy and your request for rates is buried at the end  where it will get overlooked. I would start out with something shorter like:

Hi- saw your Rentmen ad. What would you charge for a 2hr incall consult sometime Sat or Sunday in X city?

[Boaxxx]

On 3/6/2024 at 8:51 AM, Monarchy79 said:

1.) Jack off

2.) Blast off

3.) Take a cold shower

 

You’ll be over it in less than 10 minutes. 

 

 

 

So true. I've saved myself thousands of dollars going the #1 and #2 route. 😋

[marylander1940]

On 3/5/2024 at 2:25 PM, afterfallhours1 said:

I’ve messaged a couple of providers last night (such as Harold Lopez, Mark_Fitt, Parker Logan,  Felifer, RodrigoXLMiami, etc) and none have responded and it’s been almost the whole day already. I don’t know what to do, I’m horny and no one messages me back on dating apps so I’m using rent men but none of the guys I’ve messaged replied back. Are these guys usually busy and reply late?

It would be too much of a coincidence for all of them to be busy but it can happen.

As others point just text them directly

[jmichaeliii]

3 hours ago, Oakman said:

Example solicitation:

“Hi Mr. Provider, this is Mr. Client, I saw your profile on RM 🤩 (attach photo of myself). It looks like you are in town this weekend and I am interested in setting up some time to hang out with ya on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. 
 

I’m 46, 5’11”, 200 lbs, bald, fit, muscular. I like to be submissive with big men. I’m a pleaser, so am pretty open to you being in control and doing whatever gets you off. I’m also affectionate. 
 

I think your photos are amazing. If this sounds like a good match, please let me know if you’re up for an outcall to my place at (provide Goggle map link to my location). I’ll cover the ride and your travel time. What’s your rate for an hour?”
 

😘

 

I’m open to feedback. This tends to work.

I'm newer to this, but I never tell a provider my physical attributes or age.  I'm honest in my profile, but I have never seen a provider check my profile.  Is it common to provide this in an intro?

[Oakman]

4 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

I'm newer to this, but I never tell a provider my physical attributes or age.  I'm honest in my profile, but I have never seen a provider check my profile.  Is it common to provide this in an intro?

I do it because I want the provider to get a clear picture of what he’s working with. If I was a provider, it’s definitely what I’d want to know. 

[Boaxxx]

4 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

I'm newer to this, but I never tell a provider my physical attributes or age.  I'm honest in my profile, but I have never seen a provider check my profile.  Is it common to provide this in an intro?

I may not do that in the initial text but I definitely provide my stats and send a photo. As I say to them "I know a lot about you so it's only fair for you to know some about me." I think it's only fair, that way it eliminates an element of Surprise! Surprise!

Edited March 16 by Boaxxx

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

42 minutes ago, Boaxxx said:

I may not do that in the initial text but I definitely provide my stats and send a photo. As I say to them "I know a lot about you so it's only fair for you to know some about me." I think it's only fair, that way it eliminates an element of Surprise! Surprise!

[Jarrod_Uncut]

10 hours ago, Oakman said:

Example solicitation:

“Hi Mr. Provider, this is Mr. Client, I saw your profile on RM 🤩 (attach photo of myself). It looks like you are in town this weekend and I am interested in setting up some time to hang out with ya on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. 
 

I’m 46, 5’11”, 200 lbs, bald, fit, muscular. I like to be submissive with big men. I’m a pleaser, so am pretty open to you being in control and doing whatever gets you off. I’m also affectionate. 
 

I think your photos are amazing. If this sounds like a good match, please let me know if you’re up for an outcall to my place at (provide Goggle map link to my location). I’ll cover the ride and your travel time. What’s your rate for an hour?”
 

😘

 

I’m open to feedback. This tends to work.

This is perfect, long as you’re not sending it to multiple guys in a day/weekend (obviously it would suck for the other guys to not get booked if you did). It shows you’ve read the ad, you offer more than one time option, it’s not last minute (which could be ignored if not available), and you include stats and picture. I would consider you a serious booking and respond right away.

I always say if someone does have to contact multiple ads, at least wait 1 to 2 hours in between (and that’s fast compared to the times I’ve had to wait for guys to reply back to me lol). I had someone contact me the other weekend, while I was at brunch. I call back in 20 minutes and claims he booked someone else. But then texted back after saying how he’s very interested and will reach back out in a couple weeks. Well thanks but, he  couldn’t even wait 30 minutes though. And when I asked for a few details about him so I could have an idea who he is: no response 🤔 
 

Edited March 16 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Luv2play]

On Thursday I was looking for a same day appointment and in the morning around 9:30 contacted a provider that interested me on the RM site. I sent on RM chat this message  “ Hi, my name is “x”. Do you do erotic massages on an in-call basis? And if so what are your rates?”

When I hadn’t heard back from my first choice by 11 am I used the same message to my second choice. He responded back in less than 10 minutes. We quickly established a date for 4 o’clock that afternoon and the rest went smoothly as I have described in another post in the Deli section on the Spanish guy. 
 

I know the other provider read my message shortly after I sent it because 2 check marks appeared and the time indicated on the chat site of my text to him. But he didn’t answer which is why I went to the second after giving him about an hour and a half. I figured that was all I owed him in time to respond. 
 

Usually I arrange appointments for several days in advance at least but on this particular occasion I woke up and debated with myself whether to go to the gym that afternoon or see a provider for a different type of workout. It worked out well. 

Edited March 16 by Luv2play

[SirBillybob]

Where the abbreviation RM is used are we to assume it’s RentMen within the Deli forum but RentMasseur within the Spa/Massage forum? What about here under Questions?

Edited March 16 by SirBillybob

[SirBillybob]

“I viewed your ad. Thank you for the information provided thus far. Now that you can see my client profile, what is the next step?” 

If it’s crickets, no acknowledgement whatsoever, I simply move on.

If he responds he should be able to make a seamless transition from the ad info to content that was legitimately missing from the ad but necessary to proceed. The ball is always in his court. 

Edited March 16 by SirBillybob

[Luv2play]

26 minutes ago, SirBillybob said:

Where the abbreviation RM is used are we to assume it’s RentMen within the Deli forum but RentMasseur within the Spa/Massage forum? What about here under Questions?

Good question. I only use Rentmen.eu even when hiring for an erotic massage when I’m not interested in getting topped. So I accept I am going to pay escort rates which are generally higher than massage rates. But that way there is no upselling involved and if I want to suck I feel free to initiate such action. It works for me. 

[SirBillybob]

15 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

Good question. I only use Rentmen.eu even when hiring for an erotic massage when I’m not interested in getting topped. So I accept I am going to pay escort rates which are generally higher than massage rates. But that way there is no upselling involved and if I want to suck I feel free to initiate such action. It works for me. 

Yes particularly if it’s capital, for that capital, you’d want the freedom to go downtown. 

Edited March 16 by SirBillybob

[Luv2play]

10 minutes ago, SirBillybob said:

Yes particularly if it’s capital you’d want the freedom to go downtown. 

Yes, I’ve always been attracted to the locus of power. 

[Monarchy79]

18 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

So true. I've saved myself thousands of dollars going the #1 and #2 route. 😋

Agreed. 

The release of the tension built up from our libido can literally clear the mind and help men in better discernment and making smart decisions. 
 

Many mistakes that men make regarding hiring escorts, massage guys, or even hooking up for free are due to sexual urges superseding general common sense.