+ Lucky Posted November 29, 2023 Share Posted November 29, 2023 (edited) Well, it's not been my experience, but one author writes in Queerty that desiring older men is now is in among select clientele: https://www.queerty.com/daddy-era-20231127 Edited November 29, 2023 by Lucky pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted November 29, 2023 Share Posted November 29, 2023 18 hours ago, Lucky said: Well, it's not been my experience, but one author writes in Queerty that desiring older men is now is in among select clientele: https://www.queerty.com/daddy-era-20231127 On the contrary, that has very much been my experience. My first boyfriend was 17 years older than I was. Most of the men I hire are older than me (I started hiring in my 20s). On a recent holiday, I partnered with a man 22 years my senior, and another man 22 years my junior. + Pensant, + jessmapex, Rod Hagen and 3 others 2 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted November 29, 2023 Share Posted November 29, 2023 18 hours ago, Lucky said: Well, it's not been my experience, but one author writes in Queerty that desiring older men is now is in among select clientele: https://www.queerty.com/daddy-era-20231127 not everyone can qualify as a DILF or the Golden Bachelor. + Charlie and pubic_assistance 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Charlie Posted November 29, 2023 Share Posted November 29, 2023 (edited) I came out at 17, so most of my early experiences were with "older men." However, the article defines "older men" the same way I did then: men in their 40s to 60s. Not geezers, like I am now! (BTW, those "older men" are the ones I am still attracted to, not those young enough to be my grandsons.) Edited November 29, 2023 by Charlie + Pensant, + Vegas_Millennial, + WilliamM and 3 others 2 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ The Big Guy Posted November 29, 2023 Share Posted November 29, 2023 I have to admit I enjoyed the article. I have noticed an interest lately from a couple guys that work in my apartment building. Since they work here I won’t pursue but I do enjoy the flirting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ jessmapex Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 This is older gay men's perpetual fantasy. Today's younger generation is very practical and money-minded. They smartly figured being attracted to a silver daddy may mean living in a beach house in their 20s or 30s. + Charlie, + Pensant, pubic_assistance and 1 other 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MscleLovr Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 4 hours ago, jessmapex said: This is older gay men's perpetual fantasy. Today's younger generation.…being attracted to a silver daddy may mean living in a beach house in their 20s or 30s. Not so much a “fantasy” but a reality in my direct experience. When I was aged 50, my partner was 17 years younger. Now I’m in my 70s and the age-differential with my partner of the last 10 years is more than double that. I’m still in decent shape and I still have a big, thick cock…but I’ve no doubt that it’s my bigger, thicker wallet that is the prime attraction for some younger men. pubic_assistance, + Pensant, + Charlie and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soloyo215 Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 Just like with body types, race, ethnicities and other aspects of being human, I feel the same way about age. I find both beauty and ugliness in all of them, so I've been with both much younger (of legal age) and much older men through my entire adulthood. I don't buy into the notions that many of the media portrays in terms of isms. In my experience, many gay men just love men, especially when it comes to sexual expression. + Charlie and thomas 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ José Soplanucas Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 Indeed, aging makes us less attractive for most young men. However, it makes me sad when I see older men who think they are unattractive for ALL younger men. I wish them a better luck. + Charlie, thomas, dcguy20 and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ José Soplanucas Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 On 11/28/2023 at 7:45 PM, Lucky said: Well, it's not been my experience, but one author writes in Queerty that desiring older men is now is in among select clientele: https://www.queerty.com/daddy-era-20231127 In the Argentina I grew, back in the 70s, 80s, and 90s, the attraction of young men for older guys was a common place. This has been negatively affected by US consumerist gay culture's globalization, but still is far more common than in the US. I noticed the same in other South American countries I am visiting now that I am older. My hook-up apps give me a lot of access to hot young men (for free) in Brazil and Colombia. When I visit Argentina I am still successful hooking up in the streets with younger hotties. But when I travel inside the country, I can clearly notice the difference. Gay mainstream globalized culture is not yet there. + Charlie, MscleLovr and thomas 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 (edited) On 11/28/2023 at 7:45 PM, Lucky said: Well, it's not been my experience, but one author writes in Queerty that desiring older men is now "in" among select clientele I am in my 50'a and I admit to being surprised by the number of very young guys (and women) who flirt with me in public. So I suppose it's reasonable to say it's more common today but then I'm probably in a LOT better shape than my grandfather was at 50..so health and fitness in older men may have a lot to do with this change in attitudes. Edited November 30, 2023 by pubic_assistance nate_sf, + José Soplanucas, + Pensant and 1 other 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ José Soplanucas Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 1 minute ago, pubic_assistance said: I am in my 50'a and I admit to being surprised by the number of very young guys (and women) who flirt with me in public. So I suppose it's reasonable to say it's more common today but then I'm probably in a LOT better shape than my grandfather was at 50..so health and fitness in older men may have a lot to do with this change in attitudes. That is a good point to explain the trend in the USA. pubic_assistance, + Pensant and + Charlie 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 12 hours ago, jessmapex said: Today's younger generation is very practical and money-minded. Sounds like a word for word description of Generation Y when they were younger, also known as the "Me" generation or the "MyMTV" generation. Nothing wrong with that! By contrast, Millennials forgot how to learn to socialize in person and to earn money, because their parents arranged their activities and education for them, and let them live at home well into adulthood. So, few Millennials were interested in finding a meaningful relationship period, much less a meaningful relationship with someone they would have had to meet by leaving their house. (I'm exaggerating a little, but all stereotypes and generalizations are exaggerations). + Charlie 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Njguy2 Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 Over the last several years as I've gotten older, more of the guys who have reached out to me have been 25+ years younger than me (currently 61 and silver/grey haired). The guys may be nice to look at and good for a turn in bed, but that is not much of a basis for developing a relationship since we don't have much in common. If the "Daddy" word is used in the first communication with me I know the guy isn't for me. I acknowledge my mindset is not what other guys may focus in on. thomas, + Charlie, pubic_assistance and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liubit Posted December 1, 2023 Share Posted December 1, 2023 I have been living in Hong Kong for the past couple of years and I have discovered to my delight and surprise that I attract Asian boys and men like honey does to flies. I am 60+ and not in shape, but my sex life has been more than active with guys ranging from 20 to 40 y.o., all of them free hook ups (I haven’t hired at all). My hairy chest and my “Western” looks are guy magnets here. Needless to say, I am a very happy camper -and so is my wallet- . + Charlie, BSR, + Vegas_Millennial and 6 others 4 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 1, 2023 Share Posted December 1, 2023 6 hours ago, liubit said: I have been living in Hong Kong for the past couple of years and I have discovered to my delight and surprise that I attract Asian boys and men like honey does to flies. I am 60+ and not in shape, but my sex life has been more than active with guys ranging from 20 to 40 y.o., all of them free hook ups (I haven’t hired at all). My hairy chest and my “Western” looks are guy magnets here. Needless to say, I am a very happy camper -and so is my wallet- . I work remotely, so can live anywhere; HK it is…. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted December 1, 2023 Share Posted December 1, 2023 7 hours ago, liubit said: I attract Asian boys ... like honey does to flies. I am 60+ Obviously culture plays a LOT into the population of younger men who find older men attractive. I have a friend in Thailand who's Irish-American/ 64 years old and still quite handsome and in good shape. He is always dating the most beautiful young/fit Thai guys that you could imagine. Thai guys who at a glance, appear to be able to get anyone they want, will clamor to get my friend's attention. Perhaps his demeanor shows enough class to indicate money or maybe it's that reputation that all Americans are rich..but mostly they are just attracted to the silver haired daddy look of a mature well put together James Bond, sort of gentleman. liubit and + Charlie 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ José Soplanucas Posted December 1, 2023 Share Posted December 1, 2023 (edited) 11 hours ago, pubic_assistance said: Obviously culture plays a LOT into the population of younger men who find older men attractive. I have a friend in Thailand who's Irish-American/ 64 years old and still quite handsome and in good shape. He is always dating the most beautiful young/fit Thai guys that you could imagine. Thai guys who at a glance, appear to be able to get anyone they want, will clamor to get my friend's attention. Perhaps his demeanor shows enough class to indicate money or maybe it's that reputation that all Americans are rich..but mostly they are just attracted to the silver haired daddy look of a mature well put together James Bond, sort of gentleman. You do not need to be fit or to look like James Bond to be attractive for young hotties in South America and in Morocco (the only Arabian country I have visited). I have never been to SE Asia, who knows. Edited December 2, 2023 by José Soplanucas liubit 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rudynate Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 On 11/29/2023 at 11:23 AM, Charlie said: I came out at 17, so most of my early experiences were with "older men." However, the article defines "older men" the same way I did then: men in their 40s to 60s. Not geezers, like I am now! (BTW, those "older men" are the ones I am still attracted to, not those young enough to be my grandsons.) Right - I think of those "older men" as boys. + Pensant, + José Soplanucas and + Charlie 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SouthOfTheBorder Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 (edited) 14 hours ago, pubic_assistance said: Obviously culture plays a LOT into the population of younger men who find older men attractive. I think it’s every culture except the US, Canada & Northern Europe - where younger men routinely seek out older men for sex & not for money. It’s a little confusing to me tho when some guys reference getting sex “for free”. I’m not paying for sex because I can’t get it at no cost. I’m paying for convenience and sex completely on my terms - whatever that includes with no other attachments or expectations. I’ve got enough experience with the apps & “for free” to know it frequently comes with complications, expectations and the hookup is not likely there there to cater to all of my desires. “Free hookup-sex” and paid sex are two totally different things. Wasted time seeking the free sex and less than desirable experiences is almost reduced to zero (in both areas) when I pay. And there is absolutely no comparison between the real pros in the business vs random hookups. There might be free-sex anecdotes here and there - but it’s just not the way it usually works, if choosing the right provider. I will take quality paid provider mind-blowing sex vs quantity mediocre free-sex hookups every single time. Edited December 2, 2023 by SouthOfTheBorder nate_sf, caramelsub, spidir and 2 others 2 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Pensant Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 (edited) I’m always out and about while most guys my age are invisible. I’m always chatting and flirting with young guys and women. It keeps me mentally young and relevant. Yesterday morning, for example, I was walking over to a new coffee shop in the neighborhood and a handsome young guy walking his doodle complimented me on my boots. He then joined me for a cortado. We exchanged info and he and his gf will be joining me on an hike on Sunday. I do this all the time. I admit that I suffer from a “Peter Pan” complex. Edited December 2, 2023 by Pensant + José Soplanucas, MikeBiDude, liubit and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ José Soplanucas Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 12 minutes ago, Pensant said: I’m always out and about while most guys my age are invisible. I’m always chatting and flirting with young guys and women. It keeps me mentally young and relevant. Yesterday morning, for example, I was walking over to a new coffee shop in the neighborhood and a handsome young guy walking his doodle complimented me on my boots. He then joined me for a cortado. We exchanged info and he and his gf will be joining me on an hike on Sunday. I do this all the time. I admit that I suffer from a “Peter Pan” complex. It has a lot to do with being comfortable with yourself, and specially, with being in the right place at the right time. No one is denying that as we age, our value in the sex market goes down. But going down does not mean going bankrupt. Also, as we age, many of us switch to living mostly indoors and with less social contacts. This is a key for your hooking up prospects. When I am in DC, as I refuse to get involved to anyone in my job, I do not hook up as often as when I am in vacation. Once I am in the streets, and out, and hanging out, poom, the candidates show up (again, in a lower amount than they used to do when I was in my prime time.) I feel specially fortunate to find myself hanging out with porn stars in some of my trips. You would be surprised the opportunities I was able to catch, just because I was there. SoFlGuy, + Charlie and + Pensant 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Pensant Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 6 minutes ago, José Soplanucas said: feel specially fortunate to find myself hanging out with porn stars in some of my trips. You would be surprised the opportunities I was able to catch, just because I was there. Well I’m not surprised. You come across as a charming and generous man, which certainly many will find attractive! mike carey, + José Soplanucas, + Just966 and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 I wouldn’t see an opportunity if it hit me in the face; I have no experience with it and just don’t see those social cues. Doesn’t mean I’m not a slut (it’s my new ambition) but I agree with @SouthOfTheBorderthat for me the most desired experience is with a provider; I’m looking for the benefit of their experience and professionalism, and like the feeling of being cared for in that way. And no emotional expectations beyond the experience itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 (edited) 6 hours ago, Pensant said: . I’m always chatting and flirting with young guys and women. It keeps me mentally young and relevant. Exactly! I do the same. There have been multiple occasions where I am traveling for work and I'm dining alone, so I entertain myself by flirting with and chatting up the young waiter(waitress). More than once I've discovered a phone number scribbled on my receipt Edited December 2, 2023 by pubic_assistance spelling + Pensant, MikeBiDude and + Charlie 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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